ICED COFFEE TIME Q&A | baby plans, Disney job, leaving Florida, & dealing with insecurities 🤍

[Music] hello friends i hope you are well it is iced coffee time so you know where i'll be just right next to my espresso machine and today i thought it would be fun if we made some iced coffee together and then cozied up on the couch and i sit down and answer some questions i haven't done this in a while and i feel like it's such a fun way to kind of connect and just chat and kind of catch up so that is what i'm gonna do and today i'm gonna make an iced latte i feel like 95 of the time i make just an ice cold brew because it's so easy but the latte it's a little more in depth takes a little bit more work but it's so yummy so i'm gonna do that today i'm still gonna make brandon a cold brew i might give him a little bit of espresso so that's the plan [Music] so [Music] i'm always making a mess ice coffee time no matter what kind i make [Music] so [Music] [Applause] [Music] special delivery thank you all right let's cozy on up if you'd like to grab a beverage yourself and just get all settled in with me and we can chat so i wrote down a list of questions on this little notepad so i have 12 questions here and i feel like whenever i do q a videos i'm so rambly and i spend like 10 minutes on each question so i'm gonna try to kind of you know stay on task and not go on a million different tangents but no promises who knows what'll happen okay so number one the first question the question of the day okay when i posted this question and just asking for questions seriously 99 of the questions were about babies and having kids do we want to start a family how many kids do we want you know just wondering the timeline and everything i feel like since we got a dog people are like oh okay now they're definitely gonna have a baby next because that's just like you know the storybook you know um kind of timeline the classic timeline of what you do everything in um and we totally we 100 want kids like we are so excited for that and i actually told like a few of my friends that having palmer actually made me want kids more like he actually has given me baby fever in a sense because i've just felt so motherly towards him and i feel like it's just been so rewarding like training him and kind of raising him in a sense it's just like very rewarding and doing that with brandon and seeing brandon with palmer is just like the sweetest thing ever so it kind of has like given me more baby fever and i would say our timeline is ideally of course you can't just like plan this perfectly it's all up to god and god's timing and you know if you're able to get pregnant and everything um and who knows we could get pregnant next month on accident like who knows so you really don't know for sure but i feel like our ideal timeline would be like in a year or two years to start having kids um mainly honestly because i just kind of want to experience this season a bit more it's been so special for us to have so much freedom i mean even getting palmer like it has been such a big adjustment which i'll answer a bit more of that in a question later but we have so like little responsibility right now and when you have a kid and a baby like your whole life changes and it is such a huge lifestyle adjustment getting a dog is one thing but having babies and starting like you're human expanding your human family is like a whole other ballgame so i would like to kind of soak up this season a bit more and travel more we definitely like would love to do a few more big trips like overseas and stuff before having kids but who knows when we'll even be able to do that with everything with the pandemic so that kind of like has changed things a bit because we have family that would be open to watching our baby if we wanted to go on a trip but i feel like i couldn't just fully relax or enjoy myself knowing that i'm not with my baby or even taking a baby overseas that's like a whole different ordeal so that's a long-winded answer but basically yes we want kids we're so excited for that and so looking forward to that but also we're really just soaking up this season and really enjoying just just us and palmer now so that's been really special but i would say hopefully in the next one or two years we'll have a baby on the way that would be a dream come true so there you have it oh and someone asked how many kids do you want and i would say it's hard for me to say because i'm actually an only child so i grew up an only child and i'm always really interested in just people's family dynamic like if they grew up with a lot of siblings do they now want a lot of siblings or do they want less siblings like i find it interesting to see what other people want from their experience and for bni i feel like two or four is what we want something about an odd number of kids i don't know it makes me i feel like it should be an even number of kids so everyone has a little buddy if that makes sense that might be totally silly but that's kind of how i think about it um and i feel like four would be great but once i start having kids and you know our life changes so much i might be like okay maybe two is a better number for us so who knows and we're definitely open to adoption we'd probably like to foster kids as well and we're um we definitely like have prayed about adoption for a while and you know maybe one day when we're like older older like not bad old but you know 40 years old or something we could adopt a child who's older as well so like a teenager who still has is in the system and hasn't find found a family or forever home yet so we could support them and help raise them for the rest of the time and just like help kind of transition them into adulthood i don't know there's a lot of you know something like that you need to really pray about and think about for a long time i feel like just because it's such a big deal and you want to make sure you're ready for that so we'll see how it goes but i feel like if i just had to say a number