LIFE REALS PODCAST: Our First Time || #01

my idea of being a husband was to sit down put my feet on the table come mhm who's a 25 year old and you were just seated chilling you know and I remember just being so upset so angry and you know you asking me for tea and I'm like what is this this is 2 weeks after our wedding and I remember flipping and really losing it and because guys are being real in this podcast I was I didn't say really nice words to him and I just went on and on and telling him I'm not a slave listen I don't know if you called me Julie or you said babe but you just told me never cook for me never clean for me never do anything for me I'm done [Music] welome to life reals with Pete and Julie now this is a podcast that will be talking about everything that happens in life The Good the Bad and the Ugly we want to talk about the messes that happen in life when it comes to Parenting love um Ministry raising children and all that and we are excited to start this journey with you guys my name is Julie karoki and I'm pit karoke kibon we are a husband and wife uh team and um we're so excited to start this journey with you and to explore life in depth you know there are so many things that happen and sometimes things look fragmented things look like um things are not making sense you know um and we've had a fair share of uh um uh experiences the highs and lows just trying to figure things out um and we'll be talking about some of those things in our conversation in this podcast um and uh just coming to your room coming to uh wherever you're watching this from where in Nairobi Kenya whichever part of the country you're watching us from um whichever part of the continent yeah um they're listening us uh listening to us from yeah then we're we're we're we're here for you we're here for you to take this journey with you so back AAP we are about to get real real real real real real that sounds good on life reals with Julian pit great so I want to introduce our conversation for today because this is our first um podcast and episode and um we just want to talk about the first time our first time yeah yeah and babe you know um sometimes anytime you're stepping out to do something new yeah there's this fear yes there's some concern anxiety you know and you're not sure if you're doing the right thing you're not sure if it's the right time you're not sure if you'll get the right support yeah you know and that first step sometimes is usually quite tricky you know so maybe you can help us unpack and then we'll we'll unpack together yes um some of those fast steps yes and how scary sometimes it can be to take starting the first business uh uh dating someone for the first time you know first kid yeah marriage the first time you got married mhm many fasts so how's your experience been life has many fasts and fasts can be very scary like you said um for me what comes top of mind is just my first time as a mother my first time as um you know content creator our first time doing a podcast um our first time the first time you met our first date those things can be quite nerve-wracking but we're here to unpack that we're here to just unbundle that and um I want to start I want us to start with this conversation about let's talk about our first time as a married couple yeah so backstory we've been married for 10 years this July so this podcast is going live in May so in a few months we'll be 10 years in marriage it's been a wonderful ride but we are dated for about seven years so we've been together 17 years but that didn't make our our marriage experience easier like when you got married it was a completely different Dynamic it's no longer boyfriend girlfriend yeah um how was it after you've just been given this bride and you've been told go start life how was that for you um I think you can paint the picture of what happened just after the wedding day to the car to the hotel yeah so marriage is a is a big deal absolutely okay and when we announced we getting married of course many things came into play so um the first question that comes in are you ready are you sure this is the one you know um how do you know she's the one or he's the one there are many questions that usually pop up um but our wedding day was quite quite definitive yeah um and and we we started preparing for it probably a year before yes you know and took this journey of prayer of faith of trusting of believing um pulling friends together Community together to prepare for July 25th um 2014 yes and I've never been married before so it was my first time absolutely we're talking about our first time yeah so this was my first time to get married so I've lived as a single man all my life all right lived alone all my life yeah and then one date mm changes everything yeah and and I think Society or just even people we expect it to be instant they adjusting the yeah you want to be instant that you are single this whole time and then suddenly now you need to act like a married couple yeah because there's this thing that people say don't don't be a wife before you're a wife M and don't be a husband before you were a husband so all this time I was girlfriend and acting like one and never being a wife but now suddenly I have to be a wife yeah yeah and the idea of being a wife was new absolutely you understood it as a concept you understood it from reading books I understood being a husband from reading books and hearing from other people's stories and observations I had made yeah but I I had never lived as a husband hband yeah so I had to get into it for the first time and it was scary so you've exchange the Rings yeah even before we exchange the Rings the the day of the wedding yes the nervousness yeah you know because we we also want to