How to Manifest Your Specific Person if You Have Anxious Attachment

have you ever felt like you're kind of addicted to your specific person like you want them so badly that it hurts or have you ever felt that you are clingy or desperate for them and you really don't know how to make that stop if so this video could actually change your life what I'm describing right now is called anxious attachment and it's one of the main things that people who are manifesting a specific person are experiencing inside themselves it also is something that sabotages being able to manifest your specific person so in this video I want to give you the essential steps to overcome your anxious attachment so you can finally manifest your SP before I jump in I want you to know I have a brand new workbook for you it's called how to be chosen by your specific person just comment chosen in the comments below and I will get you a copy ASAP also know I have a free video training for you to manifest your specific person so stay tuned to the end of the video and I'll tell you all about it okay let's jump in first let's talk about what anxious attachment is and why you feel this way in relationships so you know you are anxiously attached if you feel any of the following super clingy of your specific person almost like your happiness depends on being with them again like I said it feels like an addiction like you have to have them and you can't make that feeling go away you also feel untrusting that that person wants you something inside of you says they don't want me it may be playing out that way but deep within you don't trust that you're going to be wanted what this creates is an insecurity inside of you a sense that you are not going to be chosen and because you have this sense that you're not going to be chosen you may feel things like jealousy or paranoia you may even stalk your specific person because you have to know what they're doing this is because all within you you do not trust that you're going to be loved so if you relate to any of this I know that it can feel really awful and I want you to know that I personally know what it's like cuz I used to feel that way too back in the day I used to feel so unchosen in love it made me feel incredibly insecure I felt like I was never going to be shown up for it was a vicious cycle but there is a way through and we're about to get to that first I want to talk about why are we anxiously attached your attachment style comes from your early childhood and I think it's safe to say it comes from your first three years of life anxious attachment is your blueprint for relationships and essentially what it is is how you learn to be in a relationship based on your Early Childhood relationships so if in your family you felt left or abandoned or not really shown up for then you can have an anxious attachment and essentially what anxious attachment is it's an ingrained belief that says love's not going to show up for me and we know how manifesting Works your beliefs or what you dominantly think is going to happen to you is what you create in outer relationships and so if deep down you believe that love is not going to show up for me you are more likely in fact you're really really likely to create relationships where love doesn't show up now the good news about all of this is you can actually change your attachment style and that's what this video is all about I personally know what it's like to go from anxious attachment to secure attachment there are specific techniques you can do and when you move into secure attachment here's how you're going to feel you're going to expect people to show up for you that's very different than anxious attachment you're going to expect that you are loved just as you are you're going to start to really believe and feel confident that you can have a long-term relationship so changing your attachment style from anxious to secure is really really important and this is exactly how you do it the first step is for you to show up for your inner child so sometimes I'm surprised how many people really are reluctant to do this type of work but this can be the biggest thing that shifts your reality not only with your specific person but your reality and romantic love forever so your inner child is that part of you that did not feel shown up for when you were little it's the part of you that felt like they weren't paying attention to me or they weren't there or somebody left and that part of you still is inside of you and it's likely still hurting from time to time anytime you feel triggered in a relationship and you feel like you're being left or you feel like you're not going to be loved your inner child has come up now it's your work to show up for this part of yourself how do you do that you simply talk to that part of you in a loving way so the way I would do that is I would close my eyes I'd put my hand on my heart wrap my other hand around my body and I would say things to that part of myself like I love you I know you are scared right now I'm here for you I'm not going to leave you by learning to read really show up for your inner child you are healing that very part of you that felt left and abandoned by relationships and doing so can be a huge way to shift from anxious to secure attachment the second step for you to take is to see your worth and value so when you have anxious attachment you have that belief system of I'm not going to be loved it's some version of that love is going to leave me love is not going going to show up for me and essentially what all of that is is a belief of I'm not worthy of being loved so the way that you can shift this is to start telling yourself how worthy of love you are this is really what basic or gentle self-love is so start an affirmation process you definitely want to try to do it daily and say things to yourself like I'm worthy of love I'm a beautiful person I'm worthy of feeling good in my life and relationships if you stick with this and you do this daily you will start to see a shift in what you believe you will create in relationships and this will shift what you actually receive from others the third step you want to take is to forgive people in your past so the thing about manifesting is we are always going to manifest more of what we are and if you are still holding on to Res resentments from people in your past you are identified with being hurt by other people and that identification is going to create more hurt so forgiveness is not about pretending like you were never hurt and it's not about really letting people off the hook so to say forgiveness really is the recognition that hurt people hurt people right so when people are hurt themselves they do things that can hurt us let me give you an example of my own life and how this really helped shift my attachment style I used to hold a lot of resentment towards my dad and the reason was he felt like he was unavailable to me when I was little my parents got divorced I didn't get to see him very much and I held a lot of hurt about this inside of myself one day I had this Awakening about the situation though and I recognized my dad has gone through a lot he's had a lot of hard stuff happen to him in his life and because of that being really close to others is very difficult for him when I saw my dad through this lens I no longer felt resentment towards him I felt compassion I felt like he's hurt he's just doing the best he can and this is actually the truth for everyone else so again forgiving others is not about just letting people off the hook or pretending you're not hurt but it's really a way for you to free yourself so you don't have to walk around with the identity that I'm someone who always gets hurt when you let go of that identity you can shift your attachment style to secure and start creating a new reality in your life the fourth step to drop anxious attachment and move into secure attachment to manifest your specific person is to see new potentials of love so here is something that happens to a lot of people who are manifesting a specific person they get tunnel vision and I know this because I did the same thing when I was manifesting my SP we can become so focused on that other person and getting a result with them that we forget to open up our eyes and see that there are other potentials for love out there I am not talking about opening yourself up to dating someone else if that's not what you want to do but I am talking about opening yourself up to the potential of a new type of relationship when you are stuck in that tunnel vision and you are so focused on not getting the love you want that is all you see your work as a manifestor is to think differently to imagine differently to dream bigger for yourself so you have to start looking around and seeing examples of couples that resemble the type of relationship you want you have to really work on imagining being someone in that type of relationship when you do this imaginal work you'll become more familiar with this type of love and that will be the very thing that will magnetize it to you if you really want my guidance on how to manifest your specific person as quickly and as beautifully as possible definitely type chosen in the comments below you'll get my new free PDF and you'll also be invited into my new Master Class the specific person's secret you definitely want to dive into that Master class cuz I give away my best secrets and techniques to manifest your specific person ASAP also if you want to hear about all the juicy details of how I manifested my SP after a brutal breakup definitely watch this video next thank you so much for being here with me I love being here with you I'll see you soon bye

Channel: Shelly Bullard

Views: 14,567

Keywords: manifest a specific person, manifest specific person, manifest ex, manifest ex back, manifest love, manifesting, manifestation, law of assumption, law of attraction, specific person, self concept, self love, shelly, bullard, shelly bullard

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Length: 10min 52sec (652 seconds)

Published: Fri May 10 2024