of how many kids i see myself in with i would say four but again that might be very naive of me so we shall see okay next question challenges slash life changes with having a dog there's a lot it is such a huge responsibility and so much work especially if you get a puppy because puppies are just they're babies and they are baby animals so you need to train them you need to clean up after them you need to feed them you need to just take care of them the best that you can because they deserve it and i feel like it's just i never want you to think like it's always perfect with palmer like of course i show all his sweet moments and just like us being so cuddly and cute but there definitely are hard moments where i'm just like a little frustrated or just like a little overwhelmed because he doesn't speak my language i don't speak his language so it can be like such a challenge and i feel like you know training has its ups and downs but also just you know the lifestyle change as well as having this huge responsibility to care for but of course it's like completely worth it and he has been such an incredible and sweet addition to our family so we're so thankful for him but i never want you guys to think like getting a puppy is a small decision or it's just like all happy-go-lucky like it's just so easy and perfect like in the puppy just cuddles me all the time because that is not how it goes at all he just wants to play 24 7. so it takes a lot of energy and he just wants to tease right now so it's a lot but so so worth it so if you're thinking about it definitely pray about it and do your research before getting a dog but i'm through and through a dog person so i always think there's such a happy addition to your life and your family hi it's a couple hours after i started filming this or after i finished filming this q a i'm still sleeping on my coffee barely um but i forgot to answer one big question that i actually got quite a bit i totally just skipped over it but i wanted to talk about and talk about it so here i am i'm just gonna insert this in the q a i can't believe we forgot to talk about this crazy but the question is do you still work for disney and do you miss working for disney so if you don't know i worked for the walt disney company for five years so i first started working there when i was 17 years old i was a character performer so basically that means i played the role of a few different characters in walt disney world so i was okay it's gonna sound silly but for the character integrity because at disney they take the characters very seriously which is cute of course but you know they don't want you to ever say oh i was cinderella or oh i was pooh bear because you weren't pooh bear poo bears pooper you know what i mean um so i was friends with anna from frozen and rapunzel from tangled and chip and dale and pooh bear and that's pretty much it but it was super fun and i did that all throughout college um i was seasonal so i would just come and do it i only had to work 150 hours per year so i would come and do it on weekends and over holidays and stuff like that and it was pretty obtainable so i had so much fun with that and then once i graduated from college i actually worked with the talent acquisition marketing team and i was a social media and communications intern and i loved it i worked full time as an intern and then once my internship ended they allowed me to go part-time because i was doing youtube and it was starting to really take up a lot of time and i was a bit too stressed with working full-time and doing youtube full-time so i went part-time and i would work about like 30 hours a week and then as months went by i would work less and less i would keep telling my manager like hi i would love like i still love this job i love to support you all i love my work but i also like love creating youtube videos as well and i'd like to lessen my hours and they were always so flexible and so supportive and i'm just so thankful for that i also have like a lot of disney videos about that whole process and my experience um i have a whole playlist so i'll link that below if you're interested in like my disney career and want to watch old vlogs and whatnot but they were amazing and i actually left my role about a year ago so almost exactly a year ago it feels like a lifetime ago honestly um and do i miss it i honestly don't i adore disney with everything in me like i love disney ever since i started working for disney when i was 17 my love for it just grew so much i love disney i love going to disney and all that but with everything that happened last year in the pandemic it definitely has been kind of kind of a bittersweet place for me because so many of my co-workers and my mom even she works for disney but she's been furloughed she's been furloughed for almost a year now and unfortunately a lot of my friends who worked for disney were let go and laid off from their role which is just really devastating especially um if you don't work for disney or know much about it people who work for disney at least a good majority of them work for disney because they love disney and they love the company they love everything it stands for and it just brings a lot of joy into their lives and that's what it was for me too but it's just been kind of emotional because so many people close to me have really been hurt by everything that's happened like with their career and with disney so it's been rough and i haven't really been talking about it that much just because i mean i always want to be sensitive about other people's feelings towards it and it can definitely be kind of a pain point right now but the moral of the story is i'm so thankful for my experience and time with disney i it was definitely a dream come come true and perfect for that season but i definitely was ready to go when i went and i'm really hoping and praying that everything at disney will go back to normal soon and people can return to work and have their dream jobs back and all of that