How to Talk to Racist Family Members During The Holidays | The Daily Show

our country is experiencing the most divisive time in recent history but the holidays are upon us i want to find out what families are doing to stay connected this season we just ignore family around the holidays we stay away from relatives that are racist take antidepressants get medicated get medicated you got lots of racist relatives yes unfortunately what do you do when your racist cousin says something racist not allowed in my house not allowed in my house not allowed in my house no way my house my rules my grandfather was racist when we would watch football and people of particular color would be running down the field he would cheer for them using the not nice ones he's dead now that's good that's good that's probably the best i was starting to see a pattern particularly among white families but crazy [ __ ] like this doesn't have to be a holiday tradition luckily there's a solution and that's where i come in by letting this guy come in meet dr david camp as a racial dialogue expert he travels the country running a workshop called the white ally toolkit where woke white liberals learn to effectively communicate with the not so woke david's basically the white people whisperer so how many of you folks have racist friends relatives that you think you might see over the holidays everybody so what are some things that white people tend to do wrong when uh sure crocs with socks crocs and socks are in fact bad but let me finish the question that i'm asking what are some things that white people do wrong when other white people say things that are racially problematic or otherwise disturbing i mean like calling someone like an idiot or stupid that's exactly right because you send it into text so the method that you want to think about is race and race stands for reflect ask connect expands let's suppose that person is your cousin biff how does he know my cousin beth and biff wants to talk about how affirmative action is keeping him out of a job and making black folks lazy what do you do not my house what does that mean he's not allowed in your house my house my rules not my house well or you can try to influence people and stay connected to them you ask him what happened in his life that caused him to believe that is actually that's correct that's exactly what you should do all right let's turn to the next part of the scenario so what's important to do is to find something you can agree with and what biff said and connect with him no i can't connect with biff i can't he's racist as an official black person i'm telling you you can connect with him but i gotta be real honest with you i may be white on the outside but on the inside no no no no no no i did see black panther nine times though very much identified with it that's great but you are a white person yeah yeah and you have a similarity to biff that i do not okay you know i hear you i get it now i get it now okay to see if this was effective i needed to try it out in the real world i've decided to put david's methods to the test and there's no better place to find conflicting family views than new jersey the co francisco family had a history of dinners gone bad so they were more than willing to let any random stranger with cameras come into their home if it meant their holidays could be more pleasant what's on your sweater just you know your standard traditional christmas sweater it's black yeah it's just a santa sweater pop-up would you wear a sweater like desi's maybe not if i would have known you're wearing your black santa sir i would wear my black jesus sweater jesus is white jesus isn't black or white he's actually he's middle eastern jewish is a religion jewish is a religion the nationality part is was jewish well if jesus wasn't going to bring this family together at christmas time there was only one thing that could so who likes football i don't watch football anymore he hasn't watched football all year yeah you watch football all year because i don't like what's going on the kneeling with the kaplan the kneeling yes don't like it you don't like it not at all i disagree it was time to work my magic okay so you say that you disagree yes okay this is the point of the conversation where you need to connect you're really going to let someone kneeling before the football game stop you from watching the entire game the entire thing that doesn't make any sense just don't watch them kneeling how to have a um conversation i think it's going great i really feel that this family is responsive to the techniques that i've shown them i think david would feel very proud of the way that i'm handling this i put the tv on and i watched this kid kneel down i shut it off i don't want to watch him just like let him know who cares they're like making a statement it's a peaceful protest help me desi okay very good very good very good you actually just did all four steps in one statement you were reflecting on what was happening here you asked for help you were connecting with me and you were expanding on an idea all four what's so happy about it's a scary time for men right now men men just men well there's always next year something tells me i'll be back [Applause] [Music] [Music] you

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Length: 5min 51sec (351 seconds)

Published: Thu Dec 24 2020