help people understand that you're not always cool calm collected that before you do the something for the first time yeah you know you're not always I got this you know I was was born to do this some people do have that but sometimes the real stuff we're talking about real stuff is your heart is pounding your hands what was making you nerv your palm is sweating what was making you nervous what was making me nervous was I I've been thinking about this day as an event but it's life and it's for life so not the wedding the marriage the marriage so it hit me that boy you're getting into this and I started wondering I think I'm too young for this thing I don't how old are you I I was 2 yeah you were pretty young when you got married 25 yeah yeah so so I'm there and then now not sure you're not 100% sure if this is the direction you want to take which is something that happens with every first time so we exchange our Rings all right our pastor pastor julan leads us through the vows um we smile at each other we we exchange the Rings yeah it's beautiful we're dancing and there's crowds yeah and everyone is celebrating and sharing on and then we go out take a picture with family and friends and then go to the hotel take pictures come back MH dance again so you're you're in this key adrenaline yeah so there's an adrenaline it's called a it's a high it's a high yeah there's a high that comes to you you know and sometimes that high ends so sometimes when you're stepping to do something for the first time there's a high yeah there's a there's something that keeps you going and then it it dies off same day or like as for you for me it died off the same day okay so in the evening yeah no the following morning yeah I woke up and I asked myself what have I done you know yeah what have I done yeah and a sense of responsibility flooded and I'm like I need to call my friends and tell them I was joking yeah yeah I was like I need I need to tell everyone I'm do jokes you know um because now you're my wife now I'm responsible now I have to provide now you're not going back home now if you become Seck it's my responsibility yeah now if if you need something I have to you know provide let me tell you let me tell you it was it was tough I think first time as a married person for women um we are so excited about the wedding the actual day right um and you know of course it's valid because you're hoping this is going to be your only wedding and all that so you want to be in the moment and enjoy yet but I feel men take the responsibility of being married some men very strongly um I know we were in the thick of planning our wedding and it was exciting um still we were very young of course we hardly had been working for a month or two so we were still very young and inexperienced and then now we are making this big big decision which of course we had a lot of support but for me I felt very ready which is something I feel like a lot of women don't feel on their wedding day I felt absolutely ready that day I remember that day waking up and just saying I'm ready God I'm ready I'm ready for this and I know marriage can be hard but God I'm ready and I know marriage can be beautiful but God I'm ready I know there'll be challenges but I'm ready and I really don't can't explain where the Readiness came from but I just felt ready in that moment and 10 years now on I feel like it was that space where I just said it even verbally that I'm ready that made me almost prepared prepared for the journey ahead so of course I was above the Moon you know like it's it's it was a dream of mine I've dated this guy for so long so it's about time you make it real uh make it formal and then it was exciting the plans we had we had about um our honeymoon and then now settling into a new house and then now but that came also with challenges because now there's an adjustment that has to to take place yeah when you married me you took me out of my parents house I'd never lived alone yeah um so I was in a house that had an ny I was in a house that had things were functioning because my mom had made it function but now I'm in this space where I'm the one who's supposed to make things function but yet I felt like I'm just a kid like why am I having all this responsibility and suddenly I need to be in charge of the meals I need to be in charge of the the cleanliness of the house um you know keep the fire burning between us because you're new Newly Weds and that was quite a challenge and the roles as well um and I think that would lead us now to the next first which was our first fight yes so our first big fight it was a big fight it was it was um because we're married and uh we're here um adjusting to this new reality of you know when you're dating the day ends and everyone goes back home all right so you have time to pick yourself up Pump yourself back again come back to the scene but no one is leaving yes you're stuck you didn't you're not going anywhere I'm not going anywhere we're here to stay together every day 24 hours um and you know our love now had to expand mhm and cover not just a few hours of being together yeah but our love had to expand and cover 24 hours of being together yeah 72 hours yes the first week yes the first month you know day in day out yeah um and I love her to grow into that so the first week our biggest fight was I'm trying to adjust to this new role and my idea of being a husband was to sit down put my feet on the table mhm who's a 25 year old barely just left University yeah old man old man with a newspapering Authority with a newspaper yeah and I was ready to be served yes please I was ready to be served food hot meal um you know it has to be hot it has to be ER you know amazing so yeah um and then you are tired