I Left Her: HER REACTiON

okay never guess what why I know it's gonna be good not nervous about that what huh wait there we go okay hopefully it's not my stuff do you mean [Music] I met my wife at 12 years old it was my first day at a new school and we had homeroom together and just because of the way that our last names fell alphabetically on the seating chart she sat exactly two desks behind me I was pretty nervous about the new school since I didn't know anybody in the class so I was a little bit shy but it wasn't long and so he became friends and she helped calm my nerves over the course of two years we continue to grow our friendship and we became really close friends I've always been the type of person to be to myself and really open up to only a few people that I'm really close with and she was one of those people who actually got to know me and two years later at the end of eighth grade I finally got the courage to ask her to be my girlfriend and that was that I like any kids we were weird but we really liked each other we're going on dates and spent all of our time either together or talking on the phone and when you're 14 years old you're still sort of shaping yourself out so being that we did everything together and we were going through those big childhood milestones I feel like it made our relationship even stronger for the first couple years of our relationship everything was perfect we got along really well and had fun doing just about anything [Music] but in December of 2010 I noticed Haley start to change we started to fight more and more over stupid little stuff and that was weird because we had never been that way ever since I met Haley but I just stayed patient and we continued to work through it I definitely felt there was some sort of shift even though I didn't know what it was since the beginning we were always really tight and kind of thought the same way about a lot of things but she had been slowly growing to be more irrational and for the first time since we met our relationship was really hard [Music] for a long time I thought that I was doing something wrong so I was always trying to do whatever I could to make it better just to help out so to me during that time I was a hundred percent secondary anything that remotely bothered me I never really brought it up just because I knew what we were struggling with already was so much and at that time I justified that but now looking back I can see kind of a ripple effect that it had the toll that it may have taken on me and the relationships that I had with my own family and friends [Music] it was Christmastime and we had just gotten our license and we were going out for the night after we left her house Haley said that she was hungry so I pulled him to a restaurant and we sat in the parking lot and she decided she didn't want anything anymore so after a few minutes we continued to drive down the road and then we did the same thing at least said she was hungry so I had pulled into another restaurant and we sat in the parking lot and she refused to order anything even though she was starving so we left that restaurant and I drove to a grocery store and against her will I went in and bought her a salad and then I brought it back out to the car and she refused to eat it she started crying and it was at this exact moment when I knew how serious the situation was after three years of the struggling and growing tension it finally started to boil over and we got in a pretty bad fight amongst us both crying and both kind of yelling she just got out of the car and left and then a couple months later we broke up for the first time since seventh grade we didn't talk [Music] and I was pretty lost kind of sucked [Music] so a year had passed without any sort of contact with each other and it was the start and ever senior year of high school and I'll never forget coming back to school and just like in middle school we had homeroom together and our lockers were right next to each other exactly how it was five years earlier and I just remember how sick Haley look [Music] her legs were like toothpicks and her arms were like super swollen you could see like every bone in it it was it's brutal but for the first time I was able to steer with fresh eyes and I can see the Beast that overtook her mind and ultimately our entire relationship hey glioma stay [Music] so we went into homeroom and for the first few days she would just sit by herself across the room from me she didn't really have anybody to talk to in that class and I had a couple friends but we still didn't really talk because my heart was so broken from everything that went wrong and all of those wounds were still pretty fresh so for the first few days we would just have that routine coming into class and she would sit across the room by herself and I would sit with a few of my friends but it would just eat at me that she was just sitting there sick and alone oh man whoa but as bad as it hurt to see in the moment it was that exact moment that I knew I loved her even though we had our struggles and we'd fought them about everything under the Sun for the first time I was able to see the thing that came between us and I was able to see how much of a fighter she was she had her issues but at the same time she was holding her [ __ ] down and there's something inspiring in that you are so I asked her to come over and sit with us and then she did and that's how it was for the rest of the year did dishes in the kitchen sink you lights go out to the Sun comes up we are not alone it's in the miles we drive never having to say goodbye some things we tell each other without saying a word you are [Music] you know the smartest person in the class I was never the best person on the team of whatever sport it was I was never the most popular I was never the most anything but I was like well what I could be is the skinniest so it felt like to me like Oh at least I'm the best at this it's a different mental illness if people don't really want to talk about it it's kind of like Nikki I don't know kind of almost demonic and when I'd say this I'm thinking in terms of not only how it used to be but like sometimes how I even feel think now because it is something that I'm still you know fighting not near as bad as I used to but definitely something I could try to creep in every once in a while absolutely you go through so many physical changes that you yeah you absolutely do change I mean yeah I was I was a different person I was I was not a very nice person to anybody and that's not my personality at all I feel like I'm a very friendly person by nature but during those couple of years that I was battling mana like in the depths of it I was yeah I was angry like just negative person for sure but yeah like you said if that was the disorder talking that was not that wasn't me so I kind of always explained it as this if you have someone who is an alcoholic or was a former alcoholic even if they're currently sober which would be equal to be like weight restored and like being able to like live life without letting their disorder get in the way of it it's something they still have to battle every day they still can't go have a drink you for me I'm recovered and I'm healthy and my eating disorder doesn't get in the way of my everyday living anymore but it's still something that I can't get to relax about because I could easily slip back into it I would definitely consider myself recovered but there are some weeks or even months sometimes that I find myself restricting and I have to snap out of it and remind myself like no you know let's not slip back into that so am i recovered yes but do I still have to battle it absolutely the thing about eating disorders is that they're mostly misunderstood people think that it comes from a superficial place and when your reality that's just not the case there isn't a perfect antidote to the condition because it doesn't just only affect the physical body it also spreads like a cancer and just deteriorates everything in its path and that goes beyond just the people who have the actual condition it affects those closest to you with your friends and your family since the beginning our relationship is battled through the worst but it's in the hardest times that you see people are really made so I asked Haley to be my girlfriend once again and now seven years later we've been married for over two years [Music] [Music] so what started out as a video about my wife's eating disorder is now sort of turned into more of a love letter to her for kicking its ass over the years we've been able to figure out how to beat things together and things do get hard but sometimes you just need someone to lean on when you need help [Music] Haley's Eating Disorder ignited a passion that led her to start her own private practice as a registered dietician with the main objective in mind to help people develop a healthier relationship with food because no matter how bad it is it can and it does get better you just have to want it for yourself even though the disorder never truly goes away she still fights to beat it every single day so for the people who feel lost and hopeless Haley is a light I know because I've seen her do it [Music] [Music] she's a fighter and now she's a leader Oh on my drenched in sweat oh hey nope it's so freakin good holy it hits ya if I were by myself I'd book me bawling my eyes out but I don't like to find love oh my gosh it's so so good so good just the best video you've ever made well it's a puzzle video - are you our solidity yeah you're really sweaty no I think cuz I was holding in my tears I just started sweating that was so good oh my gosh you're like I don't know why I'm drenched in sweat whoo I love you so much that was amazing holy crap I don't watch it again dang not really worth the wait I hope you haven't married for three years it's okay though no one's gonna know no literally no although wow that was so good it has been three years we're getting old

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Keywords: TribeTyler, Tyler Shelton, Haylee, I left her: Her reaction, reaction video, React, react to, storytime, our story, story, love story, docuseries, documentary

Id: yeY13-MWAug

Length: 15min 11sec (911 seconds)

Published: Thu Nov 21 2019

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[u/Streck729]

Wow! Very inspiring, you guys are making a difference in our world. It's needed!