"Quality of Love" - Pastor Wayne Cordeiro

take out your notes with me as we continue and I'm gonna have you take a look at the very top of your notes and let's read that Scripture again read it with me as Paul stops at a mile marker and again begins to teach us about love read it with Mikko and this I pray that your love will abound still more and more in the real knowledge and all discernment why so that you may approve the things that are excellent in order to be sincere and blameless until the day of Christ he says I pray that your love will abound more and more and more in other words he was saying my love that was in the beginning can't stay that way it's got to grow it's got to grow in fact what you write in your notes our love has to grow up he remember in 1st Corinthians chapter 13 that love chapter he said this when I was a child I thought like a child I spoke as a child I even reasoned as a child but then I grew up and I had to put away childish things because I had to grow in my love and now I've got a not reason like a child have to reason more maturely and the whole chapters about love and he's saying as I grow my love has to grow otherwise we can still say the word love but it's a junior high love it is a selfish love Paul is saying our love has to grow up I'm when I first met Anna my wife if we might my heart would start to beat real fast my hands would get clammy my blood pressure would rise now this year we'll be married 40 years and if my hands get clammy when I look at her and my heart starts to race and my blood pressure rises it's because I'm having a heart attack but it doesn't mean I love her any less and I did you understand I have to grow in my love so it may look a little bit different but actually I love her more our love has to grow and the same is true with marriage is true with everything else in fact we hear that the Lord says through the person of Paul in Philippians 1:9 remember he says this I pray that your love abound what more and more and then he talks about in first Thessalonians not just for a marital situation but for everyone read this together with me would you go increase and abound in love for one another he the qualities of love it's a whole lot more than just emotion that used to be over here tied with something sexual or attractive or alluring you've got to grow out of that to something that's going to sustain our families in our future because if we keep it here and your love does not abound more and more you're gonna settle for a far lesser quality that's not buildable and I want you to know right now that kind or poor quality of love is being pandered and sold to people of all ages and just because it's the word love does not mean it's a high quality of love it's a very poor quality of love we understand that high quality versus low quality and you have to make a decision you have to be discerning and approve what is excellent what is not and that's what Paul is saying you see that all the time I'm going to give you some examples of quality what you can get or what you don't need to get but what you must get if you understand qualities and you don't want to mix these up let's say you're a parent your son just gets his driver's license so you want to help them get a car what quality will one would be something like this it's called a McLaren that has a cool price tag of 239 thousand dollars I'm sure he would like that but instead you say you know we don't need that quality for something like that no here's the quality you need it's a Geo nine hundred bucks used that's enough how many of you would say I think I'd rather get that than the other one for my kid just getting a driver's license good all right now your wife says honey we're gonna go to baptism today I need new slippers because I don't have any slippers to go to the beach well you go to Long's and you get one for $4.99 Rob asleep up or you can get the same kind of slipper but this is called a Chipko hand-painted slipper by an artist named David Palmer the price tag on these slippers believe it or not $1,800 so you say well what kind of quality do you need you say to your wife we're going back to Long's and so we'll just kind of hold off on this one what about brakes brakes there's all kind of quality of brakes the brakes that you're gonna need now that they are all called brakes all right but the quality that you'll need for a little scooter like this called a razor it's just one you use just fine but the same quality of brakes for car load of these treasures that you're going to go across the United States for a vacation you want the highest quality of brakes you can get you understand and if you don't understand the differences in quality you're gonna settle for something really low and when it comes time where you need it it will fail but the danger is if you're buying this because it's being pandered wholesale and you don't or you cannot approve what is excellent or not it happens all over and especially in families you can settle for a cheap loved one that's not very expensive but will it really sustain families that are gonna raise their children and to be friends that'll carry out through the generations you better get the highest quality love that you can get and right now in our society there's a very cheap love that's being sold and just because it's the word love does not mean it's love so you want to make sure that if you're going to define the quality of certain loves you want to make sure that you define it correctly Paul the Apostle says that there's really two qualities of love and in that same verse and we'll just stick pretty much with that verse he says there's a higher quality of love and what is that he said it is a discerning or a knowledgeable and discerning love a knowledgeable a love that's knowledgeable I understand I know the context I know what's going on oh I might have the emotions and I