I think you had come from work you had yeah um and I just sat there mhm expecting you to do something that you know you wanted to but you couldn't because of the situation yeah so I was tired yes and it had been a long day you were working I was working I used to work very far from home so I had to take a lot of uh Transportation you know to to to to the house and I'm coming home I'm tired I'm sweaty and I just finally sited there and I'm like it would have been nice if had started off dinner you know um chop up some things put some things on the you know on the gas to boil or something and you were just seated chilling you know and I remember just being so upset so angry and you know you asking me for tea and I'm like what is this this is two weeks after our wedding yeah I'm like what is this like you need to be here because in my head I knew we still in the Romantic face come here hold me by my waist from behind you know tell me I'm the best thing that ever happened to you or you know be on the My Side just starring something but it was not that way and I remember flipping and really losing it and because guys are being real in this podcast I was I didn't say it really nice words to him and I just went on and on and telling him I'm not a slave um you didn't hire me you married me I'm A working woman just like you uh I'm a working person just like you so you can't tell me what to do um you know you have hands let's go to the kitchen let's do this together and immediately I said that of course I stormed off um went and took a shower came back and I found you standing and you told me this listen I don't know if you called me Julie or you said babe but you just told me never cook for me never clean for me never do anything for me I'm done we can live like that and immediately I just felt the conviction of the Holy Spirit telling me girl you've crossed the line and you were so angry you didn't even have dinner and you went to sleep God came and he was like on my case he was like apologize to your husband not only apologize I need you to get on your knees and say sorry I'm like um God me no uh but you know God kept push putting that in my heart and I was like you know what let me do that so I followed you to your room and to the room and I you know apologized and begged you begged you to come back to the living room and eat because I'd already cooked by that time and of course you know you are like no it's okay um I'm good I sleep I really begged you and I remember that for the first time I just felt the Holy Spirit telling me allow me to be your teacher let me give you the formula of how this works yeah because you were trying to do it from the way we had seen from the way we've heard from all these cultures all these TV shows and he was let let me teach you how to handle this man let me teach you how to handle this woman in your marriage yeah and I think that was the last time we had such a fight that was the last time we've ever had that discussion yeah and you've been eating my food I've been eating I gained you gained a lot of weight in that yeah so it took a lot of me coming down and also you of course you started to know okay my wife could use some help yeah so if you got home before me you would start dinner and then I would come proceed or you'd tell me the dishes are on me um and that made our life really seamless and nice I wanted us to talk about still in the fast fight so after our wedding we had received a lot of cash from people as gifts and something we call gift vultures like gift cards yeah so we got a lot of those and we we had to decide what to get because we still Furnishing our house we still buying coffee machines and blenders and things like that and I remember us going to the store and you telling me no to everything and I'm wondering why you saying no yeah we have this 25,000 uh Kenya Shillings vulture that needs to be used before this time yeah why are you saying no to this and what was your thinking around that time you know our bringing kicks in strongly sometimes when we least expect you realize ER there's there's a way you are raised yeah so my my I tend to lean more towards saving cheap cheap yeah I actually I I don't know how many of you maybe you can you can put it on the comment section if you're like me I I if I go to the store Supermarket I will start and look for the things on offer or the cheapest thing and it doesn't matter quality it doesn't matter quality but bab like I'm such an expensive babe why did you come for me because you said you like chip that's different girl that's different well yeah that's true you like saving your coins yeah I like I like where can I get a saving where can I get a discount so I'll go for that so you aren't understanding when I picking so I always go for 25k how many many things can it get us but this thing we functional for 10 years that are functional let me finish that are functional then my wife on the other end wants one thing that costs the end actually she wants us to add money to get I'm like wait a minute what where are you where are you getting this habit of yeah crossing the boundary of what we have available to spend yeah all right and so we get into the store we go and you're looking at these things and your eyes go for the most expensive one and maybe in your in your mind if it's expensive it's of high quality I don't know I don't know that's debatable yeah but you go for the most expensive one me I'm like no no no no no no no no we're not getting this one yeah let's get a cheaper one yeah and then buy six other things using the same voucher you are like nope but babe look at it like even from experience we we would buy the cheap ones and in two months now I've learned 10 years later I've learned