How to Overcome Subconscious Blocks Hurting Your Mental Health | Grace Smith x MedCircle

hello everyone hi there there's the there's my camera where i'm supposed to be looking uh it is so wonderful to have you join us today we are launching off this mental health summit during may for mental health month with a dear friend of mine grace smith she is a hypnotherapist works with major high high high profile executives across the world has worked with many celebrities and also with the lay people like me of the world um i think uh bridgette our producer and head of content has shared on med circle before that out of all the therapy she has gone to out of all the medications she has been on out of all the self-help books she's read meditation she's done blah blah blah hypnotherapy was the life-changing component to her life and i am so amped for you to learn about this from the expert herself grace thanks for being here thank you for having me kyle it's so exciting to be back on med circle let's get the misconceptions of hypnosis and hypnotherapy out of the way what is this not it is not mind control so if hypnosis were mind control i always say people would just bring me their significant other and a checklist and i'd already be a billionaire okay so hypnosis is so much not mind control that i can't even get somebody to pick up their socks if they don't want to so it's not mind control there's no blackout state there's no amnesia all that stuff from hollywood and stage show antics are merely for entertainment purposes you want me to get into a little bit as to how the stage show stuff works or absolutely i i was hypnotized my freshman year in college on stage and uh it was a compelling experience certainly but i looked like a fool awesome well what did they have you do oh i had i was competing at a dance competition on mtv i had bugs all over my body i was really hot i was really cold um and and what was really interesting is the the guy the hip no the hypnotist said you know once you cross this line you're going to go right back to your quote normal state and so i crossed the line and i went back to my normal state and even in that moment i thought did i did i do that because i wanted to do it did i do that to not embarrass myself did i do it because i wanted to like have the show go on or was i out of control it was it was a really surreal moment interesting do you remember if there's anything he asked you to do that you didn't do out of curiosity i don't think this was a long time ago i don't think so and there were you know 20 of us on stage and by the end of it there were four of us so clearly he was choosing the ones who were willing to uh go along with this perfect okay so that's exactly right in the stage so setting what happens is the hypnotist will first give a suggestion to the entire audience typically it's something like bite into a lemon and so the hypnotist and their assistant is watching the entire audience to see who just sits there like this who begrudgingly pretend like they're holding a lemon and who is holding the lemon smelling the lemon and when they bite into the lemon ah they can taste all the bitterness and so then when they ask for volunteers and they do ask for volunteers they never bring anybody up against their will they've already sussed out who's playing along so then they bring people up on the stage and they start with some very benign simple suggestions like there's bugs all over you and people are kind of going like this or you're playing an instrument in a band and then as the show gets raunchier and all of a sudden people don't want to participate in the suggestions anymore they don't want to shake their booty in front of all of their colleagues all of a sudden people aren't participating but how could that possibly be if it were mind control and if the person had no say in the matter and just as you said kyle as the show progresses they remove people from the stage who aren't participating so by the end of the show you've got the one or two people left who actively want to absorb every suggestion now all of that having been said chemotherapy does take place at the theta brainwave state and the theta brainwave state is where we primarily live under the age of seven years old so five-year-old six-year-olds four-year-olds they haven't developed the conscious mind yet which are the alpha and braid of beta brainwave states so in theta you do have less inhibition you are more creative and you are more connected to your intuition so if you've ever seen a five-year-old and their favorite song comes on in the middle of the grocery store they're booging down and having a great time and they could care less that people are watching a 12 year old would not behave the same way they're operating in beta so while you are not being controlled while you absolutely have free will your inhibitions are slightly lessened during the stage hypnosis experience which is very cool in the therapeutic setting to apply that same mechanism there we're going to talk about how we can identify some of our subconscious beliefs and ways to potentially break through them either through our what we can do or through the power of hypnotherapy but for now what types of things do you find clients coming to you where hypnotherapy is a really big success great question you know the truth is it kind of comes down to whatever we're talking about the most meaning when i first launched my hypnotherapy business about 10 years ago i did so with a living social campaign which is like groupon and in the living social campaign i said use hypnotherapy to help you sleep at night lose the weight you haven't been able to lose and overcome anxiety so for an entire year i helped people sleep lose weight and overcome anxiety because that's right and y'all she's told me this story before she had like a gazillion people sign up for this thing so literally all year she's like oh my gosh well i guess i'm in business here i go eight or nine sessions a day every seven days a week for a year it was like over a thousand sessions you need some hypnotherapy after that oh yes i did so ultimately what what we have found is if we put out okay use hypnotherapy for peak performance use hypnotherapy to overcome nail biting or overcome fear of flying that that's who comes to us and what this indicates is that people are not searching for hypnotherapy in general very few people in the world are just googling what is hypnotherapy most people are googling how do i overcome my addiction to xyz how do i break through this thing and then they try everything see a little bit of success or no success at all and finally go you know what this thing is popping up let me try hypnosis i don't necessarily think it's going to work and then ultimately it tends to be the one thing that does grace and uh dr romini one of our med circle doctors and clinical psychologists have a great series on med circle very in-depth where we both get the perspective of a hypnotherapist and a clinical