because that's definitely really heartbreaking but i adore disney and i'm so excited to take my kids there one day and if we do end up staying in um central florida i definitely plan on taking my kids there all the time like it's such a happy and beautiful place so yeah i couldn't i couldn't not answer that question but there's a little disney update next question how do you deal with jealousy slash insecurity so i feel like for the most part this is probably something that everyone kind of deals with or struggles with in different seasons of life and it's just again kind of like a natural thing but i think something that's really helped me is thinking about how silly it is to be jealous or insecure about something or jealous of someone because every single person on this planet has moments where they don't feel like they're satisfied or they're not enough or they're insecure or just are filled with doubts even when you are jealous of someone else just know that they have moments where they're jealous of someone else so it's just like this whole chain where people where this world is full of just like so many temptation to think to yourself that you're not enough and you're not worthy and you're not capable or what you have isn't good enough but you just have to like take a step back and get out of your thoughts and be like okay this is not true i actually am enough i am strong and i work hard and just think of all the qualities that you really like about yourself and all of the blessings in your in your life i know thankfulness and just trying to practice gratitude as much as you can will really really help with just your jealousy issues because once you realize all of the stuff that you have and all of the goodness in your life it's easy to kind of focus on that instead of being jealous of what other people have and for me i i believe in god and i believe in the gospel and i feel like in the bible there's so many circumstances that talks about this and talks about jealousy and insecurities and i feel like for me when i start to have those thoughts of feeling insecure or envious of someone i think to myself wait a second like this is the devil trying to get in my brain trying to steal my joy trying to take over my thoughts i am not gonna let him your mind is powerful so you really gotta take control of it but there will always be the temptation and the devil will and the evil of the world will always try to like invade your mind and tear you down and like make you feel those kind of grumpy thoughts but you just have to be like no stop it like i know jesus i know he's made me good enough strong enough beautiful enough all of those things and just try to focus it's honestly a minus set shift and even with all that being said i still have my days where i like fall into those kind of grumpy and negative thoughts just like everyone on this earth does but i think it's just really important to kind of stay on top of that and when you start to feel those thoughts invade your brain try to shut them down right away so yeah hopefully that makes sense i feel like i was just like saying the same thing over and over again but hopefully you got something out of that but that's basically how i've been dealing with that and again it's completely normal and i feel like there is some comfort in knowing that lots of other people deal with kind of those thoughts as well next question do you ever plan on leaving florida and i would say my short like moving out of florida so i would say my short answer is no but of course you never know what would happen but i am such a florida girl i absolutely love florida i love the weather and it's just such a great location we have beaches everywhere like on every which way every side um of us we have beaches and i love the ocean i love the beach i love water and we live by so much water and i'm so thankful for that so i don't really see and most of our family is here most importantly so family is a really big deal to us and especially once we do grow our family and start having kids we really do want to stay close to our family so i don't see us moving out of florida but one of our dreams like one of our big dreams would be to kind of live in other locations for a few months at a time or a few weeks at a time to like do kind of extended six day airbnbs or vacation rentals and just kind of like settle into a certain location for a while because i really do love to experience different towns and cultures and all that stuff so i would love to kind of be able to travel more frequently but also for a longer period of time but i do see ourselves always having like a home base in florida near our family so that's what i'm thinking but of course you never know what could happen with jobs with work with life the world who knows but if we move anywhere it's gotta be warm it's gotta be sunny because that just boosts my mood so much okay this kind of goes with that question but it says how long do you plan on living in your home so again it's like i really don't know we are absolutely loving our home and it's been so fun to add little touches and just make it really feel so so cozy and we still have so many projects that we want to work on so i think once we finally finish all the product projects will probably take a few years and then we'll probably be ready to move but i don't know it's hard to say um i could definitely see us having one or two kids in this home and then moving or maybe just one kid again it's hard to say but probably for like five years it's definitely not i wouldn't say it's our forever home but um i mean if we do end up staying here forever i like to think i would be very happy and content here because it is just so beautiful and so cozy but it is on the smaller side i don't know if that really comes off on camera but it's less than 2 000 square feet which it's an amazing size it's plenty of room especially for us but once you start having kids just when i've talked to other friends who are having babies like space becomes