"Honor Within the Family" - Pastor Doug Batchelor

we're in the midst of a series actually first time since I've been here that is dedicated solely to the ten commandments and so today we're actually on the sixth presentation but it's commandment number five and we've just transferred from the first table of stones over to the second table of stones the message title is dealing with honor in the family honor within the family now in the Ten Commandments you've got you know I was going to say something really silly like the Lord is brilliant but it's sort of obvious isn't it but it is brilliant the way that God designed the Ten Commandments on the first table you've got the relationship between man and God it's the the vertical relationship the first commandment if you get the first commandment right thou shalt not have any other Lords before me you will get all the other Commandments on this table right because if God is first in your life then you'll obey the way that you worship Him the day that you worship Him the time the method Neil his name that'll all be revered if you worship Him supremely now when you go to the second table what is the first commandment there on your father another now we're dealing with the horizontal relationships in the remaining six Commandments here if you get this one right if they're if things are right in the family all the other Commandments would be right if you've got good parents and they're teaching their children good truth you're not gonna find in society that there are problems with the line and adultery and the coveting and the killing and all these other things it's when you don't get the first one right that you have problem with all the rest this commandment probably more than any other is the foundation to the health and success of any culture because the family is the most basic unit of a society and what we're talking about is not just children obeying parents we're talking about parent is living in an honourable way and it's the relationship between the parents it's a relationship of the children and the parents and the parents and the children it's really talking about honor within the family reverence and respect and so um that's our message today it's based upon this commandment you can find it in your Bible of course in Exodus 20 verse 12 matter of fact it's short enough and you should all know it by heart why don't you say it with me and this is the version most of us have remembered you ready honor your father and your mother that your days may be long upon the land which the Lord your God is giving you honor your father and your mother now I just think it's wonderful the way the Lord orchestrated things so that it just so happens that today is Mother's Day and this is what I'm talking about I'd like to tell you that I brilliantly planned that but I didn't I'm just glad it worked out that way and so hopefully that in the message today and embrace in the kernel of the message today we will find that along with our fathers our mothers will be honored and all that that involves you know I want you to know that I try to stay current in what I share with you here the latest time magazine now the latest Time magazine is May 20 so on your screen now what's the date today May 11 this is the May 20 magazine so you can never accuse me of being behind we're actually a week ahead of course I just dated our message for all future generations I got this at my door yesterday and I said aw this is perfect look at just a headline it says the me me me generation Millennials are lazy entitled narcissists who still live with their parents why they will save us now I didn't read the article yet I was too busy getting ready for the sermon but I've got problems with the premise of the title how you could have a selfish me me me generation that is lazy self-centered live it at home and they're gonna save us I don't know how that would work out I think they they might have the first part of it right that we are living in a very selfish generation and that of course affects the relationships of the children and the parents you know in every culture for there to be a strong society one of the first things they need to do is they need to understand that the authority for the children is not the state it's the parents this idea that it takes a village and that we all raise each other's children it sounds really nice but no in order for a culture to be healthy we need to understand that a family unit the responsibility of those children belongs first and foremost to those who brought them into the world I'm talking about biologically they are made in the image of their appearance just as we are in the image of God that responsibility rests with the parents that must be respected by the state by the government that the and to some extent you know when children are minors they're under the authority under the authority of their parents there still is an element of that respect but more and more we're finding it the government's acting like we're the ones who are gonna tell you how to raise your children instead of the parents having that decision something else I don't know if you caught it it's an honor your father and your mother there is an implied truth there that a family according to God's design is not a father and a father or a mother and a mother but it is a father and a mother that's God's plan and in the same way on the first table of stones God is saying look I'm the one who saved you I made you and so I want you to worship me at the foundation of our relationships with each other