psychologist on how it affects our subconscious beliefs i was at at the time i was like i don't know if dr romney is going to be like yeah do do hypnotherapy because you just never know where people stand on you know newer types of therapies that are still finding their way into mainstream and she goes oh well it's my number one recommendation for my clients who want to quit smoking i was like really before anything else she goes it's because it's what works she you know dr romini is just what does what works and then we're going to do that she is evidence-based science-backed all the way as i know you are too grace and this works for people who have the desire to want to start or stop something which i'm sure we'll talk about and then also for smoking the studies are just overwhelmingly prove that this has a 96 or 97 percent efficacy rate i want to go back to the theta uh point um oh and by the way right now only during the month of may you can get med circle for an entire month for free not just the rest of this month just sign up and your next month is completely free there's no obligation it's what we're doing for mental health month if you're watching this live and you're like what are you talking about i thought you were just a youtube channel um we pulled our youtube channel and 73 of them didn't realize we have a membership outside of youtube so go to medcircle.com you're gonna see what we really do how we can really change your life and you can get started for free this month only grace gwen from the chat hi gwen asks is the theta stage where artists get their flow um great question gwen yes and when you're in the shower and you get those great light bulb moments so you're doing something wrote something you've done a million times you don't have to actively think about shampooing and you're relaxed you're in what's called the alpha brainwave state which is essentially a daydreaming state artists do tend to get hits of inspiration already when they're in the alpha state actually everybody does but artists even more so because i think they're on the lookout for them more so than probably most folks but the theta brainwave state is flow state it is the peak performance state it is where you are wonderfully deeply relaxed feeling perfectly safe and yet you are highly incredibly focused on one thing and so yeah it's a wonderful place for artists to go entrepreneurs to go engineers to go there's stories about thomas edison using it when he was creating his inventions yeah it's a place where all of your intuition and your ingenuity can finally reach you without the conscious mind going oh that's a terrible idea that'll never work or 10 million people have tried that before why would you be the one to be able to do it all that goes away yeah and you can just create i have been hypnotized by grace a few times and i can tell you and look i'm not i wouldn't have grace on here unless i believed in this okay so i'm coming from a very honest place it it you feel the changes even after one session i felt the changes and then more compelling is i saw my behavioral changes in the following days in the following weeks it is such a compelling therapy and grace's mission as she says is to make hypnosis mainstream and she's doing it and i can't wait until it's even more mainstream because this really is the power to end in so many ways needless suffering we talk about uh these subconscious blocks grace what are some of our biggest subconscious blocks what are you seeing in your practice fear always basically here yes so the subconscious mind it's one role it's one job is to keep us alive that's its whole thing so every belief that it develops it thinks is in the service of keeping us alive and safe but the default setting and the default understanding of what is safe means small and hidden and doing the same thing we've always done something new even if it's actually better for us for example not smoking versus smoking if we've been a smoker for 10 years the subconscious is like well your heart's still beating you're still alive let's not change anything because that's the whole goal so anything that would expose us so public speaking or having a platform or being famous or asking for the bigger job at work where you'd have more employees and greater responsibility all that stuff is a huge no-no to the subconscious by default like i said anything brand new and anything um that when we were being raised goes outside of the core beliefs from the people who trained our subconscious brain so typically that's our parents it can also be older siblings it can be the church in town it can be the principal at the little school but ultimately from the age of seven and under the primary people who were teaching you what it means to be a human when you want to start doing things outside of the bounds of what that included the subconscious it's a no-go and that's where all self-sabotage comes from the conscious mind goes i want to run a 5k the subconscious goes sit on the couch and eat a snickers please because that's what we've always done so when the conscious mind wants to do something new and the subconscious doesn't want to the subconscious will always win unless you go in and actively reprogram it which is what hypnotherapy does well and for me that's so frustrating because by the nature of the term subconscious i shouldn't be consciously aware of that i i sit on the couch and start eating not by choice but i go and put on my shoes and start running by choice are you saying that in the hypnotherapy state or through hypnotherapy we can go and create a new subconscious so that more subconsciously we're finding ourselves running or doing the things we want or we know we should be doing rather than indulging in these sometimes destructive behaviors absolutely so here's an example that comes to mind let's say someone's got an issue with someone at the office and let's say we're actually still going into a physical office space and having to interact with this person every single day and they just drive you nuts and you feel like they are really disrupting the workplace and you they're just it's like nails on a chalkboard every time you interact with them and you do a hypnotherapy session around whatever it needs to be potentially they remind you of someone who was cruel to you when you were six or they said something that flared up an experience you had when you were 12 and none of these things are on your conscious mind you just think you don't like this person and by healing that all of a sudden you go into the office the next day and you don't even notice the person it's like they don't even register and so the person will come for their next hypnotherapy session it's like how is your progress and it's like i didn't even think about her i didn't even notice her and then when we were in a meeting together she was talking and i realized i'd been taking notes and it didn't even register to me that it was her speaking so all of that disruption all of that