how to be okay alone (taking myself on a date / summer day in the life) | TMCC episode 3

hey it's rebecca again for the past year i feel like we've all spent a lot of time alone whether we've liked it or not but hey let's look at the positives it's never been more socially acceptable to spend time alone because of this reason maybe we should take advantage of it and appreciate the time that we have for ourselves because it's really important to have good relationships with others but it's even more important to have a good relationship with yourself at the end of the day you're all you've got and whether you like it or not you're going to be stuck with yourself forever if that's the case might as well learn to enjoy your own company anyways i think some people are watching me right now welcome to the main character chronicles episode 3. today we're gonna be talking about the art of being alone and a summer day in the life [Music] when i was researching for this video i came across amanda's video on the art of being alone i'll link her video down below but she talked about something interesting called aristotle's nicomachean ethics i don't know if i said that right essentially he said that there were three types of friendships a friendship based on utility a friendship based on pleasure and a friendship based on goodness of character examples of the first two friendships could be between co-workers or people on the same sports team or if you went to the same high school or college but after a while this expires for example if you leave the high school if you're not on the same sports team or if you change jobs and although there's nothing wrong with these types of friendships they are not generally long-lasting in amana's video she took a step back and thought about her utility and pleasure friendships and thought if she wanted to turn them into goodness friendships and to be aware and not trick yourself into thinking that you have all these friendships based on goodness when they might not be healthy in order to expand on amanda's video i found out that aristotle claims that in a friendship that is based on virtue aka goodness and not merely on pleasure or utility each person loves the virtues of each other we appreciate their generosity their loyalty their bravery and compassion and we like who they are as a person that's why aristotle says the right sort of self-love is a model for the love of our friends because we love our own virtuous character and we love the virtuous character of our friends he says that self-love is more important than friendship since only people who treat themselves with appropriate care and respect can achieve proper virtue and happiness even though a happy person is a theoretically self-sufficient friendship is an important and essential aspect of a good life true self-love is to have proactive engagement with your own character that is to regularly assess yourself and see how your actions fit with who you want to be and who you are shake yourself or push yourself when you become a little too comfortable recognize the signs of self-deception when you do something bad that you know you're not supposed to do but you give yourself an excuse to do it loving yourself means to trust others who you know have your best interests at heart when you can't see yourself clearly enough i think aristotle's nico manche and ethics is pretty interesting and a lot of it can be applied to our real life [Music] i don't even like you i know you just [Music] wanna [Music] i couldn't face it but now i do the truth is [Music] [Applause] so i got an iced caramel macchiato but on my way back here i already drank like most of it and i got a spinach feta wrap i'm so nervous vlogging in public oh my [Music] god [Music] we always say to be nice to people but oftentimes we forget that we are a person too so be kind to yourself so clearly i need to get used to this youtube thing because my battery died on my laptop and i ran out of storage on my phone so yeah i probably have like 10 more seconds of recording on my phone before the storage runs out so i'll see you guys at home [Music] okay i am back and changed the camera on my battery so this camera works now i'm just gonna do a little bit of work now maybe edit a little bit until my meeting at six and then at seven i have a little panel um event kind of that i'm going to be speaking at for my university and then afterwards i'm probably just going to edit for the rest of the day yeah my life [Music] [Music] i think technology these days has made it easy to never have a break from people texts phone calls facetimes dms i think it should be okay to not have to reply to text right away and not have to talk to people every day to be friends if you're wondering what to do during this summer so what i'm doing this summer is i'm actually doing my thesis right now because i'm going into my fourth year of university and also i'm obviously working on youtube social media stuff someone told me before that if you really want to grow on youtube or social media your videos and editing have to be as good as the people who have already a million subscribers so that's why i put a lot of time and effort into my videos to edit them and i constantly search up on youtube skillshare all those things about how i can improve my editing and filmmaking and everything and it's actually been paying off so literally one month ago i had less than 10k on youtube and now i have 41 000 which is pretty cool oh someone's facetiming me wait a second okay i forgot what i was saying but let's go get a snack so how do we become more comfortable with ourselves well first of all we understand that you are perfectly fine the way you are and you don't need the approval of other people avoid comparing yourself to others and the social life of others sometimes it's easy to look through snapchat stories and get a little fomo when others are having a party or hanging out without you so make sure you use social media in a healthy way maybe start a self-care regimen or explore new hobbies like reading meditating working out even crocheting that's something i really want to try [Music] you ever think yeah it sometimes anyways if you enjoyed this video please don't forget to like and subscribe it would mean so much to me i am so very glad that you're here today and i'll see you guys next time [Music] see you open the lights we started now this is horrendous you look like you have a spy spider lashes yeah [Music] i don't even like you

Channel: Rebecca Jay

Views: 84,756

Keywords: the art of being alone, taking myself on a date, how to be your own best friend, how to be happy alone, to anyone feeling lonely, being alone and happy, why I enjoy being alone, how to be comfortable being alone, loneliness, feeling lonely, being alone vs lonely, summer day in the life, summer week in the life, summer routine, summer daily routine

Id: EQPz8OZJ1sA

Length: 10min 46sec (646 seconds)

Published: Fri Jun 04 2021