Jordan Peterson's Secret to Overcome Chaos within Yourself | Brain Bar

thank you very much for coming it's a pleasure to see you all here braving the weather and the rain to come and listen to this discussion it is the first time that Budapest Hungary gets a presentation from you what struck you about this part of the world well it's a wonderful thing for someone of my generation to see an entire country re-emerge into freedom and out of the horrible catastrophe of the 20th century and to see you reclaim your proper destiny as a as individuals and as a country and to build something rebuild something let's say magnificent you have an adventure in front of you that's calling to you to allow you to do that and I hope that you participate in that full heartedly and that you have not only great success with that but the kind of success that calls out to the rest of the world it would be something wonderful to aim at since you now have a second chance and thank God for that you have a magnificent City and an incredible history and a remarkable unique culture and an educated population and hope for the future and I hope you make the best possible use of that we could all use it so more power to you as far as I'm concerned [Applause] well it is safe to say that most of people who are here and attending your talk all of you but not everyone does how do you deal with hatred if you read the newspapers at certain of the newspapers you know I've been attacked in the way that people who don't hold politically correct views are generally attacked I've been called a variety of appropriate negative names and I've had people go after my career and my reputation in the relatively serious manner but that's not my life you know my life is in some sense unimaginably positive well first of all I've gone to about 150 cities in the last year with my wife which has been quite a remarkable adventure and in each of the cities I spoken at theatres that hold between two and five thousand people to huge crowds and they're extraordinarily positive the people who are there like like the people who are here are responding in an exceptionally positive manner they're paying very close attention they come for very important reasons as far as I'm concerned I mean I talk about very serious things you know I believe very firmly that we each have a divine responsibility and I don't think that there's a more fundamental truth than that I believe that that's as as literally true as anything can be I think you all know that because if you don't act in a manner that's in accordance with your conscience if you don't do the things that you're supposed to do or if you failed to do the things if you fail to do the things you're supposed to do or if you do things that you're not supposed to do your conscience tortures you and tells you that you're not acting in accordance with the central spirit of your being and I'm attempting to explain to people that the West is predicated on the idea in some sense that we co-create reality as individuals each of us and that there's suffering to overcome and there's malevolence to constrain in your own heart and in the hearts of other people and in the social structures and that if you don't stand up and adopt that responsibility then you leave the world lesser and more cruel and harsh than it has to be and I believe that the notion that the West developed over thousands of years of the sovereign individual the individual has the right to vote right who has the right to make their political Creed and statement known we developed that idea because we realized we understood that it was true and I go around the world and I talk to people about the fact of suffering in life and the fact of malevolence in life and the fact that you need a destiny and a calling that justifies the trouble of the world and you find that in the pursuit of responsibility and everyone understands that they know that deeply in their heart and it's inescapable you will torture yourself if you do not live up to that and if you do live up to it then things work if you want what's better for you not in the selfish manner but in the that's better for you and better for your family and better for your country and you envision that you can have it and you can have it by aiming at it and you can have it by telling the truth because the truth is what makes the world go around and it's not a metaphysical statement it's as true a statement as anything we've ever discovered you know and behind us we have this great building and you have a picture of Christ over the doorway as a representation of all that's great all that's divine and the beginning of time according to the Gospel versions of the structure of the world when God made the world he made it with truthful speech and humans are made in that image and you all know that when you engage in truthful speech when you say what you have to say when you do what you say that you would do that everything around you works out better but if you don't do that you make things worse you you leave a hole in the structure of reality that could be filled by the destiny of your spirit and what fills that void is something hellish and if you don't understand that after the last hundred years of your history then you don't understand anything about history at all and and we're all in this as as divine loci of consciousness and if we make our ethical choices properly then we put the world together better than it can be and that's what you have that's the meaning in your life to pursue that in the most diligent manner you possibly can people have asked me if I believe in God you know and it's a question I don't like I think it's presumptuous and I thought about that very deeply and the reason that I think it's presumptuous is because I would never dare to claim that because I believe that if you had that belief if you believed that the world was governed by an ethical structure and that it was up to you to partake in that fully that you would do everything in your power at every second to put your life together I don't believe I'm capable of doing that and everyone falls short of that but that's what we aim at we aim at the ideal because what else are we going to aim at and aiming at the ideal that gives us the meaning of our life and we need a meaning because life is very difficult and without that sustaining meaning like without that