Mom Explains What It Took to Rescue Daughter From Transgenderism

it is my privilege today to welcome to the show California mom and attorney Aaron Friday who is a leader of the parent advocacy group our duty they work to really support parents who are facing the issue of gender identity with their children Erin thank you for the work that you're doing and for joining us on the show today thank you for having me so let's start with your family's story I know you all have journeyed through this that's what brought you into this advocacy space of talking about the issue of trans transgenderism what happened in your own daughter's life that she started to get interested or became introduced to the idea of being transgender well it really started for my daughter in seventh grade when she went to her comprehensive sex ed class at her public school and unbeknownst to me a third party comes in and teaches these kids for five hours so an hour each day and um one hour was dedicated to gender identity with the genderbred man and all of the kind of pictorials of you could have a female body and a male brain and so the seed was planted after that class and in fact all of her friends there were five sat in my front yard saying what their new labels were and none of them chose you know the boring CIS which is a made-up term in and of itself but they all picked something on the alphabet because it's not cool to be you know a boring white girl um that's how I took it and I was you know alarmed by the language that they were using including pansexual which is not you know a term that 11 year olds should know and in fact I didn't know what it meant and I had to look it up um so that was kind of the first entry point for what happened to her so that sounds pretty immediate I mean she she has this class in school and then it was right away that she and all of her friends were sort of saying hey uh we don't want this the label of female anymore we're going to pick new labels yes but I didn't I didn't know how important that moment was okay later I did because I went to the parenting class because I thought well what are they learning at school um and what Gob smacked me also was you know I was a volunteer at this school I knew all the teachers by name um I got the volunteer award you know so I was in the classroom all the time and so I was really confused why these teachers who I considered friends would be teaching this nonsense and that's when I learned that a third party comes in and then I went to that third parties class and that's when my eyes really opened up to the lies that they're teaching our kids at school in that class they talked about uh males being GI Joe and females being Barbie and that there's a spectrum in between and of course my hand shot up and said well then are we all trans because there is no such thing as a Barbie and and GI Joe they gave out a page with all these different gender identities Demi boy I mean most of them just they they just didn't make any sense and my of course my hand keeps shooting up saying like this doesn't make any sense don't we teach our children just to be why are we putting them in boxes why are we labeled labeling them why are we introducing sexual language and I was pretty much told to be quiet and you know what also confuse me is that I was the only parent kind of questioning them and um and of course that worried me terribly is is what is happening fast forward a year later my daughter moved from you know one label which you know she started with pansexual which is a nonsense label when you're 11 because you're not sexual at all and so then she moved from that she moved to lesbian then she over the pandemic landed on trans okay and how long did she identify as Transit and what did that look like she identified uh as trans for about a year and a half at least from what we knew because she was doing things in secret of course um she had secret social uh media accounts you know we we thought we were smart parents we thought we were on it um you know the kids are just more technologically advanced and so she had fake you know Shadow accounts um where she had a trans identity and uh but over the pandemic is when we really learned it because her Public School uh changed her name to a male name and used male pronouns which without of course involving us this school never met my daughter because it was the pandemic and she never stood stood you know in their doors or in a classroom and um so we pulled her from that school because I thought what it what an overreach um you know and the school used you know the term safe we need to be a safe space well she's in my home so by extension I must be unsafe and what do you know of me name one thing about me um of course they couldn't um you know and that's when the House of Cards started to just fall and I need to just back up a little bit before she actually you know came out with with the new name and whatnot um her mental health had plummeted severely depression um getting very dark um mean like this child was a a sweet kid and she just didn't want to come to family dinners decorated her room in in kind of goth emo um dark you know almost um you know a little like I don't know demonic uh things and she her whole personality changed she was just she wasn't the child that I knew anymore and was she or were you all as a family talking to counselors psychologists doctors was there any kind of that input coming in well there was I mean we we of course uh quickly engaged a psychologist again you know I was clueless um that we should have vetted her we should have understood whether she's an affirming psychologist or not she of course wasn't affirming uh psychologist as they pretty much all are in California yeah uh she quickly told us that we needed to call her by the male name and male pronoun or she would commit suicide she told she you know cited a a study that said 41 chance of kids committing suicide she didn't read the study um I I know that because I queried her about the study after I read it and it was clear she's just taking a headline and you know regurgitating it I found out that she is she used Diane Aaron saff as her Mentor in transgender kids using her terms and who is Diane