very tight with babies so i could see us once we start having kids wanting a little bit more space but i could never really see myself living in a big big house i just i kind of get spooked when there's that much room and it just feels so distant and uncozy what's the opposite of cozy um so i would love like just a little bit bigger maybe i would love if my kids could have like a playroom or art room so but that's way down the road so we don't have an exact timeline but if i had to guess like a random number of years i would probably say five years so but who knows story behind palmer's name i really wish there was a fun exciting story but it really his name really just came to mind one night because i had a girl dog name and i'm not gonna say it just in case we do end up getting another dog which we don't have any plans to get another dog right now but i could see us getting another dog like in a few years or in a few months i don't know no probably not that soon um i can see us getting an older dog as much as i love the puppy stage like i would definitely need a break from the puppy stage so maybe like a three-year-old dog if we rescued or i don't know we'll see but i have a girl name so i'm gonna save that um and i had that girl name for like a year and i was trying to think of a boy name because when you're rescuing like you really don't want to be too picky because then it could take even longer to find a dog and i'm i was never against boy dogs but i had never had a boy dog in the past i've only had girl dogs growing up so i just wasn't thinking of the boy names but then one night i don't even know what triggered the name but i just thought of oh palmer's a cute name like i've definitely heard of the name before you know like honor arnold palmer the golfer the sweet tea and lemonade guy he made that drink um i i thought of that but i loved it because it reminds me of the palm trees in florida so i like to say he is named after the palm trees palmer and it's so cute because whenever we're trying to get him to settle down and like calm down we say okay we need a calmer palmer it's just so sweet and i call him pom-pom a lot so that's his little nickname among many other random nicknames i call him throughout the day next question do you drink alcohol no just iced coffee and kombucha i'm just kidding i actually do drink alcohol but it's pretty rare um i and this is the same for brandon i'll kind of answer for him as well but he's even more so he's very very rare and he'll usually just try if i order a drink he'll just like taste it out of curiosity um but i really like wine and i enjoy champagne i enjoy margaritas and mojitos and kind of like pina colada strawberry like tropical refreshing drinks especially near the ocean that is just such a great situation to be sipping on a nice refreshing margarita by the water amen the next question i thought was pretty funny it says does bee actually like eating vegetarian meals and i just thought that was really funny because when we first started dating and just like probably through the majority of our relationship until we got married he did not eat vegetarian at all like he pretty much had meat in almost every meal and so and he i definitely remember him like kind of bashing like vegetarian not bashing but like being like oh i would never i would never eat mainly vegetarian like i love meat i love eating meat but look at him now but basically it was just like i never pressured him to mainly eat vegetarian oh and by the way we are not fully we are not vegetarians or vegans or anything like that we just mainly eat vegetarian so i would say 90 of our meals throughout the throughout our life are vegetarian the only meat i cook is chicken and salmon and i only recently started cooking chicken and salmon so it's probably been like three months since i started cooking it and that's just because i felt like i started kind of craving those proteins um and those are the ones i really only like to eat personally brandon likes to eat like pretty much every meat but that's the only ones i feel comfortable cooking because it's still kind of like a sensitive thing for me i'm not like i can't really think about it too much or else i will not eat it i just i was vegan for two years when i was in fifth grade in sixth grade i didn't eat any animal products whatsoever i even had these little green shorts it's so funny i went to a vegan festival in downtown orlando my mom was so supportive it was so sweet she took me to like all these things and i bought these bright green shorts and it said vegan on the butt like that's that's a little bit about my childhood um so i was super into the plant-based and like animal rights lifestyle and i still think it's wonderful and amazing but i also think it's a balance and there are ways to get ethically made or ethically produced and grown fish and poultry so that's kind of what we do now um but i was just saying brandon he didn't love the whole veggie meal kind of thing but he just gradually started to like it more and he did some research research as well and we just feel our best personally when we're mainly eating plant-based and we just make sure we get our protein in other ways and like i said if we feel like our body needs some salmon or chicken like we will have it and i will cook it every once in a while but for the most part we just that's just what we like it's not like we're forcing ourselves to do this diet or anything it's just kind of what we're drawn to and what our body feels good when it's fueled on that kind of food so i hope that makes sense but yeah he doesn't complain about it at all and he actually just loves when i cook for him he's very thankful when i cook for him so i am thankful that he's thankful that makes me want to cook for him more because he shows gratitude and doesn't complain about the meals or anything when will your next trip be and i really don't know we haven't been on a plane since last february and or no sorry the february before that because last