Parents favour their DAUGHTER over their SON! | The Minyon Family | FULL EPISODE | Supernanny USA

foreign let's take a look this week and see what family we've got here hello it's minion family I'm Frank 29 years old I'm Danielle I'm 26. we have two children Frank Patrick he's seven Skyler who's four I had no idea that having kids could be so much different don't you hit me they're not quite as easy as I thought it'd be around don't hit Mommy hi Skyler's very difficult she's got some rage issues Frank absolutely does not get as much of our attention because of our daughter I'm sad to say I don't spend enough time with my son Frank doesn't like to wake up in the morning and when I do get him up I have to physically dress him while he's in the bed how come you never helped me get yourself dressed in the morning fire seven years old this is a Beyond a joke here I would just like my family to be happy I'm not gonna be good Super Nanny help us we can't stop our daughter's fits we don't have the answers and we really need help Mom and Dad I'm on my way foreign [Music] how are you good very early in the morning I know it sure is but I've heard that you've got issues that need to be sorted out regarding the mornings and getting the children up and ready for school sure do Joe's presence felt very strong kind of almost like a principle I felt as if school was about to begin what I would like you both to do today is just to carry on as normal make out I'm not here I'm going to be a fly on the wall and I'm going to watch and observe you okay with the children today okay I felt so relieved that Joe was at the house and I was finally going to get some answers to my crazy household and uh I'm correct I think it's school time it sure is sure is I'm gonna sit back and watch and the first thing that we did was head towards the bedrooms to wake Frank Frank come on buddy it's time wake up soon afterwards mum then went into Skyler's bedroom Skyler and attempted to wake her up come on Frank rise and shine [Music] you awake yet oh come on bud mum told Skyler that she needed to get dressed because she was going off to school today the cops are gonna come and get Mommy if you're not at school oh come on Skyler please no and that's when the fireworks went off don't start in the morning Skyler was clearly running things in this household what happens now each day of school it's getting worse and worse it just went from new shoes yesterday too not getting dressed where is that Daniel getting ready for work so do you normally get Frank dressed every morning in his bed he usually won't get out of bed until I physically dress him he's a big boy and yet she was dressing him otherwise I'll fight with him all morning to actually get out of bed he won't even get out of bed very suddenly I realized Frank didn't do much in the morning Mom did absolutely everything I mean really I don't think anybody really knows where they're going they're like puppies chasing their tails in the morning you gotta find your sneakers you gotta brush your teeth sometimes I'd like my husband to help more I usually have to take the brunt of the storm by myself I'm going to have Daddy help my dresser [Music] the Scarlett's duck in the Hills I mean she was having none of it yeah I have to go me having to leave for work in the middle of the chaotic portions of the morning is not a comforting feeling walking out the front door [Music] I hate seeing her cry like that or nothing it's easier to give her her way because it should be fine mum's emotionally drained from all of it Frank had removed himself from the high-pitched crying it's quite worrying actually that was on his own having to make do with mom dealing with Skyler do you want me to make your lunch or not all dressed ready no shoes on no toothbrush but we're going bye nanny Well that took a long time an hour and 15 minutes to get Skyla up dressed and to school what kind of mornings I'd want to see again that's for sure I very quickly realized Skyler Skyler I want you to finish eating controls everybody in the household mom allows Skyler to run rings around her Skyler [Music] hey Frank so do you get much time with Mommy and Daddy to do things [Music] really no pick the pillows up off the floor no no don't tell me no pick them up please no pick them up do you want a time out no pick them up please pick the pillows up no you're in no time out yes you do Scotty was having a tantrum plain and simple are you gonna pick them up my sister is not being a good girl after being told for the fourth time she was sent to the naughty chair which I was pleased to see but it wasn't being used correctly because mum never walks away and that just adds fuel to the fire what a battle I mean it's just absolutely crazy it was absolutely ridiculous Skyla hit her mum and months her back yeah I just feel like I'm gonna battle her forever and she's never gonna quit I usually let her off let go the shoe always hit pull your hair and kicking yeah Frank had removed himself desperately trying to find Solitude and really be interrupt of any of attention do you like listening to that though [Music] so what was achieved in all of this today nothing does that make you feel as a parent sucks it's like I know that she wins every time because I don't know what works I tried so many different things but none of them work two three hours okay I'm just not strong enough to do it they ended with Danielle desperately needing this hug from Skyler and and Skyler desperate to be held as well but nothing actually got solved this guy when Dad came home it gave me a chance to see how he interacts with his children this guy she could do no wrong it's just daddy's little girl she is just precious everything she does is cute hey Frank he's always the last one to come greet me if I even get him am I interrupting you first I want to hello is there much interaction with you and Frank do you spend much time doing things in the house watch your mouth all right no not right now we don't really interact probably as like a father-son should or what are