**MUST WATCH** EVERYONE NEEDS TO HEAR THIS BEFORE MARRIAGE | Pastor Dominic & Lady Lesley Osei

thank you again pastor Freddie for the wisdom for singles my question is hmm so you didn't even have known I have the question I just want to formulate it in a way that's clear so when you don't have prospects but people are inquiring to talk to you is that one of those situations where is like don't have options because I know in the relationship you should not have options but when you're a very single you're not in a relationship you're not talking to people yet but people are approaching you how do you scope to see like can i entertain conversation with multiple people can I go out to eat with multiple people how do you navigate that this is this is before the relationship this is like people are just inquiring how do you navigate that three relationship three talking things amen [Applause] well d it's a good question now now you you need to have as a woman you need to have some principles work that you are bad bad right so not every one reaching now is a one that you list you couldn't just go out anyway all right there are same things that you need to put in place what you are looking for in a man and so don't ever go out to eat if anyone until you see those kind of signals on them because if you go out to eat with every one of them they can easily say oh I slept for her [Music] you can tag you or you and our hair our now you never know they can say oh you went our our now with her too and the conversation can go on concerning you and so before all you can make it before you go out to eat with anyone make sure that even when you are coming with talking to the person they meet those requirements in your mind I need a godly man whatever if they meet it choose just one and say okay that's when you begin saying like look at them and see okay pray concerning them before you take it next step if you are not framed on don't don't a like the world to you make some mistakes before you make a decision to go on a date after talking you have prayed and God is releasing you that this is that one but God is not releasing if you don't see any any vision any dream the Lord did not speak audibly to you you are not sensing it it is a no so you know somebody say it isn't know some of you like will be dating and still not be looking for confirmation you are already in the relationship somebody's heart is in your hands and now you're gonna say I want to pray about it to see if you are my husband nobody tell me about your relationship with you now ready listen from today going before you make a decision to date with somebody remember that their heart is involved please don't try and arrow with nobody's heart you see that was what brings judgment on people because once you start talking to as a man if a man approaches you and start talking to you for a week you start developing something and a month will come two months will come and you are madly in love with this person and then the person is saying you know what I need to go and pray about you that what you trying to do right here my heart is already involved and now you want to go and pray about me no we don't do that way so before you make a decision to date or to take somebody's daughter out or to allow somebody's son to take you out you have to be sure am I ready for this I'm not here to do dating like Americans do or the worldly people do where we just go out let's go out and and then you just date in and messing up people's heart no like as a kingdom child before you take a step it must be a for purpose so if you are not ready stay single stay a virgin don't do anything until you are ready to take that step if you're a man if you are not ready to take this step don't take anybody out I'm repeating if you are not ready to hold the person's hand to marry don't take that person out don't say I wanna see see what see her heart being broken right see a heart being destroyed because you were not ready all right listen this beautiful woman your hearts are very soft you can easily crush it so please don't take anybody's daughter out until you're ready to put a ring on that finger you understand so if the purpose is I want to marry you I can see the qualities that I prayed about her they see no kafka have confirmations and so I want to take you out to eat I want to take you out I want to get to know you more if that is your purpose that is fine but would you you you have not prayed you just want to just mess and then when it gets to a point where it's very serious you say now I need to go and see God that is that is an abuse that is an abuse and so if you're a woman before anyone approaches you accident I've used a few of you seek our consoling me have you prayed because I'm not here to play games you let them know I'm not here to play games my heart is very precious to me maybe it may not be for you but I respect and I honor my heart I don't want to be broken heart worth breaking heart broken I said the other time she said no so I'm trying to figure out which one is which when I say it amen they're my wife you are me on those things you know right so please let's let's respect the woman that we take out you know I remember one of the things that I always wanted not to break anybody's heart yeah when I came back I was very determined honestly that that's what she was crying because I moved too fast for her my agenda was I'm coming in I know what God have said I don't need to go to see any prophets concerning this marriage people may say I'm Russian because I know what God said to me and so when I came I didn't want to entertain any other woman because I could have a easily like the or Charlie I'm single now you know and broadcasted I'm single now I'm looking for options and I would have been I'm not a big mistake I realized that the biggest mistake I made before because I had a hat options so when I when God gave me a second chance I said to myself I don't need any pushing I just want one person my focus was on Leslie first lady and that was a target I said I will fast for eight days to be talk to myself you see I was working man I became so skinny because I'm like you know what I know I'm there's some things going on I need to fast eight days drive faster and one week and