r/Bestof Karen Secretly Hates Her Kid

Welcome to our best of redditor updates where a Karen accidentally reveals that she's a Karen who doesn't really love or care about her kids our next Reddit post is from r slash am I the bad guy am I the bad guy for not sending my daughter to a different School District so she could be in gifted education I have three kids Michelle who's seven Juliet who's six and Leo who's two Michelle's in first grade and Juliet is in kindergarten at our local public school Juliet however is very gifted she came into kindergarten reading chapter books and was doing math at a second grade level she's obviously doing great academically but struggles socially at her school for a couple of reasons firstly she doesn't understand that other people's brains don't work like hers and she tends to get frustrated when people take a bit longer to figure things out second she's just a huge Bookworm and would rather spin recess reading instead of playing with the other kids then she gets upset that she can't talk about her books with them I was recently called into a meeting about Juliet with her teacher the principal of her school and the superintendent they basically said that they don't have the resources to support Juliet in her school or any of the schools in this District but there is a school Two Towns over specifically for gifted students from first to tenth grade then for grades 11 and 12 they have a building at a community college and she would be taking college courses for high school and college credits she would have to test into the school but her school would provide the testing the school sounds great for her but it's close to 30 minutes away away from her current school it starts and ends 45 minutes later than our current school so I'd be able to get her and Michelle to school on time but it would eat up at least two extra hours of my day and I don't have that kind of time for school drop off and pick up nor do I have the patience to deal with a two-year-old in the car for two hours per day my husband works in the opposite direction and wouldn't be able to drop her off we could ask my father-in-law he sometimes drives the kids around for me but I don't want him to have to drop off and pick up two hours per day my husband doesn't agree with me at all he thinks that I should be willing to make the drive for her and insist that I have the time because I'm a stay-at-home mom I brought up the issue of our youngest having to spend that much time in the car but he says that I could just have his parents babysit I still don't think that it's worth the two hours per day that I'd have to put in to take her to this school so I enrolled her in our local public school for the next year but my husband is furious with me for ignoring her social and academic needs am I the bad guy okay um this commentary may sound sexist I hope it doesn't but the vibe that I'm getting from you op is that you're basically a trophy wife who doesn't really care about your kids or making your kids happy or improving their lives what you really care about is you and your free time what's being asked of you here isn't a big deal two hours driving just so your kid can be among her peers and reach her full potential most parents would kill for that kind of opportunity for their kids and your response is yeah well who wants to deal with traffic for two hours ugh it's always really disappointing and honestly disgusting when parents put their own needs before the needs of their kids down in the comments people are trashing on op and Opie's trying to defend herself and it just makes her look worse and worse someone writes you're the bad guy sorry but we sacrifice for our kids first and foremost that whole I don't have the patience comment pushed it over over the edge Opie replied do you want to sit in a car with a two-year-old for at least three hours per day someone else mentions homeschooling and op says we tried that for a year with preschool and height just couldn't handle homeschooling her anyways eight days later Opie posted an update I found out that my husband took Julia to get tested for the gifted school behind my back and she got in after he found out that she was accepted he let our house I knew it I knew it he let our housekeepers go we have housekeepers come twice a week and canceled my gym membership to pay for a service to drive her to and from school all without telling me as a result of his actions I'm currently staying with my parents and will be getting a divorce Juliet will be starting her new school in July I hope you're all happy with the outcome yes Opie I am very happy I'm especially happy that I called it I knew something about this I was just getting Trophy Wife Vibes that was what she had to sacrifice to make this happen not sitting in a car for three hours no a maid and a gym membership that was her real sacrifice here that in exchange for her daughter getting the education she needs disgusting op down in the comments someone says so this is just so stupid so you want a divorce because your husband figured out the best way to help your child and op says he can't make decisions about my life without consulting me the decisions that he made about your life by the way was canceling the maid and canceling your gym membership okay okay okay awful Opie you know what's so bad about this more than likely the end result of this post is that Opie's gonna win in the end right it sounds like the husband makes a ton of money if he's supporting five people him his wife and three kids so he's got a pretty solid income and then on top of that he's paying for maids and gym memberships so the dude's probably loaded and the end result is that op will probably get half of the money which means she gets to spend her day I guess getting