february was only a couple months ago february 2020 and i miss it so much i was traveling so so much that was like a big part of our first year of marriage we went on so many trips which i'm so thankful we did that it's we've made memories that we talk about pretty much every single day we just love to look back on that kind of thing um so i would love to start planning a trip but it's really hard to tell like when things are gonna be back to normal and when you know it'll be safe and enjoyable to travel so we haven't really made plans to yet i'd love to know what you guys are what your status is where you live like what how you feel about travel if you're planning on going anywhere or how long do you think it'll be before you go anywhere i'm interested i'm interested to see what's on your guys's mind because it's been kind of crazy to see like even just in different states in the united states there's been such a contrast of like activity and what people are doing like in their local area and what's allowed so it's really kind of crazy but hopefully maybe this summer we'll be able to go somewhere but again it's kind of i feel like we'd do a last minute kind of thing and not book something too far in advance just because you never know how things can change so we'll see okay and then the last question is have friendships change after being married and for me it's a little tricky because i was with brandon for so long we were dating for seven years before we got married so we've been together for a long time and i mean even after we started dating friendships definitely did change because he became kind of a big priority and i definitely don't think it's great to just ditch all your friends after you start dating someone at all i think it's really important to maintain those you know female relationships or just friendships as well um but once we started dating i actually went through a really rough patch of life i just was dealing with a lot of family stuff and like really painful things and he was just like literally i say this all the time but he was an angel sent from above because he was so like he said everything i needed to hear and he brought me back to jesus and would like send me scripture and just support me so well during that really rough time when unfortunately like the friendships i had they weren't in the place to do that for me but brandon was really able to kind of be such a positive influence on me in such a kind of like crucial time where i could have really fallen down an ugly path for my life because it was such a painful time so um yeah it definitely was like i did kind of lose touch with some of my friends at the time but honestly it's kind of like a blessing in disguise because again they weren't really necessarily in the place to kind of be there for me how he was able to and such a positive influence so i think friendships definitely do change after you get married though because this is your person and honestly i feel like they should in a sense like i feel like you know your husband or wife should be your top priority so that you're able to really develop your family and your team because just having that relationship so strong and at the core of your life is like so important in my opinion and again i feel like having other friendships is also very important but they'll never be on the same level at least in my opinion in my life and that's just what's been great for me and it's also been interesting to just friendships in general because everyone kind of craves different sort of friendships i feel like and for me i feel like maybe because i was an only child maybe but i am a very like independent friend so i like could talk to someone once a month and like feel very satisfied and that kind of friendship and like oh yeah we're still good friends like i don't need to talk to my friends every single day to feel like i'm close to them or feel like i'm i have friends like that's just kind of how my personality is and i'm just very independent again i think because i was an only child um and i just was raised to be independent um so i don't need to kind of touch base so much and you know obviously i live with brandon so he's my best friend and we do everything together pretty much but i also like to make time for those female friendships as well because they kind of satisfy a different part of your heart than your like romantic relationship with your spouse well if that makes sense but friendships can be tricky so don't be too hard on yourself and i feel like the biggest thing in friendships relationships just the biggest piece of advice i've ever gotten and just the biggest piece of advice i want to give you is to eliminate expectations for people especially unrealistic expectations or just expectations that are not healthy or that they would never even know about because again everyone has different ways to love on each other communicate in different values so i feel like just being an understanding friend is so important and just not holding grudges or being bitter towards other people because they don't react or kind of communicate with you the way you would expect or the way you react because i feel like that has just been so eye-opening for me is you know when you are kind of growing in friendships and just going through different phases of life just not expecting people to always do what you think they will hopefully that makes sense but that's been really beneficial for my relationships across the board but that's the last question hopefully i didn't ramble too much but thank you guys so much for watching and spending time with me and making some iced coffee with me i barely drink any because i've been just talking my mouth off but it's yummy so i'm going to kind of hydrate after all of that but thank you guys so much again for watching i love you all and cannot wait to see you super soon bye [Music] you

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Length: 33min 18sec (1998 seconds)

Published: Mon Mar 22 2021