My Fiancé's sister confessed to me that she's in love with him

[Music] the title sounds crazy i know but hear me out f the love of my life s entitled biaker fiance's sister me and my f have been togg the for four years and we've been engaged for around four months everything is perfect in our relationship except for s who recently came to live with us being madly in love with f when we were just dating me and f would go visit his parents often while s didn't live there at the time when her trips overlapped with ours i would rarely see her when i did she her she was cold or just ignored me i was sad because i really wanted to have some sort of relationship with s but she completely shut me out anyways after a year i gave up moved on and everything was swell about a year ago s moved back and with their parents however she would always complain about how difficult is was to live there so if asked me if i would be okay with s coming to live with us when things got too tough to handle at home while i didn't like the arrangement i agreed because i still wanted to be at least a little bit closer with s she also had to give us a heads up when she wanted to come and she could only stay for two weeks at most each month so at the end of each month she would come stay with us for two weeks then go back to their parents house at first whenever we did couple things s would yell at us but then it switched to trying to but in and joined us then she moved to trying to catch us and take away f when we were doing anything romantic at that point i hated her and realized she liked f well anyway f proposed to me and i completely forgot about all of the trouble s was causing of course we went to go tell his parents the news and when she heard about it all the color drained from her face i remembered that s liked him and when she went out of the house to get some air i followed her i was ready to confront her when she got up in my face and started yelling at me basically she screamed at me that he loved her more than me and our engagement was only temporary because she would steal him from me i lost my cool which was terrible on my part i cursed at her then told her that if she tried to pull anything she would be out of me and f's lives anyways fast forward to now the three of us are living together and i haven't even kissed eff in two weeks because of her pestering she's been trying her hardest to break us up or make us fight i want to tell earth but i don't want to ruin their relationship at the same time i'm also not sure f would believe me anyways which would just hurt our relationship so will i be the a4 telling f that s likes him to clarify she's adopted though she was adopted when she was a baby and they grew up as brother and sister though maybe her feelings changed when she found out they weren't actually related i don't know slash she told me herself that she was in love with him and she belonged with him not me update one this only update one because my fiancee's sister isn't here right now so we have to wait till she comes back okay on to the actual update i asked my fiance if we could talk about his sister and our current living arrangements i told him about the fight we had the day we got engaged and all of her other rude behavior to me he understandable got defensive and tried to tell me that's just how she was and maybe i misunderstood her i explained to him that what she wasn't normal at all and she wasn't just too clingy he agreed that her behavior was normal but got defensive again i told him to call some of his friends because they noticed too he called his friends the ones that answered told him the exact same thing that i said he was stunned shocked which i understood he told me he needed some time alone and i gave it to him during that time another friend who didn't answer his call texted him and when he asked if he thought his sister liked him this amazing man he was harsh but he straightforwardly told my fiance that his sister is in love with him and he needs to step away quickly she needs help and he needs to learn that while he saw her as a sister his sister didn't see him as her brother did he was amazing because this dude is amazing his friend called me he told me that if he didn't realize how amazing i was and how toxic his sister is then i should dump his er because i deserve better luckily that didn't happen he told me that he believed me and would put our relationship first but he still wanted to have a relationship with his sister she was still his precious little sister but he knew how toxic she was he told me he wanted rather be with me i kid you not but i started crying anyways fiance and i are chilling now hanging out and eat ice cream he says hi he read all of your comments by the way and was like why did you even post this he did get angry at me for not telling him sooner and i called and thanked his friend the end until entitled b comes back update two before still came back we called my fiance's parents his mom picked up and she was upset to say the least she didn't believe us at all she told us that she was just a little too attached but she was certainly not in love with him so we directly called his dad to inform him he wasn't angry actually he was pretty calm however i don't think he believed us though he did agree that her behavior was weird and if we didn't want her there he would understand that was a step forward with their parents i assume that they didn't tell her he called or anything because when cill came back she acted like she usually does walked in took a shower then gave fiance a hug he told her they needed to talk then hell broke loose she screamed and cried at one point she threw stuff she was so loud to the point where neighbors came to check on us they almost called the police after that she stormed out we called her parents to tell them she might be coming over then we cleaned up her mess fiance somehow convinced me to not charge her for the glass animal figurines she broke r.i.p mr