r/Bestof My Boyfriend Literally Only Eats Pizza

Welcome to our best of redditor updates where op slowly comes to the realization that her boyfriend is abusive our next Reddit post comes from our slash relationship advice I'm a 25 year old woman and my boyfriend who's 25 says really mean things to me in his sleep I need to preface this by saying that when my boyfriend is awake he's wonderful and I couldn't be happier we laugh and joke all day and spending time with him in general is truly a joy yes I mean this no he doesn't upset me at all when he's awake also for some background he works night shifts at a job that he really hates so when he comes home he just likes to relax unwind usually with a whiskey or beer typically we cuddle or I massage his legs and backs until he's drunk enough to fall asleep and Opie clarifies he's not an alcoholic he doesn't need alcohol to fall asleep he just likes to take a drink which helps him fall asleep I haven't saw so I usually end up staying awake for a while after he falls asleep I'm also really sensitive to aggressive tones of voice due to some past trauma he only really talks in his sleep if I move in the bed too quickly he usually snaps at me saying quit effing moving or can you please effing stop or oh my effing God just things in general that give off an indication that he's really annoyed with me there's also been a couple of unprompted times when he stirred or rolled over and said things like I can do better than this Etc because of my Sensitivity I usually end up crying over these things I try to make it a point not to bring up the things that he says or does in his sleep because for one I really don't think that he can control it and two when I brought up the things that he said he always ends up feeling horribly guilty for the things he says and makes me feel guilty for saying anything last night in his sleep he ripped my blanket away from me and tucked it under himself and his own blankets I was really cold in the room so I tried to take it back but he grabbed my hand and shoved it away I didn't want to have to wake him up but he's a lot stronger than me and no matter what I tried to do I just couldn't get the blanket back I shook him gently and kept saying baby can you please give me back my blankets I was met with sleepy grunts but he still wouldn't give it back finally after a little persistence he sat up really quickly and yelled what do you want Jesus you're annoying I said I just want my blanket back please he shoved it towards me and nearly knocked me off the bed and then instantly laid back down and started snoring I didn't sleep at all last night because of this it's really eating at me I really don't want to be annoying to him especially when he's trying to rest after work but I also don't know how I can keep putting up with this part of me he wonders if he actually means any of the things that he says when he woke up this morning I couldn't bring myself to say anything about it but I also couldn't look him in the eyes I guess my question is am I being too sensitive should I bring this up to him then five days later Opie posted an update first off Opie defends her boyfriend against people in the comments who are accusing him of being alcoholic or abusive and she says no he functions just fine without alcohol and he doesn't have an abusive bone in his body then on to the update shortly after I made this post I asked him if he thought that I was annoying and he said of course not and ask me what prompted the question when I brought up what he did in his sleep he got very quiet for a short while and then asked why didn't you slap the bejesus out of me which made me chuckle quite a bit he then went on to say that he would prefer if I tell him about the things that he says in his sleep stressing that if he ever crosses a line like that ever again I have have full permission to smack the life out of him which I would never do I asked him if it was a possibility that the alcohol was making him sleep more restlessly and he said maybe I don't know I then asked him if it would be a possibility to try going a couple of nights without alcohol and he agreed since then our co-sleeping has been wonderful restful and peaceful except for the night before last he shook me awake while I was sleeping and I asked him what was up baby baby I'll show you I had no idea what he was talking about so I asked him and he said I'll show you I said baby are you still asleep and he said yeah I'll show you then he instantly started snoring again I must have giggled myself back to sleep then two and a half years later Opie posted an update going back and reading these posts was insanely difficult I want to kick myself for how deep in denial I was everyone in the comments was telling me that my boyfriend is an alcoholic and I fought so hard against that but it was true a few months after my last post I had an epiphany moment it was 3 A.M and he was drunk he begged me to make him a pot of spaghetti because he liked the way I cooked it I asked him if he would strain the pot for me because the pot that we had didn't have thermal safe handles or whatever they're called and I would often burn myself trying to do it on my own he grumbled for a bit and said fine but after less than five minutes he said that he was going to hang out in our bedroom I begged him not to because he would fall asleep and trying to wake him up when he falls asleep drunk off often becomes a nightmare of verbal abuse he insisted that he wouldn't fall asleep but lo and behold he did I thought to myself great now I get to choose between burning my hands or being berated until I cry all over a pot of effing spaghetti I chose to burn my hands I angrily made myself a plate and put the rest in tupperware and reality hits I'm just like my mom my mom has been with an alcoholic for 13 years he's awful to her in so many ways but she puts up with it because hey she feels like she can't do any better and B she believes that it's her Duty as a wife to just deal with it quietly and now I was falling down the same path I thought that if I could just grin and bear it he'd see how much I love him and how much I do for him and realize it he needs to put in the same effort boy howdy was I effing wrong I took off to a friend's house for the the night and he panicked when he woke up in the morning and I wasn't there he called me crying begging me to return I Unleashed all of my feelings on him and in more words I told him that I didn't have much of an incentive to return and how could I know that he'd do better his tears turned to anger and he screamed at me through the phone it was terrifying I ended up going back