- Hi there, and welcome back
to the Lisa Nichols Show where together, we develop some tools to take our lives to the next level. I come, I bring you content,
I bring you experiences, I bring you truth. Sometimes I serve it to
you straight, no chaser. How can we take our
life to the next level? That's what we do here. I'm so excited about
everyone that's commenting. You guys are just like on
fire with the comments, or as Matt would say it on our team, on fiya with the comments. I absolutely love it. April, you commented on the show called Focus on What You Want to Change. There have been a lot of comments on that particular episode. It's really wonderful. And you said, listen, I don't
have any big comment Lisa, I just wanna say thank
you, really big caps. You said this is right on time end quote. What I love about when you show up and you look at an episode and they're nice nuggets under 15 minutes, it's like yeah, I can use that. Everything that you
get can be used as fuel and my goal here is to
give you some great fuel for a great life experience. I love what you said Morgan. Oh my God, you gave me
chills with this one. You were commenting on
the episode entitled Your Spirit Has No Gender or Color and you just brought it home. You said quote on quote, I can't believe that this message is free. You said it truly surpasses the title and went completely deep. It gave me chills end quote. Girl, you made me wanna go back and look at the episode again. I so appreciate your comment. Isn't it wonderful when
you can get a message about an old topic, an old conversation, an old focus of discussion but you have a new approach to it? That's what this is all about. Having a new approach to our lives. I cannot invite you enough
to comment, comment, comment so I can read yours. Kenrick, you asked a question, what does it mean to be everything to me? So let's have the conversation what does it mean to be everything that you need to be to yourself? To me, that definition means that you give yourself
exactly what you need. You're not looking for other
people to validate you. You're looking for other people to affirm, to stand in alignment with you,
with what you know to be so, but you're not placing your
stock and your self value in the hands of your
boss, your relationship, your children, your family. That you wake up each morning and you say, and I've said this before, I am enough. Today I'm pleased with who I am. Before you start the day, I always say that my job is to like Lisa first. Before anything that occurs
today, my job is to like Lisa and to know that I'm gonna
bring the best version of me in every situation I can. To like me before anyone
on Facebook likes me. And to know that I'm OK. What does it mean to be everything to you? That's not an arrogant statement. It's not a place of self indulgent. It's to recognize that
self care is not selfish. It's to recognize that
you can only serve others from a full cup. And that it's your job
to fill yourself up. Fill yourself up with positive thinking, that's why you're here. Fill yourself up with new possibility, that's why you're here. Fill yourself up with new opportunities. Fill yourself up with having
the best people on your planet. Loving yourself enough to remove unhealthy, toxic
people out of your life. And you may not be able to completely remove them from your life but you can love them from a distance. Being into you means if a
relationship isn't honoring you, then you don't just jump out of it. But you do declare what you need. Loving you is when you know that can you add value to a company, to a system, to a program, to a business. That you step up. Loving you and showing up for
you and being totally into you is giving yourself a
thousand second chances and every time you get
to 99, you press reset. That you are willing to bank on you. You are willing to show up for you. Being totally into you,
it looks like saying, how can I give my body
the best opportunity ever? What does that look like? And it doesn't necessarily
mean you go vegan unless that's for you. Or vegetarian unless that's for you. But it does mean that you
give your body what it needs. Nutrients and water and
oxygen and movement. That you recognize that
your body is your temple here to help you live
out your life purpose. Being totally into you is
setting healthy boundaries. It's understanding that your
yes remains really valuable when you're willing to exercise your no. And to understand that no
is a complete sentence. It doesn't require any justification. So being everything to yourself is saying that I'm not
looking for a relationship to complete me. Any relationship that I'm in, I'm in to complement my completeness. Oh man, that took me years to get to. I was so many times and for so many years, I thought that the other
half of me was out there that there was a part of me that, or something in me comes alive when someone else comes into my space. It took a long time for me to realize, wait a minute, the best
thing that I can do is be whole and complete and find someone who's whole and complete. And let our completeness
complement one another. But it's my job, it's your job to really find out what makes me complete. Spiritually, emotionally, financially, physically in relationship. So in closing, being everything to you is also recognizing you're
not in this world alone. That there's an interdependent experience that other people around
you get to share with you. That your greatness coupled
with other people's greatness makes something that
you haven't seen before. It's being willing to ask for help. It's being willing to say I'm lonely. It's being willing to say I apologize. It's being willing to say I forgive you. It's recognizing that you
can be everything to yourself only so that you can
dance more deliciously with those around you. Dance inside of love. Dance inside of business. Dance inside of service. Dance inside of spiritual growth. It's to recognize that
we come here dependent and then we work to be independent and the ultimate form of ascension is to be in a place
called interdependence. So when you're enough for you
and you're everything for you and you've done what you need to do with you, for you, by you, now you can show up and go,
how can I coexist with others? Now remember, this is not a monologue. I know I say it all the time
but I have to remind you. I want your comments. You should've been commenting already if you haven't done so. Please tell me, what do you
think about this episode? What about it stirred
something in your soul? What was a great reminder about being everything to yourself, being enough for yourself
or being interdependent and realizing that we're
here as individuals but we're here to have
a collective experience? So please, shoot me any
questions, any comments, what popped up, what was
a aha, what was a BOL, a breakthrough out loud? What was something that you agree with or you didn't agree with? I wanna hear all of it. And go get your friends. Invite them. This is a delicious
experience that we're having. Let's not keep it to ourselves. And subscribe if you
haven't already done so. I want you here for a while. I'm your sister in the journey. This is your tribe. We are your home. And every time I see you, I'm going to tell you something like I believe in you or I love you. Why would I do that? Because I do. I believe in you. And I love you. I'll see you real soon. (uplifting music)