belief that you're partaking in something of vital importance to put yourself together to see who you could be to organize and bring together your family and to make everything you possibly can of your state then you don't have what you need in order to live properly and I've been telling people that everywhere in the world and they're responding with exceptional positivity and although the press is on my case very frequently and in some sense I have a bad reputation because of it my day-to-day life is not like that at all because when I walk down the street people approach me all the time dozens of people a day and they tell me very straightforwardly that their life was difficult that they were in some small corner of hell that they were not telling the truth that they had no vision for their life that they were nihilistic that they were wasting their time that they were hopeless and that they developed some sort of overarching vision and started to tell the truth and to serve themselves as if they were valuable creatures and to make peace in their family and to work at their career job diligently and honestly and that everything has become much better as a consequence and so the press issue is irrelevant because I have hundreds of people are thousands of people who are telling me on a regular basis no matter where I go like here that life has improved because they've started to put into practice the principles that I have not so much originated but at least I'm trying to transmit which we can't forget this we're sovereign individuals we have an ultimate ethical responsibility and we all share it equally it's a strange thing you know because it's one person who saves the world but that person is you and it's a strange thing that it can be one person who saves the world and then at the same time it happens to be you and so it doesn't matter what the Press says what matters to me is that there are more and more people who are doing what they can to grow up and to adopt responsibility for the suffering of the world and the malevolence of the world and to set things straight and to learn that that's the essential core of their being and to stand proudly and forthrightly and lay that claim out in the world [Applause] you are advocating strongly for people to be leaders for for people to be responsible in your way of arguing for people having conscious these individuals you're in direct opposition to lots of figures in history please pick your favorite that you would love to debate well I tried to debate slab Boise Shack but it turned out that he wasn't as much of a Marxist as he had claimed her at least that's how it turned out I don't know if there's a specific person that I would like to debate it's a more of a metaphysical debate I would say I'm attempting constantly to debate the part of myself and the part of other people that tends towards despair and then vengeance and then cruelty no because I know that the people's lives are very difficult and often almost impossibly difficult and I understand that that can turn people against being against themselves against their neighbors against their friends and that's the great debate that characterizes humanity and so that's the debate that I'm engaged in the question is is whether our ability to act forthrightly and honestly and the aim upward is sufficient to overcome the tragedy and malevolence of life and I would say that's the great adventure of your life to find out if that's true and that's the debate that I've been engaged in for many many years and I do believe fundamentally in the strength of human beings I'm a positively inclined to human beings I don't believe that we're a cancer on the planet I don't believe that we pose an apocalyptic threat to the structure of the world I believe that with good will and intelligence and clear vision and the tension and will that we can solve any problem that come our way and that we can make things continually better and the debate that I'm engaged in is with all those people who don't believe that that's true and who feel that it would be better if there were fewer of us and that fundamentally were an aberration in the natural world I don't believe that I have sympathy for people our lives are very difficult we're mortal and we're fragile and we suffer and we make mistakes along the way and we make a bit of a mess along the way you know it's only been 50 years since we recognized ourselves as a planetary force a collective that was capable of perhaps affecting the the biological structure of the planet on a planetary basis I think we're doing everything we can as fast as we can to fix that in every possible way it's not like it's a tractable problem it's extraordinarily difficult and I see people what fighting against insurmountable odds to make things better that's the adversarial force that I'm trying to debate you know that there's a force for good and that there's a force for evil and that those war inside of us and it's the force that wants to make things worse out of spite and resentment and jealousy and hatred and cruelty that I'm trying to debate and I'm trying to provide people with the courage to presume that if they have the willingness to look upward beyond the horizon and to dare to say what they believe and to dare to act out what they know to be good that that will in fact prevail and I believe that the degree that we've had the success that we have in the West which is being checkered obviously and which has been characterized by its fair share of backsliding and terror the reason that we've made the progress that we have had and had the positive effect that we have experienced is because people have managed that in their courage and their diligence and so that's the force that I'm arguing against that horrible destructiveness that characterized so much of the 20th century that if we're wise enough we might be able to avoid repeating dr. Pearson you might sense that you're radiating wisdom no I radiate desperation and maybe that's wisdom but the question is where do you get that wisdom what books for exact error terror it's true it's absolutely true I spend a lot of time studying what happened in the 20th century and you see when I read history I never read it as a victim and I never read it as a hero I read it as a perpetrator and that's the appropriate way to read it all of the terrible things that happened