subconscious angst and the difficulty between the conscious mind wanting to feel great at the workplace and the subconscious really having a problem with this person dissolves and it's incredibly subtle because the absence of a problem is subtle a problem isn't normal but the absence of it very much is and so we kind of have to look retroactively to notice just how far we've come with hypnosis i told you before we started i was excited to talk to you and i still am learning stuff from you no matter how many times we meet this is so good um i want to link below this video on youtube to your series with dr romini um uh so if we can link to that go uh go watch that series y'all and you can watch it for free when you start a trial but that series really gives you a comprehensive understanding of what we're talking about today and also provide some next steps grace in the chat people are asking is hypnotherapy confidential great question so hypnotherapy is not yet regulated meaning every single state in the united states every single province in canada every single whatever else everywhere else jurisdiction has their own rules and laws about hypnotherapy it is becoming more regulated but is not yet at least in the united states um regulated on a national level could i just open up a shop here in arizona and say hey i'm offering hypnotherapy like i read a book on how to do it come in and pay me luckily it's not that bad anymore but what so i'm not exactly sure what it is in arizona right now but for example in new jersey you can't call yourself a hypnotherapist unless you're also a licensed mental health practitioner so if you have a degree in social work or you're a psychologist you can call yourself a hypnotherapist but if you just have a hypnotherapy certification no matter how robust you have to call yourself either hypnotist or hypno coach and i used to find that problematic i don't so much anymore i feel like from a marketing perspective again people don't really care they just want to get over their problem and so what i really advise everyone to do is make sure that whoever you're working with whether the state requires them to call themselves a hypnotherapist hypno coach hypnotist or anything else that they are in fact a certified hypnotherapist through a reputable governing board like the international association of counselors and therapists which is where i am registered and where all of my students are and for that reason to answer the question not all practices are equal because some people can go to a two-day conference and then throw up a shingle and call themselves a hypnotist or a hypnotherapist depending on the state so that person would not have a whole lot i wouldn't imagine of understanding around hipaa compliance or confidentiality and you would really want to make sure that it's in their terms of services if that's important to you um yeah so you've got to do a little bit of homework to make sure that it's confidential by far and large most hypnotherapists understand the grave importance of that but it is not legally regulated in the way that it is with say psychotherapy one component of hypnotherapy i adore is the the effectiveness it still has when you conduct hypnotherapy sessions over the phone or virtually i'm a big fan of any type of therapy you can get and if that's tele health therapy great we have a shortage so we can't really be picky on how we're getting our therapy however i personally prefer to see my therapist in person because so much of what i will inadvertently communicate is going to be done through body language and if they only see this i don't feel like they're going to get my full story no matter how thorough i am with hypnotherapy though i can just use my phone call grace and it's going to have this same results or at least should than if we were meeting in person how is that possible grayson did i just misspeak on anything nope that was perfect so i found this out by mistake when i first launched my business i was in new york city i had an office genuinely the size of a closet in union square and i asked a couple of my clients who still work with me today how could you even put up with that place and i've heard a couple of times grace you were the only one with your eyes open like you're the only one who had to look at the closet office everybody else was fine because their eyes were closed the whole time they're like i just came in and took basically a nap not actually enough but yeah what i mean the very humble beginnings of my first practice and so people would come in very very anxious and stressed out it's new york city the subways were always late people were running late with their meetings people would jostle them on the street and pour coffee all over them i mean these things happened all the time so people inadvertently always would show up a couple of minutes late and then we'd have to spend quite some time getting them relaxed into the theta brain they would be in this beautiful theta brainwave state and then they would go right back out to the chaos and they'd be straight back into beta so ultimately over time i would have clients say you know grace i'm headed to singapore for two weeks i don't want to miss our sessions can we do them over then we were primarily using skype sure i've got a little bit of a cold it's not that big of a deal but i just don't want to come in but i don't want to miss our session can we do it over the phone sure and what i found was people who i was so used to seeing extremely stressed out when the session first began i mean they showed up so relaxed they had just eaten dinner they were doing a little bit of journaling beforehand some of them had just taken a bubble bath and so the length of time that it took to get into the theta state was decreased and then when the session was over the length of time that they were in the theta state was increased so the amount of time they were in that wonderful safe healing state was extended and therefore the results amplified and when i realized that i looked at my closet sized office that cost a fortune and i said okay forget this stuff because exactly everybody is getting better faster and i don't need to have new york city office space and so it's been basically since i think 2014 that i have been entirely over skype zoom phone and so when the pandemic hit luckily our company was already set up to be you're ready to go people all over the world and we felt very fortunate yeah um how long do the effects of hypnotherapy last this person is asking if i quit smoking through hypnosis will i want to smoke again down the line great question it depends it's not magic so it feels like magic though this is what's this is what the issue is you just said it's not magic but when i describe it to people you would think it is magic because that's what it felt like to me so what do you mean by that it's not magic but it kind of is magic absolutely it very much feels magical but it's not magic in the sense that i assume people