Hey, I’m Emmet. My love for a girl ruined many of my relationships,
and honestly, made me act like a bad person. I had a best friend for my entire life, his
name is Patrick. We have been friends since kindergarten and
I can’t imagine a friend better than him. One day, he got himself a girlfriend, and
her name was Lilly. We hung out together pretty often and it was
always fun, although maybe it was a little bit weird that I was, like, a third wheel
- a couple and their friend. And so, what do you think happened? Well, I started to like Lilly so much that
I kinda started to fall in love with her. I kept trying to find moments when it could
be just me and her, even if it was just for a minute when Patrick was at the store or
something. And I know I was supposed to feel bad about
it, but there was a reason why I didn’t. Patrick was always shamelessly flirting with
other girls and telling me all about it. Every time he saw a pretty girl on the street,
he would make a comment or try to flirt with her. And it made me so angry that he had this amazing
girlfriend, but he was CONSTANTLY hitting on other girls. I mean, it did make me angry, but to be completely
honest, I was kind of happy about it, because I saw this as a chance to break them up. Instead of just telling Patrick that maybe
he should stop doing what he was doing, I... encouraged him, hoping that this would lead
to the break up. Every time he would hit on someone, I would
comment about how much that girl probably liked him. I hoped that, at some point, Lilly would somehow
notice this, or like read his messages, but Lilly was such a sweet person that she completely
trusted Patrick and would never even think badly about him. So I finally decided to show her directly. Once Patrick and I were at a party and there
was this girl - he asked if he should chat her up and I encouraged him. He was talking with her for like ten minutes. She was laughing a lot and he was standing
kinda near her, like waaay closer than he should have been, and it looked like they
were going kiss at any second. I took my chance and took a few photos. Later when I was hanging out with Lilly I
showed the photos to her and she was so shocked, she couldn’t believe her eyes. I convinced her to break up with Patrick and
she did it right away, over the phone. I was listening to how he was asking her why
she was doing this and she told him the whole story. He was mad. He tried to call me like 10 times but I never
picked up the phone. When we finally talked, we argued for a long
time and he told me he was mad that I did that behind his back. I liked Lilly so much that I wasn't even thinking
about MY actions. So basically, Patrick and I stopped being
friends altogether. I didn’t mind, because now I had the chance
to spend more time with Lilly, and maybe we could even start dating. After all, we saw each other almost every
day. But something completely different happened. One day Lilly called me and said that Patrick
had changed and that they were getting back together. I was mad, but that wasn’t all she said. She also couldn’t be friends with me anymore
because Patrick was against that. I couldn’t believe it! I was thinking that maybe I could win her
back, but then... I decided that maybe I should just move on. I reflected on all the things I did, and how
I had been a horrible person and instead of doing something useful with my time I was
spending all my energy trying to date Lilly. So I started focusing more on studying, my
hobbies, sports, and even meeting new friends. I got more confident and found a lot of new
friends. One of them, Kate, was a very cool girl and
I kinda started to like her. And I started to think that she liked me too,
because she would always text me first and call me to hang out somewhere. So one day, I finally asked her to be my girlfriend
and she said yes! I was so happy about it. I thought this would be the end of the story,
but no, I started doing stupid things AGAIN. It was great for a couple of months, and then... Lilly texted me. She had broken up with Patrick because he
actually hadn't changed and everything was still the same as it was before. She had been putting up with it for the past
six months, giving him chance after chance, but he always made the same mistakes. I started chatting with her and I was very
chill about it because I had Kate, so you know, I was just friends with Lilly... or
so I thought. One day she asked me to hang out and I agreed,
never even thinking that it might mean something. We spent a very fun evening together, and
honestly, it had this... romantic vibe to it. Later I told Kate all about it, not even thinking
that she might not like it, and well, she didn’t. Of course she didn’t say anything. I tried to assure her that Lilly was just
a friend and I didn’t have any feelings for her anymore. And I actually believed that. And as you may have guessed, I did actually
start to have feelings for Lilly again. But I also had feelings for Kate, and it was
so confusing for me, and I felt bad for both of them, but I couldn’t figure out what
to do. So, the logical thing would be to stop hanging
out with Lilly and to concentrate on my relationship with Kate, which had been great up to that
point. But of course I didn’t do that. Instead I continued to hang out with Lilly. One day I took Lilly to a party. Yes, not Kate, but Lilly. I loved being with her and it was a perfect
evening... until Patrick showed up. He saw Lilly and I and confronted me about
it. He asked me why I was hanging out with his
ex when I had my own girlfriend. He was so loud that everyone was looking at
us and it was really awkward, especially for Lilly. I tried to explain that I was just hanging
out with her as a friend, but he was only getting louder and angrier. This whole situation ended in a complete disaster. We were standing close to the pool, and Patrick
shoved me lightly, but it was enough to knock me off balance, so I started to fall down
into the pool. In moment of panic, I grabbed him and, well,
we both fell into the pool. Everyone was laughing at us. When we crawled out of the pool, I realized
that Lilly had left because she was so ashamed, and well, Patrick and I did the same thing,
not even saying another word to each other. We left embarrassed, angry, and wet. When I saw Kate next, she was really upset
with me. I tried to apologize, but she broke up with
me right then and there, and I had to watch her leave in tears. I didn’t know what to do after that. Kate was amazing and I had lost her because
I simply couldn't make a decision. I thought about continuing to hang out with
Lilly, but it felt... wrong as well. So I texted her that we should probably stop
hanging out. I didn’t go anywhere except school for weeks,
and my grades were down and I was sad all the time. Not even because I lost Kate but because I
was... such a bad person, and I did exactly the same thing Patrick was doing… And once I was left completely alone, Patrick
started to chat with me more in school and we started to reflect on this story as something
funny and kinda started to be friends again. It was only a month ago that I thought that
we would never be friends again, but you know, people do forgive each other. We promised each other that we would never
do something like this again. Like if one of us started to act like we did
before, the other one would stop them. We also promised to each other that we would
try to be better people in general. Do you believe that people can change and
get better? Share your thoughts in the comments, and share
this video so nobody else will make the same mistakes as I did!