home to collect some things and I told him I needed to separate from him because I didn't know how to help him anymore and as deeply as I loved him I couldn't stay and watch him kill himself any longer I'll never forget the look he gave me it was like I'd kicked him in the stomach I stayed with my friend for a month or so with little to no contact with my boyfriend I ended up having to return to collect the rest of my stuff and I noticed something strange he had always been kind of a slob leaving empty beer and liquor bottles on the floor beside his bed but when I returned by the side of the bid were only tea soda and water bottles his face was less sunken and he didn't smell like beer at all when he went to the bathroom I took a sneak peek in his garbage can just to be sure it was full but there were no signs of anything alcoholic he caught me peeking and asked what I was doing he then told me that he hadn't touched alcohol since the day I left I was shocked we ended up sitting and talking for a while he said that being sober was hard and he had the shakes all the time and he missed me I missed him too I had been infatuated with him since I was 13. those feelings weren't going away anytime soon so to wrap things up we ended up getting back together he celebrates two years of sobriety this week I'm so proud of him he sleeps restfully now and is no longer mean to me in any facet also we're engaged now thanks for reading I'm sorry that I fought you guys so hard and thank you for telling me the truth even though I wasn't ready to hear it man that's one of the things I love about Reddit so much is it's one of the few places I feel like where someone can actually see reality for what it really is op in this story was clearly in denial and people were saying op your boyfriend's an alcoholic please look at the signs and it's not really clear if like the Spaghetti Incident is what pushed her over the edge by itself or if also all those people telling op please look at the signs your boyfriend's an alcoholic contributed and like helped her reach that point but still I'm so happy when I see these stories where people are like wow Reddit you're right what was I thinking you know it gives me hope that no situation is too bad to get out of also op I gotta say um I'm really glad everything's working out obviously I hope your boyfriend continues to like resist the temptation of alcohol but can you please buy like some oven mitts or like a tea towel or a dish towel or something why why are you touching a scalding hot pot just wrap your hand in a towel girl I mean I I don't want to criticize you too much because you've obviously been through a lot of like abuse with your boyfriend here but come on just buy oven mitts if you don't have oven mitts use fabric a towel something don't touch a scalding hot pot with your bare hands our next Reddit post is from R relationship advice I'm a 24 year old woman and I met Jake who's 25 about two years ago while out and bonding over the fact that we graduated from the same College we went on a couple of dates and we were getting to know each other when he let me know that he had more or less eaten pizza every day for the past three years I didn't love that idea but I thought that he was pretty cool besides that and I figured it was just a little Quirk he had and then he was exaggerating and that the dude just really liked Pizza he was not exaggerating he eats pizza every every single day without fail each time we go out it has to be pizza and after a few fights here or there it's been pretty much an unspoken understanding that when we go out we will be getting pizza also it's not just any pizza he's even picky about his pizza he'll make us go to a few totally inconvenient pizza places that requires a subway ride and is far from where either of us live we live in New York City and I'm sure that most of you know you pretty much can't pass a single block without stumbling upon a pizza place so it's not like those places are our only options I can name all the foods that he eats on both my hands they're all simple carbohydrates but Pizza is his absolute favorite the others he'll settle for if Pizza isn't immediately available no vegetables no fruit no protein whatsoever he absolutely refuses to even try them despite never trying most of them before I've tried to gently push his boundaries but it always fails and the one time that we went somewhere where I wanted to go he pouted the entire time and ordered french fries he's promised to be more open and that this pizza thing won't be forever but that it's working for him now whatever that means he claims to be high functioning on the Spectrum which honestly I'm not totally convinced of but that's another story and that's why he can only eat pizza this made me more cautious of discussing my issues with his diet because I know how easily he can claim that I'm insensitive to his disability and that it's something he truly can't help and he has I do firmly believe that he has some sort of avoidant eating disorder that is clearly not debatable I've more or less dropped it because it always starts a fight but the resentment is still there I guess he thought that I got over it since I stopped bringing it up that much and he informed me of his plan to stop eating pizza every day after 10 1 000 consecutive days of eating pizza hold up calculator we need the calculator ten thousand divided by 365 is 27 years that is 27 consecutive years buddy you're not gonna make it that long if you eat pizza every day for 27 years you'll be dead of a heart attack before then he says he's going to document it on his Instagram story and show everybody his streak he seemed so proud of this idea and commitment and I'm genuinely stunned he thinks this is just some interesting cute little tidbit about him and people will support him because he's such an offbeat guy I couldn't believe what I was hearing taking away the inconvenience of always having to eat where he wants to eat not being able to cook for us me being bored stupid over eating the same thing every day it's also just simply not healthy he claims that because he's outwardly fit it's not a big deal but I disagree I was sort of putting up with this whole pizza thing at first but after this announcement I don't know if I can deal with this much longer it's inconvenient it's unhealthy and in my opinion it's selfish everybody he goes out to with has to cater to a single person's self-imposed dietary restrictions he's going to Germany with his family for vacation and he's already mapped out the available pizza places that he can eat at but like why would you want German Pizza over authentic German