view magic as being something like there is a wizard with power and they wave their wand and now your problem's gone and it's forever gone the hypnotherapist has no power as we mentioned at the top of the hour there is no mind control you're the one with all of the power hypnotherapists the way i really view it is we are expert guides with a really bright lantern and we help bring you down into your subconscious and then we hold up the lantern hey you want to look over here if you want to look over here and then you do all the transformation work metaphor yeah so what's actually happening even though it feels magical is we are really creating a new neurological network in your brain so i don't know about anybody listening but if somebody asked me to do a trigonometry equation for a million bucks i don't know that i could do it but i got aids in trig in high school i haven't used it so i lost it right you don't use it you lose it anyone who's attempted to learn a new language and then didn't live in that place has experienced this firsthand right so if you put up let's say orange road cones in front of the neural pathways of anxiety and instead you start using hypnotherapy to create a new neural pathway in your brain of calm confidence and every single day with conditioning you strengthen the neural pathway in your brain for calm confidence it's not just that you're strengthening that pathway it's that you're not using the anxiety pathway as often and it starts to break down so it's very rapid it's incredibly effective but instead of it being someone waving a wand and now everybody's cured you are actively conditioning new pathways in your brain based on how you want to feel and how you want to behave instead of the old default that you essentially learned under the age of seven so when it comes to smoking how long does it last it can last a lifetime and if you have four sessions to quit smoking all the cravings are gone you don't want to smoke and six months later you go to your cousin's wedding and get blackout drunk and someone hands you a cigarette chances are the addiction comes back up the good news is you'd likely only need a session or two to get back where you were i remember i had a colleague when i worked at a silicon valley startup and i just started learning hypnotherapy as a side gig at the time and he said to me you know hypnosis didn't work i tried it for smoking and i said oh really i never hear that tell me what happened i said yeah you know i smoked a pack a day for nine years had one hypnosis session didn't smoke at all for an entire year so it did work exactly but then i got drunk at a party smoked a cigarette and and you know started smoking again so it didn't work and it's like wow the movies and stage show hypnotists have done a such a disservice that someone would go nothing i tried for nine years worked i did one session didn't smoke for a year all that healing that happened for a year to my bank account and my lungs and my fingers and everything but then i got into a state that is non-hypnotizable someone who's blackout drunk or not in the beta brainwave state alpha theta or delta we're in reptilian no man's land and that can't be hypnotized you can't access that and someone were to smoke again and then they go oh it didn't work it absolutely did work just the conditioning was broken do another session or two and the conditioning will come back so one more example that i think might be helpful because there's actually far fewer smokers today than there were when i first started which is great news this might be more applicable i had a client who said they used hypnosis to very effectively overcome fear of flying but then when 9 11 happened it came back with a vengeance which makes absolute sense when we go through something that traumatic it's very understandable that the subconscious would awaken old coping mechanisms and fear-based mechanisms the good news is it doesn't have to last because you already know hypnotherapy does work and you can get back to the state where you were feeling comfortable and safe flying much more rapidly than the first time around so i just want to really empower everyone to have the amount of sessions you genuinely need to get to where you want to be it's going to be much faster than you think it'll definitely take less than three months whatever it is you're working on but if for some reason you need a pick-me-up session or two down the line have it just have to get right back i i hear all that allow me to play devil's advocate because those are extreme examples okay i got blackout drunk at a wedding i picked up a cigarette we have an international you know tragedy on 9 11 so i'm scared of flying again i'm just talking about i did six sessions with a hypnotherapist i'm not smoking but in four months if i see somebody smoking or if i smell that cigarette am i gonna be like oh god i gotta go get my hands on a cigarette you're shaking your head no no i've never seen that happen okay okay i mean and that is the power because grant yeah when big things happen at some point we have to have our own resilience and self-control because big things happen but for the day-to-day triggers that we fall victim to those are the ones that i want to overcome those day-to-day triggers yeah yeah the only two scenarios i've seen where people don't get the results they're looking for is because a they didn't actually want the result to begin with yeah meaning someone will go oh you know what hypnotize me to never eat sugar again that'll be so great and it's like do you want very very very badly to never eat sugar again and they're like no i love sugar but just hypnotize me that goes to show again they think it's mind control and i can make someone do something they don't want to do which i very much cannot so on a scale of 0 to 10 10 being you want it more than anything in the world hypnotherapy only starts to become effective at a 7 or above and the more you want that thing the faster you're going to see those results number two is you don't have the amount of sessions required in the first place so if somebody goes you know i really want to overcome my fear of public speaking and they have three sessions and maybe they get 30 percent better but they stop it's very much likely that it will come back so you want to get to at least 90 of where you want to be before you stop your sessions and then the likelihood of you know relapsing or having it go back is very very very unlikely sure um med circle is a mental health education platform so uh let's dive into a little more something more directly related to mental health for somebody and this is a tricky area okay because i can already hear people going why are you saying that they should do this for somebody struggling with major depressive disorder major anxiety maybe they've been diagnosed with um some emotional dysregulation as well or you can't be diagnosed with that but you're you're that's being just coming up in therapy does hypnotherapy have