yeah because there things we bought that time until today they're functioning I agree I agree so I agree it took a fight initially it was nasty you guys you can imagine newws we leaving the the the store empty-handed because you could not agree on any item like we've just been like okay whatever like let's go and it was that way for a while I remember even when we were doing our shopping during our honeymoon you'd still say no on some items and I'm wondering this money we have is gifted to us to enjoy yeah so like you said bringing plays apart yeah and it kicks in strongly for me h i get anxious when I don't have money so you don't want to lose I don't want it to run out let me hold let me keep it okay I feel safe when it's there yeah um let me have it and me I come with a moto money is to be spent money there's money let's use let's use it God will provide God will provide let's let's let's get the stuff me I'm like nope nope money runs out let's keep the money you know so that's a difference we're coming a differences a started creeping in so what's the compromise for people who maybe in that stage of Life yeah what's the compromise there I I think keep communicating keep talking yeah all right don't don't and this is something we want to share with people don't tap out don't quit don't say oh we are doomed yeah for forever this is my life what did I sign up myself for you know so don't tap out don't quit don't give up yeah uh when such things happen because you know sometimes things even end up switching they do I think there's a time you you the more expensive one and they became the Frugal one yes so things things end up changing you evolve you learn new things so don't tap out don't don't give up don't don't don't throw your hands and say you know what ER I knew it you know it's over marriage is over you know or this this season is dividing us so just keep communicating uh and then the other thing that helped us now is add some humor to it laugh about it you know don't be too serious about everything we were too serious about especially MOA MOA was too serious I think I think you were taught that a husband is serious Mo was serious Yours Truly this guy was serious everywhere everywhere like you just want to put your game face on everywhere we'll follow budgets we'll do this I'm likea I'm almost pulling out s who podcast did you hear what they said you know there's how to be a mil iaire this is not how to be a millionaire no you can be a millionaire Think and Grow Rich you know I'm like B this is not how we Think and Grow Rich you know so so laugh about those things for sure communicate um you know com compromise compromise get the stuff for this one the next one get the other one that he wants evil evil evil and then learn learn each other along the way may even say sometimes just do rock paper scissors like if you can't really come up with a com like just do it because life is not that serious yeah because you're here fighting over a blender really yeah so sometimes just you know say she wins the day let's move yeah yeah he'll be upset for a day or two or an hour or two and then they'll be fine yeah so compromise really plays a big role in your first days as newly words give yourself room to adjust you know it's something is growing you're growing it's your first time into it and something in new is adjusting and growing yeah you know so give give yourself room to grow uh give yourself space to expand yeah enlarge yeah enhance your capacity yeah all right cuz some of these things will come but we'll find your former mindset you know like it's you you are used to doing me me I was used to to living alone and me have in my life I've grown up getting used to self- sacrifice sacrifice sacrifice sacrifice so I bring that mindset to marriage I'm like we must sacrifice sacrifice now even in your H sacrifice the money sacri you know why are we spending it do we need it by the way if I had an option I think our house would have one chair yeah one spoon mhm three plates yeah a cooker yeah mo one Banner why do we need six Banner what are we burning yeah what are we burning you know six Banner yeah I'm like can one Banner do the work mhm yeah yeah right but you'll be there a long time you see so so there was a certain mindset that had to change and I had to allow myself to grow and did that make you feel less of a person no yeah no so allow yourself to grow into the new you it's a new teritory and this can be a new a new skill it can be a new activity you're embracing it could be a new country new job you moved to it could be a new job your first time at it will sometimes be bumpy all right don't write yourself off because it was bumpy the first time yeah all right anything ventured into initially is rough I I don't think there's a slide a smooth slide into something that's being birthed yeah it's quite it's painful it's intense but it's beautiful correct when let cor to grow correct let's talk about the final first time oh wow I like this one this is my favorite this is now first time as parents bro do you remember that day our first time as parents do you remember we were still young old like why are we doing this to ourselves you know actually we are still children we are still children when they handed off us the baby and they're like okay you guys go home congratulations I'm like we go with the baby are we going we are babies where are we taking another baby you're giving us a human and you expect us to keep this baby alive and Thrive and guys it was panic at the highest level it's almost bizarre like I remember the ride home I remember it's my brother who was driving us and I was s you sit at the front with my brother yeah and I'm s Ed at the back with my my mother-in-law and she's