it begins with honoring your parents because parents are a child's first concept of God they really represent God to the children you think about it God is one who created us he sustains us he cares for us he provides us he forgives us he cleanses us and for a child who is God to that child as they're growing up I need to issue a disclaimer here I realize as I talk about this subject that you know we live with all kinds of strange circumstances and some of you maybe have been adopted this is an uncomfortable subject some of you may be grew up in a home with just a single parent some of you maybe are test-tube babies and you're raised by some corporation I don't know we're all kinds of different people out there and there's exceptions so what we are talking about here is the ideal does everyone appreciate that this is the ideal and I know all of us have different deviations of that ideal in our families and some of us we were raised by our mother and our stepfather or whatever but we're so we're talking about the ideal and I understand that I just want you to wink at the areas where you realize it doesn't perfectly fit your situation but for the normal child their first concept of God is the parents matter of fact it's interesting the evolution that children go through when they're real little the parents can do everything they look at their parents and wide-eyed wonder and they think they're God they they fear them they respect them they love them they look to them they don't want to be away from them they get a little older you know the kid will say my dad's the strongest dad in the world and then they get a little older I get to be about 12 and they say well they know almost everything and then they get to be about 14 they say they don't know very much and then they graduate high school and start college and they think they don't know anything and then they get to 25 and something changes they call and ask for occasional advice and then they get to be about 30 and they got kids of their own and their respect just begins to soar and they start to understand and then they get to be about 60 and they think you know I wish I could talk to them again and I would have asked them more questions but it's like it goes from this believing everything to believe you nothing to believe in everything again it's kind of strange how do you observe that but they represent our first concept and that's why it's important for children to honor their parents it's very important for children for parents to live honourable lives because your child's concept of God is gonna largely come from your influence and it's often true people who have fathers are sort of distant and detached their concept of God is that he's just really not interested people who have fathers that are indulgent and permissive they start thinking their Heavenly Father that anything goes and so you need that balance that because you are communicating the characteristics of God both father and mother to your children now just a few verses that should help us remember this for one thing a Christian is a follower of Christ did Jesus follow this commandment you remember when he was twelve years old and he went he you could say he ran away from home because parents lost him for three days he and really run away from home they took him to church and then they left and he stayed and they lost track of him for three days and finally they found Jesus and and I always thought that that would have been really difficult for Mary and Joseph to explain to God we know you gave us the Messiah we've misplaced him we've misplaced the Son of God how do you get over that and after they found him again he said I must be about my father's business noted what it says in Luke 251 he went down with them went to Nazareth and was subject to them the word subject well means he was obedient to them Jesus obeyed his father and mother and maybe I should take a moment and talk about what his word on or mean when we say honor our father and our mother to honor in the Hebrew to honor means to make way T to give gravity in importance to their their being to promote to glorify to boast about to revere that's the Hebrew in Greek it's the word tomorrow and it means to prize to honor to value also to revere honor your father another by the way that commandment we read it clearly in Hebrew and clearly in Greek there's no question about what it means because we've got it coming from the words of Jesus and from the Old Testament example proverbs 10:1 just a few choice morsels proverbs 10:1 the Proverbs of Solomon a wise son makes a glad father but a foolish son is the grief of his mother proverbs 1520 a lie son makes a father glad but a foolish man despises his mother proverbs 19 26 he who mistreats his father and chases away his mother is a son who causes shame and brings reproach all through the Bible the principle about revering and honoring and respecting your father and mother is a pretty basic principle but the first concept of God comes from him by the way not only will parents represent God to your children but their concept of marriage is going to come from you not only is it important that children honor their parents and that parents live honorably but parents must be very careful to honor each other because if a father does not honor his wife your son probably will not honor his if a mother does not respect her husband your daughter will probably not respect her husband and so the model that the parents established for those children what goes around will come around history will repeat itself