a place in your opinion on addressing these actual mental health issues listed in the dsm so as a hypnotherapist we don't diagnose we don't treat disorders obviously we're not prescribing medication that's not at all what our education is about and so for someone who has been diagnosed with a disorder we absolutely always want to work in tandem with a licensed psychologist or psychiatrist because they are the professionals and they know what's going on as a um alternative what's the word in tandem right so working in partnership with a licensed mental health professional absolutely hypnotherapy is beneficial in any area except for a diagnosis of schizophrenia that is the only contraindication to hypnotherapy now what i have found i don't know that there are any other studies to back this up but from my personal experience with a major depressive disorder typically sometimes one of the things that clients will experience is a lack of desire to work on overcoming the challenges that they experience because there's such a lack of energy i know for example when i had severe postpartum depression after my son was born i couldn't do hypnosis i couldn't get myself to do it now when you mean do it for yourself or do it for others oh i could do it for others i could absolutely get up and be the hypnotherapist i couldn't listen to hypnotherapy myself wow there and i think there's some extra layers because for me it's my whole world and yes what came with my postpartum depression with so much shame and guilt and i'm failing and total lack of confidence and so listening to hypnosis to me also included like i didn't send that email you know it was very much wrapped in but i have heard some of my other clients who go through different you know ebbs and flows with their depressive disorders that at certain times there just isn't the energy if they want to get better they absolutely want to but the energy isn't there to actually pick up the phone and do the work and so for that reason we don't actually see very many clients coming through with major depressive disorders yeah we do see almost everyone coming in the door saying that they have high anxiety and i think the pandemic lends itself to that because that wasn't the case prior to the pandemic we'd always have people saying they want some stress relief but people coming in and saying my anxiety is at an all-time high was just consistent across the board over the last year and hypnotherapy is very very effective in helping to bring those high levels of anxiety down so i i really do want to be clear in saying i'm not stating that anyone with a depressive disorder doesn't want to get better that's not the case i get that sometimes the energy isn't there to do the work oh yeah i mean the work requires a lot of energy in the middle of depression you might not have enough energy to make a sandwich so i can't imagine you know going to the depths of your subconscious i'm going to take a question from our youtube audience but if you're a med circle member and you've signed and you're watching this on our live zoom put uh some q and a's in that chat and i will uh get to those questions as well if you're not a med circle member which is separate than our youtube channel uh go to medcircle.com or visit the links below this video um is my sound coming in okay i hear a lot of clicking sound great can you hear me okay okay oh yeah um uh you can uh join med circle and get access to our video streaming service there's more than 500 videos interviews with psychologists psychiatrists people like grace smith patients uh it's very a very valuable resource and you will have access to all of our weekly live classes where you can get your questions answered from the same professionals that you watched in our videos it's not treatment it's education let's go to this question from youtube saying my aunt quit smoking after 50 years thanks to hypnosis the two follow-up sessions are never smoked again there you go there's some proof uh another person is asking what about people that experience dissociation and complex post-traumatic stress disorder along with depression and anxiety would hypnotherapy work grace again because it's not really my wheelhouse to know the specifics about lots of different disorders i will say that hypnotherapy can be effective for everyone who doesn't have a schizophrenia diagnosis the reason being hypnotherapy allows you for let's say for example complex post-traumatic stress disorder um hypnotherapy has been proven time and time again especially with ptsd as related to wartime or you know veterans to allow this person to go back to the traumatic experience and visualize it from a distance now not all hypnotherapy requires going back to a traumatic event and reliving it or even observing it from a distance although some of it does and it's very healing and very cathartic to be able to go back to this dramatic experience watch it from a distance and then do something called reframing and be able to experience the the traumatic event in a way that ends up being empowering to the subconscious mind the conscious mind always knows what happens it doesn't change anything but the subconscious relationship to the experience can completely transform i so get that yeah i so get that continue sorry let me give a little example one that's not really based in what we would call a trauma but for a six-year-old very much was so this is um something i shared my first book the story is shared with permission even though i'll keep her anonymous so i had a client come to me who was biting her nails to the point where they were bleeding and she thought it had to do with stress at work which makes sense did a very stressful job so we go into hypnotherapy we say go to the source of the nail biting we don't know that this is historically accurate this is the perceived the subconscious perceived root cause of the issue so we don't want to take it as um you know hand on the bible 100 this is the moment it started but this is what the subconscious believes was the initial sensitizing event all of a sudden she sees herself she's six years old and she's their little desks are all in a little square and the little girl next to her keeps whispering to her even though it's quiet time and they're all supposed to be coloring and she goes be quiet be quiet we're not supposed to be talking quiet be quiet not supposed to be talking finally she goes be quiet and the teacher comes over and chastises who's now my client has a little girl and then holds up her drawing it's kind of like that got the teacher's attention holds up the drawing and says you're coloring outside of the lines this is what you're not supposed to do and tapes it to the chalkboard for the whole class to see dang mrs miller exactly she's mortified and then underneath the desk she's starting to pick at her cuticles so her little six-year-old body doesn't know what to do doesn't know how to handle this amount of ridicule and anxiety and it's just horrific for her