in Europe in the 20th century were very widespread the probability that had you been there and some of you were that you were participating in the terror was overwhelming you weren't victim or hero you were active participant and I read my 20th century history as if I would have been one of the people perpetrating the crimes and I thought is it possible to conduct your life so that if the temptation emerged for you to become a perpetrator that you would have the moral fortitude to reject it and you make those decisions every day in small ways these things don't come upon you in great waves they come across you in small moral decisions that you're constantly making and it's up to you to be awake awake and to see that you're staying on the proper track and to understand myself as a perpetrator was to terrify myself about the possibility of being human and what that meant in a general sense and then to attempt to be straightened out by that knowledge enough so that I can find something that approximated an alternative route and I do believe we know the alternative route I do believe that I think it's well captured in the Sermon on the Mount as a matter of fact you need to envision the best you you have to want that and that's very difficult because we're hurt and we're disappointed and we're betrayed and we're fragile and it's very difficult to want the best under those circumstances you have to garner the moral courage to be grateful and to work for the betterment of the world and then as I said before you have to tell the truth and the consequence of not doing that is to lead everything down the wrong path and the wrong path is a very dark and deep and terrible path and so even if you can't believe in the good which can be very difficult I think you have to be historically ignorant beyond moral acceptability not to believe in the evil that you're capable of and to do everything you possibly can to constrain that and I do believe that that's within your power I'm hoping we we wake up we don't repeat the crimes of the 20th century and that we move properly into a future that's better and better for all of us and I do believe that not only can we do that that it's actually happening if you look at the macroeconomic news around the world things are getting better for people all over the world everywhere in the poorest countries faster than they ever have in recorded history and we have the opportunity to continue that and to make something magnificent of what we in front of us and I would say you Europeans have done a remarkable job of that I mean I love coming here your cities are so beautiful and so carefully constructed and so livable and so magnificent it's why people make pilgrimages here from all over the world it's why you're swamped with tourists because people come here and they see the beauty and the grandeur and the nobility of the most positive part of your vision and you have that here as an example and you can live up to that and and it works that's what I'm hoping will happen we're at a technological crisis in some sense things are going to change so rapidly in the next 20 years that no one can foresee it and in order for us to manage that properly we're all going to have to be as wise as we can possibly be because things could go very very well and they could go very very badly and it's going to be up to each of us to decide which direction that's going to take I had a vision at one point you know I had a vision that I went to paradise it was a vision like the vision of Gilgamesh and when I was in paradise I discovered the secret of immortality and I tried to bring it back and like Gilgamesh I lost it on the way and it was a terrible moral failing as far as I was concerned that I had this in my hand and could communicate it and then it disappeared and then I realized that this isn't something that any one person does that movement towards the betterment of things isn't the role of one person it's the role of every person and so I'm hoping we can wake up we can understand the fundamental metaphysics of our underlying belief systems we can understand the idea that the world truly does exist properly within the domain of love and which I believe to be fully true and that it's incumbent upon us to accept that and to and to act it out well and so I guess that's the answer to that question [Applause] you know you used to cure the world in little pieces step by step as a practicing private psychologist when was the last time someone just from the street an ordinary human had a chance to be treated by you well I guess it depends on what you mean by treated well what happens to me it's very overwhelming and I think it's part of the reason I have a variety of reasons to be over emotional unfortunately but one of them is that I have these strange experiences that I don't know what to do with imagine then you can have what you wanted you know if you if you really thought deeply about what you wanted and maybe what you would want is that people appreciated what you did you know what on a large scale and wherever I go now people come up to me and they tell me something very private you know they tell me about the situation they were in six months ago or the situation they were in a year ago and the fact that their job wasn't going well and perhaps they weren't putting in the proper effort because they despised their occupation or they felt arrogant in relationship to it or they were fighting with her father or they hadn't put their family together properly or they were living a dissolute existence or as I said they were hopeless and nihilistic and they've been attempting to rectify that by attending to the dictates of their conscience which is something you can get better and better out as you practice you know your conscience isn't perfect you have to engage in a dialogue with it to guide you and they come up and they tell me this and then they tell me that things are much better you know one that they're they've married their girlfriend and that they now have a child and that they've had three promotions and that they've reconciled their relationship with their father and it's very overwhelming these are twenty second interactions they're very private and it's hard to know how to cope with them because they're very short but very deep conversations and I would say well those constitute treatments you know what someone