My wife won’t talk to me anymore. Dusty Reads & Gives Feedback!

hey there it's dusty Thunder again with another Reddit story for you this one is actually from the marriage subreddit and it is titled my wife won't talk to me anymore my wife 31 female and i-46 male have been together for six years married for two she used to talk to me all the time she used to share her day with me just randomly tell me her thoughts stuff like that however she also used to want to talk about problems we were having a lot it felt like we were always talking about what I did wrong she thought I spent too much time talking to exes we were friends I don't prioritize her over work it's my career am I supposed to quit and mostly that I didn't care enough about her it was so many different ways that she came to that conclusion but it was like we were always just sitting down for his serious talk so I told her about a year ago that I didn't want to talk anymore it's a good idea so I told her about a year ago that I didn't want to talk anymore I was just tired of hearing everything I was doing wrong I provide everything we need can I just have a break I told her that if she had a problem with the way I did things then she could get out of my house and we'd get a divorce okay I'm gonna go ahead and do this right now she told me that she was trying to communicate because she didn't feel appreciated and that I had one foot out the door but I think that's ridiculous I know it's harsh but I was at my Wit's End so now a year later she barely talks to me at all when I asked her about her day she says fine when I talk to her about work or politics or my day she says oh wow cool and walks away her attitude isn't bad she's very sweet but it's just like she doesn't care anymore I didn't want to talk about her problems anymore but I didn't mean stop talking period we really don't talk about anything that doesn't have to do with our life or household in the evening she just turns on the TV and we watch something until bed now I don't know what to do because I just found out today that she won a pretty big award at her job and she didn't tell me last Friday she said she had to work late and it was cool I didn't ask today I found out that she was really at a dinner where she was celebrated for this award she invited some of her friends and her mom and her brothers I ran into her brother at the store today and he mentioned the dinner and said that he was sorry I couldn't make it I asked what he meant and he said at the dinner how I wasn't able to go because I was sick I asked him to explain the whole thing to me so now he knows too what am I supposed to do is she punishing me or something do I tell her that I know why wouldn't she tell me I didn't think she'd take it this far and now I'm thinking she's being petty does anyone have experience here I love my wife and I do anything for her but I'm so confused and it's wow a lot of comments a couple people are asking about the exes I have close contact with three of my exes oh wait he says have wife brought up an issue with this I would expect to see a head but it's have close contact with three of my exes my previous wife calls me when she needs to talk her and her husband don't get along I have two ex-girlfriends who I'm still friends with and I was friends with them when I met my wife now my wife doesn't like them because she says they cross boundaries but honest to God they are just friendly and we ended in good terms it's nothing serious and I just don't want to give my friends up edit two you're right tried to talk to her last night it didn't go well I'll update later when I can get my thoughts together okay uh so we don't have that update yet we'll be watching for that update but uh what do you expect bro you're like I don't want to talk anymore why won't my wife talk to me here's the thing I think the the default like knee-jerk Pride based response can be like it's just problems I just I just I can't just hear about problems I can just keep hearing about problems the problem problem I provide everything we do shouldn't that be good enough no no I mean that's not a relationship being a provider alone isn't a relationship and here's here's the direction that you have to start thinking about whenever it comes to problems and your spouse or partner presenting problems to you I think in the beginning of a marriage it can be tough whenever you start learning these things that your spouse has a problem with but eventually if you start to look at it as I can't fix it until I know what's wrong I can't provide a solution until I know what the root of the problem is I can't be aware of all things until they're brought to my attention and if it's something that's a big enough deal for your partner to be bothered by enough to bring up to you it's worth you noting it's worth you being aware of it's worth making the adjustment in some cases or it just requires a further explanation it requires a conversation to get through the needed change whether that's on your end or hers something has to change if there's a problem I'm not saying everything's your fault then you have to change who you are and you have to change all your behaviors no but if you want to have a successful marriage you need to be aware of problems so that you can together find a solution to them I've got blinders on almost all the time I'm task driven my calendar is full all the time I am running 100 miles an hour most of the time and chances are if there's something that I do unknowingly that that causes a problem I'm not going to know it unless it's brought to my attention and this brozo is just like no I just want to do my thing I just want to I want to do me I want to choose me all the time I don't want you to bring your to me I don't want to hear about your feelings I don't want to hear about how our relationship can be better I just wanna I want to work I want to do my thing and I don't wanna I don't wanna I wanna have serious conversations I don't want to know about problems it's not a marriage it's not how it works man so he basically just wanted to work and do his thing and then just have her there for convenience but not have her have like feelings and opinions or anything like that just just be there and maybe she's taking it to an extreme here because she's trying to prove a point or maybe she felt discarded and uncared for because all of those concerns that she brought up he's like I don't I don't care so wow the fact that she actually now feels and has adjusted to those things just being that way that she feels like you don't you don't care and you have one foot out the door and you don't want to hear about anything you just don't give a those problems never get solved and this is the aftermath of it also also how freaking hypocritical is this it's fantastic how hypocritical this is because he's like well seems like she just doesn't care it seems like she's got one foot out the door she just won't talk to me just we're does any of this sound familiar dude how funny is this that you now have the problems that your wife had before and tried to talk to you about but you're like nah how big of a self-fulfilled in Prophecy can you be sir continuing present course ignoring the damage that's being caused and then sometime later where did all this damage come from I don't understand [Music] between ask I want and ask on two here I'm gonna give him two because I don't think he's evil I think he's an idiot and I think this is redeemable because he has to start solving problems but he's put himself in a position now to wear the damage so much damage has been caused it might be irreversible but she's still there that's the part I don't get she's still there not sure why because she's excluded him from everything so either it's it's because you know change is scary and she's just grown into found comfort in this Darkness I don't I don't understand that part but but because she's still there and because he's an idiot and I don't think evil it may be fixable however he's got a ton of work to do because he's let it go on for so long and just not giving a step one start giving a step two start having those conversations and let her tell you all the things that are actually bothering her so that you can start figuring out Solutions doesn't mean you're wrong on everything although your mindset to this point kind of leads us in that direction but I'm saying as a blanket statement it doesn't mean that you're wrong about everything it means there's a problem that needs to be solved somehow you can't just ignore them they will not get better on their own

Channel: Dusty Thunder

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Length: 7min 43sec (463 seconds)

Published: Sat Oct 14 2023