might have the hormones but I gotta have a knowledgeable love you've got to be careful because if you're not if you're not you're gonna say well I got the emotions for this but if it's not a knowledgeable love it will break down very quickly and leave many people in the path of destruction you included well I just love for most young guys they've got more hormones and they got brains did you know that they say men fall in love on the average four times a day oh I'm in love I'm in love oh wait a minute no I'm not now I am now I am it's like get real so if we're not careful we will settle for a poor quality of love write that down a poor quality of love and that is one that lacks knowledge and is not a discerning love you see if he's saying I want your love to grow and grow still more about more and more in all discernment all knowledge all discernment if there is a love that is knowledgeable not ignorant knowledgeable and discerning which means I know excellence from something that is not excellent I'm a discerning it's a discerning love if there's a quality of love that's knowledgeable and it's discerning there's also a love that could be not very knowledgeable and not very discerning and you don't want to mix those two up it'll be one of the worst mistakes you would make but please be careful because what you're seeing out there and especially if you're young lady or young man the best time to learn it is now not later because you see all kinds of loves are allowed today you can go ahead and sleep with whomever you want to or there's no law against that you can even do it in an immoral way there's no law against that you're allowed to do that but you want to be careful on that because I tell you what an excellent love is is a love that says you know what I'm going to trade what is allowed to gain what is excellent right that in because it's I'm allowed to do that I can do whatever well you can you know go with this guy cuz you know you can do it yeah you want to do it just because you can you want to do that just because you can and then you settle in for something and it takes its roots on you and it takes you like don sometimes thirty years to get out of that and think of all of the pain and torture and suffering in the meantime so you want to see if you can say God would you teach me a love that is excellent what is the love that's excellent well love that's excellent is I trade in for what I can do and I'm allowed to do to gain what is excellent because if you're not careful most of the loves that we have today are what we call a selfish love it's a it's a lower quality love versus a higher but it's a self it starts off quite selfish because we're selfish people so I it's kind of like the cat right that rubs its legs now on your leg rubs its back on your legs meow meow and it goes in and out of your legs and you say man this cat just loves me so much the cat doesn't love you it's loving itself off your leg is what it's doing it's loving itself off of you you seen if we're not careful we'll say oh that thing loves me no that boy doesn't love you loves itself and we see that in the story of this wife that brought her husband to the doctor and said doctor my husband is so listless he doesn't want to do nothing he's passive just sits there glazes into the universe like he's nothing nobody home what's wrong so the husband the doctor looks at the husband says can I just talk to your husband would you wait in the waiting room she said yeah yeah whatever so she goes out and the doctor talks with him calls her back in says sir could you wait in the car and I'd like to talk to your wife he said ok so he goes out to the car sits in the passenger seat waiting for his wife and the doctor looks at the wife and says your husband could die she said what yeah of what of a lack of love huh yeah a lack of true love what are you talking about are you gonna have to start loving him why well because if he starves without love you'll die what I have to do but when he comes home like kisum's gross no no just just kiss him and then take his shoes off put slippers on him and give him a massage let him know that you love it bring him something to drink few minutes later she walked to the car opens a driver side closes a door sits behind the steering wheel and the husband said honey what did the doctor say she looked at him and said he said you're gonna die selfish love they break down but the Bible says that we need to prove what is excellent the reason you need a higher quality of love is so that you can prove what's excellent this is excellent that's not this is a good quality that's not and if we are not careful you'll settle for the wrong quality of love and it's never gonna be buildable it will break down and that kind of love that's a quality love it says this would you read it go love believes the best in all and there is no limit to her hope yeah you have to be able to have that kind of love and Paul is saying before we even start in Philippians we're gonna define love because it's gonna be sold to you it's a very poor quality of love it's a knockoff and because we want to love so much because we're selfish we need love we're going to accept anything and it will destroy you it'll be called love but it's not the guy came to me and said of pastor Bessel you know my girlfriend I mean so love with I'm sowing love I said man it seems like it oh yeah she said I mean she when I see her she makes me break into a sweat I start shaking all over and when she's gone I feel weak and faint and sick I said brother you're not in love you got the flu we can define it incorrectly can't we but the Bible says that when you have the right kind of love you'll be able to approve what is excellent which means that's not a good love its knowledgeable and discerning young lady when the guy says I love you and then if you think that's real love the next step is if you love