little self so one form of reframing would be to imagine that my client today from the year 2021 is in that classroom goes back there with her so that when the little girl next to her is making some noise the adult her can come over and say excuse me it's not time to talk and then the adulterer can say hey have you ever heard of jackson pollock or basquiat you're painting your drawing is gorgeous it's amazing you're an impressionist i love it and then with fresh eyes from the adult from 2021 looking at the teacher she goes ah she's so tired she's so old i just got chills away from retiring right these little kids are running around and giving her such a hard time all day long she's so tired she looks so sad and then all of a sudden she has compassion for this woman that the subconscious believed up until a moment prior was this like evil heinous wicked witch and so the conscious mind still knows for sure what actually happened in that story but instead of feeling embarrassed ashamed like she's a bad little girl like the teacher's evil like the little girl next to her ruined everything that she's a horrible artist and is you know picking at her nails and starts to bite her nails as a result she's empowered she's like i'm an amazing artist that little girl got handled i feel so bad for that teacher and most importantly she never started picking her nails in the first place so then like a domino effect it comes all the way up to the present moment as if that issue had never actually began that's how the subconscious treats it and then it's it either just happens that it stops on its own accord or with another session or two becomes that much easier so that's what reframing is like is this what you would consider part of inner child work absolutely yeah most of hypnotherapy includes inner child work because we were formed essentially under the age of seven so um dr judy ho who is a triple board certified forensic and neuropsychologist and one of our doctors of the med circle doctors is working with our production team to do a series or a live class on uh inner child work and i think uh having you come on as an as an additional perspective for that would be really um impactful because it's it's so great to hear i love hearing the science you know from dr judy and all of that and then i love hearing uh this more it sounds more poetic to me you know but that story is so relatable i can understand it in a different way so hopefully we could have you two collaborate on on that because i love that it's something that i i'm sitting here going why are we not doing more inner or any inner child stuff we don't have anything at the moment but we're bringing it to you so um we are going to bring that uh to our med circle members again it is it's my job right now to be promoting med circle it's mental health month and i'm trying to get people to understand that we have so much more than just this youtube channel so i typically do not have so many call to actions in our interviews but um i i'm really trying to encourage our youtube audience who is with us so committed you guys i s well i read all your comments you're on all our videos this is just a fraction of what i can offer you is our youtube channel um it's a lot i mean you see our youtube channel it's a lot and it's just a fraction of what's available to you go all in you deserve it this month especially with our the biggest promotion the biggest offering we've ever done i don't want anything keeping you from getting the mental health education you need either for yourself or for somebody else if there is something that i can do that's keeping you from getting this education email me directly kyle at medcircle.com and i will take care of it if i can i will take care of it um okay so grace um let's go to a another um question uh e-m-d-r um well this person said e-d-m-r but i'm assuming they mean e-m-d-r uh if i'm wrong let me know but is emdr related or similar to hypnosis in terms of rewiring the brain grace i think you've mentioned emdr in the past can you speak to this sure yeah i'm not again a specialist in emdr but here's my understanding so when we're in the theta brainwave state sometimes a sign of having achieved that state is rapid eye movement under the lids just like when we're in rem sleep when we have our really active dream state so emdr utilizes that same functionality to my understanding to get to the theta brainwave state to get to the subconscious so that things can be healed i've done emdr as a client as a patient and i the way that i would explain the differences personally between that and a hypnotherapy session are that it doesn't feel quite as much like a story it feels more fragmented like here's a piece now focus on that emotion and again it gets washed right right focus on this and then it kind of gets washed away so i definitely see value in it i think that everybody needs to be the purveyor of their own truth and find out what works for them and and you know test out what resonates with you most for me having the full picture and understanding why my subconscious believed something the way that it did communicating with it what i wanted to do instead and then visualizing it doing it that way which is called future pacing feels more powerful to me um but if emdr works for you go for it and it is my understanding that it accesses the subconscious oh yeah and and i have very i mean the same type of passionate feedback i hear from people who try hypnotherapy i hear the exact same passion for those who try amdr i mean they really it is a life-changing therapy for so many it is critical though that um and i i should have mentioned this earlier that as a as as lay people out there as patients that we are finding the right professional there are so many people who list emdr or whatever it may be on their website and it's because they did it once with one client 12 years ago that may not be the best person for you even when grace was speaking um about um you know what she what a hypnotherapist does and does not do if you find a hypnotherapist who goes oh you have depression okay i come into my office i'm gonna clean up your depression in two sec that might be a flag where you go whoa whoa whoa this isn't what the you know the standard should be you you are in charge i'm not talking to grace here i'm talking to you the viewer you are in charge you are in charge remember that you get to call the shots you get to hire you get to fire you get to ask questions you call the shots because this is literally about you this is be selfish okay and if you're there for a a spouse or a child or a friend it is the same type of selfishness you're advocating for them in the same way you would advocate for yourself never forget you are in charge here um you have a wonderful app grace and before i say go to our link in bio and download grace's app who should be downloading your app like what are the common things that you hear people coming to you and you go man this my app would be great for