My Wife's Narcissistic Friend Falsely Accused Me Of Perving On Her To Ruin Our Marriage And Tried...

first story my wife's narcissistic friend falsely accused me of perving on her to ruin our marriage and tried to fray me so I exposed her to my wife while doing it and that's how she lost everyone she ever knew my wife and I have this mutual friend and ex-friend for me let's call her Kate who we both knew independently and who introduced us over the years Kate and I drifted apart but we still talked frequently she's always been more of my wife's friend than me best friend from childhood Etc so it's never really bothered me a few years ago someone tangentially part of our friend group that I only semi- knew confided in Kate that I solicited her for naked pics this person I had only talked to maybe once or twice and it was only ever about her art although it's worth mentioning she has a good side hustle drawing hentti all I ever really said was that she was talented at it and I liked her art I guess one of the pieces I particularly liked was a self-portrait I won't get too into the details but it looked nothing like her and was an anime girl so I'm not sure how I would know know that Kate told my wife about this who spent a week being upset about it before telling me I showed her the chats we had and that was the end of it edit I'll add that what I said about the self-portrait was something along the lines of holy sht this one's perfect the lighting and the figure are really hot you should be doing this as a day job she apparently only mentioned it in passing to Kate as interesting her words apparently Kate took it upon herself to tell my wife about it when my wife confronted the friend she did didn't think I was trying to get naked pics or anything but thought I knew it was a self-portrait a few months later Kate decided to take it upon herself to then tell my wife that I asked to see pictures of her feet admittedly I have a foot fetish something my wife divulged to her which I'm not particularly cool with but I'm not super ashamed of it or anything so I don't care all that much the conversation Kate in my opinion misconstrued was her venting about how frustrating and objectifying it is that she feels like every guy wants to see her naked and all I did was sympathize with that and say something along the lines of yeah I mean I'll admit there's a split-second intrusive thought about that I'll get when I meet people but it's probably some caveman lizard brain sht when my wife brought it up I again showed her the messages and she agreed it was a misunderstanding although when she brought it back to Kate trying to mediate the situation rather than defending it as a misunderstanding Kate was adamant I was subtly fishing for naked pics and foot picks my wife didn't ask for this but I let her go through all the messages again on my phone and computer and she found nothing Kate decided to cut contact with me and I haven't heard from her since edit I commented on this below but here's the exact conversation I had with Kate Kate I'm just so sick of it Kate like the one guy from work I told you about Kate the mentor guy Kate he offers to take me to a place he knows to find something to wear to the presentation we're giving next week Kate so I go with him and we're looking and he keeps joking that we should look at laundry Kate like huh Kate what is it with men Kate like is it all must see their boobs me what the f me is that the dude who offered to pay for the extra e-learning sht Kate yes Kate I thought he was genuinely being nice but I guess not Kate yet another in a long line of men who just want to see me naked Kate is it all men I don't get it it's so effing exhausting me I mean I've had the passing huh she's attractive I wonder what she looks like underneath her clothes but they're more intrusive thoughts than anything I'd ever actively pursue because I'm not a monster Kate exactly I have the same thoughts sometimes but it's like Kate I don't go around asking to see every hot guys dck me maybe that's what he's hoping for Kate he has a wife too so it's like I'll see Kate from time to time the wife will have her over or they'll be talking on Discord I'll be polite and say hello but she'll turn her back on me or very blatantly ignore me which is fine if that's what she wants to do then so be it but there was one time that particularly pissed me off they were sitting out back and I had come through to bring in groceries and put some stuff away in our shed she had sandals on and when she saw me she asked my wife if she could borrow a pair of socks to which my wife obliged putting it bluntly I'm uncomfortable with her being friends with Kate my wife doesn't have many friends though as she suffers from some pretty bad mental health issues and doesn't get out much and I don't want to be some controlling arole telling her who she can and can't be friends with I just hate feeling like I have to be on guard when she's around and I particularly hate that my wife who agreed it was a misunderstanding on Kate's part and probably poor wording on mine didn't defend me I haven't told her to stop being friends with Kate but I have mentioned that maybe she shouldn't invite Kate around if I'm home or if we're going somewhere and Kate is there I'll stay home the wife says I'm just making the situation more awkward and making things uncomfortable for her being that she's her best friend and I'm her husband for context sometime before this I had a friend who expressed concerned that my wife might be telling me she didn't want me to go out and see my friends anymore this was one for me as the relationship was new I had a new job and I wasn't really fond of going out to bars anymore I never communicated this he was particularly disrespectful about it and I cut him off without question I don't expect her to cut her off but I would at least appreciate her telling Kate off when she does particularly disrespectful things am I wrong here comments eram do matter we also have to add that it's his wife's fault for telling Kate he has a foot fetish like why would you tell about your significant others Kinks esel likes and stuff