me then you will fill in the blank it's a selfish love that love is not gonna sustain your future it will it will wrestle the best out of you and leave you like a dirty wash rag don't fall for that that you might approve what is excellent because it's knowledgeable and discerning in order that you might be sincere and blameless until the day of Christ the word sincere is an interesting word because when you catch the great kind of love and you pass on what is allowed in order to gain what is excellent the lord says and you're gonna have something called a sincere life what's sincere a sincere love Oh what is sincere let me tell you it's a very interesting Greek word it's a Greek word heli Cree no heli credo is the word for sincere when you say what is that it's very interesting Helios is the Greek word for Sun Sun Helios Cree no is the word to test judge to test and so the word sincere actually comes from the word Sun tested he said where's that from it's actually in those days here let me tell you the story the etymology of this word and when then we get the word sincere and that's actually translated from a Latin word cine Sara is sincere and even that word comes from this Greek and let me tell you how it matches very intriguing in the olden days they used to make these vases that were the most beautiful of all vases ever made almost porcelain-like where you could actually see light come through it it wasn't opaque its opacity was great so that are less so that you can see Sun coming through lights coming through MS gorgeous very expensive however to make that vase it was extremely difficult because those who are the potters if they would take it out too quickly or too late and leave it in too long or if it cooled too fast little fissures and cracks would form in the vase which would ruin it and so the honest Potter's would actually break those up and throw it away and maybe out of 12 only two would have no cracks or fissures or hair lines in it but they'd have to get rid of ten and then these two then as you can see they become very very precious and very very expensive however the dishonest dealers would see the cracks and fissures and what they would do is they would take wax and they would mix it into the same color as that vessel or that vase and actually put wax in all of the cracks and buff it out and then they would sell it and and a purchaser unaware to go oh this is great and would pay a very high price for a flawed vase however if this person were knowledgeable they would take it outside and hold it into the Sun and the Sun would shine through it and they would see the hairline cracks that were filled in with wax the latin word where we get sincere from is seen a sarah you know what seen a sarah means seen a is without sarah without wax came from being sun tested and so the honest dealers would put the vases out there and they put a little placard out there seen a sarah vases because they knew that the dishonest ones were putting wax in it too to fool you you would think it's very expensive but it was very cheap and it would break and in the heat of the Sun the mentalists the wax would start to melt and you realize you can't put anything into this and what God is saying is when you understand the quality of love it will deem you sincere or your love will be son tested you'll be able to stand the heat of the kitchen and the tough times that you'll go through in the valleys that you go through not only will it be son tested and without wax oh it's usable but when your love is seen by others they'll see the light of the Sun coming through that it's not your love it's gotta be God's you've gotta be it's it's a quality of love that this earth doesn't give and this earth doesn't try to sell wholesale it's a very precious love and that's the kind of love that oh I'm okay I'll kinda you Kapono is saying that the life of our land will be perpetuated with love that son tested its righteous good but if we're not careful we'll settle for a knockoff because everybody's saying by this and lasts in the beginning and then it breaks down forever the first is that you based be sincere and the second is that you be blameless now blameless is an interesting word too as studying that word it really means someone that is is not easy to trip up blameless means cannot trip them up can't fool them there's no part of their love that's imbalanced it's kind of like the judo stance when someone if you're balanced when someone tries to push you from this angle or that angle or this angle or whatever angle there there's a stability to you you're not easily imbalanced not easy to trip because there's a balance to it if you are off balance you can push here push here but right there whoop there you go the word blameless means here it is would you write it down not easily defeated not easy to defeat that's why the scripture says in order that you might be sincere and what blameless sincere no wax people can see Jesus through you son tested and blameless you're gonna be hit from all sides mark my words especially in this day your marriage with financial setbacks problems at home you're gonna be buffeted by the winds and the storms and the currents from all sides but when you understand the excellence of God's love you'll be hard to defeat I think one of the the neatest examples of people that were hard to defeat Oh were David's thirty mighty men oh man I love this see David was known as the most elite guerrilla warfare expert in the world at that time you could not defeat him if he's out in the forest don't go into the forest trying to get him he will defeat you but it wasn't just David that was a mighty warrior it was his thirty mighty men that were skilled and capable their acuity and military prowess was unmatched and in this portion of Scripture we find one of the descriptions of one who is not easily defeated now I want you to read it's in your