carrying the baby and I remember even the drive would tell our brother drive slower uh watch out because we thought this baby was going to break or yeah it just felt so delicate so hard I can't even describe it it felt like how are we supposed to be responsible over this person then we get home let's talk about the night my God you want to talk about the night we took a picture it was it was it was the toughest night of my life because let me tell you there are things that change you forever yes you know having a child is one of those things that changes you AB forever you don't hit there's no reverse gear you don't say I make come it's not yet now go you know know when the babies is there so the baby's there it's there so first night with our baby um we've done everything to prepare we we've bought thece we have a noise machine we have all the wipes I remember even I had a wipe warmer warmer it used to make the wipes warm yes we had everything but we were still we were petrified we were and then the baby and then now bed sleeping at night y there's you take your corner because you're scared crush the baby so me I was on that side cing falling almost falling you you on the other side curing almost falling because you're you're scared you'll crush the baby or we will roll over and sleep on him so so just to set it straight we had a um a baby crib for him but because of the many feedings because you know when they're new they're feeding every two hours so we thought it would be nice because we had a big bed just to put him in the middle um because also I just had a csection so I could not keep doing that so that was a scary bit and then any slight noise from this child we are alling the idea of sleeping and your baby is there your first baby yeah and you're wondering are they breathing yeah yeah that one is a worry you know are they breathing you know cuz sometimes I hear kids forget to breathe small L what what what do you call that I don't know what phenomenon it is I don't for the Prem for the Prem yeah so you have to wait breathe you know like so um so there's that anxiety of wondering if we sleep is the baby going to breathe will the baby cover themselves will they roll over have they bed and then our baby was born in the coldest month yeah so are they warm enough are they too warm will they get pneumonia because of sweating is the diaper wa you know we don't know we new new parents is this diaper okay should they change it is it too early to change and then now you'd change the diaper and immediately you put a clean one they've pooped it's night time you need to be resting turn the baby because the baby's head can flatten so they need to be turned yeah what degree to sleep yeah because of reflux how to how to swaddle hey SW I learned how to swaddle babies y pit is expert of swaddling you guys he so good at swaddling he so good there's a way you put in little you do what Bring It On Top let me tell you no you became the expert at swadly I became the expert but you became an expert like later but the first time it was tough and even just changing the diaper as well it's your your child is the first person you ever changed diaper right of course yeah there was no one else you'd never ra anybody no yeah that was something yeah now baby sat for a while rais my knees so I've changed diapers a lot but it's still different yeah that was an experience and a half I can't I can't explain it the buing um the buing the sh the sh the bath the fearing you'll drop the baby you'll you'll crush them um they'll get choked what is this Rush is this a rush what is this is this eczema is you know what is this it was it was a lot to handle it was as a firsttime parent and so you're it's like you're studying your baby so you have to have a book and a pen you're like what are they doing today okay today do you know that's a real thing I have apps and then the next time okay what are they doing yeah we have apps that that I used to put yeah yeah I fed them on my left breast yeah my right breast I changed this day but you have to keep up with these things yeah when it's your first time but I think the more veteran you become yeah you just figure it out yeah so what's your advice for firsttime parents firsttime parents again don't tap out don't quit um I know it can get frustrating it can get very I think in my life if there's a season when I've been depressed depressed I think I think was I I had postpartum depression can I say that as a man no I'm curious can I say that as a man I think so cuz it's a mental thing yeah is it is can a man have postpartum I think they can okay I believe they can I think there's a part of me that uh with the cries and the especially the first baby the cries CU you see you you see men God has given our wives mothers things to comfort their children the child all right yeah so you have been given the nuring ability to breastfeed yeah you know um feed the baby well yeah you know then they can sleep as they feeding yeah have you ever heard of things called worthless nipples yeah I've heard of those they they and you happen to have like I don't even know what they're there for I'm like God why did you put these things here if they are if they're not they're not um so the frustration what's the use the baby is crying I'm like me I don't know how to help you at least your mother knows how she can comfor me I don't and then we're not doing bottles we're not doing yeah that time we had not started hour like I have to count this baby you know to sleep um so it wasn't that bad depression it was just they adjusting to becoming a bar and because I'm a fixer I want to solve it I'm like can they sleep in 15 minutes I'm trying a 15 minutes not yet 30 minutes so because I'm that's how I'm