if you would so Diane Aaron saff is a psychologist at UCSF her claim to fame is that she believed in the satanic Panic which of course was debunked and she believes in the transgender child and says things as moronic as when a child is unbuttoning their onesie to turn it into like a dress that is gender communicating um another insipid statement of hers is that if a little girl rips barrettes out of her hair she is gender communicating so in my mind she's a quack I mean the absurdity anybody who's had children understands that children will rip off their mittens and what does that mean yeah you know that they identify as an iguana I mean I don't know and it's just nonsensical um and this psychologist also told me that my memory of my child was false when I talked about how girly my daughter was um like actually contrary to me because I'm not girly and she was really girly and into Barbies and and American Girl doll and Little Ponies and all of that and she said well she was hiding her true gender identity I mean that's just so absurd sign her up for amensa because you think my two-year-old was planning on outing herself when she was you know 14 or 13 and she had been planning this like that's amazing um so it just it reinforced that that there's no science behind this that this is all smoke and mirrors and it's made up and um and so of course we fought you know fired a psychologist yeah how are you doing at that point as a mom what what was running through your head um I well I was not doing well of course I wasn't doing well I was terrified and you question how you were as a parent what did I do to create this what did I miss um you of course you know kick yourself for giving the phone uh for not checking enough for not being smart enough to see that there was you know shadow uh social media you know there was another thing that I did and like I don't know how I feel about it now but there were friends of hers that I knew were um damaged children and they were the influences on my daughter but I felt as a parent that I'm a parent to all kids and I didn't want to um like the sins of the parents should not be placed on the children so I let my daughter have relationships with these kids and they influenced her you know to concretize her gender identity more so and again I don't know how I feel about that because I don't think I I feel sorry for these kids too of course um but in hindsight I should have you know barred them yeah yeah so what what was your daughter's full journey and what made her ultimately desist and come to a place where she said no I'm I'm not transgender so that's a long I mean these are long it's long going in it's long going out and I don't know exactly and I probably never will what the recipe was because I threw everything at it at one point um you know you're kind of counseled to keep having this relationship with your child and that's the most important thing and I took a kind of a different tact with that not that I wasn't loving towards her but I decided that I was going to set boundaries and I was going to hold the line on those boundaries and they were not going to be crossed I took the phone so that was key and a lot of parents will say they can't do that you can and you must if you want to get your child out of this and your child will hate you and you have to be strong enough your love for your child has to be strong enough to take their vitriol and it's very very hard I spent many nights crying myself to sleep um some days I didn't get out of bed but you still have to do it because now there's not a day that doesn't go by that my daughter doesn't say that she loves me so you can take the hate because you know what the end is going to be yeah hopefully um and even if my daughter didn't come back to have a relationship with me which I knew she would but even if she didn't I I saved her from being a lifelong medical patient so I would do it again so I took the phone we dropped the friends we moved to a private school which wasn't as helpful as I thought it would be but you know just getting her away from the people who thought that she was transgender which is really it's a really important part of the parenting piece is you have to give your kid an out because they're going to be embarrassed yeah and you need to pull them from the people who kind of concretized that gender identity and you need to be the fall person so I was the fall person she wasn't allowed to get her phone back until she went by her real name again that way she can point and say my mom's the jerk I have to be called by my female name now yeah so we did that um we sent her to some uh overnight camps which I don't think you can do anymore um because they're all captured but we made her um you know they were give back camps they were you need to help um save the reefs and so she's weeding she's working hard she's tired she doesn't have time to ruminate at night because she's been working all day and she's also learning how powerful her female body is yeah so that I think was really important um and and then I hit this stuff straight on I started to protest and I you know I had all my protest signs around the house I made it very clear I do not believe in this yeah your your mother who you used to respect and who you used to think was intelligent doesn't believe in this and I am not an you know an activist by by trade I you know and I'm like but your mom's doing this crazy thing yeah you know she's going out there with signs and um you know and then I had books all over my house Abigail schreier's book was in every room you couldn't miss it um Aaron Brewer's book was in every room Maria keffler's like I made it very clear you know I had boxes of of them yeah that we don't we don't believe in this yeah and I think that was um an important thing and and then we did some um you know I did some um I call them drive-bys because uh I would make her listen to cult podcast with me and so he'd be on a long drive and we'd listen to it at the Moonies and we'd listen to this cult and the Val and whatever and then after a couple of them I would say you know some people think transgenderism is a cult and I'd walk away yeah and let her think about it um so I did think I