notes there would you read this with me go these were among the mighty men who helped him in war they were equipped with bows using both the right hand as well as the left to sling stones and shoot arrows from the bow now I'd looked at that and I thought man these guys could throw a spear with a right hand and hang through it throw it as just as accurate with a left hand they sling with right left bow and arrow or this way mater I thought they'd developed their skills so much that you couldn't defeat them I mean you he's throwing a spear who gets another spear who guy cuts his arm off he gets his left now who kills a guy slingshot whack-whack bing cuts his arm off come on kill you - doesn't matter it's like you can't defeat these guys and in the same way the Lord says the enemy's gonna come at you from very subtle angles but if you've discerned the quality of love necessary and not settle for anything less you can see a sign and you know that's not the love that you want to settle for know someone over here I love you or I love this or love that you know we want to love what's wrong with love that quality of love tons of things wrong with it just because the English language doesn't have all the different words like Greek does eros agape filete Oh storge they have four words for love eros is more of an erotic love based on sight and feel then you have storge it's a love between a mother and her child that kind of loves a different love then you have phileo loves to love between friends like a Jonathan and David love it's a strong friendship love for a lifetime and then agape it's a love of choice I will love you and there's nothing you can do about it no matter what storms come my way that's the highest level of love that's called God's love and if you're not careful you'll settle for this rather than for this and think it's the same it's a universe apart and so God says in order for you to be sincere and blameless you're gonna hit some storms coming up in the future and there will only be the highest form of love that'll be able to sustain you I want you in closing to take a look at this short video of about three minutes of a love that took a lifetime to develop but you'll hear at the end the source of this man's love he's either from Great Britain or from Australia so you'll discern an accent but I want you to see the precious quality of this highest love it's a love of choice this is the kind of love from the source that you'll hear and just be a quick one you'll hear the source of that love that's a kind of love we need in Hawaii and around the world in New Hope and in our families and amongst one another let's take a look at this kind of a quality of love and you'll begin to understand that's the definition of love I don't counted a burden whatever to have to care for her I need to do everything from the moment she gets up to the moment she goes to bed I do absolutely everything the cleaner teeth a shower a dress everything and but it's proved it's a privilege I counted a great privilege to to care for this one that I've loved all of these years and continue to love this is the year where we'll celebrate our 50th wedding anniversary our stories have been a lovely story I first saw her when she was 8 years old and her brother became my best friend we grew up together and as we grew up yes she was there and I knew that she used to stare at me when I was playing footy with my with a brother and another friend and when we used to ride bikes that she kept staring at me but I wasn't interested I was 17 she was 16 I saw her dolled up dressed up and she had an a-line dress on and boom it was gone I was that she was the one for me then absolutely when we first started dating I used to ride my bike from where I live to where she was and that was about five kilometres on a Saturday afternoon because was the only chance we had to get together and it was hair wash day for her and she used a special cream in her hair for a shampoo and I can still smell it because that smell was so particular so nice it was just absolutely special we had a bike I used to ride everywhere on my bike on a bike as well and we put a baby chair on the front of her bike and so we carried our babies around on the bike with her as well yeah bikes been part of our lives and I guess that has something to do with us now around about 2004 five I began to notice that there were things going wrong she was finally diagnosed with the horrible disease of Alzheimer's having lived overseas I knew that with a bike you can do lots of things so I had a bike made a bike chair made we take it to the beach and ride along beside the beach and as we do that we see lots of people lot of people come talk to us because it's a unique thing nobody else is gonna bite you I am determined to care for her every need every knee you see God has loved us so unconditionally and I understand that God has put his love in my heart and because I realized how much God has loved me that's how she has done so much for me over all of these years now she can't but I can and I can return her love and it's a love that well to me means I can do everything for her she's my princess I'm her William and I wouldn't have it any other way would you have it any other way not at all we love each other let's stand together as we can Plue quality of love don't settle for a low quality like the word brake brakes the brakes you use on a scooter is different from that which you would use on a car filled with your children or your loved ones you want the highest quality and and we're settling for a low quality upon which we build a future of a country or people or marriage no we're in for a cataclysmic collision a breakdown because there will be buffeting and yet that love has to be able to be sincere and blameless until the day of Christ

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Published: Tue Sep 17 2013