framed I want to solve I want it to work a certain way I want it to um I want him to sleep eat in a certain way if you were to be programmed I would be the happiest father on Earth you know but it's not that's not real they don't come like that and they don't come with manuals it's interesting that you mentioned um depression in dads new dads I think it's something I've never had spoken about so like let's unbundle that a little bit you said so it's now the lack of sleep it's a lack of sleep it's the are you fearful and this is for dads who decide to be involved you know there are dads who just decide my life will continue care or they'll sleep in a different room and they'll be fine you move on uh which I don't encourage I think I think you if if you're in a loving relationship with your wife be involved absolutely um in in in especially the first time the first phase and even successive children so um the lack of sleep the feeling helpless I can't breastfeed you you know know um the the taking care of your wife because your wife is recovering you're the only stable person at that time yeah you know um so you have to prep the meals sometimes you have to get into the kitchen you have to wash the baby you have to sleep late sometimes to allow your wife to rest yes so your you're handling quite a lot during I'm not saying that the wife is not handling you're also handling a lot it's just from the from a man's perspective you're having to deal with so many things um that growing up were never a discussion or subject anywhere you know at least for you yeah you talked about oh my God I'm dreaming about having a child played with have never it's never occurred to me that that will be my experience as a father do you know Millennial parents are actually the most involved parents in like the most recent um generation you know um yeah because we were brought up by parents who were very cultural especially in the African context dads who of course they are exceptions but there dads who were never home espe actually when you have a child they ship you off to your mother for for your mother to take care of you or your mother-in-law um so Millennial parents just came up with a very different they want to be involved in their children's life and um I really applaud you for that do you think the financial aspect of so plays a part it does it does because you're you are thinking about finances delivery during delivery Post delivery will everything be available so your your your mind is taking in a lot yeah um as a mother your mind goes into nurturing my baby as a father also another yeah my my mind goes to family wife protection or wife care baby care home you know nothing no one should worry about anything um and sometimes it gets a bit overwhelming yeah and then in the middle of that you have this one week old baby yeah who's yelling crying yeah can very angry very angry they're not sleeping some have colle I was thank God they didn't have colleague yeah um some can't sleep I me I me I bless God for people who say no no no no my baby sleeps through I'm like oh God bless you well our our Second Son slept some point at some point yeah so so that's that's the long and short of it as firsttime parents and um and I know it's also helped people to understand our journey all right I think I had a question when it came to in that process as well as a new dad um you also lose your wife MH before you had children she was this queen of your life only you're the only person in their life and suddenly all they think about day and night is this child yeah does that play a part it does because part of what the doctor tells you don't touch your wife why is that funny don't touch your wife do not touch her six weeks six weeks don't even tou I have to approve don't touch her don't touch up please so you're like handcuff can I be handcuffed I do what do I do you know don't so let me tell you you the amount of restraint you exercise really you restrain everything concerning you to to redirect your energies to the baby to to protecting your wife like because when your wife doesn't want you to even suggest you know that time you remember my first time as as a mom nursing the baby do you remember the drama yeah it was extremely painful you guys breastfeeding is not automatic breastfeeding is not immediate and I don't know why I thought it was easy because I just see see mom's breastfeeding it so easily but I just remember I can even create the image yeah I can see my mother-in-law holding the baby or you are holding the baby and my mother-in-law is trying to to sit me in a in a nice position and the baby had to come and what is the word Larch yeah and then I would hold and scream yeah so you can imagine this wife is going through this and then there's a man there blinking yeah like it's not going to happen yeah yeah so you see that also plays a part it does because you go for the to the doctors and they tell you ah give this on two more weeks you're like where do where do I go you deal with your you deal with your your issues right there yeah yeah oh that's an interesting conversation it's taking us way way way back it does um I'm curious to know what are some of the fasts you guys have gone through and maybe in the comment section you could give us some of them um just share with us what are those things that you learned first time whatever it is we will we'll be so happy to to read that yeah and maybe just general rule of thumb if you if you if you're it's your first time to do something there are usually three things that end up changing babe I'm sorry I know you don't like when I get into this angle but can I just do your thing can I do my thing do your thing so there there are usually three things that that change