that's such weird Behavior mwell 14 anyone commenting needs to look at the text chain that the op posted with Kate Kate is absolutely the problem here and she's the type of girl that all other girls hate Mockingbird 82 yeah I think she's mad because she was planting the seed in op's head because of how hot she is but he didn't quite bite when she thought he was trying it on with another woman that angered her update 6 days later so I ended up showing my wife the original post because we had another argument about Kate she read through it and some of the comments I think she had a bit of a coming to Jesus moment as she came and sat down and agreed that Kate has been acting weird about this whole situation we talked it out and I admitted I wasn't comfortable with Kate anymore and wouldn't stand in the way of them being friends but I don't want her coming around the house anymore so she agreed she would one not bring Kate here anymore and two have a talk with Kate about what her problem is over the long weekend we decided to forego our usual tradition of going to one of our parents for a big meal and just stay in and order takeout my wife and Kate made plans to hang out too which was fine as I had some personal hobby stuff I wanted to log some time on Kate apparently did not take being told she can't come over when I'm home very well because she sent a long message about how I'm controlling and abusive the wife snapped and called her they argued on the phone for a while I didn't listen or anything but my wife told me she set Kate straight and basically told her she needed to cut the sht and apologize to me or she'd cut out Kate after midnight on Sunday I got my apology from Kate it seemed pretty heartfelt and sincere but I just said thank you for the apology please understand that I'm fine with you and wife being friends but I would prefer to continue just being Pleasant with each other she didn't respond right away and I went to sleep I woke up in the middle of the night to pee and saw she had responded and uh this is where it got a bit odd she sent a photo of her legs with her feet in the frame in front of the mirror so I was sure to see all of her feet it seemed intentional to me honestly one foot had a heel and the other was Bare she accompanied this with a message what do you think yes or no I woke up my wife to show her because I didn't want this to be blown out of context by her the wife took a minute to comprehend what was happening and concluded she probably meant to send that to her since they get each other's opinions on outfits and shoes a bit weird to do at 1: a.m. IMO but made sense I replied uh sorry did you mean to send that to me in the morning she had unsent the photo and message and said nothing else later in the day she called my wife and said she accidentally sent me a picture of her new shoes and her feet were in them and I wanted my wife to confirm I didn't save it to use later I think this is where my wife started piecing together what some of the comments were saying about Kate being an sht stura put the phone on speaker and flat out asked if Kate did it on purpose Kate got angry and asked how my wife could think that the wife just said because you know he has a foot fetish send him a foot guys equivalent of a fullbody naked pick she started demanding she checked my phone because she was having a panic attack over the thought of me jerking off to her feet my wife rarely gets angry or Petty it's just not who she is but my wife basically replied to that with uh Kate you should have said something sooner I thought it was an apology photo for him so I already jerked him off while he looked at it there was a huge hours long argument that followed but Dr Kate is no more apparently their friend group has wanted to stop dealing with her bulled for some time and they all jumped on this to cut her out sanar Kate you effing drama queen comments little starlove uh Kate you should have said something sooner I thought it was an apology photo for him so I already jerked him off while he looked at it NGO I cackled quable moreo dude what do you mean by I'm not sure if updates are allowed we live for the follow-ups hold fast O2 props to your wife for that last burn it is always good to see a toxic person get there come upin good riddens to Kate Second Story entitled Sil tried to bully and went her way to make op feel unwelcome but op set the record straight and kept sill in her place I always make an effort to get along with my husband's 30 one family and they meet me halfway except for the sill she's been with my husband's brother for about 10 years and I married my husband 6 months ago so I'm newer in the family when my husband introduced me to everyone during a get together I saw s chatting with one of his cousins from a distance and they were laughing looking and pointing at me it felt like I was back in high school it was a bit nerve-wracking but I think I was able to keep my cool so no one noticed I never did anything to her it seems it was hatred at first sight she says things like you probably don't know what I'm talking about because you weren't part of the family at the time or forgetting to include me on special occasions like only inviting my husbands to their daughters's baptisms or sending a Christmas card with only my husband's name on it or messaging me which she never does on my birthday to ask a silly question completely ignoring the fact that it was my birthday she does it in a way that no one else notices so it's hard to react without me looking crazy for example during get togethers if there's a circle people chatting she comes into the circle and turns her back to me basically blocking me from the conversation or around the table she never looks at me when she's speaking but funnily enough I caught her staring at me several times from afar I told my husband about it and he asked me if I wanted him to talk to his brother I said no because if he does chances are Bill will probably tell her about it and then she'll know she got under my skin so he said I should just ignore it I know he's right and I shouldn't let it bother me so much but it does it feels so childish