you doing to the couch Frank I think I have nothing in common with my son or something is that how you feel sometimes sure he really once again one word answers never really ever have a conversation with him come on hurry up I need all those bikes put in the shed for me buddy it became very clear to me that Frank was a lot tougher on his son than he was on his daughter I just need it in there whatever you got to do oh my little helper thank you sweetheart later on in the afternoon mum and dad had organized a barbecue and their friends and family came round you see a little Sky Skyler refused to say hello to anybody Skyler come say hello to Sharon please Frank did you say hi to Frank didn't bother to have any manners you don't need to be playing video games Frank when we have a family member or a friend walk in the door I feel it's just common courtesy to have everyone greet who's coming in that was almost done no once the barbecue started the children's Behavior started to decline my kids just have the worst manners Danielle and Frank were really embarrassed by their children's lack of manners why does anyone want to come to the house and see you if you're not going to say hello and goodbye but they do have really high standards and expectations of their children they're expecting to hug and kiss on demand give him a big hug oh I feel competent about the issues that the mignon family need to address and I can't wait to get started [Music] when I first meet a family I go in and I watch the Dynamics between the parents and the children I then approach both parents and we discuss the issues that I think need to be addressed Danielle and Frank I've seen more than enough today so why don't we go through to the dining area and have a talk great I'm nervous what Joe's going to say to us at the family museum sure Joe has a few things that she's seen that aren't correct you two are a beautiful young family and you should both be very proud as parents yeah but let's start with the mornings I mean what about waking up eight years old and Frank is being dressed I mean that's ridiculous you then go into Skyler why do you allow your four-year-old daughter to power struggle with the pair of you she's a baby of the house and I guess we kind of just let it get away I mean Danielle it was horrifying Skyler lost her temper and punched and kicked you and bit you and pulled your hair so hard that you smacked her and shouted at her and you lost control it's absolutely Madness I just don't know how to stop her we're not just talking about Skyler here Scott has got a brother Frank where is Frank in this equation Frank's gone Frank just doesn't want to hear the screaming takes himself off and Frank is really into his computer game because that gives him attention because he's not getting it from his parents emotionally you're in a desperate situation because so much time is being devoted to Skyler he needs your attention he needs your encouragement and your support I feel he just needs to be stronger you mean take your Flack to me I've always just seem to be raised different you're basically saying that you don't treat your children equally she could taught me about it it's how it is we have to change it let's talk about the social skills with Skyler and Frank you expect your children to be intimate with people when they don't want to be I would like to just see a hello handshake High acknowledgment but you don't set the examples in your own home Frank it doesn't do it with his own father how can you expect him to develop his social skills when he doesn't even do it with you the pair of you love your kids but what you have to be is realistic with your expectations Joe told us that we completely lost our power to a four-year-old little girl and our son sits on the back burner because all of our attention is focused on our daughter so with a lot of determination some hard work let's change the power shift you guys up for that yes absolutely well let's get cracking the first thing I did after observing the family was to go back and to present them with a family routine which they desperately needed in order to gain some form of structure to their house okay Frank what's out there family routine exactly family routine at 6 30. pre-wakeup Frank a pre-wakeup call is to gently break your child into the morning before the alarm goes off what I want you both to do is to take turns in rotating that morning at 3 15 to 4 15 outside activity I want to see the kids having some wind down period of time from school dad between 4 30 and 5 P.M I would love you to sit down with Frank and do his homework sure okay lots of encouragement and support that felt good to know that I have this time slot I know that this portion of the day is my son and I Frank any questions no no Scarlett any questions [Music] okay look what I've got here what is it I introduced the reward chart because it's a fun way to make the children reach their goals and earn their rewards you start to collect your tokens until you reach the levels that say 5 10 15 and 20. at the end of each week the children receive rewards depending on how many tokens they have yeah I think the rewards is one of the best parts that Joe's has showed us because it gives us something good to give to the kids okay good start subscriber mommy's cooking dinner Danielle starts to prepare dinner and Skyla wouldn't let her do so she wanted to be picked up constantly she's used to screaming know that you'll pick her up what you know is she's perfectly fine if you pick her up what you're doing is you're teaching Skyler that every time she behaves this way it wants you just to pick up Danielle couldn't bear Skyler's crying and she broke down you feel bad because you are not letting her have her own way okay who's been a good mother right now and getting dinner on the go for the whole family [Music] mummy can't hold you right now I'm cooking okay it gave me a lot of strength to have Joe there I break down easily with all the crying and chaos and running and I just feel like it's never gonna work don't