when when it's your first time for something uh priority changes time allocation changes and sometimes skills have to change wow yeah so anytime you're embarking on a New Journey something new a lot of times when I became a husband priorities changed time allocation changed and I had to change my skills when I became a father priorities changed time allocation skills had to change and that's absolutely true even for me in every way yeah so those are three like standard things um even a new job priority changes um time allocation you know so it's to allow that to happen bound to happen to and if you resist it becomes more difficult it it it does so allow it allow it to happen and and um and adjust and grow into it all right you see like now this is our first time to do a podcast yeah yeah you know how long we've talked about a podcast I I know we've talked about it for too long we need to be on a set let's talk the amount of energy yeah it takes yeah to decide and Doh and sometimes it looks like oh it was overnight oh you guys it's it's you're a natural and stuff like that no it wasn't and so um we want to applaud ourselves oh absolutely I think we need it's our first time she had those you know like that popup to say finally the the editors will put some claps because this one has been a long time coming and I tell you this for for for for fact because again you're keeping it real yeah we've Tred we've we've wanted to cancel yeah we've wanted to just say it's not time yet we know it's time but it's just felt so hard so difficult with just some of the things you're going through personally or just in life in general it has felt like almost labor pains yeah and you know sometimes when I watch people saying that yo it's our first podcast and oh my God it's taken us so I'm like what did it take you to get like it's it's easy just do it yeah I'm like now until you're in it it's it's it's and you know when we started our YouTube channel it was a way way way way back um close to eight years ago yeah we started this together and then at some point we felt it may probably wasn't the best fit for you because of the Season you are in in life and I just continued with it alone so we've always had that urge to do things together but this year we were like set it has to happen and uh a lot of prayer a lot of preparation and sometimes just deciding and I think what we've done is actually just decided let's do it yeah let's not overthink what's in our hands right now yeah we we have an amazing team we have what we have yeah there are things we do not have but with what we've have what we have we've started yeah and to applaud people who help you take the first step yes all right and so today I just want this first one to publicly appreciate liette uh Bob shadra uh solo um for for trusting that we have something to do and they they were like we will come and hear your Madness yeah um but here is to our first and so if you're doing something for the first time uh put it on the comment section if your first needs prayers we will pray with you yes all right if your first uh needs something or a support we can offer you feel or support or something you know we are not we can't promise you everything but we're just here to tell you go for it it's your first book right it it's your first church to start start it it's your first Ministry it's your first meeting to call people if it's your first meet and greet you know it's your first time to go out uh camping you know go for it it won't always feel easy but go for it you know so good job for making this first happen oh wow and episode one episode one is out guys of many and and I really I want to speak life to our podcast I know it's the first time and I believe believe in that because it's also worked in our personal life where you look at this baby and you're thinking will this baby ever grow you know what what do I want and you start speaking life from that even when they still inside your belly yeah and even before we birthed this uh we spent a lot of time in in the place of prayer so I can't wait to see what this podcast does I want it to be so impactful to change people's lives to give them a perspective to make people laugh entertainment um perspective uh Direction Awards tours yeah I can't wait for that because I know it's going to happen and it's possible yeah yeah so thank you for being my co-host yeah in life real husband and wife team awesome I love it I love it and as we wrap up I want to wish all mothers happy Mother's Day thank you happy Mother's Day happy Mother's Day to all the mothers who are watching us uh we appreciate you uh and more specifically I want to wish a happy Mother's Day to every first time mother first time I know it's not easy I know trying to figure things out we've heard our story um uh and you've had the the support of your husband being there to fast time mothers who've not had any support any help anyone around to do anything and you've still soldiered on to raise your child we celebrate you yeah and especially those who who are also overwhelmed because the the amount of advice you get the amount of don't do this do this it can be very overwhelming so to any know navigating that as well happy Mother's Day you are the best mom for that child and I celebrate you yeah yeah thank you for joining us we hope you've picked something we've had so much fun I think uh we we're finding something new also to do yeah um together so um and we hope to take you on this journey with us share subscribe uh hit the notification Bell yes to get notifications every time we upload a new video and until next time it's been Pete and Julie see you real [Music]

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Published: Wed May 15 2024