did a lot of things like that kind of coming around it in a different way um when the Johnson and Johnson vaccine came out and wasn't good for females I said well is it good for you and then I would leave not wait you know it you don't want to have to battle you just kind of want to leave little drops um asking the questions yeah and I you know she was in the car she was a captive audience I played um a podcast with Helena the a d transitioner and my daughter's story was very similar to Helena's in that my daughter was into anime got into cosplay shipping like you know the parallels were there and so I you know we were on a long car ride she was forced to at least hear it in the background and I know that she listened to it because um when I started to play the second half she's she said oh we already heard this part um so it's just kind of start start to unravel it for her yeah um in in and make it come from her and how old is she now uh she's 16. okay and how is how is your relationship with her now it's great yeah yeah that's all like I said she's beautiful yeah and because of your work with our duty I know that you have spoken to so many parents who have walked in these same shoes how common is your story is your daughter a story I mean are there common threads and themes that you're seeing as you're hearing other other family stories all of our stories are similar all I need to know is is your child male or female and the age of the child and I could probably fill in wow you know the facts about your child and that to that to me that's insane like why can't the medical community do the same because our stories are all the same you know the kid that was bullied um into anime uh you know same-sex Attract it is another one that's in there watched a lot of porn porn's a huge component especially for the boys um for the you know autism I mean we know all these factors and um you know so it's pretty clear it's clear to those of us in the parent space what the markers are for a child who's going to get caught up in this okay wow and through the work of our duty um you have done a lot of advocacy work in your home state of California you've testified in California you've spoken with Leaders with legislatures share a little bit about the update of what is happening in California right now what rights do parents have because California has been consistently kind of one of the central leaders on this issue and a lot of people say you know sogo's California eventually so goes America on this issue so what is the latest in your state well you are absolutely correct in that whatever happens in California is going to spread uh we are the beginning and the end of this uh so California is absolutely insane um I don't know how else to say it um we continue to pass bills without even out even the Republicans saying much on it which is shameful and that's coming from me a Democrat but we just keep passing bill after Bill after Bill taking away parental rights and pushing the gender agenda and I can see now how each one of the bills that pass how they are used as stepping stones for the next Bills so soon I mean right now the first bill that I testified against was an insurance bill that requires insurance carriers to keep secrets from parents who pay for the insurance that if their child um and this is over 18 um I still call them children anybody under 25. but if they are on their parents insurance policy and they get a double mastectomy well the parents pay for it and they have no idea that their insurance is paying for it um and they have no way of knowing that it even occurred so again it's this breakup of like parents are nefarious we are evil and we are bad and that's how they come out of the gate on everything um we have been called terrorists a mom testifying is called a terrorist we we testified at a or we spoke at a school board meeting and and the vitriol after that was and we're all Democrats by the way we're all Democrats up at the microphone getting told that we're right-wing bigots homophobes we can bring a a lesbian up at the microphone and they will still call us that so it's just name-calling um but California just continuously gets worse uh but in 2023 um our duty has decided that they're going to go on the offensive I don't want to play defense anymore I don't want to be begging to lawmakers to veto bills I want to propose bills to safeguard our kids um because parents should know that their child is being called another name at school that is a medical intervention to change a child's name parents should know if the child is going to school and going into a trans closet and changing their clothes at school and that happens in California parents should know that schools are giving out trans tape so that girls can you know tape down their breasts and boys can you know tape down their uh genitals and girls can ball it up and create a fake genital parents should know this and parents should have the right to stop it California has just um funded ten thousand new school counselors ten thousand and that sounds like a a good thing like in my former life I would been like that's great because mental health is such a problem for our kids but I know that those ten thousand new school counselors are ten thousand new indoctrinators they are ten thousand new new secret keepers because once a child goes to a school counselor parents don't even know they don't have a right to know that their child is going to a counselor every single day yeah why did you decide that you were going to speak out on this issue as a parent because for a while you said I'll tell my story but I'll do it anonymously and then you said nope I'm gonna go public so public that now you're on the Forefront of advocacy why someone has to do it and it's two years later and it's pretty safe out there now to be an advocate and to be in your name um people are told that they're going to lose their jobs and maybe that does happen but there's other jobs to be had me personally if I can't stand up for children I have no morals so I will stand up for children 100 out of a hundred times the movement is growing and so more and more parents are standing up and what parents are also finding is that they're