How to Stop Being a People Pleaser
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Keywords: the school of life, alain de botton, self, improvement, big questions, schooloflife, people pleaser syndrome, how to stop being a people pleaser and take control of your life, stop people pleasing, personal development, life coaching, self improvement, 如何过你自己的生活, PL-SELF, como parar de tentar agradar os outros, comment arrêter d'essayer de faire plaisir aux autres, wie man aufhört, anderen zu gefallen, cómo dejar de complacer a los demás, कैसे दूसरों को खुश करने के लिए चाहते रोकना
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Length: 5min 31sec (331 seconds)
Published: Thu Apr 12 2018
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I am one. Working on it, but it's so easy to slip right back into it without realizing it.
Let's all build an island. People pleasers only, it should work.
Definitely relate to this, probably one of my worst qualities. I care too much about what people think of me, care too much about not offending them, and deeply fear confrontation or judgement. It's a fine line between being respectful and not standing up for your own needs.
In my current relationship this is a real problem. I know there is no future here, but I also do care about this person I'm with. I find myself lying all the time to keep the peace, which makes me feel awful. And I grow resentful about the ways in which we are incompatible affect me yet put up with them. Even when things have come to a head in the past, and we were on the verge of splitting up, I fell over myself to keep it going when that's, deep down, not what I really want. Just the thoughts that it's my fault and they're hurting and upset with me, true or not, pushed me into action.
Wow I feel personally attacked. But for real this was very informative and something that I did not realize is a huge (the major) problem in my life and the way I interact with other people. Thank you for this video.
You shouldn't "Stop" being a people pleaser. That's how shitty and annoying people are made. Just aim at taking more control over yourself.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=T0uKnF_6E0Q
School of Life is shit content. They shoehorn loose references to philosophy and psychology into their weird cultish self-help advice videos to sell overpriced bullshit to insecure people.
Only in the last two years have a made major strides in correcting this within myself. I only started becoming more assertive when work became so unbearable. Probably wouldn't have changed otherwise.
I wonder how this applies to people who are normally societally adjusted but have one or two people they can't say no to that abuse the relationship.