Of Course You've Messed Up

maybe you've crashed again and you're in the dark familiar place as ever one mess-up reminds you of all the Fiasco's you tell yourself you've generated in the past and more broadly of your fundamental idiocy and beyond that of the doubtful nature of your entire existence the next steps from here a well-known retreat despair flagellation feeling yet smaller ever greater doubt and deeper self-loathing you've mined this cavern expertly over the years maybe before this latest mini catastrophe you'd been feeling a bit stronger you'd come to expect a little more of life as if this is a return to reality you're back now where you assume you belong the sad subterranean place from which you should never have sought to escape but what about if this time just for once as a Maddox Parra meant in living and with little left to lose you tried a different route you chose a fresh approach to despair you chose to argue with it using a strange weapon moulded out of an attitude of radical melancholy and defiant vulnerability what if you told yourself a few sharply different things for a start how on earth were you to know how any of us meant to lead the unblemished lives we cruelly assume that it's our responsibility to lead when we possess so little of the information about ourselves and the conditions of life that are actually required why do we keep feeling surprised and angry that we fail around love and work friendship and family given that we have so few of the tools necessary to live with any semblance of wisdom the schools don't work the books don't know and our minds are desperately intermittent ambiguous and misfiring organs the point is not whether or not we're going to mess up but just how badly and in what area failure is the inner luck table norm but there are options to how we tell the story of each new reversal we might thread these into a narrative of continuous gloom or we might assemble them into a more compassionate and imaginative and sometimes warmly funny tale sometimes failure might just be a mishap rather than a sign that we don't deserve to live a rejection might not have to be a harbinger of unlimited doom it's open to us to arrange the very same facts into another kind of story nor should we torture ourselves thinking that other people wouldn't have made our mistakes they didn't come from the same place as we did we had our own distinctive histories that made us particularly predisposed to blindness and weakness in specific areas what is sure is that none of us is ever beyond regular encounters with total stupidity we should accept our idiocy with grace we need only think ahead to old age to lose any remaining brittle attachment to dignity in a little while sure enough will once again be as helpless as an infant but a good deal less sympathetic with prostate issues in an adult bib the best wisdom we're capable of involves never losing sight of our own ridiculousness in a kind way naturally the reality of our inner lives can feel unusually desperate to us but that's only because we don't know the lives of other people in sufficient detail if we did we'd find all the same longing compromise misery and awkwardness we aren't uniquely awful we just know ourselves unusually well what we need is the darkest kind of celebration a politely giant [ __ ] you to the universe for the way we've wound up as bits of semi incoherence semi-conscious suffering biological matter pinned to a spinning rock near a fading star without a clue of how to conduct ourselves meaningfully all who can recognize the miserable facts with dark humor are our natural friends to whom we should turn and share Bleakley funny jokes as we head to the gallows and the ultimate catastrophe that awaits us all we may be experts at beating ourselves up but this is a banal sport we've triumphed at for too long let's try to explore the Forgotten glamour of giving ourselves a break and once in a while of turning towards light reassurance and a bit of compassionate coziness follow the link on your screen now to explore our range of books gains and gifts all designed to help you better understand yourself you

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Length: 5min 12sec (312 seconds)

Published: Wed Sep 25 2019