Jordan Peterson: Women want/need Real men not Boys

there's a sacrificial element in maturation right you have to sacrifice the plural potentiality of childhood for the actuality of a frame and the question is well why would you do that well one reason is it happens to you whether you do it or not you can either choose your damn limitation or you can let it take you unaware when you're 30 or even worse when you're 40 and then that is not a happy day and you see I see people like this and I think it's more and more common in our culture because people can put off maturity without suffering an immediate penalty but all that happens is the penalty accrues and then when it finally hits it just Wallops you because when you're 25 you could be an idiot it's no problem even when you're out in a job search it's like well you don't have any experience and you're kind of clueless yeah yeah you're young you know it's no problem we can that's what young people are like but they're full of potential okay well now you're the same person at 30 it's like people aren't so thrilled about you at that point it's like what the hell have you been doing for the last ten years well I'm just as clueless as I was when I was 22 yeah but you're not 22 you're an old infant right and that's an ugly thing an old infant so the raised part of the reason you choose your damn sacrifice because the sacrifice is inevitable but at least you get to choose it and then there's something that's that's even more complex than that in some sense is that the problem with being a child is that all you are is potential and its really low resolution you could be anything but you're not anything so then you go and you adopt an apprenticeship roughly speaking and then you become at least you become something and when you're something that makes the world open up to you again you know like if you're a really good plumber then you end up being far more than a plumber right you end up being a good employer not not that plumbers I'm not putting plumbers down it's like more power to Explorer's they've saved more lives than doctors so hygiene right so you know if you're a really good plumber well then you have some employees you run a business you you you make you you train some other people you enlarge their lives you're kind of a pillar of the community you you have your family it's you can once you pass through that narrow training period which narrows you and constricts you and develops you at the same time then you can come out the other end with a bunch of new possibility at hell at hand and Jung talked about that he thought that the proper part of the proper path of development in the last half of life was to rediscover the child that you left behind as you were apprentice it and so then you get to be something and regain that potential at the same time very very smart well he was very very smart so that's very wise very wise thing to know so yep sacrifice we'll talk more about that too you get to pick your damn sacrifice that's all you don't get to not make what your sacrificial whether you want to be or not that's a good thing to know as well so even though it's rather you know it's rough thing to figure out you can go to university to not be something instead of going to university to be something and and that's its Pleasure Island and the price you pay for it especially in the u.s. is debt and your enticed into it because the administrators can pick your pocket so they they rob your future self while allowing you to pretend that you have an identity right very nasty and you can't declare bankruptcy with your student loans in the u.s. it's indentured servitude and it is play it's precisely Pleasure Island it's exactly that and so tuition fees have shot way out of control and part of the reason that universities don't make more demands on their students and let them get away with all the things they let them get away with is because they're basically why the hell would you chase them out there are $100,000 or more so they can do whatever they want as long as you get to sell them to the salt mines right so and that you know it's not the only reason because the other thing that's happened is that the rate of technological transformation is so fast now and the rate of turnover of things is that it's it is genuinely harder for people who are say 18 to 20 when I was a kid roughly speaking the kind of rough patch for four for life is probably 14 to 17 something like that now it's I think it's 18 to 25 something like that and I think the reason for that is is that all the jobs that the bloody hippies complained about being doomed to in the 1960s have now disappeared their problem was oh my god I'm going to go have to work for a corporation and get a salary for the rest of my life you know and then I'll just end up in it with a pension and that'll be my whole life it's like well it seems like a lot better deal than an endless round of part-time Starbucks jobs so you know some of it is that it's it's just it's it's there's a space now in our culture that that is lacking for people to make that transformation from from adolescence into adulthood and so it's just it's it's the cost of that is for stalled it's not a good thing it's not a good thing anything that they're seeing this lower maturation or this her saying that this person's got a degree from U of T but I've heard about things and birthday well there's a couple of problems with the degrees is that everyone has one that's the first one which is so because scarcity matters obviously the second thing is is that the match between the degree in the work place has become less and less self-evident you know what should happen when you go to university is you should learn how to think and formulate arguments you should learn to think speak and write that's what the humanities are for there to make you dangerous right because if you can think and speak and write you're deadly in a complex job you're exactly what's necessary but if you don't have that it's like what the hell good is the degree so I mean degree in English literature doesn't prepare you for a job it could make you think write and speak which prepares you for any complex job and that's what's supposed to happen but increasingly I think that doesn't happen and the employers are waking up to this very rapidly so and they're i mean they've already known that most for most complex positions they have to train their people now they're thinking well why do I have to bother with the degree if I'm going to train them if it isn't bringing anything of value you see this and even it feels like law they also seem to be tightly selected for the capacity to cooperate and compete so that multiplies our cognitive ability that's a huge part of it and then we're also we also seem to have constructed ourselves so to speak through sexual choice into these general problem general purpose problem-solving creatures and so we've internalized some of the Darwinian process so you think well most animals will produce variants of themselves physically and then most of those variants die but human beings have built a lance built a mechanism let's say that's like a game engine I think that's a really good you know how there are game engines now that people have devised there they're computational devices and you can take a game engine and you can generate games with it like computer games so the game is a mechanism for producing games well that's what our brains are like our brains are game engines for producing games and so what happens is that when you think you produce an avatar of yourself you produce a fictional world in that that avatar inhabits and maybe you produce multiple fictional worlds and multiple avatars that's the you that could be tomorrow which is what you're doing when you're planning and you walk the avatar through its potential routes and those that look good you keep and those that don't look good you kill and so you can then you can embody the ideas that you keep and act those out and hopefully the idea is that when you embody them you're successful and you don't get killed and so we're select we've also select that when we've been selecting each other for cognitive prowess we've been selecting ourselves for the ability to generate avatars out of ourself and kill them instead of dying it's unbelievably brilliant and and that's really akin to the human discovery of the future right the future is a place where variants of you could exist it's something like that and other animals don't seem to be able to do that so we're very sneaky and well so far it doesn't seem to be working too badly although we haven't been around for very long right I mean human beings of our particular subspecies about a hundred and fifty thousand years something like that which is from an evolutionary time frame it's like it's nothing you know it's 2,000 80 year old men it's not very long

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Length: 9min 19sec (559 seconds)

Published: Sat Feb 10 2018