can come and tell you something extraordinarily one here's of rule I haven't written about this the rule is be careful who you tell good news to you want to tell good news to someone who's happy that something has worked out for you who isn't contrasting it with something good that's happened to them but who can look at you and think thank god you're in a better position than you were and more power to you and people trust me to tell me good things that have happened to them and it's absolutely overwhelming it's so positive it's so unbelievable and it happens everywhere and it's extraordinarily hardening but almost in some sense impossible to tolerate because it took so little encouragement you know for people to make an effort to put themselves together and I can't understand why this isn't more widespread I don't understand why what I've been lecturing about and what I've been writing about has had this effect on encouraging people it's a mystery to me I mean it has something to do I suppose with the power of with my conviction about the power of truth but it's so sad in some sense that there's so many thousands of people out there who are literally dying for a word of encouragement for someone to tell them in some believable manner that there's far more to them than meets the eye and that their characteristic of great things they have the capability of great things and it's lying there in front of them in the form of the true and all they have to do is have the faith to implement that and the courage and then things start to straighten and so that's treatment if you love someone you love a child you love your sister or friend you don't tell them to deal with the world in a deceitful manner you don't tell them to lie to everyone that they meet and to do everything that they possibly can in the most crooked of possible manners you encourage them to be who they could be and to take on the world forthrightly and that works and we all need to know that and we all need to put the faith of our life in that to bet our lives on it your you have to bet your life on something you're always betting your life on something you're always making a commitment to something you make a commitment to the truth and everything straightens out and so the treatment continues on a moment-to-moment basis and it seems to be working and that's a miracle as far as I'm concerned and I don't really know how to fathom it and I don't understand why it's had the effect its had I guess we're in desperate need of the re-creation of that ethos it's the ethos upon which the foundations of our society are established so [Music] well what say we extend that treatment to some particular members of the audience now what about opening dr. Peterson's private practice here in Budapest dr. Peterson please come forward and take my seat brain bar has invited members of the audience to have the most pressing problems and questions of their lives solved by dr. Peterson in one minute in one minute please join me on stage pleasure see I never do this in my practice so tell me doctor how do I get my mind to switch between the different areas of responsibilities in my life sharply and efficiently sometimes at 4:15 I am still at work and at 4:30 I'm already at the playground dealing with my four-year-old child's danger seeking tendencies do you have a comprehensive plan for the next three or four years well I'm trying to be the best father patient and attentive and basically I'm trying one moment at a time and you told me earlier today that your career has been going well it's that you could have a new family exactly so what makes you think you have a problem I think my problem is really that when I'm with my daughter sometimes I'm preoccupied with the topic that stuck with me from work and I'm not always as patient as attentive as I want to be and I'm still aiming higher every time I lose focus I feel a bit bad about it well I would say that you have already solved your problem in some fundamental sense because the best that you can hope for is that you can try to be better and better and you have many years ahead of you to straighten yourself out and I would say with the continued desire to make things better and the continued desire to regulate your priorities then you'll get better and better and better at doing that you know already that you have to pay attention to your wife you know already that you have to pay attention to your daughter who will grow up far faster than you think you know that you have to do a good job of your career and your your challenge is to balance those things but from what I've been able to understand you are in fact managing that so I guess one of the things I would suggest is that you give yourself a little bit more credit for what you've already managed and treat yourself with a little bit more kind and I would say congratulations on your achievements I'm going to break a rule yes because I'd like to see you I feel like I've been identified with my pain so when I'm feeling good I'm just telling myself that no you're not supposed to like there is something in the back of your head which is telling you that there is always something to worry about so even if I feel good there is a voice telling that no no no like how dare you feel good okay well I guess there would be two issues that might be at stake there the first question is do you believe that it would be morally acceptable for you to feel good you know like in Chapter two of my book I suggested that you take care of yourself like someone you care for and that's a difficult thing to do because people are very hard on themselves you know we're very cognizant of our own flaws and it isn't obvious that we deserve peace and that we deserve tranquility that may be possible for you to practice allowing yourself to enjoy those moments of freedom and relief from anxiety that you do have also what would you say solid in the knowledge that you need to have that kind of break so that you can in fact deal with the problems that are going to confront you if you were discussing this with someone else you would tell them to be kinder to themselves with regards to the short opportunities they have to enjoy some peace and some pleasure and that might be worth practicing because if it comes your way then take advantage of it because there'll be plenty of misery coming your way as well [Music] [Applause] my