her nails done and not actually caring about her kids just living her life being a self-obsessed selfish ex-trophy wife man it's so oh Opie you're just not a good person you're just not you're just not a good person our next way to post is from r slash ask women over 30. I'm a 30 year old single woman and my manager a 50 year old single man is holding me back and it's affecting my career my manager won't promote me because I'm too valuable in my current position I've expressed my desire for additional responsibilities more visibility to the company and a promotion he agrees the work that I'm doing is one to two levels higher than my title and compensation and I should be doing more and have a different title but he's been making excuses for five years about why he can't promote me he tried replacing me with five different external candidates over 13 months so I can move up and none of them stuck because the job was too big too demanding and too much work even for candidates with over 20 years of experience he brought them all in at a higher compensation than I'm currently making currently I'm the only person in the company who knows how to do around 40 percent of my responsibilities I think this is a major factor in his decision he says that I can't get a raise to the market level because then I'll be making more than my male counterparts I've been in my role for eight years does a lateral move for higher compensation at a different company makes sense nearly every current job opening for my same title at similar size companies is paying 15 to 20 percent more than what I'm making now or should I hold out for a different title even if it means staying at the company for six to 12 more months I'm not sure if that contradicts my desire to continue growing in my career I'm frustrated because I've been in my position three years longer than I wanted and I'm not progressing as I should I'm a mid-30s corporate manager for a two billion dollar Company If I Stay in my role at this company any longer I dread that I'll never get out internal or external I'll go crazy if I'm doing this work for the next 30 Years then about two weeks later op posted an update this update is a bit long but basically after everyone encouraged op to apply for jobs op updated her resume applied to a bunch of jobs and she got a job offer with a 20 pay bump then about one month later op posted an update it's been quite a whirlwind over the past month I gave my notice my manager was annoyed disengaged from me and wanted nothing to do with me HR and his manager the number two person in the company tried to get me to stay they offered me a 40 raise the title I want the changes to the department I want and anything else I want I thought about it for all of zero seconds and said no I told both of them everything that's been going on over the past year the CEO slash owner even made a few passes at me to get me to stay I politely said no they all know he is the reason I was leaving my manager spoke to me all of three times he ignored me he treated me like garbage he made comments about me he argued with me in meetings it was so unprofessional and it took everything I had to work out my full notice according to him I went from an award-winning manager to the worst he's ever seen how convenient I heard through the grapevine that he nearly got fired for treating me like he has I don't know if it's true or not but I'll pretend that it is I do know however that he presented changes to fix the department after my departure HR and his boss looked at the plan and said that's op's plan isn't it and he reluctantly said yes this jerk off tried to take my ideas and play them off as his own again I worked for this man for nearly a decade my co-workers threw a going away party for me and he didn't come not even for two seconds to say good luck to save face for the rest of the departments he called in sick my last day so I never actually had any closure with him you could you can imagine how painful it must have been for him to contact me and ask me to be a consultant because no one else can do my job I told him that I will not work with him but I will discuss details with another manager within the company details are still pending but I'm holding firm on my number if they don't want to pay me what I want no skin off my back this past week was my first week at my new job and I love it it's everything I hoped for and more they're already discussing giving me additional responsibilities and departments over the summer and I couldn't be happier my new manager and I get along so well I've never regretted for a second making this decision my husband has made comments about how I'm happy and smiling again the work hours are significantly less so I have time to spend on my hobbies I actually get to work from home now as this is a hybrid position so we're updating the home office as well this honestly feels like a dream and I'm going to wake up at any minute I I'm so happy thank you everyone in my previous post for your kind words and support they really helped push me to making the right decision for me and my family oh man it's so funny how he's like oh I just can't promote you it's just not possible then the second you try to quit bam forty percent pay raise work from home when you want changes to the department apparently it wasn't that hard after all what a lying manipulative coward he doesn't even have the courage to look you in the eyes on your last day well I have to call in sick because I'm not feeling well what a loser man our next Reddit post is from r slash am I the bad guy am I the bad guy for refusing to change my style at work even though my boyfriend says that it's unprofessional I'm a 25 year old woman and I've been dating my boyfriend who's 26 for about eight months I've