hit Mommy that is nice never want it and tell her if she does it again she would go on the naughty chat I'm behind you [Applause] Danielle you are taking the power back I don't want to go to jail [Music] watching my daughter taking it so tough just wanted to grab her scoop her up you need to stay here I don't think I would have been able to get Skyler to stay in the naughty Chair by myself now [Music] Danielle bring it back to the area and say you've heard her fair enough you want to help me but you need to say sorry for your behavior before you can help mommy you can help mommy you need to say you're sorry first for how you acted earlier once you apologize you can help me Scotty would not apologize and it just dragged on Danielle was very persistent and she became increasingly confident what do you need to say to Mommy what do you need to say to Mommy you can come out of time out when you apologize what do you need to say to me Glory thank you what was that give me a song when Skyler admit she was sorry Hallelujah the chair worked I'm really really proud of you well done this morning I arrived nice and early to start the rise and shine technique where I found that Danielle and Frank are both pretty dead to say the least the rise and shine technique is to make sure that mornings run smooth and are organized the night before the children need to choose their clothes and the alarms need to be set in the morning the parents need to pre-wake up their children and that is to open up the Dora jar and to put a soft lamp on and then to gently stir the children to let them know it's time to get up once the children have woke up it's then for them to take the responsibility in making sure that they get themselves stressed washed and ready to leave well you dressed yourself today good job pal I didn't know what to do this morning because Frank actually dressed himself I had time to like just wake up for his first attempt he managed to get himself up dressed and had his bag ready to get on that school bus well done and it was Mom's turn to wake up Skyler and as far as Danielle was concerned it was like brace yourself I'm getting nervous I don't feel like fighting with her this morning so what are you gonna do then fight or not I'm not okay let's go so she took a great big deep breath and off she went into Skyler's room and Skyler did not budge come on baby it's time wake up okay got a couple minutes before your alarm goes off done the blinds the lamp on that's it in the beginning I was like Jiminy crickets here we go again I don't even want to begin so the alarm clock went off but Skyla didn't budge at all Skyler come on honey we have to go to school I want you to put on the clothes that you chose last night come on okay pulled back the duvet cover [Music] good morning [Music] it's not brushing her hair without the room five minutes then we come back in Skyler I'd like to see you get dressed for me sweetheart and then I want you to go brush your hair okay no and I know you can do it well that's your choice Skyler if you want to go to school in your pajamas that's your choice can I give Mommy a call when you've got yourself dressed come and give Mommy a call at the door when you've got yourself dressed so I can see okay oh okay that's good Danielle let's relax what I want to do is let her understand that you are sticking to your guns okay mum stood her ground but was not ready to compromise [Music] thank you she coming out to you who are you coming in she said she was going to get dressed and come out well okay fine lo and behold for the first time Skyler actually got dressed by herself you look great you did that all by yourself fantastic and great but um this is the first morning that Danielle has stuck to her gums and meant what she said and followed through I think just getting her up in the morning without a battle to go to school is success in itself hey Skyler I'm really proud of you Skyler never initiates any form of conversation not even to the point where she'll just say hello and goodbye this little baby here told me that she wants to say hello to this big baby and she doesn't know how to so one of the things I did do was to role play with Skyler is it hello or goodbye that's goodbye when you're doing this that's that's hello I asked Skyler to do it herself she showed me what her hello was and what a goodbye was what the best thing hello that's right say come in what does first say come in I think I've made progress in Skyler's understanding of how important it is to say hello and goodbye this next step in the socialization process is to identify personal space so Frank let's have you in the middle of that orange circle there it is important that Frank and Danielle do not put pressure on their children to be affectionate towards their friends and family on demand Skyler come say hello to Sharon please Frank did you say hi to say goodbye no I'm a big hug oh I made Frank see what his children see these circles represent the intimacy that you have with people when we come into the blue circle it means that we've already developed the common ground of saying hello and goodbye when we get to this circle Frank that means that I've improached on your space how comfortable does that feel a little tight here to sit in the center of the circle and to look up and see Joe I felt a little intimidated your children have their own space they have their own area and regardless to whether they're family or their friends they will have their own time in which they feel comfortable to allow that person into their pink circle now imagine but you're Skyler and she's this tall and then she meets an adult and that person comes straight into her space it's quite intimidating isn't it intimidating sure I think it was definitely an eye-opener I'm definitely going to be more aware of the kids personal space I'll look at it in a different way than I did before [Music] I introduced the feelings chart because Frank is often never heard by his parents so I really want to be able to give him a chance to express himself if you