How Do You Heal After Your Heartbreak? | Loose Women

tennis Legend Annabel Croft is one of the latest contestants to sign up for this year's Strictly Come Dancing this comes just three months after her husband Mel who was a huge fan of the show died after a short battle with cancer Annabelle says she signed up to enjoy the joyfulness of dancing Gloria this is something you can relate to isn't it absolutely related to it and I'll come Annabelle by the way is a marvelous strong girl and I went to Mel's memorial service and something like 400 people turned up you know to support them which was marvelous and in terms of my daughter Karen um I want to say that grief is at all levels because I've lost a former husband my parents good friends and so on but for me and it's my personal opinion I think when you lose a child or Annabelle's gay she's lost her husband and she's got three beautiful children and in my case I went to a level that I never thought was possible I call it the black hole and I never thought thought that I would get out of it because every time I tried to climb up the black hole I would just fall right down again so it's important to remember that grief comes in all shapes and forms and if any of you are going through it at the moment I I really am you know you have my thoughts on that and you think at the time at least I did I thought I would never laugh again never be happy again because I thought that loss would be is or was so great that I could never cope with that and one of my sons actually found out really sad because of course they're my children as well but at the time your brain is scrambled and you really can't cope with what I would call ordinary life somehow or other toast got made because the children lived with us for a while post got made you know you function but you're not really functioning tell me about that letter you got I remember the letter was amazing because it was written on a piece of jotter paper and a bit torn and when you've presented request programs on radio as I have you sort of always looked at uh jot a piece of jotter paper but this one was profaned and she said to me what you have to do now after saying she was sorry about Karen she said you have to remember that Karen's Spirit was huge and she had a really big soul but you must also remember that the soul is bigger than death and death is never the end no that was profound and it makes you gulp but then you begin to think about it in your more Quiet Moments and eventually you have to sort of join life again because you've in my case I love your husband love your children love your grandchildren at that point and so therefore it either could take you out at one point because you're just so much in the depths or you have to join life again and it's a head job I I did but anyway um I just one little thing that because I live by some of the advice people sent to me and I I send this out to anybody who's going through at the moment because this letter said there will be days forever when you want to look accounts photographs and weep butcher said you've got to remember that if You Weep until the second you die or if You Weep just forever and ever and ever you're not going to change anything and you're not going to bring her back now I got to that but when I thought about it I thought she's right yeah but on the other hand her end piece was go and do something positive so that's what we do we have a foundation that raises money for all kinds of Cancer all over the country and every time I write a check to a charity I think I'll think of Karen all the time but I think she would be so amazed and so proud of the fact that this had done in her name so to go back to Annabelle just for a minute um Annabelle they're so strong and when I did uh um cyclic on dancing and what'd you say Jay in 2000 2005. it was a relatively short time after Karen died I could find nobody in my family tell me not to do it but they almost insisted that I did it and what they said was you will it'll give you a chance to smile again and laugh again and that was the truth because I became a sort of different person again yeah and that also is just oh look actually that's not bad that's my first week that was the waltz I did that all right third week but Annabelle all I would say to you is it's a great step and I nearly didn't do it but I'm glad I did because it gave me because you feel guilty about laughing and smiling when you've lost somebody so dear to you yeah and that took the guilt away if you know what I mean three you know and I've lost people you know you know I've lost people in my life and and I think the grief doesn't go you grow around it but it's interesting because a friend of mine at the moment is going through a major breakup and she's like keeps expecting that she shouldn't be feeling this anymore and I said you know grief comes in so many ways even a relationship it's it's very similar when a relationship ends to the grief that you have when you lose somebody's would you remember when you the pain when you were younger if you if you broke up with somebody it was just unbearable because that happened to me when I split up with Lauren's dad um so he moved in with a new partner opposite where we lived oh and so I used to see them two coming out together every day and I used to play sad music and just sit and cry and wallow in it it was just like I'll wallowing we didn't do me but I love crying I hated seeing and walking past it I wanted to kill him have a drink and just like be a bit sort of Hollywood to cry get it all out I'm terrible now this is my pride I never wallow in anything I go and then I'm back in the room my girls keep saying mum that's really bad for your health I think that's a sneeze isn't it I don't know what it was let it all out let it all out

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Length: 6min 14sec (374 seconds)

Published: Fri Aug 11 2023