Nothing is a coincidence. This is a sign: Yeliz Ruzgar at TEDxModaSalon 2014

I have y'all done you guys are good awesome my name is Ellis and I'm very happy to be here and today I'm going to talk about nothing is a coincidence this is a sign today is a very special day a very very very special day because no one in this room came here by coincidence think about it you made a decision in the past and you followed it and you're here because of a decision you made well I believe that there are no coincidences in life and your destiny is shaped at the time of your decisions in 2004 I made a decision and I said I want to follow my soul's calling so I left my hometown Izmir and I went to California well I can tell you that it wasn't that easy I left all my possessions my family my friends and the comfort zone of a stable corporate job you know what I mean so there I was in California in this dream state of mind but I wasn't in my dream state in person I was working part-time at a job that I didn't like at all and I was living with a friend I actually was sharing a small apartment with my friend I was literally living on the couch so I could pursue my dream my dream was to do a PhD at UCLA so I can go out and help people help them support them so they can have a healthy happy wealthy life but I wasn't even close to it the only class I was able to take was just psychology one because that was the money that I stayed for three months so as you can imagine I wasn't in a very good shape I wasn't happy with my life and I didn't know what to do so one morning I woke up with this huge pain a lot of pain in my right ovary so I ended up being at at the hospital and then I was lying and all these doctors were around me and they were telling me that I have to have an operation otherwise I will die because I was having a bleeding cyst and I'm like holy moly I know I'm not gonna use the effort so I was like shocked I didn't know what to do my mind was telling me how are you gonna pay for this you don't even have health insurance you're barely paying your share in the house you're not even realizing your dream should you go back to Turkey what am I gonna do well if I don't do the surgery with a holistic help we'll be able to help it would I be able to cure it by myself what's gonna happen to me I didn't know and I was in pain and my mind was constantly talking and chattering and talking and chattering so I said okay I'll take a drive I don't know if anyone likes driving when they reminded chattering you know like driving always relaxes me a lot it gives me this emotional moving forward when I'm stuck in life so I was driving in my car the only thing that I had in Los Angeles California so I'm on Robertson Boulevard has anyone been to LA okay maybe you know the street that I'm talking about cool very cool so I'm driving on over to the ward and I'm crying and I'm crying like crazy because I don't know what to do and I'm crying and as I'm crying I'm like God please show me a sign just a small sign that everything's gonna be okay that I'll be fine that I will be able to help people Hershey my dream just show me a small sign that everything's gonna be okay I'm crying and I'm driving and all of a sudden I saw this big red sign and it said nothing is a coincidence this is a sign what so my mom was telling me go go go go you just seen an illusion it wasn't it was real you know you haven't seen that one keep on going but my heart thanks to my heart had this pole so I stopped so I pulled a world car I got out of the car and I rushed to that place and I'm looking around oh my god what is this place it happens to be a spiritual center interesting not a religious one for the spiritual center so I'm knocking the door and I'm like come on like I'm hearing noises inside I have to get inside you know like this is my sign oh my god but no one answered the door when I said wow this is kinda interesting maybe it's not my lucky day so I started to walk towards my car and as I was walking a shiny object on the pavement got my eye and I'm like who what's that so I went down and picked it up it was a coin it was a penny and at that time I heard a man talking to me and he said wow that's your lucky day look at you you got your Lucky Penny and then he said I heard you liking on the door today is a special gathering at the center so it's close but come back on Tuesday oh this is cool I got my Lucky Penny I got my sign so everything's gonna be okay so I got back into my car and then I went home and I couldn't wait for Tuesday right because I saw this sign ask and you shall receive I asked for it and it's alright but I didn't know what to do with it so next Tuesday I was very excited and went back to the center and and it was the first class introductory class you want to hear something crazy crazier than this so I met this introductory class they handed us these books the books that they used for connection and you know he did it gives you a peace of mind it's positive psychology basically I picked up the book when I was 13 when I was in Izmir I was using ferries to go from a site to the other side of the city and I found a book on the bench that I was sitting there was this black book I picked it up and I on those times I was always like opening the books from back to the front I don't know if anyone does that but with the magazines and everything I was starting from the back and this time when I picked up this book I started from the back and the back was it's actually first page so the book was starting from the back this is magical what is this so I looked inside it was decoded in a language that I didn't understand there was a little bit of English in it but I put it to my bookshelf basically became a shelf out rather than a self-help for a long time guess what the book that they gave us at the center was exactly the same book how weird is that like oh this is interesting this is getting more interesting so I kept on studying with the center and I started to help people I started to go out