HOW TO CONFIDENCE TEST OTHER MEN | PROBING THE ALPHA MALE

every single day millions of guys and girls are tested and they don't even know it most will fail these tests because they had no idea they were being tested in the first place if someone tests you and you fail it's not the end of the world but it could be the end of a good opportunity you see in life you'll find that many opportunities are hidden behind a wall of fear but there is another wall that is rarely talked about and it's a test think back to a time when you were younger or if you're fairly young think back to the last time you were around what could be considered an alpha male if you've ever been locked up you'll quickly find out who the toughest guys are how did you feel around this person chances are you were tested by the Alpha and you probably fail like I said it's not the end of the world but it could be the end of a great opportunity you see we all know that girls test guys and they do this because they have a lot at stake when choosing a partner what a lot of guys don't realize is that guys also test guys but for different reasons when a girl tests you she's probing for emotional weakness and one of the most attractive traits that you can have is emotional strength and by passing the tests that girls put you through your attraction in her eyes will go way up passing tests from girls is great because it can help you take things to the next level but tests with guys are slightly different before we get into how to actually test all their men think about this for a second imagine your friend sets you up to play a card game with some group of guys you show up at the house and walk into the garage now you immediately notice four rugged tough looking dudes looking at you you walk over introduce yourself and get ready to play in the beginning all of the guys seems really nice but after about thirty minutes or so they begin to pick at you they've started to peel back the layers of your personality to see who you really are as a man after listening to your voice tonality and paying careful attention to the things you've said to them they've effectively sized you up now imagine that you're super skinny and kind of nerdy looking maybe in school kids occasionally made fun of you for these things so you're pretty insecure about them you pick up some of the cards and them to the center of the table all of a sudden one of the guys makes a joke asking you if you're sure if you can lift the cards to the middle of the table although he's making what he said to you a joke as it's the case with most funny jokes there is actually some truth to it by saying this the guy is basically calling you out on your biggest emotional weakness this is your standard test but among a new group of guy friends you can almost think of it like an initiation everybody talks about the tests that girls run on guys but you never hear anyone talking about how guys test other guys when you're younger such as when you're in high school the testing is much more pronounced and in many cases it can be much harsher than how a grown man would test you it is important to realize that you don't have to be big and muscular to be an alpha but in my opinion it definitely helps your confidence which directly translates to being a dominant male the defining trait of the alpha male is the emotional strength so going back to the example with the card game how do you think you should handle the test after the guy makes the joke how you respond to it will determine if you fail or pass the test now let's look at some of the possible outcomes option a involves saying nothing but as you can imagine you would look pretty ridiculous and weird if you chose to go this route option B would be to laugh with him at the joke but understand that if you do this you're basically failing the test by laughing with him and saying nothing else you're passing one part of the test but failing the other every single time a guy runs a test on you he is basically saying I'm more of an alpha than you are what are you going to do about it fail too many of these tests in front of other guys and you're ranked among the group will drop as you're ranked among the other males drops the other betas within the group will also begin to test you and eventually everyone in the group will view you as nothing more than an emotional punching bag as mentioned earlier alpha is a frame of mind among other things so option a is saying nothing an option B is laughing at the joke at your own expense option C is getting super defensive about it and this is absolutely the worst thing you do why because it shows weakness I've mentioned that in many ways humans act a lot like animals and in the animal kingdom monkeys do some absolutely crazy things to gain power within their society in one study a monkey named Buddy was bitten by the dominant monkey of the group now instead of at least delivering an equal blow back to the monkey who bit him buddy decided to run away in fear now all of buddy's friends happened to be around at the time and you would think logically that they would help him right wrong in fact buddy's friends not only didn't protect her help him they actually chased after him with the Alpha monkey to inflict even more damage on him this is similar to how it works with human males but instead of chasing you physically other guys will chase you emotionally in other words if the alpha male pokes you and you show fear and weakness the other males in the group will likely do the same over time until you're viewed as the lowest ranking member of the group in the experiment with the monkeys buddy would have been quite literally eliminated if researchers hadn't removed him from the enclosure as a child my parents always told me not to act afraid around the doc because dogs can sense and even smell a person's fear which can actually force the dog to act in an aggressive way this same concept applies to humans but in a slightly different way like many types of animals other guys can sense fear and weakness this is why you've always been told to never turn your back on a bear and start running because this will instinctively force the bear to view you as a prey animal which will start a chase that you won't win so with that said going back to the card game example we are left with one last option which is option D this response involves showing no weakness and matching the alpha blow-for-blow this means that when another guy pokes at you you poke back this is easier to do with people that you know a little bit about and it's harder to do with complete strangers if you don't know the person well enough to know their potential weakness all that you have to do is neutralize the test by laughing and then turning it into a compliment about yourself in some way the key point here is responding in a way that doesn't make you look weak or defensive at their core the tests that guys run on you are basically all about respect they are probing you for confidence and to see if you respect yourself because if you don't respect yourself you can't respect them get this in the animal kingdom a pack of wolves will almost never organize to go after another pack of wolves but they will routinely single out and go after a weakened member of their own group logically this doesn't really make any sense but it's just how many types of animals who work and as humans since we hold many similarities with wolves and monkeys oftentimes we act and think in similar ways by understanding this behavior you'll know exactly what to do to gain respect among a group of guys and you'll also know what to do when another guy is trying to flirt with your girl which brings me to the next point if a guy is trying to flirt with your girlfriend one of the easiest and most effective ways to handle the situation is to test him nine times out of 10 the guy is only bluffing and once he fails the test your girlfriend will be reassured that you're the Alpha and the other guy will be viewed as the beta and since all girls one alpha this is the best position for you to be in now to actually test the guy all that you need to do is make a joke that positions you as the Alpha this could involve a perceived weakness that the guy has or it could be something totally made-up if you can think fast and you have great wit this is much easier to do but these aren't requirements the key is to make what you're saying sound like a joke but really it is actually a way to increase your perceived value while putting down the value of the other male it is up to you to decide what needs to be said knowing how guys test guys and how you can stand your ground gain respect and go blow for blow with the Alpha on an emotional level is fundamental knowledge that all guys should know and at the end of the day it will help you to become a better man overall and what that's it until next time thanks for watching

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Length: 8min 57sec (537 seconds)

Published: Sat Oct 21 2017

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