now some of you might be thinking the past or Doug I grew up in a family that was so dysfunctional my mother and father were not very honorable they didn't honor each other and now it's causing me problems by God's grace you need to break the cycle for the next generation and it can happen you know one of the things I'm amazed that when I read the Bible is how some of these rotten kings had good kids and how some of the good Kings had rotten kids and so you can't always say well I'm a victim because of the way I grew up I can't help it I thought it was pretty pitiful I am reluctant to even refer to what we've heard in the news this week about that horrific story of those ladies that were basically held imprisoned you know what I'm talking about by this man and I you know he's still technically a suspect but the evidence seems pretty overwhelming that he basically imprisoned these three women and abused them for over nine years and you know what his response is I was mistreated as a child well you know you can't use that and it might give you some excuse but it's not gonna be at least it didn't used to be a valid claim in court and so maybe you didn't have the right kind of mother and father you need to break the cycle and you can I've seen it happen you've seen it happen examples in the word but we represent God so children need to honor their parents because the Lord I've often told our kids when you know they sometimes disagree with some mandate that comes from mom or dad I said look God made us your parents so you take it up with him and so I just passed the buck I said he put us in charge you're gonna have to go talk to the Lord about that and this is way it is and so sometimes you just have to lay down the law oh you know I saw this amount probably it's as good a time as any to share this with you I saw a list and preparing for the sermon things that we now you might raise your hand things that we typically have heard fathers say and then I got things we typically have heard mothers say how many times have you heard a father say how many of you heard your father say ask your mother ask your mother close the door were you born in a barn did anyone hear that growing up father or mother could have said that one don't worry it's only a little blood you come in with an ally you know mom is kissing it and put a bandaid on it and you show it to your dad you'll go oh it's just blood I remember the first time I hurt myself and I started to bleed I was thinking I'm leaking what's happening and you know I remember uncle used to say he'd take it the other way he'd go wow look at all the blood that's really Andy you didn't get a lot of sympathy from the father's right a little dirt never hurt anyone just wipe it off keep your eye on the ball this is gonna hurt me a lot more than it's gonna hurt you I never did understand that do I look like I'm made of money you know you ever heard that you ever hear dad say no we're not lost and then along with that one you would hear no we're not there yet don't make me stop this car and come back there as long as you live under my roof you live by my rules or I'm the king of this castle something to that effect any of you ever hear that growing up I'll tell you why because I said so and you know whenever I heard that I thought that used to make me so mad and I then I heard myself say it that's that's what's really sad no I'm not sleeping I was watching that show am I talking to hear my own voice two wrongs don't make a right what did I just finish telling you what part of no don't you understand son if you're gonna be dumb you have to be tough you never heard that one keep that up and I'll give you something to cry about how many of you heard that one boy I brought you into this world and I can take you out also I can make another one of you things mom taught us if you're out there mowing the grass without your shoes on and you cut off your toes don't come running to me where's it's pretty hard to run them on with hundred toes if you fall off that swing and break your neck you can't go to the store with me if every one of your friends jumped off the bridge would you do it too if you don't eat your vegetables you'll never grow up what I used to hear is you have to eat all your vegetables because the kids in Africa we're starving how many of you heard that one and I used to think my mom can we pack it up and send it to him why don't what do i if they're hungry why don't if you keep crossing your eyes that way they're gonna get stuck if you don't pass a spelling test you're never gonna get a good job make sure and always put on clean underwear because you could have a car accident any of you ever hear that what were you thinking answer me don't talk back to me when you get to my age you'll understand I'll explain when you get older just wait till your father gets home or you're gonna get it when I get home and then of course the one that we've probably all heard is someday you're gonna have kids and they'll be just like you things that we heard our mothers and our fathers say brings back memories you know the command is for parents also honor your father and mother is not just a command for children this is a command for parents of course to be honorable and not to provoke them Ephesians 6:4 and you father's do not provoke your children to wrath but bring them up in the training and admonition in the Lord I don't have time to read you all the verses to talk about teaching the Word of God to your children here a little there a little put it on the doorposts put it in your house when you