always had a very alternative look even as a child that got more expressive as I grew up colorful hair facial piercings tattoos and very dark and bold makeup this is how I feel most comfortable and happy when we started dating my boyfriend said that he likes my look even though he himself dresses very basically he even hyped me up when I showed him new makeup looks or outfits however a few days ago as I was getting ready for work he kept making weird faces at me I asked him what was wrong and he said nothing but kept shaking his head this really irritated me because he was obviously bothered but I wasn't going to entertain his Huffy Behavior I finished getting ready and tried to kiss him goodbye like I always do but he just turned away from me this really hurt my feelings and I can't even lie I did cry a little bit on the way to work I tried to text him during my breaks but he didn't respond at all when I finally got home and he still wouldn't say anything to me I lost it I asked him what his problem was and why he's treating me this way he motioned my clothes and simply said that I obviously didn't know what he meant so I asked what it was about and he said I just can't believe that you'd wear that to work I was confused because this is what I always wear I told him that and he was like yeah I know it's so unprofessional you'll never accomplish anything looking like that I couldn't believe he said that to me I was fighting back tears at this point trying to tell him that my job allows it and that I'm not the only one at work who dresses like this he just kept repeating himself and said that clearly it's not that good of a job if they allow me to look like that I couldn't take it anymore and left to go to my sister's house he called me and I told him to F off that I wasn't gonna change my look because he didn't like it he called me selfish saying that I'm ruining our future together because I can't sacrifice one thing so that we can have a good life together even though my job allows it and it's a good paying office job there was no reason for me to sacrifice anything after that I hung up on him and ignored him for the rest of the night I explained everything to my sister and she does agree that my look is unprofessional but if it doesn't cause issues at work then it shouldn't matter the next day I had about a million messages from him saying how selfish I'm being and ruining our futures I started feeling really guilty for leaving I feel like I'm not wrong here but even my sister kind of agreed with him so I don't know then five days later op posted an update so you guys were right my boyfriend finally came back to my apartment Sunday no message or call just walked in like nothing happened I immediately started questioning him asking where the hell he's been and why he hasn't been answering me he gave a half-assed response saying that his mom needed help with something and he forgot to call me I told him that he can't just ignore me for three days and he said that he wasn't even though he clearly was I was already getting upset so I told him that even if he wasn't ignoring me the way he treated me before he left was messed up of course he just starts saying that he didn't do anything wrong and that he was just trying to help me see how I'm hurting us both by dressing the way that I do I told him for like the 500th time that my job doesn't care about what I wear and it's not a concern he said even if my work was okay with that other people do and he shouldn't have to suffer because of it suffer this is where things went South I started yelling who's saying they're suffering and why does it even matter he said no one but I see the way that people stare and It embarrasses me I cried because I was so hurt he told me to stop being dramatic and that it wasn't a big deal but at that point I was beyond pissed I said if he's so embarrassed by how I dress then he can date someone else he starts to freak out saying that's not what I meant I'm just worried what people think I kept asking what people because clearly their opinion is more important than how I feel he just kept looking around trying to change the subjects saying stuff like there's no one specific but I told him that I didn't want to hear it and for him to leave right now he was saying things like are you serious and you're really gonna act this way over close I just told him to get out over and over and and eventually he left making a big deal of stomping out and slamming the door Monday I put his stuff in a box and left it outside I texted him that he can come pick up his stuff when he brings me back my key I told him that we're done because I won't be with someone who treats me like this he kept messaging me but I just ignored all of it he came by at some point and picked up his stuff but didn't leave the key I was extremely worried that he would try to come in my apartment while I was asleep or away so I called my dad and he changed my locks for me I completely agree with this top comment from puppies and unicorns him you're really gonna act this way over clothes as he's acting that way over close right like the only person in this entire story who has an issue with her clothes is this guy I think what this is is this guy trying to control her sexuality that he sees the way that she dresses as sexy but he doesn't want other men to see her dress sexy so he's just trying to control her basic that's my guess anyways op you're better off without him that was our slash best of redditor updates and if you like this content check out my podcast where I publish the exact same episodes also hit that subscribe button because I put out new Reddit videos every single day

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Length: 17min 34sec (1054 seconds)

Published: Tue Jun 06 2023