Life Sucks!

tell someone life sucks and they immediately become in repair mode and try to fix you or try to fix themselves and say no life doesn't suck how can you say that that's so negative and it you're castigated you feel like oh you are an outsider looking into a world that can't be discovered beyond happy smiley faces when you Embrace that life sucks stuff goes wrong all the time things break down relationships you get your heart broken you lose jobs you have money struggles the world's at War um people always fight they gossip they lie if you go in with that attitude that life sucks it's so contradictory to the way we've been conditioned the way we've been conditioned is be happy if you for example if someone ask how you're doing usually they don't care but when they ask how you're doing the condition response is oh I'm wonderful I'm great I'm fabulous I'm doing well I'm good thanks for asking I love to say nah I'm terrible uh I'm I'm doing really really horrible and then see people's reaction what really what happened what's wrong what's the problem is there anything I could do to help it's like we automatically want to fix ourselves we cannot tolerate being unhappy because we have this expectation that we're supposed to be happy that life's supposed to be great that we're supposed to be successful that we're supposed to have the right job the right relationship the right house the right partner and this is just not the way life works so what we do is we spend all our lives rearranging all the puzzle piece pieces to to make us happy and boom fall on our face boom get bumped boom get arrows in the heart boom get punched get dag get daggers in our back and then we can't understand why we are not happy and it's this constant treadmill approach I need to be happy okay I'm going to be happy this is what I have to do happy I'll read this book or I'll talk to this person or I'll make this change so that's the very complex complim comp uh complicated way of trying to be happy it's like trying to juggle uh tennis balls or knives or swords and each you know every hour someone adds another sword another sword and you're constantly trying to juggle and make everything work when you go in to life it's like going into a movie the moment someone tells me a movie this is the greatest movie um it's fantastic you'll love it h It's amazing And you think oh my gosh I can't wait to see this movie and your expectations are way up here and you go in and you see the movie and you're like oh my God that was terrible but if you go into a movie that you let's say your girlfriend your boyfriend or your wife or spouse dragged you into and everyone said this movie stinks this movie you're not going to like it it's dumb it's corny um it has no plot the acting's horrible you're expectations are so low that you might actually enjoy the movie yeah it's not going to win Academy word you you're not you're not going to love it you probably won't see it again but the chance of you enjoying it is going to be a lot greater what shifted the movie was still the same what shifted is your uh intention attitude and approach and expectation more importantly before you go when you went in to see this movie well life is the same way life sucks get used to it accept it there's drama people are complaining all the time it's not it's not a picnic and you want to know what the good news is is the good news is we would have it no other way why do you think we love the news we love negative news that's why they're always showing violence and murders and War on TV because if believe me if good news reported good news of uplifting stories positive things that people getting along uh people helping out and volunteering for each other if that got ratings and made money it would be on TV all the time but we love challenge struggle uh when things go wrong we don't like when things always go our way in The Matrix they had a great scene when they talked about how they originally did the computer programming when they had all the people plugged into the Matrix the first program was everything was perfect smooth love peace happiness and joy everybody got along and all the pods all the humans died there's something deep within us that needs that turmoil the struggle the challenge it like refines us and helps us grow but yet at the same on on one hand we need that on the other hand we resist it and it's not the problems that cause us to suffer the challenges those are can be blessings and disguise what causes us to suffer is our resistance to it I shouldn't feel like that we're like L we're like little kids all grown up in adult bodies spoiled little brats I can't believe that person said this to me I can't believe I didn't get the job oh my God what's going to happen this person doesn't like me things aren't going my way and we're constantly in that that that that friction mode friction friction FR and we blame the problems we blame life instead of looking in the mirror and saying what is my appro what is my Approach what is my expectation am I expecting these things to work out because if you are you're a fool you're you're you're AB you're fooling yourself and you're creating your own suffering So when you say okay life sucks get over it and then you can move on and then you go in it's like going into a movie with low expectations you don't have these expectations upon other people you don't have these high perfectionist expectations upon yourself you don't have expectations upon your job it's you're not trying to extract your happiness externally because you realize everything you need resides within and as within so without so most people live their entire lives reverse in a a chaotic world where there's continuous problems and then they can't understand why they're unhappy and we always think the next carrot if I could only get this that will make me happy and it's this constant walking and bumping into walls so freedom Liberation is realizing our true nature getting centered and saying you know if if it's meditation works for you if it's Stillness just something magical about Stillness just being still and reclaiming your energy and going within and then you realize H man despite the chaos outside outside in the real world everything's cool everything's legit and everything's a okay and then you're not reactionary right now most most people live their lives reactionary oh this person did this to me you know it's just constant constant suffering that we that's self-created so man that's great news life sucks life sucks and in that you bring different energy to challenges and when things go wrong you learn you grow you prosper when things go wrong because when life doesn't go your way it reveals your true character it reveals your true nature it reveals your weaknesses it reveals your strengths and it tells you what your homework is and normally we blame other people other situations for unhappiness instead of saying H I'm unhappy about this and that is my assignment that is my homework I have to do some self-examination some Stillness meditation whatever it is reenter myself and find out why I am tossed like a reed in the wind based on what happens externally oh man when you know life sucks and that there's just tremendous suffering in the world you can be at peace because you're loving things as they are and there's this you're putting out the fire of resistance that enjoy it it's a it's a joy ride once you get on it and once you start becoming a conscious of how often we are in resistance mode and we have this false idea that life life is supposed to be grandiose we're supposed to be life supposed to make us happy we're supposed to be successful we're supposed to be excellent at things we do we're supposed to have people like us have money in the bank once you say oh man no all that's just all we've been conditioned we've been conditioned to believe all that so we keep on chasing this the the the illusion the imaginary carrot that we doesn't doesn't go with us when we die and is so temporary and let's return to what is real what is important and that's just going inward finding your true nature connecting to your intuition your inner compass and then Having the courage to live accordingly

Channel: vagabondsteve

Views: 126,505

Keywords: freedom, simplicity, government, happiness, suicide, depression, inner peace, contentment, anger, sad, love, debt, loneliness, life sucks, health, money, conformity, atheism, God, goals, oprah winfrey, eckart tolle, enlightenment, honesty, Christianity, Buddhism, soulmate, suffering

Id: BvKRQno47L0

Length: 9min 36sec (576 seconds)

Published: Thu Jan 29 2009