glass cat found out about an hour ago that she didn't go to their parents house i want to block her but her stuff is still here and i don't want to get into any legal trouble we both texted her a couple of times telling her to get her stuff she hasn't replied actually kind of worried that something happened to her update three cell showed up at our door we had already packed up all of her stuff but she couldn't take all of it fiance offered to send the rest over to mill and phil's house he said she wanted us to keep it here because she and i quote has to live here yeah no she ended up leaving without that much of a commotion because she didn't want the neighbors to call the police we called the in-laws again and they never answered still waiting for them to call back i wanted to ask for your opinion if this relationship is still worth saving in a nutshell i was assigned overseas for a field work assignment for three months my fiance was supposed to go with me but onyu home's kitchen was still being built and he needed to stay behind to oversee it i went back home for one weekend for my brother's birthdays fiance and i of course had reunion s i went overseas alone again two weeks later he broke up with me over text i wouldn't accept it because we were five years together at that point and supposed to get married when i get back one week later i found out i was pregnant with our first child to my surprise he wasn't excited at all and even asked me is that mine when i got back to my home country he confessed he and his new girlfriend are now living together and expecting their first child but the girl already has a three-year-old with another man at this point i was three months pregnant and the other girl was two months pregnant some cringy info i told him i was pregnant on october 25th and he and the other girl became official on october 27th he and this other girl lived in our new home all the while that i was away i would have to plead for him to come with me to my checkups he only came twice on the few times that we would meet he will call and text the other girl without inhibitions doesn't matter if i'm there beside him he said this baby was a mistake some more info about our relationship he moved to my home country four years ago to be with me he left his family and friends behind he had no money when he moved to my country so i supported him for the first two years he was here my parents loved to travel a lot and they also paid for his trips just so he can come with us my family loves him and treated him like family he had a good job after two years and was promoted after one year at this point his salary overshadowed mine and he started complaining to me about how little i contributed to our household he works as a software engineer and i work as a historian to me he was perfect he was the most understanding caring and loving person for those five years he was consistent the thing is i don't know anything about him prior to those five years his best friend's wife told me that she wasn't surprised he did this because he has always been easily swayed by tempting and feel good stuff if that is so then it's a side that i've never seen in those five years as any couple we have our ups and downs but we were committed to each other there was never a third party involved to my knowledge during those five years that we were together i never liked partying i'm a home buddy my fiance used to be a heavy party person before he met me this new girl works as a hostess in a club he started partying here every day since meeting this girl i'm guessing it's one area where he didn't feel fulfilled in our relationship and he confirmed it to me after eight months i'm now only two weeks away to meeting my firstborn and i can say i'm coping up well after four initial months of sleepless nights my priority is to be the best person that i can be for my firstborn and i know i'm doing him her a big disservice if i allow myself to be affected by other selfishness my ex fiance now my ex fiance wants to get back with me he said he regrets everything prior to this he asked for another chance but he changed his mind twice now he is more persistent because he says the baby and i deserve better my thoughts i don't want to get back with him after everything that i've been through throughout my pregnancy but he is very persistent for us to get back together i'm afraid of the fact that if he cheats and abandons me again the next time around there's a growing child or children who knows in the picture who will experience the pain of being abandoned too but there's also a small part in me that wants to give therapy a chance right now though my top priority is to raise a child well as i'm only two weeks away to my expected delivery my questions do you think this relationship salvageable for the leavers what did it take for you to leave your partner behind at this vulnerable stage thank you so much for all your insights update as of january 2020 fiance is now my husband but we only got married before i gave birth because in my country an illegitimate child does not have full rights to earn inherited property sad but true we are only married legally but that's just about it at least he agreed to this for our child our child is now six months old and i'm raising her with my family since our child was born he only saw her once when she was two weeks old i did not allow any more visits why he's still toxic to be with when he went to see our child he even asked me to pay for his overpass hotel stay since he wanted to come with me on our baby's checkup the following day being the enabler that i am i gave in and paid for it now i know better there was zero remorse no thank you for single-handedly handling everything to the best i can and i only received a list of grudges and another list of things he did right for me i was just so shocked witnessing how the person i loved turn into someone i barely know he is still in a relationship with the other party but occasionally