How To Get Over an EXISTENTIAL CRISIS

I've mentioned this passage a few times before but what the heck I'm going to do it again in the Bell jar Sylvia plat perfectly captures the sense of fleeting time of paralysis by analysis that pervades the 20-some of today as our protagonist reflects on her life she sees everything as a fig tree with a dizzying amount of branches and at the tip of each branch was a wonderful future a lover a family an exciting new country on this Branch she would become a a famous poet and on this one she lived in South America there were overwhelming options I saw myself sitting in the crotch of this fig tree starving to death just because I couldn't make up my mind which of the figs I would choose I wanted each and every one of them but choosing one meant losing all the rest and as I sat there unable to decide the figs began to wrinkle and go black and one by one they plopped to the ground at my feet it's a blessing until it's not to have boundless opportunities while you were still young and the world is your oyster and then your 30s hit and you're babysitting your friend's kids or maybe you're regretting breaking up with that person for in retrospect pretty shallow reasons perhaps you hit that Dreadful age where you stop exploring and you start committing and still within you there Broods this nasty feeling then in some way you've [Music] settled this video is sponsored by brilliant one of the best ways to discover who you are is through embracing your curiosity but this can be scary learning new things requires making lots of mistakes and that's not always fun but what if the process of learning could be fun that's why I love brilliant brilliant is where you learn by doing with thousands of interactive lessons in math data analysis programming and AI firstly brilliant is a highly effective way to learn they use a Hands-On approach that highlights the fundamentals you don't miss anything important brilliant also helps you build problem solving skills that go beyond just 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entering a relationship because the Grass Is Always Greener with that next potential TI Kinder swipe we might put off a master's degree because we aren't really sure that this is what we'd like to do 100% even picking up a book is too much of a commitment look at all of those other books you've never finished why waste your time with something mediocre when you can spend your life sampling little bits of everything this can result in a general anxiety with no stable sense of what we would like we live in a state of constant panic and more often than not let life do the deciding for us anxiety is the dizziness of Freedom writes kirkgard the freedom we feel in adolescence and Beyond is as exciting as it is terrifying what great power we have to shape our lives but what if we make the wrong choices what if what we have invested in fails why settle on anything if we're just going to end up hurt Robert Gooden in his book on settling however is firmly on team settling he contrasts it with something we tend to hold with higher regard striving striving is fun it's the rocky Montage we imagine when the hero has to train for something it's when we set our minds to something important and valuable striving although certainly filled with long nights and hard work frees us from that CAG Guardian anxiety we know what we are doing however as good in notes striving first ly requires settling the hero does have to settle their sights on something in order to strive for it this is a somewhat obvious point before we can strive for something we need to do some striving to determine whether what we are striving for is worth it that is also called the process of settling the issue is that for many settling carries with it a negative connotation you might see it as a form of compromise of declaring that you do not deserve more than this however this is a trick of the mind but do we really have to settle good and sees the use of settling mostly in its fixity by providing some stability some sense of order we feel a little less anxious we can strive for our goals with relative confidence and determination without constantly doubting ourselves we should of course still be on the lookout to have our minds changed and to keep our options open but this should be well we are undertaking something and this sort of skepticism should not hold us in decision Purgatory but what if I choose the wrong thing to settle on you 100% will especially the younger you are as we experience more and more we learn more about ourselves our values our preferences the things that make us feel alive early on in life we have a relatively limited sample of experiences to choose from one of the fruits of Bing is that you commit to certain things relationships careers degrees and fully see them through during this process you discover more about yourself and the world ACR what the psychologist mag J calls identity Capital the collection of skills experiences values and knowledge we accumulate through an exploratory period of committing and growing if anything the early period of your life should be characterized by a growing list of odd jobs failed relationships and on deing experiences at this stage it matters less what you choose and more so that you choose something anything to gather the necessary data about yourself in doing so you can fine-tune your settling capacities for when you are older and do have to make those harder decisions success shouldn't even be on your mind at this age but why choose anything to begin with nich's aphorism that that you should become what you are has some relevance here isn't that what you would like most to become what you are but what does this even mean for n it involves a process of wandering of plunging fully into life with no real frame of why or how in eomo he writes to become what one is one must not have the faintest idea of what one is it is this radical self-doubt that should urge us to pick something and see through with it if nothing else but to better understand who we are we might fail we might realize halfway through that this isn't what we wanted or maybe at the end it all works out and we realize then that this was a complete waste of time but it wasn't it's exactly what life is and it's the process of becoming yourself at its purest form n's Point may be that the process of self-discovery requires an undoing of the self- knowledge that you assume you already have becoming is the ongoing process of losing and finding yourself it is this beautiful idea that the mountain climber does not climb the mountain to reach the top but rather commits themselves to reaching the top as an excuse to climb the mountain life is all about finding which mountain peaks will give us the most scenic challenging and enjoyably meaningful climb here I think of the Insight of sidarta written by Herman Hessa our protagonist sidarta has spent the majority of his life in pursuit of Enlightenment or Nirvana he has studied the scriptures lived brutally as an aesthetic and even met the Buddha in each instance sedara was Guided by an inner voice urging him to follow his own path even in his encounter with the Buddha and in spite of his praise for his teachings sidarta turns away and at one point he even feels completely hopeless everything he had pursued has led him to a dead end what a waste of time sedara stares at the river in front of him and is struck with an important Insight he saw that the water continually flowed and yet it was always there it was always the same and yet every moment it was new life too is an endless process of moving towards something and it is this constant motion that sustains life itself sedara understood that to frame his life as seeking something was damaging he was seeking the perfect thing to settle on that would give him Enlightenment in doing so he felt like a failure unable to solve his existence but it was only when he realized that life is a process of finding rather than seeking that his whole being is composed of all of these experiences and failures and lost loves and new friends where he found Enlightenment choose your rock it will inevitably roll back down and that's okay it's part of the process the process of becoming what you are [Music]

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Length: 10min 58sec (658 seconds)

Published: Mon May 27 2024