question is as I train to become an organization of psychologists what is an advice you could give me regarding working with very different people pay attention pay attention the time that you spend with your clients is theirs and you want to listen to everything that they're saying and you want to watch them very carefully you make a pact with your client okay here's the pact there's something wrong we don't know what it is we're going to collaboratively discover what it might be we're going to work towards improving it in some manner that we both agree on we're going to test the improvements to see if they work and we're going to make your life better over a three-year period and you can do that it works and you do that by attending you don't want to be thinking too much about where you're headed you don't want to be too worried about the effect that you're having on your client you want to pay careful and close attention you want to have the interests of what's best about that person firmly uppermost in your mind there's an idea in psychotherapy that you should have unconditional positive regard for people and I don't believe that I believe that you should have unconditional positive regard for the part of the person that is striving forward and have the ability to have sympathy for the part that's not you know to accept that but not to consider it your ally or your friend you work collaboratively to help the person put their life together and make things better and then you leave it when you're done because drowning yourself and the problems of your clients is not helpful to you or to them it's their destiny and not your load you can't take your clients problems that's their life but you can do a lot to help them and to guide them forward best of luck you've mentioned in your book that you've done some work with lawyers as a law student how can I prepare for the competitiveness of the legal field how can I avoid becoming disillusioned with my future job I've known many lawyers and I wouldn't say that they're the happiest true that I've ever encountered it's a very difficult job some people enjoy it but it's a minority but you know look many jobs like that you get paid to do things that you wouldn't otherwise do what jobs are difficult make sure you balance your life now I'll give you a couple of concrete pieces of advice you need a relationship you need a family and you have to be able to spend time with them it balances your life out but I would also say that one of the things that happens to people in professional careers is that they have a tremendous amount of infinite demand on their time daily no matter how hard you work you will never catch up and that's that's very stressful and strenuous and it goes along with having a complex job but you can schedule longer breaks in the future you can take four days off you can take five days off and you can recuperate and you can spend it with your family and the consequence of that will be that your productivity will increase rather than decrease because you need the break I haven't seen with lawyers in particular that can they can shorten their days and often they can't shorten their weeks the workload is too high but they can schedule long weekends multiple times a year into the future and that's often enough to give them something to look forward to and enough to have them spend some time with her family and enough for them to recharge and yeah I spend much time training to become a professional athlete to surpass my brother who was an Olympian in the past but then again I decided to choose a different path so that I may step out of his shadow my question is how can i combat my compulsion to conform to his achievement and carve out the path of my own it's the wrong comparison first of all I mean the fact that your brother was a high achieving person is something Noble and worthy of emulation but he's not you you have your own destiny but how old are you 20 20 you need to spend time consulting with your own conscience and with the people around you to decide what it is that you are particularly gifted at and good at and aiming at and to understand that the mere fact that he's your brother isn't relevant to you except in a peripheral manner you know you can think of him as a good role model for for discipline that's exactly I mean and then that discipline can be applied in all sorts of directions but you're under no obligation to out wit his achievements I would also suggest that that's probably something that's rooted very deeply in your past and that one of the things that you might consider is writing down in great detail when you started to believe that it was necessary for you to compete with your brother and to come up with counter arguments for why that's not necessarily the case that's going to be a long list though well it could be a very long list I mean you have a genuine problem because you have someone in your family who's a super achiever but obviously this let's say obsession or problem has been with you for a very long time and it's possessing your life and that's not good because what that means is that you're possessed by the spirit that animates your brother and not possessed by your own spirit there's no reason to assume that your lesser even if you're different and so you need to go back into your past you need to meditate and to find out when you made this decision and to take it apart it's not like you would take some random person your age on the street and say look you have to compete with my brother and so there's no reason to assume that that is the necessary destiny for you and that there's no reason to assume that you're a failure if you can't manage the particular tasks that he managed given that there are so many potential pathways to success and the risk bitterness as well because you're not him but that's okay you know because you could be whoever you are who knows what that might be there's a world of possibility outside his realm of achievement that you have an opportunity to explore so go back and find out back and find out what happened it might have been from when you were very very young and that you're still carrying that with you and you need to let that go and dispense with it so that it's no longer a concern so that's what I would recommend [Applause] hello I am Peter very nice to see you I work as a social media manager