and ridiculous I hate to be part of this anyway now that the holidays are coming I'm stressed about going over to his parents because she'll obviously be there his family is great and I love them but I don't want to spend Christmas and New Year's Eve dealing with her mean girl Vibe is there anything within myself I can do to stop feeling like this or should I try to solve the situation by chatting with her or letting my husband talk to my brother about it comments Harland bum she sounds very insecure and unhappy because normally going to such lengths to belittle or marginalize someone takes effort just be your sunny self and kill his entire family with kindness by not feeding into it you show her it isn't working and you just don't care also people like to be around fun happy people and she doesn't sound like she fits that description annual version 16250 kill her with kindness first ask your husband to keep his eyes open for her behavior just so he truly sees it she makes a comment about you not being part of the family at an earlier time and responds it's so nice we're still newly wits she turns her back to you squeezes in beside her and with a huge smile on your face says oops guess you didn't see me there join in the conversation at the dinner table ask her appointed question so she has to look at you something like remember that question you texted me on my birthday I looked into it more and XYZ because she's so subtle being passively aggressive might be the only way to go Acrobat mechanic 265 first does your husband also notice how she treats you maybe ask him to observe her so he can fully see how awful she was treating you I'll be extra nice to everyone excluding her op he said he never noticed in person but when I didn't answer her message on my birthday she messaged him and he told her it was my birthday her answer was like yeah yeah happy birthday to her anyways he was pretty livid about it so now he's on to her update 4 days later I want to thank everyone who commented on my previous post it helped me so much to see things from a different perspective and I really enjoyed reading some comments that shared their own similar stories I guess I could break down the advice into three groups one kill her with kindness be extra nice to her two play her game be passive and aggressive three ignore her I Googled gray rocking and it's such an interesting concept so here comes the update I decided to go spend at my in-laws despite my sill let's call her Lindsay because you affectionate by 3827 decided that's her name L I went there determined to enjoy it with the other members of the family and my husband said he'd back me up if anything happened as soon as I arrived Lindsay greeted me with a backhanded compliment oh I love your dress I even bought the same one but didn't think I should wear it for Christmas in the second split I had to react I remember all the comments about how she must be sad and insecure and whatever issues she has with me is about her so I genuinely felt a strong sense of pity for her I guess my face showed that because as I was standing there looking at her she looked puzzled while waiting for my answer I figured both of us knew there was nothing left to say so I went away to greet the other people and just left her there I figured that what bothered me was my own expectation of what our relationship should be like I wished me and Lindsay were friends and that we could support each other as the ones who married into the family but unfortunately that wasn't the reality and I had to accept it from that moment on I genuinely stopped caring about her and what she was doing I didn't feel like killing her with kindness or being passively aggressive toward her because that would require me to put energy into it so I really can't tell if she tried to ostracize me or if she tried to offend me because I was too busy enjoying my time with my husband and his family thank you again internet strangers and I hope you are enjoying your holidays Carefree comments Princess Bella W that was a very adult way to deal with her I am glad that it worked out so well for you and maybe your s will rethink how she treats you in the future character schedule 34 lovely update someone like that doesn't deserve your emotional energy I'm glad you were able to accept that the relationships we want aren't always the ones we get third story op's narcissistic parents tried to kidnap her and steal her money so her brother pulled a gun at them I am 16 years and two months old my parents believe I am a disaster and an unruly child but they are delusional parents my mother has bipolar disorder and does not take her medications regularly and I'm sure my father has undiagnosed mental health problems as well they have been wanting to send me to a camp for troubled teenagers for a while and two people came to take me without my knowledge I thought they were kidnapping me I screamed and my brother who was at home but wasn't supposed to be took my father's gun and threatened to kill them and that was when they told us who they were and why they were here we called the police but they did nothing after they talk to our parents I do not trust my parents anymore and I want to get emancipated where do I start and what documents do I need to prepare do I have a case I am working part-time right now I don't think my parents will object they will be happy to get rid of me edit it seems like emancipation is unlikely it sucks but it's the reality and I should accept that please let me know if you have any other advice for me to maybe change my guardian somehow reduce the influence that my parents have over me or anything else that helps I'll appreciate it add it again can you please stop referring to me as he I'm female relevant comments I make about $500 per week making YouTube videos it takes 2 three hours of my time every day surely that's enough but I can do more my friend's parents will let me rent a room at their place for $250 a month I cycle everywhere so I have no Transportation costs I can make videos wherever I live I've had a stable income for the past one and a half years and it's been increasing every month