and help homeless people I felt for them because I were there I've been there I knew exactly how they were feeling and the more I went out and helped them the more happy I got interesting so one day as I'm going one of these connections thank you see you mammatus movie Groundhog Day well for the ones that I haven't seen it Bill Murray the main character is actually a very self-centered TV weatherman it's all about him it's all about me me me me I want this I want that and he's not very good with his people like with his team with woman oh my god it's only him right so he goes to the city and in that city he gets stuck and every day at six o'clock six zero zero he wakes up with a song the same song and he wakes up to the same day and he lives the same things every day until until he transforms himself I believe that there are no coincidences I believe that each and every person come into our life for a reason and everything that happens to us they are there for us life is happening for us it's not a coincidence and until we finish our process until we transform from me consciousness into V consciousness life is a process of transformation and how do I do that most probably you're asking that right well most of you do know about young right you heard of him awesome he talks about shadows basically it's our own ego our dark sides so transformation starts with me consciousness finding the world who we are and what are our bad sides and then one by one transforming them into love into light in a way dark into the light and in a movie if you remember Bill's process finishes when he becomes friends with everyone when he starts helping other people his process ends so it's all about turning the me consciousness into V consciousness eventually it becomes one consciousness and when you start seeing others as a reflection of yourself actually when you start to see you in me and when I start to see me in you we become one one consciousness and at that time there's no time it's just now here being present in Hawaii the best present that you can give to someone is actually your presence being present with that person and when you were there love flows through your heart and reaches to others ah this is exactly what happened with me too I found out about me me me me me and rather than me going and doing my PhD and realizing my dream I decided to go out and help other people to realize their dreams and that's when the happiness came in just like in the movie bill finds his love of his life when he starts focusing on other people and helping other people by coincidence right in life wherever I went whenever I was in trouble whenever I needed some faith or inspiration I said to myself well be grateful with what you have right now whatever you have is exactly what you need and do whatever you can wherever you're at and with this attitude of gratitude things and people started to come to me rather than me running after them and yeah didn't I have my bad times after that spiritual happening I solved the sign thing of course I did then I asked for a sign and guess what the ones who followed me on social media probably do know about these coins these lucky pennies they come across me wherever I go Los Angeles New York and exactly the at the time that I needed to most whenever I'm down and I'm totally out of inspiration where I'm scared I see something shining on the ground she knows I'm stirred up and then New Jersey and then he's new Rome wherever I'm going I'm finding these pennies these coins sometimes I find crushers if I'm in Turkey in moda or wherever I'm at their money and my friends like they're always getting me these keychains with these lucky pennies in it I'm like a write another one thank you but I am grateful I am grateful to each and every penny I find I am grateful to that ovarian cyst that came to me I am grateful that I didn't have any money to pursue my dream but guess what I learned how to be happy with a penny and I learned how to transform lives with a penny I think that always worthless so today wherever you're at you're exactly where you need to be and nothing is a coincidence the more you give the more you receive well I would like to conclude my speech with a parable that I really really love so this holy man gets into a conversation with God and then he asks them okay come on I want to see what hell is and what happiness that says okay you got it so he shows him two doors he goes to the first door and God opens it he looks inside so there is this table and on top of that table there is this delicious soup smelly like he was like wow this this smells really good delicious soup in the middle of the table and there are people around the table he looks at inside hmm interesting place he notices that there are long spoons attached to their arms and then these people they're like really thin tiny and they look miserable and they're constantly fighting with each other as they are trying to get a piece from the soup because this long spoons are tied to their arms they cannot have it God turns to him and says this is hell and then he looks at him okay let's go to the second door they go to the second door he opens the door he looks inside and everything is exactly as it is he's a little surprised now he sees this table and the soup in the middle of the table and people around it the only difference is these people are very happy they're healthy they're laughing they're talking and they have these long spoons attached to their arms you know why because they're feeding each other and God turns to him and says this is heaven the more you give the more you receive thank you very much

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Keywords: Inspiration, tedx talks, Los Angeles, ted talk, Transformation, TEDx, TEDxModa, Coincidence, Empathy, ted x, Happiness, Recipe, Signs, Innovation, tedx talk, Spirituality, ted, Life Coaching, ted talks, Yeliz Ruzgar, tedx, Energy, Peace

Id: wN66ISl2SbI

Length: 17min 34sec (1054 seconds)

Published: Sat Jun 07 2014