emails me that he regrets what he's done and wants to go back i really don't get the point of this according to his sister his new girlfriend and her family are totally financially dependent on him and this is taking a toll on him so his parents bought him a plane ticket back to his home country and he's living with them now because he can barely survive in our country having to support his new girlfriend's family their child together the girlfriend's child girlfriend siblings and grandmother he just sends monthly support to his child with her i'm so happy i'm out of this relationship at first i thought i couldn't handle the abandonment but with time i'm even more thankful that my child and i were saved from being hooked further into this kind of man who is not even worthy of being called a father thank you so much for all the support and your messages these help me gain perspective and be more firm at a time when i was so vulnerable given the circumstances around my pregnancy i knew in my heart no amount of pain betrayal or disrespect could stop me from being a mother it's awesome to be a parent when you're so ready to have a child god this is a doozy i swear my life feels like a movie right now sorry for the weird formatting i'm on mobile and this is my first time posting on a sub like this i 28 male and planning on proposing to my girlfriend of three years 26 now i suck at picking out jewelry in the type of guy that doesn't see a problem with heart-shaped jewelry seriously why is it considered so ugly so every time i want to buy something for my girl i usually consult one of our mutual friends my girls best friends are all friends with me as well and we all get along well so asking them for help picking out jewelry is something i'm used to when it came time to pick out a ring i consulted my girlfriend's best friend justine fake name justine and i are quite close and she knows my girlfriend better than anyone including me so when my girlfriend went out to visit her sister and baby nephew i invited justine over to the house to help pick out a ring justine and i looked through a few catalogues but decided it was a dead end and it would be better to go to professionals at a jewelry store however i didn't know when my girlfriend would be coming home so justine and i thought of a clever text to gauge how much time we had i asked her when she'd be coming home as i was ordering to keep it and wanted to know when to tell them to have the food ready by she responded by saying it would be a few hours she met up with justine to go shopping now obviously this took me by surprise since justine was standing inside my house i showed justine the text and she looked as confused as i was it isn't out of the ordinary for my girlfriend to meet up with people out of the blue like that for shopping lunch etc she's a very spontaneous person and loves making plans on the fly so ordinarily i would have believed this text in a heartbeat however obviously this had to be a lie when she came home she acted completely normal and i played along but it's been really hard to act like everything's fine we got to key it ate together and cuddled on the couch after so far she's caught on a little that something's upsetting me but i just can't tell her what looking at her kills me i don't know what to do my girlfriend and i have zero trust issues and we tell each other everything so this lie is killing me i want to ask her about it so bad but if i tell her i knew she was lying i have to explain why and i really don't want to do that what do i do i know she lied to me but i don't know how to confront her about it should i just forget it this won't stop gnawing at me please help i decided to confront my girlfriend i thought about using some of the lies people suggested but they just wouldn't make sense to say i ran into justine somewhere well i told my girl i had to stay home and do stuff around the house and that's why i couldn't go with her to see myself to say justine was helping me pick out jewelry it doesn't make sense for her to come all the way to our house to help me pick out a piece of jewelry unless it was a serious piece of jewelry like an engagement ring if i just wanted to get her a piece of jewelry as a gift i'd ask her friends for suggestions or ask them to send me pictures of jewelry she might like it all happens over text none of the excuses made sense so i decided to be honest i basically just said that i knew we'd been thinking about marriage and she probably knew a proposal was coming soon so i invited justine over to help me find her the perfect ring and that so happened to be the day that she said she was going to see her so what's the deal she immediately started grinning like an idiot and prettying me about proposing in the ring but then we got back onto the topic of where she was and she confessed what she was really doing no she wasn't cheating and no she wasn't picking out a ring for me the amount of times that was commented was crazy so some people are dog people and some people are cat people well me i'm a snake person i grew up with snakes my whole life but i never felt i was able to get one because my girlfriend has always been uneasy about living with a snake which i completely respected also the process of buying and raising a snake is very different than that of buying and raising a dog or cat it's quite complicated so you could imagine my surprise when my girlfriend showed me a picture of her holding the cutest kenyan sandboard i have ever seen needless to say my girlfriend was going to surprise me with a snake we are picking her up next week let me know if you want a pet tax she's so cute i definitely did not expect this and i feel bad for ruining the surprise but oh well life is good sorry if this isn't the ending you guys wanted or expected justice make haha thanks for [Music] reading [Music] you

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Id: Xk1gZ0-7pzU

Length: 19min 33sec (1173 seconds)

Published: Sat Jul 04 2020