lay down when you rise up one of the most important things if you want your children to grow up and be honorable and serve God you must be honorable and have family worship the whole idea of honoring your father and mother is learned through the Word of God and it's implying that you're teaching the Word of God in your family the Bible says these words should be taught to the children and your children's children Bible says grandparents and parents teach them to the children and by the way if you should honor your parents and your parents are like God for the children then how about grandparents it's even more so you would think because the Bible talks about honoring your elders as well Colossians 3:21 fathers do not provoke your children lest they become discouraged there's a balance between disciplining your children and nagging and badgering them so they're exasperated you need to know how to guide them tell them what's right tell them what's wrong and when they do something right tell them encourage them thank them if you're not appreciative in the home they won't be when they leave the home and so cheap children will much more do what they see than what they hear so these things must be modeled heard about a young boy that was talking to his father and he said dad is it always true that parents know more than their children say yes and it's always true he's the dad's always know more than their sons said yes son dad always dads always know more than their sons there was quiet he said who invented the telephone he said well Alexander Graham Bell so how come his father didn't invent it evidently he knew something more than his father is the implication oh by the way here's that verse deuteronomy 9:4 only take heed to yourself and diligently keep yourself lest you forget the things your eyes have seen unless they depart from your heart all the days of your life and teach them to your children and your grandchildren so there's a responsibility for a family by word and by example now this command and I've struggled with how to share this part of the word with you this next command I'm going to share with you is it difficult but it's in the Bible because God wanted to emphasize how important it is not to be disrespectful to parents Deuteronomy 21 Deuteronomy 21 talking about a rebellious child listen to this you kids listen to this Deuteronomy 21:18 if a man has a stubborn and rebellious son who will not obey the voice of his father or the voice of his mother and who when they have chastened him will not heed them then his father and his mother will take hold of him and bring him out to the elders of the city to the gate of the city and they will say to the elders of the city that's where judgment was they'd go bring their various cases to the elders of the city the gate of the city this son of ours is stubborn and rebellious he will not obey our voice he is a glutton and a drunkard then all the men of the city shall stone him to death with stones and you'll put away the evil from among you and all Israel will hear and fear now there's no record in the Bible that any son was stoned or daughter because of that kind of insubordination but just the fact that there's a law in there that a parent mother father a father would principally bring it before the elders could bring a case a charge against their son and you know what the charge was rebellious insolent drunkard glutton disobedient just that we have got a slob for a child that just will not obey and what was the penalty death you know I think the reason that's in the Bible is because God is saying don't you even think about being disrespectful to your children because they hold the death sentence possibility in their hands now look at how things have changed again don't misunderstand what I'm saying do you all understand what I'm saying when they lived under a theocracy I'm not suggesting that we practice that someone's gonna run out and call an attorney I'm not suggesting that we practice that they were living under a theocracy when God gave them this law Moses was there they were in the wilderness the pillar of fire was hovering above them they saw the presence of God for a child to disobey the commandments of God right there in the very visible presence of God was especially deadly so I'm not suggesting that we practices but I just thought it might be worth remembering kids heard this read to them they trembled at the thought that their parents were authorized by God with life-and-death power right you'd obey your parents when they said clean your room and kids oughta clean my room clean my room dad put his hands on the head his hips did he say shall we go to the gate and see the judges you clean your room what did you but today kids get mad at their parents and they pick up the phone they call Child Protective Services and I agree that it's terrible when parents abused their children and and we know that there's plenty of that but some cases it's the other way around where kids are manipulating the system and they are threatening their parents and the same you yell at me I'm gonna call and say that you beat me and now this bruise I got playing basketball I'm gonna say you hit me and kids have had their parents arrested or they've been taken away I know cases as a pastor we've dealt with families where kids have falsely accused their parents because they were mad and had a tantrum and the children were taken out of the family's home and they finally confessed I made the whole thing up things have changed from where the authority used to rest with the parents to