not losing their jobs from standing up so more people stand up more people call in now against these bills and we need you know you you need to create a crowd of courageous people because they can't cancel us all and we can't ever defeat this unless we have the numbers so everyone who is against this needs to do something to stop it and there's plenty of things that they can do anonymously I mean we have parents that put on wigs and sunglasses and come in and testify we have parents who write we have parents who holds you know who who come to the protests and sometimes in their real name and sometimes not you know they don't have to get their picture taken but they need to know that there are the numbers out there and especially they need to know um the stories in California from the Democrats yeah because we're we are the ones who have to change it in California it has to be the Democrats and we're the ones actually getting decimated by this um it's mainly a you know a white liberal issue in California although the Hispanics are getting hit also pretty hard yeah um but I think it's it's a different world two years now and it's safer and um nothing's happened to me I mean knock on wood um you know there's a lot of us who are out and really nothing has happened and I can take a couple tweets that were people call me a bad parent and call me names I'm a big girl doesn't really affect me yeah and what are you all doing at our our duty to to be a support for parents and to bring about real change so we do a lot of things we are a jack of all trades expert of none we do everything in anything so we are a parent support group so parents can contact us um then we usually send them out to other groups that are more of the uh crying on the shoulder groups because we don't we don't do that so much as connect them with other parents and other parent groups we connect them with therapists and psychiatrists that we have vetted that we think would be helpful for their kids um and then we do a lot of advocacy so we did a a protest against the AAP in Anaheim in October and we joined forces with conservative groups lesbian groups you know all different groups because that's how we're going to defeat this and um so we've done that we also do a lot of helping with the Press so you'll have a reporter who wants to find a parent who lost custody of their kid will connect okay we do a lot of the connecting we connect parents with lawyers Across the Nation we write a lot of simple fact sheets too so you want to be able to distinguish is trans different from gay rights well we have a a sheet on that you want to know about the suicide stats we have a sheet on that it's really important to have those resources yeah and they're simple they're really simple yeah for for parents who would say to you I'm concerned for my child not maybe because they they are identifying as trans so there's some warning signs and they're just sort of wondering what do I do how do I protect my child maybe even if there aren't any warning signs they just know for any any kid going to middle school or High School these days they're going to be exposed to this stuff how can parents protect their kids well I'm gonna just do it California Centric um because we have the worst laws so it can can be used in other states uh so there's a lot of things that that parents have to can do so first and foremost know the curriculum curriculum at your school read every book that your child is assigned at school before your child reads it yeah um know your teachers go in that classroom and take a look around that classroom not just for the welcome posters or you know the the pride flag but go beyond that and look at all the books on the bookshelf does anything alarm you if it does pull your kid out of that class yeah don't wait for it to happen um you know be in that classroom when you're when your kids are TK and and kindergarten go for those read-alouds and see what those teachers are reading to your student because those teachers hide it so they may not have the books on the Shelf but you know those those circles on the carpet that every kid loves you know reading time be in that classroom and see what that teacher is teaching yeah and note it and report on it go to the school board meetings um read to your child the opposite books the books that show how amazing their human body is reinforce that yeah reinforce two Sexes teach your child how to respond with Pro you know when you're asked pronouns the the polite way to respond not snarky um but you know tell there's there's papers that get sent home in the beginning of school they ask if your child can take surveys no no no no no no every survey no there's an assembly at the school go to it pull your kid out of it if you don't like the assembly yeah read every one of your kids assignments it's okay to say I need another assignment for my child I'm not comfortable with this one see what the teachers do yeah they may or may not capitulate I mean we have a kid I think this is so fantastic California high school student was asked what his belief was with gender ideology and he said I don't believe it he got an F mom was so proud it's okay yep it's it's okay so yeah you have to be on it with your kids and that phone okay you need to know the switch I I should get some money for advertising for the switch the switch has no connection to the internet so no strangers can get on that device so you want to give your kid a device give them the switch um Pinterest has direct messaging like you think it's you know just an art like cool like no this is how they get to your kids uh just be in the know it's painful it's annoying it's time consuming but you need to know everything that your child is being exposed to yeah and for for any parents listening who want to find more resources any Advocates who just want to get involved you can visit ourduty.group to learn more about Erin thank you we really appreciate your time we appreciate the work that you're doing and it's just really incredible to see how you are are all in on this and we need more parents like you out there doing this so thank you thank you 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Published: Mon Jan 30 2023