feel good about something that I want you to use the happy faces okay if you feel bad about stomach or you feel sad what I want you to do is use the sad faces I'm feeling happy today you've been happy today and then you can spend more time with her yeah you are give mum and dad can visually get an idea of what's going on in Frank's head and how he's feeling they can do something to change that that's your special chart these are your special faces and this is about how you're feeling because that's what's important I'm going to leave Danielle and Frank for a couple of days to get on with implementing the techniques Danielle take care yeah I'm gonna miss having Joe there tomorrow because I just feel like I need someone to look at and just say you know what do I do next support one another through all the techniques well there's no doubt they're going to be tested and I'm going to be watching them so let's just see how they get on good morning all right getting up Val good job ah the morning routine this could be a challenge come on baby you hear it she's not budging Frank that's a big Improvement I would like you to put these on and come out in the living room dressed and make me really proud okay Harry Harry excellent Frank's off to school love you pal see you buddy but what about Skyler come on let's go no do you want to get dressed or do you want to go to school in your pajamas wanna put your clothes in your book bag oh you're gonna go to school in your pajamas then I'll have to brush your teeth so that you don't have stinky breath at school no come on okay well then we're not we're going to school though come on I don't want to go to school a bit of a struggle Scott is going to school in her pajamas way to go Danielle Joe said you don't need to fight with her every morning just take her in her pajamas and eventually she'll learn yeah my mind was made up she was going to school pajamas or not over the next few days Danielle and Frank continued to use their tokens as rewards subscriber goes get the haircut she can get tokens tokens no problem Danielle let the children feel good about completing their tasks later on Frank sat down with his dad to do his homework shut your mouth and start doing your homework is that an A or a c or what letter is that fix it no I've never seen an a with with those that looks like a c is that that's all right start over everything no I know it's right and what's wrong and just do your homework that's why I always did we're going to a bad spot with this whole homework thing because you don't get ready Frank start your homework now [Music] you're right you're gonna sit in the naughty chair naughty chair why for what erase it Frank dude don't cry over writing a word this is ridiculous you know what sit down there for you you heard what I said you're in timeout look at me you're in timeout forgive me a tough time at homework and for not correcting your egg giving me a problem I'm making an a that's why you're now in timeout if you're in timeout for seven minutes pal and most off you're in timeout for is because you're just a little whiny brat you're gonna break my chair don't break my chair Frank you're being a little whiny brat Frank over simple homework dad you are letting your anger get the better of you stop crying now you sound ridiculous show your mouth babe I don't want to hear one you just can't though he stopped it worked you're in timeout For Whining and for not listening about what I needed you to do with your homework that's why you're in timeout now you can get up and don't whine so you continue to want Frank you need a homework assignment communication 101. [Music] Frank that was just so unfair you and I need to talk as soon as possible [Music] I'm gonna see you good to see you again I love the part where I go back to the house and show the family the DVD footage because it shows the parents exactly the mistakes they've made and how we're going to amend it I've been looking at some footage so why don't we go and sit down in the dining area and discuss what's on this okay okay let's take a look and uh see what we've got here [Music] it is now budgie do you want to get dressed or do you want to go to school in your pajamas your choice Skyler we're going to school though come on I don't want to go to school absolutely fantastic you did it fighting with it no fighting Scott is going to school and if she doesn't put her clothes on they're going into the bag you'll give her the sense of choice you have made a major leap okay moving on let's look at the next one get five tokens that's two Tokens The Golden tokens are given when a child establishes that they have achieved a task already you've upped the mark of saying right what can we get five tokens for what can we get ten your children four days ago were happy just to get one token yeah keep it simple right [Music] see no I know and what's wrong just do your homework hey that's what I always did shut your mouth and start doing your homework you're in timeout forgive me a tough time in homework and for not correcting your age the most off you're in timeout for is because you're just a little whiny brat you're gonna break my chair don't break my chair Frank you're being a little whiny brat Frank [Music] you spoke to him with no respect I was angry I don't accept him whining you use language that was abusive it's just in this situation I think that was I was frustrated you need to check your check your sword go on there was stupid it recognized the fact that he's whining because he's frustrated and he's in a place right now that he's finding difficult Danielle what's your intake on this you're always like that with them I want everything he whines every day and every day that is how you handle his whining you have a very bright funny sensitive child and you see how well Frank responds to positive praise why on Earth Frank would you not want to give that to your child on a daily basis oh I don't want to be negative I don't want to go this route I knew I was going to have A Moment Like This and maybe I needed