My ex is mad at me for sleeping with someone else after we broke up.

[Music] my 24 male x is angry at me 21 female because i slept with someone else after he said he was done with me my ex and i have been seeing each other for about four months now he told me multiple times that he wasn't ready to have a relationship with me yet but would want something in the distant far future i agreed it would be best for both of us to just work on ourselves in the meantime while we get our stuff settled out so that we could hopefully have a good future one day the relationship has been pretty confusing this entire time i thought he was seeing another girl that he shortly dated the relationship ended after a month but they stayed friends i guess because she's part of his friend group i don't know after me because he told me he was still in contact with her i decided to accept it and just work on myself and keep our relationship minimal contact for the time being in those four months we've hung out and have had says he told me that he wasn't sleeping with anyone else especially because the pandemic is happening right now so i believed him but not fully because we aren't exclusive or committed to each other and he told me he couldn't date right now i decided not to sleep with anyone else either while seeing him well at the beginning of this month month 4 he told me after an argument that he was done talking to me and that he didn't want to hear from me again he also said if we were to talk again it would be from months from now granted i understood he was angry but i respected his decision and decided to just leave him alone i ended up texting him later on just letting him know i was sorry for us blowing up into an argument and then i understood his decision he told me that he just needed time to work on himself couldn't be in a relationship right now and that he hoped he could talk to me someday in the future fast forward a couple of weeks an old pair off buddy who i ignored for four months because i was seeing my ex my own decision i don't like sleeping with multiple people at once hit me up i was drunk and i decided to go see him and we ended up having says a couple weeks later i unexpectedly got into contact with my ex not expecting anything to happen not expecting us to talk about being together sleeping together nothing we ended up meeting up and having says and he ended up talking about how he felt like he never moved on from our past relationship and needed to move on in order to start something fresh confusing as duck but i accepted it and understood again a conversation later down the line came out and i accidentally slipped out that i had been with someone else while we were not talking he took it so wrong completely belittled me for it basically made me feel like i was a piece of crap for doing that because he apparently never told me he wanted to move on after our last argument just needed time because he was angry that his whole day had been wasted and was planning on talking to me again said he didn't expect that from me and now is extremely angry at me and heard and said that he didn't think i was capable of doing that so soon also said that he felt cheated on i told him i was sorry but that he had been telling me for months that he didn't want to be with me told me that he couldn't have a relationship right now and that if i saw someone else he would be hurt but he'd understand we never even established only being committed to each other but because i did that after four months of being alone because i was seeing him decided to sleep with someone else after he basically broke up with me again m an age i don't understand i need help l.m.o is he just angry a huge part of me feels like he has major insecurity issues because he was asking what made me go back to that guy after so long of not seeing him i didn't even know what to say besides it happened once it wasn't anything serious at all i have no feelings for the other guy i only care about him my ex and i was not planning on talking to that guy again after that because i didn't want to anymore he doesn't trust that i won't do that again i just told him i would leave him alone there's nothing i can do to convince him otherwise i just felt like it was so unfair because he's the one who told me he was done with me that he didn't want to talk to me again for right now so i took it very seriously and now he was saying it was just an argument like what the hell that's not an argument you basically told me that you didn't want to see me again for a while is this just a lost cause tl dr my 24 male x is angry at me 21 female for sleeping with someone else after he said he was done with me and didn't want to work on the relationship he was the one who told me when we got back in contact after our three-year relationship ended that he still wasn't ready to be together after realizing he needed more time to work things out because of personal situations he ended up getting in contact with me shortly after things were over wanting to hopefully work things out later on but now doesn't want to after finding out i paired off with someone after he ended things with me even your tldr is too confusing this situation is way too convoluted for mid-slash early 20s let go of the whole situation honestly why are you wasting time on someone who is so unreliable i know it is there was a time after the breakup where i did let go we had to end because he moved away for school but always kept in the back of our heads that maybe we could get back together someday we were always in and out of contact while he was away i decided to let the situation go and i guess he never did he always told me that he knew we would be together again and that he wanted to have a life with me we were thinking of marriage and everything he just wanted to finish school first i guess he just never let that thought go and when he moved back home he wanted to try again but realized he wasn't over some of the things that happened in our past to be able to start fresh and i felt the same i feel like it would be best for me to just move on altogether at this point yeah the history is just too much a fresh start after that sort of past is just impossible it would take months or years if no contact to really hit the restart button i just i'm sorry you're in the trap of feeling like you have to care about what he thinks in the future as soon as you discover the person you're seeing thinks he's entitled to your exclusivity without giving his own or thinks it's reasonable to say i want nothing to do with you and still expect the person hearing it not to sleep with anyone else you have my official permission to write off their opinions and feelings as utterly unimportant and irrelevant to your decision-making thank you so much i do heavily care about his feelings and i need to learn not to because we aren't together and he hasn't given me that exclusivity i just feel bad for hurting him even though i had no intention of doing so i'll learn in the future that if someone isn't giving me commitments then i have every right to do as i please with my own life until that boundary is established introducing newscaster vocalizer is a new first of its kind groundbreaking app which allows you to generate full-featured voiceovers from any text using direct access to amazon-powered newscaster vocalizer without spending thousands of dollars just select a language and voice paste your text click a button and it's done duck him i had the exact same thing happen with an ex of mine he even went as far as to say crap like we are never getting back together it's done and just really drove the point home i ended up pairing off with someone on a night out a week or two later whatever right then he ended up deciding he wanted to get back together and i was an idiot who fell all over myself to be with him again i told him i slept with someone else looking back who ducking knows why i thought that was even his business and he lost it he even went around telling people i basically cheated on him and spun it like we were just on a break kind of deal when that definitely was not the case i'm actually pretty sure he had feelings for someone and she didn't feel the same way so he came crawling back let me tell you that the crap i put up with from that ah for 2.5 years was not worth it i should have just told him to shove it when he came back and i definitely should have laughed in his stupid face for trying to spin things as if i was the bad guy for sleeping with someone he was a whiny spoiled manipulative ah and as far as i know he still is just let it go now and don't make the mistake i did a guy that can't commit and plays mind games all the time isn't worth having in your life thank you i really appreciate the advice you sincerely seem like a lovely person who tried their damn best to keep him happy use that energy for a person who gives it back to you not just makes you sad you deserve it thank you heart i really appreciate it this whole thing is ducked up why are you playing hide-and-seek situation what does it mean i will contact you in the future relationship is not something you can drop and pick up anytime you want do you really want waste your youth playing such games with no purpose you need to refocus yourself and drop this guy if you really want to move on stop having meaningless says with him remove him from your life what is holding you back nothing is holding me back anymore i've already decided to cut him off update thank you guys for the comments and advice i've decided to just cut my losses and move on it's too much stress and after that incident it's not worth it to me i'm just gonna focus on myself for the time being smiley face worldwide comments of the day like the first commentator said if the roles were reversed the guy would definitely get a lawsuit filed against him so no forgiving her is not an option women must be held accountable at the same standards as men op and story 2 is denial he's probably cheating on her also welcome back i'd say for the first one get the police involved and potentially get a lawyer it's high time that the same standard would be applied across the sezes thanks for watching don't forget to subscribe for more interesting and relatable reddit videos

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Published: Fri Sep 25 2020