you for this there's a section on our app where it's called build a custom session and it asks how do you want to feel and the drop down includes worthy happy peaceful healthy that's my favorite section of the app we have hundreds i do all of the above yeah exactly and then you get to pick how long you want your session to be 12 minutes 22 or 42. you get to choose if you want to listen to rain or waves or ethereal music or nothing and i i find that that section of the app is really powerful because at the end of the day the way my sort of grace method of hypnotherapy views our subconscious and the manifestations of our beliefs like a tree so if you think of the limbs those are the physical manifestations of an issue they're the things we can see so that would be binge eating nail biting you know yelling at a loved one when it's the last thing we want to do acting out in all sorts of ways the trunk is stress and anxiety so if stress and anxiety goes down the limbs aren't as activated it's like if we went on vacation for a month with absolutely no internet connection and just slept on a beach and read our favorite novel all day we would start to believe we had absolutely no issues right all of the things would become phantom limbs it's like oh i'm just perfect enough and then the minute we come back to the real world and open up the email inbox it's like so just hacking off a limb isn't gonna do us much good because let's say we stop smoking over here we could grow a limb for sex addiction over here i'm not saying it's necessarily that concrete but it's very likely that if you're just hacking off a limb and you haven't worked at the root it's going to grow in a different form so just decreasing stress and anxiety helps a lot to decrease the activation of the limbs but it's still not the whole picture if we want to heal the root cause so that no new limbs grow and so that stress and anxiety stay low we're always working on one of three things lack of self-love lack of self-worth lack of self-confidence and to be totally truthful lack of self-worth and lack of self-love are still kind of embedded in lack of self-love but most people can't go straight to lack of self-love we got to start somewhere else typically lack of self-confidence is a great place to start so that section of the app is so powerful because if you do a session on feeling worthy for 22 minutes so many of your other limbs aren't going to get activated especially you know the few minutes after the session but with enough repetition remember you're creating that new neural pathway and you're not using the other ones and they start to break down so we've got everything under the sun you know hypnosis for fertility and birth and grieving and nail-biting and everything you can imagine but i think if you've got one place you want to go one place you want to start a session on feeling worthy i mean everybody can use that uh use the links below to get that app or or what what is the website again grace where they can go grace.com getgrace.com make it easy for me thank you now um the i've got to stop saying um y'all it's really bad call me out on that the more you bully me in the comments for saying um the more likely i will be to stop oh um i just said it again i actually have a recording for that on the app i'm not kidding there's a stop saying um and a stop cursing night and then add like and all that and then it's perfect for me so the where i want to go from here then because we do have a little bit of time left is dialing in the difference between self-love and self-worth this has been a theme this week as i've interviewed typically i interview doctors psychologists and psychiatrists i have interviewed a lot of advocates and i i call these people patients and i know that can be stigmatizing to some people but i'm a patient anyone working on their own mental health or advocating for others i i view as a patient so to speak and these advocates have really dialed in on the importance of self-love and self-worth but those have been used interchangeably you just use them in a very different way what are the differences well i do agree that again self-worth and self-confidence could kind of fold in to being components of self-love but it's easier to break them out so for example if someone were to look in the mirror and speak to themselves and say you know kyle you if you're looking at yourself in the mirror kyle you are worthy of people showing you respect that's a lot easier for most of the population to get to then kyle i love you exactly as you are oh yeah for sure i i couldn't even say that to myself in the mirror without laughing laughing yeah as as because it would be so uncomfortable to me to address myself in that compassionate of a way exactly so we we take baby steps so the self-worth piece around i'm worthy and deserving of asking for the amount of money i deserve to make at my job i'm worthy and deserving of eating foods that nourish my body rather than something that depletes my energy i am more than deserving of being in a relationship that's not abusive is an easier step for most and a great starting point than i love myself exactly as i am i am inherently worthy and deserving of love because i exist not because of what i do out in the world not because of my bank account not because of how i look but because i exist because i'm breathing air i'm worthy and deserving of love and i am love and i love myself that's a lot that sounds like hippie nonsense to most people and yet that's the whole thing that's the whole point if we really really intrinsically absorb that as truth there are no limbs there are no limbs there is no acting out that's everything but it takes a minute to get there yeah a few minutes for some of us i will share a really i think it's a sad story and it um is something that happened very briefly to me when we were both living in la that's where grace and i initially met um i was driving and i was thinking to myself what if i had 15 million dollars in the bank how would i live differently and it started with well of course i would have someone who cooks all my meals and cleans my house and i get my dog washed and my car wash and all these things and then i thought well how would i treat myself differently and i go well i would get a massage every day or i would do this and then i i had this thought that is the sad part of the story i thought i would probably take better care of my body i would probably drink more water and less diet coke because i want to live longer and more fully and then i thought by admitting that i admit that right now i'm okay not living more fully or not trying to elongate my time here on this planet what type of view do i have of myself where in this state i would not care for myself in the same way if i had this hypothetical onslaught of wealth that was a devastating moment for me to be aware of because it was a mirror of how i viewed at least a part of myself as not being worth the care not being worth the commitment to