doing the fast a lot even helped me to be able to forgive my ex and I put some it's like a little note I have wrote and it worked I wrote a forgiveness kind of thing and then and just write to my arranger sent to her but the fact that I was able to write it out it just released me from just being bitter because sometimes you feel like you a being used or you somebody have taken advantage of you so it causes you to be better and I'm like Lord detox me take anything that won't hinder me Lord touch less his heart at that time that she will at least now I want to talk to her again I didn't know what I didn't know what is going on I was just praying and right after the prayer the Lord start moving and then the Lord had a girl who I knew that she was with and then she told her about me and then the connection happened the girl say oh she say you can call her I was like hours I prayers are being answered amen and I reached out to her and life just turn around like we did within a month of me talking back to her the job a job that I lost in around 2010 yeah that 2014 the job actually called me it was it was Morgan Stanley they called me and said you know what we need some help in the office in New York City now we've worked with you before so we don't need to come for an interview we already know you just come in and just help us out and I got this job it was amazing like the Lord restored me back to the things that I've lost all these years when I got back to her yeah and from from 2008 I didn't have a full-time a permanent position I didn't have a job that was permanent but when we got when I got back to her back back with her I got a permanent position and that's what moved us here to Stanford RBS you see the life was coming back together because I was single with my eye on her and the Lord honored me through her amen and so yeah don't play with your hearts don't mess up with anybody's daughter don't mess up with anybody's sons heart amen I'm just piggyback on for what pastor was saying yeah don't cheapen yourself everybody got options if you want to be honest you know most of the time when I tell my story as you guys all read on Instagram the other day I said I didn't really have anyone and that was the truth I had a bunch of people calling me but I thought I'm not gonna cheapen myself because just one time out with me you will be able to say that you went out with me just that alone cheapens me and so I didn't want to be cheap at all and so process eliminated themselves you know people started eliminating themselves if I don't pick up the phone a few times and you're not persistent you eliminated yourself already if I see you and the way I act towards you you don't like it you have eliminated yourself ready so people were just eliminating themselves otherwise you'll end up being cheap and for the man who always go ahead choose the woman and then see this other prettier people or better people that suit their likability yeah you cheapen yourself too because what happens is I always say one thing that is how pastor and I is no one and I mean no one can come and say that he tried to talk to me and that's for me holds a certain pride in my heart that nobody because you know there's some man everybody like you think you got a good man but he tried to talk to Becky sue Laura Engine and all at the same time as a result you look like the fool for marrying somebody who's just been with everybody trying to talk to everything and so men we often talk about the women but man you guys look actually even stupider stupid turn stupid turn because what happens is you are messing up your ministry you're messing up your businesses you're messing up so many things imagine us having a church and all the women he's ever tried to talk to just looking at me like this girl's dumb as hell who come into that church he's gonna try to talk to all of them underneath her nose imagine that would have just been shameful to me god forbid Jesus and so as a man and you guys have to hold some type of dignity within you to not the first thing you see I'm gonna jump on it because I'm a man in my hormones or I'm trying to show that you know I'm a hunter-gatherer and I want to pick up the know you look crazy and then after after he hunt and he realized that he's getting serious you know what maybe I need to you know I know I'm not ready for any relationship and then start giving you those kind of stories and by the time you realize your heart is aching finally the new girl came in the church she thought she got good man he hops on that really quickly and then I think it was like a ladies retreat thing that we had my girl you are like you got you got ugly goods and somebody said you have leftovers from everybody and she was just she just started crying and she was like oh I had no knowledge that you tried to talk to everybody he did tell me about his girlfriends but I wasn't aware that he tried to talk to every single body and so men beware because it takes the the what is it no no they the value the honor from off of you when we know that you've tried to talk to every single body and every single body can be as much as two or three women oh yeah that's nice so true what helped me not knowing that first that he's so connected in Brooklyn right almost everybody is some ways amount not is connected to my family and I grew up there but for God being so good I never talked to anyone you see how it worked now imagine if I had one girl there and realize everybody knows a family there some way somehow one family living in Brooklyn you see so it helped a lot because nobody from broking his own cousin everybody so she makes she know Dom then that's the problem but the fact that she says she never even heard his voice I was thinking my so keep to yourself oh yeah and I've even know that this girl is related I'm telling you that Brooklyn I think you have a family of yeah everybody's your family member amen and so be careful because you never know where what you're gonna what house you were going to marry in you may be talking to a cousin because you know now you see a writer on social media you want to hear them up be careful you may be talking to your wife's cousin [Music]

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Published: Tue Feb 18 2020