that is more than I can say for my parents I teach makeup and Style on YouTube just not the type that they like this is what started everything I tried playing along in the past but they don't fall for it anymore according to them I'm misbehaving because I'm not as girly as they want me to be they keep saying I'm not behaving like a proper girl I see it as kidnapping when someone grabs me puts a blindfold on me restrains me and forcibly takes me somewhere I don't know what do you call it if it's not kidnapping so only rich kids can get emancipation I called the department of child and family and they said it's within my parents right to send me to a troubled teen camp for whatever reason they see fit and they can do nothing to stop it the kidnappers were there on orders of my parents so it wasn't breaking and entering they had a key they took away my room's door for example to not give me any privacy they locked my window and blocked it completely so I have no sunlight and no view of the outside they take my stuff all the time my clothes my bed books and electronics things that I pay for myself they take away my contact lenses and good glasses and only let me wear a heavy ugly one even though I bought the other one myself and all for no reason they keep insulting me and telling me I'm a troubled kid without any reason I have $155,000 in the bank I can afford a lawyer if my parents let me see one because I'm permanently grounded right now the school counselor says my parents have the right to do the things they do and I should trust that they know what's best for me better than I do update I sadly don't have any good news just two weeks after posting that my parents ended up sending me to a camp the camp that they sent me to was using the same property and Facilities as an older Camp which was closed down due to the abuse of teenagers the place wasn't like anything I imagined it would be I tried to cooperate and pretend everything was normal but they see compliance as a form of resistance they also see non-compliance as a form of resistance whatever you do they see it as resistance their formula is that we are defective people and the only way to fix us is to first break us down completely and then rebuild according to their standards until they see you have mental breakdowns they don't agree that you're ready to relearn everything and change so they continue the pressure even when I was doing everything they wanted they weren't convinced it took maybe 3 months for them to be convinced that I'm broken down and they did break my spirit to be honest I got to the point that I didn't care about anything anymore I just wanted it to end they knew about my YouTube channel and they wanted me to log in delete all my videos and delete the channel they had a girl who pretended to work in the kitchens to befriend me only to see if I truly hated my old self or not she'd tell me that she watched my videos and she was insulting me left and right and was saying horrible things about me and my brother also a YouTuber and I was supposed to agree with her if I took things personally they knew I was acting and wasn't ready they got me when I was at my lowest and they got me to log them into the account the next day they brought me in front of a computer showed me that my old password wasn't working anymore and told me that they deleted my account I was thinking all the time and effort I had put in there was gone from there I didn't care anymore and they were convinced they'd achieved their goal so things became easier they'd teach me to be a nice girly Christian girl who wants to raise babies and would never touch a boy until she is married to someone her parents pick it was like they were sending me into a children's book then my dad came and brought me back home when I got back my brother actually told me that my YouTube account wasn't deleted since I was using his email for Recovery he got a notification when I logged in from the camp because it was a new place so he figured this wasn't good news and jumped in and changed the password so my account is intact the aroles at the camp were lying I don't know if I'm the same person or not or how much I've changed but I really hate my parents I hate them so much that a year ago I couldn't even imagine such a level of hatred was possible there are 448 days until I'm 18 and I'm counting every single day until this is over and then I'm leaving with my brother and we're never looking back my big brother is the only positive thing in my life and the only person I trust when I was gone he went to the police CPS and even talked to a lawyer and a pi to find a way to get me back but nothing worked my parents came after my $155,000 which I had in a joint account with my brother in order to pay for this program that they sent me to but my brother actually ended up moving the money to an account only under his own name so parents couldn't access it he continued to post the videos that I had prepared in the pipeline when I was gone so I continued to make more money and didn't lose subscribers that's it for me from what I understand my parents couldn't afford to keep me there anymore that's why they pulled me out otherwise the place wanted more time with me relevant comments from the bowl across post I was feeling very hopeless but my brother my fans and you guys made a lot of difference most people are great I'm just unfortunate to have been born to parents who are horrible in the program I had a lot of doubts about myself but that's what they want you to feel they made me write down many times a day that I was a horrible person that I deserve to be punished and things like that it eventually gets to you I'm now trying to find my old self again all my parents care about is their status in the neighborhood and among friends I feel like when both their kids leave them it won't look good at all thank you for watching the video if you are interested in listening to these kinds of stories we've got more in store for you simply subscribe to our Channel hit the like button and share it with your friends

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Published: Tue Apr 09 2024