treating myself with respect and that includes what i put into my body etc that is a a hard thing to live with i think and i think a lot of us are living with some version of that we we hurt ourselves in little tiny ways sometimes that i think are that can be symptoms of a bigger issue with how we view ourselves yeah i have no question but i would love for you to respond thank you so much for sharing that i can't even begin to imagine the ripple effect that admission is going to have to everyone listening because i know for sure it resonates with everyone who will hear this so there's two ways of looking at self-sabotage there's the example we used before where i want to go run a 5k but instead i'm sitting on the couch watching netflix self-sabotage because you want something but you're doing something else then there's the view of self-sabotage where you're actively creating these um micro punishments for yourself all day long yeah because there's shame and there's guilt and there's a feeling of being a failure and so the kyle driving in his car that day goes if i had 15 million dollars what that really exemplifies with that you did you had accomplished what kyle that day felt like he was here to do that he hadn't yet done and there was this gaping hole of i'm nowhere near where i'm supposed to be aka i'm a failure aka i deserve to drink the aspartame inside diet coke yeah and when you love yourself really truly completely not as an ideology but you genuinely subconsciously love yourself as you are today you would never put you know poison in your body right so i know we have five minutes and i'm asking the biggest question and granted we've been answering this question throughout this video but how do i get there grace like how okay so we're aware we don't love ourselves that awareness is is not enough where do we go so that i feel and see the improvement of self-love how do i get there yes so i like to go with a few limbs first because it's the easiest thing like i said that's what people are googling most people are not googling how do i love myself more it's becoming a bigger topic which is great news and i'm very excited about that upward trend but for the most part the vast majority of the world is saying how do i stop biting my nails and so we knock out a couple limbs because we feel a lot better when that happens and then we start to work on the trunk so that we're slowing the pace of anything new coming up and then we go into some self-confidence we go into some self-worth and after a little bit of time you're heading in to self-love so i always say you know there was a study found that six sessions of hypnotherapy results in an average of 93 improvement per topic so if you can give yourself at least at least 12 sessions you're going to be just starting the process of moving out of the limbs into the trunk if you can give yourself six months of hypnotherapy and i i realize there is you know a financial barrier there not everybody can afford this which is why we have the app and which is why med circle has a free youtube channel that's why i have it for youtube channel you can start with recordings absolutely and just so you guys know we do have a scholarship program at grace-based hypnosis for marginalized folks to get hypnotherapy over zoom so that is available as well um but if you can give yourself six months of hypnotherapy what's going to happen is you're going to knock out as many limbs as you could possibly want you're going to make a huge dent in the trunk and you're going to really start healing that piece of the root now i'm not suggesting that in six months you can go from absolute subconscious self-loathing and self-destruction into magically loving every element of yourself but if you were even 40 better you'd live a completely different life a completely different life from beginning to end and by no way am i also advocating that sometimes we aren't going to just naturally feel down or bad or whatever life still happens this is not like if you you are not failing because you feel bad you feel bad because we all feel bad sometimes um so that i want to be very clear with you and the subconscious view of what failure is is not in reality like kyle's belief subconscious belief that he had to have 15 million dollars in the bank to be worthy and deserving of taking care of himself that doesn't exist in truth and reality that was very real for his subconscious so you know i'm kind of using a third person because i know you've done so much work on yourself between then and now but but that happens and the other thing is you can do all the hypnotherapy in the world and it's still going to rain right there's still going to be traffic there's still pandemics the world is still a challenging place to live it's just that our reactions to the external challenges that always continue to occur become more in alignment with the person we want to be and less based on a default that is less than empowering yeah y'all i i can't bring a better conversation than this to you grace you delivered today to everybody that was wonderful now for those watching do not be be whoever you want but my recommendation is do not be the person who sits there and go that sounds nice that was motivating i like that i got a couple takeaways put them into action the we are in mental health month awareness and if you've noticed anything i put on social media only says mental health month awareness is not enough awareness is just the first step and it in the way we promote awareness sometimes makes it seem like if you're just aware then you're done we're not done it is action that is the word i want to it should be mental health action month it should not be mental health awareness month and and action you can take or going through this video and finding the things that resonate with you and then implementing those into your life we're going to include all of the resources we mentioned in this video below the video the app the website you don't have to do them all you can try them all and then figure out which ones you like the point is is that don't let this video be a one-time thing in your life let this be a catalyst for the next step and then let that next step be the catalyst for the next step continue on this journey you're watching this live so i know you're on it for for yourself or somebody else don't let this be where you stop we have tons of resources below this video check them all out check one of them out make that action point you deserve that grace final words before we wrap up thank you it's an honor i love you kyle thank you to everyone for listening and if you want to check out that seven-day free trial to our app it's getgrace.com love it thank you all for watching make sure you subscribe to this youtube channel we release new videos and lots of live interviews just like the ones you watched every single week i'm kyle

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Length: 59min 40sec (3580 seconds)

Published: Thu May 13 2021