cuisine it very well could be something that he can't help and he has claimed to be getting help through therapy with it but I'm seeing no progress and honestly I don't think that he wants to and only says that he's working on it to placate me he talks about having a future with me and having kids but there's no way I would even consider that if he continues to commit to this pizza streak just for the fear of setting a bad example for our kids eating habits I've tried gently coaxing I've tried showing him studies on how his diet affects his life and sets back his fitness goals that he's always complaining about never reaching I've tried fighting and anger only to be told that I'm a butthole because I need to accept him as he is and that he can't help bits maybe he's right that I have to accept it or I have to move on and at this point I truly don't think that I can accept it he's great in almost every other way except for this I feel guilty for letting it go on this long when it bothered me from the very beginning but I can't change that now do I concede and let him eat whatever he wants because he's a grown man or should I draw this boundary and continue to push him and to push himself to give an ultimatum or do I just need to throw in the towel at this point and move on with my life I never thought I'd get so stressed out over pizza for F's sake ugh yeah op I'm with you this guy is a real Pizza work then about two weeks later Opie posted an update this update is way more dramatic and unpleasant than I had hoped but it is what it is I decided to give it one last shot at broaching this issue with him and letting him know how serious it was to me that he needed help and so long as I saw that he was trying that was all that I asked for we were out to dinner I'm sure you can all guess what we had to eat when he brought up his trip to Germany and how he would have to find a supermarket soon in order to stock up on frozen pizzas to keep his street going I was hoping to do it after the trip so as to not ruin his good time but I figured now was as good a time as any I said maybe you don't have to continue the streak maybe you could just try some German cuisine without worrying about having to get pizza into your diet the entire time have you talked with your therapist about your avoidant eating no way I have people depending on me to continue this streak I don't want to let them down I don't think anybody really cares about this streak as much as you do and frankly I'm worried about you this is really unhealthy and it's consuming your life you're about to go to this incredible trip to Germany and the Forefront of your mind is to get to a grocery store to pick up frozen pizzas I think you really need to discuss this with your therapist again we head up back and forth the rest of our meal about his diet and how it was affecting our relationship he doesn't think it's a problem because his health is fine keep in mind he's only 25 and how I'm being a busybody and I needed to mind my own business I let him know that this is my own business because what he does affects me too we can only go out to eat one thing we can never have a meal at home together and if we did decide to move forth and have kids the example he's setting is awful we let go of the issue for the rest of the dinner not wanting to escalate it and Aid in Silence the plan for after was for me to go back to his place where I would spend the night the entire trip home he was silent but very obviously simmering while I wish that I had just gone home I should have gone home I guess I didn't expect the storm that waited when I got to his place he flipped out he began screaming about how he was so sick of me bringing this up and how it was is life and how I couldn't control what he did or ate I told him that I cared about him and his health and I wanted him to recognize that what he was doing wasn't healthy I ultimately agreed that he was right I couldn't control what he did or what he ate but he can't expect that I stick around and watch and enable him like I've been doing in the past it escalated from there how he had been there for me the entire time when I was an active alcoholic and through my relapses I could not and still cannot dispute that he was I guess the only difference between him and I is that I wanted to change I acknowledged the issue and I knew that I couldn't go on like this any longer I told him I was going to leave because I couldn't deal with this anymore we kept fighting and fighting and he let me know that he would expose me he has a Blog and he told me that he would write one about what it was like to live with an alcoholic and use my name he said that he would share the blog post on Facebook I completely pan connect and I cried and begged that he not used my most vulnerable moments against me he told me that if I walked out he absolutely would that was all I needed to hear he was going to Blackmail me I think this snapped me awake to realize this isn't love if he's going to humiliate me on the internet to get back at me that absolutely isn't love so I left I don't have many possessions there but he can keep them for all I care after I blocked him on everything he emailed me a draft of the post and the subject was last chance let him post it eff it I can't control other people I can only control myself and how I react I deactivated all of my social media and I'm ready to move on with my life it hurts that someone I trusted so much would explicitly broadcast my past but it's a learning lesson thank you all for reading then almost four years later Opie posted an update so he was all talk no follow through on the blackmail I blocked him on everything that night without warning or explanation and I never looked back almost four years now of no contact and I couldn't be happier good riddance did I ever mention that he threatened to unalive himself every time that I threatened breaking up too good times good times okay so I want you all to know that I may that I put in the effort to try and track down this guy's blog but unfortunately I couldn't find this guy's blog probably because it's a Blog about eating a pizza and it's buried so deep in Google because no one would ever want to read that I'm glad op has moved on from this but you know who we really need to hook up this pizza guy and the mustard guy from a couple of weeks ago remember him the guy who almost murdered his wife because she wouldn't eat mustard I feel like these two guys would get along great that was our slash best of redditor updates and if 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Length: 20min 54sec (1254 seconds)

Published: Sun Apr 02 2023