and I'm facing a lot of hatred from the users at the comments section and my question is how can I separate myself from them in order to not get insane eventually so give me a little more information so what kind of comments are you facing it's usually about the company like you should go to hell because you know doing stuff and it's really sad for me because a lot of people yes well the problem is is that people often only respond in situations like that when they're extremely irritated and annoyed and so you're in the unfortunate position of seeing people at they're impulsive worse on a chronic basis what proportion of the messages that you receive are negative maybe 90% whoa oh man that's really separate myself yeah yeah how is the company doing pretty well actually okay so that's something to consider right because what's happening is that you happen to be the repository of everything that's negative that's coming up about the company I would seriously recommend that you find someone to talk to because customer service of that nature is an extraordinarily draining endeavor and you're going to have to learn to dissociate yourself personally from the comments if you're a decent person and there are people constantly complaining at you you're going to assume naturally that there's something wrong with you because you know if a hundred people line up at your doorstep and they all tell you that you're a terrible son of a bitch there's a reasonable probability that it's true but if your but if you're on social media and 100 people tell you that you have no idea what it means because it could be a hundred people out of a hundred thousand and completely meaningless in terms of its relevance to you and so I would say for the sake of your career longevity then you should find a coach or a therapist that you can talk to because you have a serious situational problem that people do not know how to deal with and you're going to have to learn like a psychologist learns to detach yourself from the personal effect of the messages that you're receiving and that's taken a substantial amount of learning and I would say that having some help with that would be beneficial it's too hard on your mental health otherwise and you may also have to find other things to do that expose you to the positive parts of humanity because you're definitely being exposed to the negative parts right and so best of luck to you thank you very many there needs to be three very much well I already know what your problem is hello Doctor hello lovely suit lovely to see you thank you very much thank you for going to all the trouble for this man yeah well to tell you the truth I can't really seem to find the balance the right balance between my work and my my personal life I mean I mean with the big fishes so to say and okay so now it's actually true I can't seem to find the right balance I work too hard to play too hard I try to try to you know be at a hundred percent of every aspect of my life and I can't really seem to find a balance and I always keep falling off the wagon for some reason and then when you say you fall off the wagon what do you mean that you're too involved in what you're doing that you're working too hard yeah I'm basically shutting down all the other all the other aspects of my life to focus on one right and what aspects are you tending to shut down is it no station with your wife yeah most okay look here's what you don't want okay you don't want a 10-year divorce with a custody battle no I'm definitely not that's not going to do your career any good you need to sit down with your wife and you need to decide jointly what the minimum amount of time there is that you need to spend together per week and per month in order for your relationship to function in the long run now my experience has been that to keep a marital relationship going you need to talk for 90 minutes a week about the domestic economy about the structures of your life and you need to spend at least one period of time per week in a romantic interlude a date and more likely to and if you go below that then things will deteriorate but your best bet is to negotiate with your wife and to make a plan and you may fall off it you may fall off the plan but that's okay when you fall off it you get back on it and so you ask her and you ask yourself it's like what's the minimum amount of time that we have to spend together in order to ensure that our relationship constitutes the form of solid foundation that will not only serve us as individuals and to give our life some pleasure but also to serve your career because the thing is is that if you allow your personal relationships especially your intimate relationships to go by the wayside it will affect detrimental e everything that you do so it's much better to face that head-on into and to really work out a plan with her that's akin in some sense to a business plan a marriage is a contractual relationship that's negotiated as well as something that spontaneous and loving there are minimum commitments that you have to bring to the relationship in order for it not to degenerate one thing you might want to do to help you scare yourself into doing this properly is to imagine very deeply exactly what would happen if your relationship deteriorated into the kind of hell that relationships can deteriorate into that's not future that you that a sensible person would want to bring onto themselves if you set aside the time for your family and for your wife and for time for yourself what will happen is that your career will develop faster and more efficiently there will be zero loss in it with the professionals that I've worked out the the ones that are obsessive and work too hard become more productive when they make a plan to back off and balance their life and its long term decades-long sustainability that you're attempting to accomplish and your wife should be able to help you govern that so that's what I would recommend [Applause] [Music] [Applause] [Music] 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"... We co-create reality, as individuals, each of us! And that there's suffering to overcome, and malevolence to constrain, in your own heart and in the hearts of other people, and in the social structures. And if you don't stand up and adopt that responsibility, then you leave the world lesser and more cruel and harsh than it has to be."