This is HOW to Become the BEST Version of Yourself! | Oprah Winfrey

I never was the kind of woman who liked to get in a car and just go for a ride I had a boyfriend would say let's just go for a ride I want to know where are we going you can't personally stop anybody from walking into school with an assault rifle and it'll take more than you alone to pull 40 million Americans out of poverty but who will you be if you don't care enough to try I used to fear hearing the term who do you think you are what's that belief nation it's heaven my one word is believe and I believe in you I believe you have Oprah Winfrey level talent at something and I want you to find it embrace it and use it to make a difference now I started to mentor me series to try to hang around people who've done a lot more than us and hopefully by spending a little more time with them some of their mindsets belief systems way of thinking about the world seeps into us to help us become the best version of ourselves so today we're gonna learn from one of the best Oprah Winfrey and some of her greatest life lessons mentor me Oprah [Music] ok let's get off with rule number one be in the driver's seat of your own life you must have some kind of vision for your life even if you don't know the plan you have to have a direction in which you choose to go I never was the kind of woman who liked to get in a car and just go for a ride I had a boyfriend would say let's just go for a ride I want to know where are we going do we have a destination is there a plan or we just ride what I've learned is that's a great metaphor for life you want to be in the driver's seat of your own life because if you're not life will drive you so knowing who you really are in this space and time that we embody that's number one what do you want who are you rule number two express your truth no matter what definition for me vulnerability is being willing to express the truth no matter what the truth of who you are the essence at your core what you're feeling in any given moment it's being able to open up your soul and let it flow so that other people can see their soul in yours I'd live with who do you think you are my whole life and not from myself as much as what was reflected to me because who do you think you are you you color girl come from Mississippi but who do you think you are you're sitting up on national television I used to fear hearing the term who do you think you are or you must be pretty full of yourself now I work at being full I want to be so full I am overflowing so when you see me coming it ought to make you proud to borrow a line from Maya Angelou's phenomenal woman when you see me coming it ought to make you proud and what you see is a woman so full I'm overflowing with enough to share with everybody else I'm going to own the fullness without ego without arrogance but with a an amazing sense of gratitude that I've been born at a time where I am female on the planet and I have the great pleasure and freedom to fill myself up rule number three solve problems you build a legacy not from one thing but from everything I remember when I just opened my school in 2007 I came back and I had the great joy of sitting in Maya Angelou stable she hadn't been able to attend the opening in South Africa and I said to her Oh Maya the Oprah Winfrey Leadership Academy that's gonna be my greatest legacy I remember she was standing at the counter making biscuits and she turned she put the dough down and she looked at me and she said you have no idea what your legacy will be this excuse me I just opened this school and these girls and it's gonna be and she said you have no idea what your legacy will be because your legacy is every life you touch every life you touch that changed me and it's true you can't personally stop anybody from walking into school with an assault rifle nor can you see Cal handedly ensure that the rights that your mothers and your grandmother's fought so hard for will be preserved for the daughters that you may someday have and it'll take more than you alone to pull 40 million Americans out of poverty but who will you be if you don't care enough to try and what mountains could we move I think what gridlock could we eradicate if we were to join forces and work together and service of something greater than ourselves you know my deepest satisfaction and my biggest rewards have come from exactly that pick a problem any problem and do something about it because to somebody who's hurting something is everything rule number four become the-best-version-of-yourself so I have paid attention to my life because I understand that my life just like your life is always speaking to you where you are in the language with the people with the circumstances and experiences that you can understand and interpret if you are willing to see that always life God is speaking to you now it took me a while to actually really get this and to understand it but once I did I started paying attention to everything and one of the reasons why I can now accept the fact that I can offer my gatherings of information and wisdom and call myself a spiritual teacher is that every single person who ever came on my show and I hear there was like 37,000 guests I've talked to a lot of them came from dysfunction and a lot of them wouldn't appear to be teachers but every one of them had something to say that was meaningful and valuable and that I could use to grow myself into the best of myself which is what all of our jobs are your number one job is to become more of yourself and to grow yourself into the best of yourself rule number five do the work and let go how do you find the balance between making things happen and letting things happen I love that question you do all that you can do you do the work you prepare you get ready for the opportunity to step in because that's what luck really is preparation meeting the moment of opportunity and then you let go you do the work you do whatever is necessary to be prepared for whatever it is you're trying to acquire or attain or accomplish and then you let it go you release it you release all attachment to the outcome because you know you have done everything that you possibly can do I mean you've done everything you can do that's the moment of surrender release and then if it's supposed to be yours it will come to you and rule number six the last one before a very special bonus clip is rise you can use your gifts that's what you're really here to do to illuminate the darkness in our world so this is what I also know that this this this moment in time this is your time to rise it is even though you can't go anywhere you can't stand in line at Starbucks you can't go to a party you can't go to any place without everywhere you turn people are talking about how bad things are how terrible it is and this is what I know the problem is everybody is meeting hysteria with more hysteria and then we just are all becoming hysterical and it's getting worse what I've learned all these years is that we're not supposed to match it or even get locked in to resisting or pushing against it we're supposed to see this moment in time for what it is we're supposed to see through it and then transcend it that is how you overcome hysteria and that is how you overcome the sniping at one another the trolling the mean-spirited partisanship on both sides of the aisle the divisive fitness the in justices and the out-and-out hatred you use it use this moment to encourage you to embolden you and to literally push you into the rising of your life and to borrow a phrase from my beloved mentor Maya Angelou just like moons and like Suns with the certainty of tides just like the hope springing high you will rise now I've got a really special bonus clip from Oprah on how to love yourself that I think you're really gonna enjoy but before that I want to know what was the single greatest lesson that you learned from Oprah today what are you going to immediately apply somehow to your life or your business leave it in the comments below when you write it down you're much more likely to actually take action on it so put it in the comments thank you guys so much for watching I believe in you I hope we continue to believe in yourself and whatever your one where it is much love I'll see you soon and enjoy the bonus clip big lessons I learned from you that I pass on to my girls all the time my girls from South Africa that you know who have come from a lot of them challenged disenfranchised backgrounds where you didn't get the love you needed and so for people who didn't get the love they need no matter where it is you grew up you spend the rest of your life trying to fill that thing do you not know you do yeah and that's why I try to teach people who can't get that from someone else to learn to give it to themselves to learn to say because your parents can only give you what they had if they don't have it if they're so broken that they don't have it to give if they're emotionally bankrupt because the generational legacy of pain being passed down instead of love and nurturance they were never filled up to give it to you right and so I try to teach people you know learn to give that to yourself the most important work ever if you had to think of one word that's most important to you or that sums you Apple that would be like a little beacon they believe nation if you want to know what the most important one word is for Tony Robbins Gary Vaynerchuk Oprah Winfrey will.i.am and Howard Schultz I have a very special secret video for you check the description for details [Music]

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Length: 12min 42sec (762 seconds)

Published: Sun May 27 2018