I'm 50 years old Japanese man and am really worried about my future. What should I do?

hi today I would like to talk about my feeling I'm really worried about my future and I don't know what should I do I'm 50 years old a typical Japanese office worker so the reason why I I'm feeling I'm really worried about my future is this so this is my chat some explaining myself so I'm 50 years old now I just turned 50 years old now the other day I I know that many of you may say I'm I look like younger than actual age but I'm I really I'm I am I am 50 years old so I'm old I'm old even though yeah you know actually the 50 years old for Japanese people it's actually medium medium age so because of the you know the Japanese Society is aing aing society and becoming becoming older and older the average medium age has been 50 years old so I'm I think I'm representing the typical Japanese middleaged man in here in Japan and I'm 50 years old so and then as I posted in another video explaining my situation I have 28 years more that I have to pay I have to keep payment of the my home loan my home motag is I have 28 years from now on so my home loan will finish will be finished when I um when I will be 78 years old 78 years old unbelievable meaning I will have to walk until I finish my home room because this is another concern big concern my kids are really very young so my old my my oldest son turned just 80 years old he's just 80 years old second third grade of Elementary School in Japan and my youngest daughter she is just four years old she hasn't started her school life in elementary school yet he is still in the noring school school and then she she had just started her new school life in ning school so again as I explained my situation in another video so I I am much older than the average of the father of 4 years old because she was born when I was 46 years old my although my wife is younger than me I think 8 years younger than me so she's okay but me I don't see any father like my age in the Kinder Garten in nursing school of my daughter so in April there was a entrance ceremony with the kindergarten the new school new school year so Japan always in in in Japan uh you know new school year start from April so that's why she had and we actually we attended the entrance ceremony of her Kinder gardien and when I looked at fathers the other the the the other kids fathers they are young they look they look very very young younger than me of course I think maybe they are in the middle of like a 30s the most of them look look like 30s and some of them look like maybe just about 40s but I don't I didn't see any fathers look like 50s even though I you know I know I I I I may look like I may look younger than the actual age but the reality is I'm 50 years old and my kids are still very very young so meaning if I forget about home alone still I have to walk I have I have to keep walking until maybe she will become 20 years old so 16 years old 16 year additional 16 years I have to walk at least this is the I think me now I'm healthy in in in in terms of the health in terms of the physical and in terms of the me mental even though I posted weird title you know video uh who the the video's title is I'm my life is so boring but I'm I'm I'm okay I'm I I I haven't I haven't been you know suffering from the like mental mental health Mental Illness but mental disease and I I I don't have any depression I'm mentally and physically I'm okay so this is not my concern but uh younger kids are my second biggest concern following by homeone 208 years old with 288 28 years more and also I have mother she is 81 years old this is my another get going s so I have a big brother one big brother and uh actually we me and my brother decided to put my mother into Care Center Care Home Care Home Care residence in Japan so she is now living in care you know Care Center Care Living K Care Home Care residence I don't know how to say properly so because before we put into put into our mother into the Care Center she was really bad position really in in the she she became mentally disase you know she was depressed she was suffering uh deeply the the you know the depression when she uh when she turned 72 or 73 years old after after 5 years our father died actually she became she became the mentally the disease in a depression so that's why me and my brother decided to put my mother our mother into Care Center Care home so and then she has been living there I think for five years so her condition has been improving I think but uh as you can imagine we have to take care and especially my brother my brother has to take care everything even though they didn't they don't live together but my brother is living near the Care Center where my mother is living so this this is another biggest concern my mother and also I have mother and father in rooll my wife is brother my my wife's parents they are living in a little bit far away from my house like a 3 hours by car and uh they are living a little bit in the countryside not uh in a big town very Countryside and then my father in raw just retired his job and he has been focusing on his everything to the contribution to the his hometown to be one of the unprofitable the the chief the chief of chief chief I don't know how to say deputy chief oper operation Chief oper CFO CEO not CEO but that he has just become the leader of the one of the nonprofit organization of the local Town Country Side where he he has he has been living but he just Town 72 years old and my mother in raw has became 68 years old and my wife and me well have to take care them take care of them maybe near soon I don't know when but they are still healthy very healthy but uh we don't know when they become a little bit difficult to leave alone so we have to pay biggest attention to their condition health condition so another big big program so and then back to my my career and uh I have been working at current company for 10 years now and I I know I I I know that you know I understand that I don't have any hope to be promoted anymore because of my position and because of my career and because of the condition and environment everything I know a lot because I have been working 10 years and uh I don't see any future and you know people my in my age working at the similar company as I'm working now may get be get get to be promoted to become the director or like a chairman or you know very important positions but I I'm I'm I'm not I'm not working at the top top important position and I'm I'm not going to be promoted at there actually I don't want to become the directors or you know top leaders of the company so this is not my hope so I'm okay I'm okay but uh without the promotion I have no hope I have no hope I I I don't want to talk about the take our because you know if some my some of some of my colleagues uh watch my video and uh if she or he is pointing out that you know I'm I'm I'm making complaints but I'm not complain I'm not making any complaints against my I'm I'm happy with the the current job but uh I'm 50 years old now and I have been already working 10 years now I don't see any hope in it and actually maybe some of you may some of you may say like I should change my job but I don't have any compan other companies that I want to walk right now so that's a that's another problem I used to I used to have some hope to change my job to to change my career like three years ago or four years ago I thought that I should I would I would change my career I would change my job but uh I didn't actually and now it's it has been 10 years now and now I'm I'm I'm become I be I have I have been I I just became 50 years old now and then looking at the you know the the job opportunities 50 years old Japanese typical Japanese people who has nothing just nothing I only have the the marketing I'm I'm I'm in the marketing actually now and uh before marketing I have experience in sales representative 10 years so this is my career marketing 13 years and 10 years in sales represent and I'm not going to become sales representative again maybe I would like to focus on my career into marketing but 50 years old now and looking at the job opportunities and uh with my condition that I'm not the D director I'm I'm just a you know the the manager of the small group so this is not big enough for me to uh have the good opportunity better opportunities than current position current condition so my income level it's a little bit I think a little bit little bit above the aage so and I again I'm not I'm not going to make any complain complaint against my current position I'm happy with them in working now so I'm not making any complaints but uh uh looking at the you know other open positions uh for the other companies I don't I think I don't have any good opportunities for me so that's another problem so these are the many many concern these are the concerns I have now so that's why I don't see any bright future in next 10 years I don't know what should I what I should do next 10 years so please somebody can help me to come up with the good idea and good advice

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Published: Thu May 02 2024