to have a moment like this you're the parent Frank you can change it that is why that is why we are doing this the way I've done it I don't like it I have intentions to change it's going to be tough but you know I'm willing to do it after seeing the DVD I realize that I do need to take a more positive approach is this paste better it sure has it's bad but I feel a good gonna come about it I do so what we're going to do is reinforce some of the issues here so we can have you back on track all right okay okay the first thing that I wanted to do was to pull that aside and let him work on his relationship with young Frank Frank explain to Dad what that chat's all about it's me and my feelings I took Franken young Frank into his bedroom so that he could explain what the happy and sad faces were all about what this chart is going to do is going to open up communication between you and Frank because you can open up that door for you to say hey buddy look I see you got a sad face there look explain to daddy why you was feeling sad we had a bad Homework Day okay boom automatically you're in a conversation where the two of you are talking so that it's bringing you two closer together in I think the feeling chart is an excellent way to have Frank Express his emotions I think it's great it really tells me how you feel and I'll check your chart each night before you go to bed I want you to know the importance of me knowing about how you feel because it means it means a lot to me I want you to be comfortable with me and I I don't want to yell anymore I think my dad's gonna be nicer to me when you two talk to each other you talk in the proper way that each other can understand you don't whine this is what wine is I can't understand that I want that he can't understand that it gets angry with you and you shouldn't get angry with you daddy's definitely going to work on controlling myself to allow myself to hear you Daddy doesn't like the fact that he did get upset with you to the point where I was very angry I do apologize daddies can apologize too this was a big step apologizing to your son is in progress you work with me on it good because I will try to I feel like I've hit a reset button I feel like I kind of have a new beginning I have a new start a new approach to things [Music] whining and you think oh my God I'm getting irritated by that just ignore that and come straight in with the encouragement and lots of praise and that's all stuff that's going to build friends we do have that inside of me and the ability to do it I just leave everything at that front door and just pull the good stuff out young Frank has some homework to do and Dad sat with him and gave him encouragement this is a spelling test you ready weather there was no firm undertones of making frankfur intimidated by him you're writing with some confidence there huh I know I like it Frank's pleased with himself when he achieves his goals but Frank beams when he's dead gives him praise 100 yeah yeah I felt good after his homework he was proud of himself I think the approach works very proud of you thank you some of the family came round I was at the door can you please check for me for a little party and Danielle encouraged Frank and Skyler to open the door and say hello thank you and Skylar she's like come in come in so that was good that's all part of the socialization technique I love you well done Skyler all right say hello say hello [Music] parents were far more relaxed this time around it's at the tone in the house this is a special pacifier all right Frank it tastes like bubble gum that's good you did you tried you just went into big Jolly silly dad the kids started laughing cool yes expectations are more realistic the family must have noticed the difference because they used to have not even receive a hello or a goodbye there's definitely some changes in the kids Behavior with their socializing it's gonna take a while and it's something I have to keep working on I've definitely seen an improvement [Applause] [Music] Skye come on you want to say goodbye because JoJo's going now hi I think the greatest gift Joe has given me is just an understanding of each of my children she's just got knowledge that most parents don't have it's been a a tough Journey when I first arrived here Danielle was really low I mean she was depressed yeah Danielle thank you so much she felt totally out of control when it come to disciplining Schuyler and now she's gained that back what'd you say to me bye-bye darling which is progress Frank thank you take care Joe's made a major impact on her family I am absolutely grateful to have Joe come into my home and open her eyes I think things have changed around here because of Jojo things have changed around here and I'm hoping that Danielle and Frank continue with the progress that they've made [Music] all right very proud of you let's get dinner ready Skye I feel this whole process has helped my family for sure I see Smiles on my kids faces I see a smile on my wife's face I feel good seeing things turn around that I didn't think were possible you're doing a great job this morning Frank the the mornings have been a huge change Frank is ready by himself gets his own breakfast prepared I feel proud when I have that Skyler's been getting up joyfully life in his household has definitely improved immensely I'm so proud of you my parents seem happier because my sister's getting better and nicer see the glow in my wife's face has made this process worth it the change that I feel is apparently is that my eyes have been opened I learned that Frank needs positive attention I need to have patience good job Val very proud of you for that very proud I definitely feel a stronger relationship coming on with my son and I I'm out of my family for taking it all and it was a big change for myself my husband and the kids and everyone seems to be doing their part to make it work [Music] [Applause] [Music] [Applause] [Music]

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Length: 39min 48sec (2388 seconds)

Published: Sat Nov 19 2022