where it's moved to the child in the state honor your father and your mother proverbs 28 24 just to reinforce that point whoever Rob's his father is mother and says it's no transgression the same is a companion to a destroyer he's saying this person is a destroyer if they honor dishonor their father and mother proverbs 15 5 a fool despises his father's instruction but he who receives correction is prudent when I was a young man yeah I can think of so many times my father and my mother said do this or don't do that just gave me some practical advice and I thought wow what do they know and then you get a little older and you think it's too bad I had to learn the hard way those things sometimes you know you say something your kids you say trust me but why why can't always explain it trust me there are good reasons for these things honor your father and your mother now they even had a time of not only was their punishment for a rebellious child but when they entered the promised land they had six of the tribes that stood on a mountain in the middle of the promised land call Mount Gerizim and six of the struck tribes stood on Mount Nebo on the opposite of a valley and they would pronounce blessings and cursings that would echo across the valley that would basically said this is the law of our land and cursing was pronounced upon the disobedient proverbs twenty twenty persons for his mother his lamp will be put out in deep darkness you think in the Bible some examples of like Absalom that rebelled against his father how did it end for him in a group you know nameless pit he was buried pierced through proverbs 30 17 the eye that mocks his father and scorns obedience to his mother the Ravens of the valley will pick it out and the young Eagles will eat it and then they were to pronounce this curse Deuteronomy 27 16 cursed is the one who treats his father or his mother with contempt and all the people will say Amen that was a curse that they would altogether say as a nation cursed is the one who treats his father or mother contemptuously now this is probably a good place to mention some of the commandments are stated in the negative - alt not thou shalt not thou shalt not this commandment is actually stated in the positive thou shalt honor your father and your mother that your days may be long upon the land it's a positive command when you think about it but you read through the rest of the scripture and it says there are some very negative consequences for those who disobey as goes the home so goes the nation if we don't have respect for authority with parents those children typically do not respect Authority when they leave home and you know I don't have them at my fingertips but there's an abundance of surveys and evidence you go through a prison and you do an interview and you'll find out that a lot of people in men's or women's prisons there was not respect in the home they transfer that lack of respect for authority once they left home to the society and they often ended up in cars three do you honor your mother and father by not staying a child forever you honor them by growing up the responsibility of parents is to basically train your children for independence from the time they're born they are utterly dependent and your responsibility is to teach them to be independent responsible good honest respectful and you know if there needs to be respect in the family you know when kids grow up and they see mom and dad yelling at each other but they go out in public in their nice they'll grow up thinking that yelling is the way that you handle things in your families and in your personal relationships just whatever they see in the family ends up being reproduced that's why it's so important to have this model where to train them for independence you're not honoring your parents by staying at home when you're 25 not going to school and you don't have a job parents you are not honoring God or helping your children by letting them do that there comes a time where the best thing in the world you can do for your kids is to practice some tough love and say praise the Lord you're healthy you're educated there's the door seize the day you're gonna have an exciting life send me a postcard when you get a job keep in touch but you don't know what I'm talking about sometimes people don't understand you know the Bible says in Genesis a man will leave his father and mother and cleave unto his wife and some of you thinking well I don't have a wife or a husband yet so I'm just staying at home no no no you're probably not gonna get one either if you're 45 and still living with mom and dad you got to get out and get a job and get your own life and you probably be more attractive to the opposite sex and you got and folks are thinking you know I can't compete he's still bragging about mom's cooking and he's 30 years old and he's living at home and how could I ever compete with that and if you want to be on the market and have your own home there comes a time when you got to leave the nest and you know you even see this in nature when the little Eagle is young the Eagles are interesting because you know they mate for life they're very devoted companions the mother and the father both care for the chick they work together and they make their nests real fluffy when they're babies keeps the eggs from cracking to the nest is made out of sticks and rocks and all kinds of things and bones and but they got a lot of down and fluff and and as the chicks get older pretty soon they get big and there's the crowd in each other and the little nest and they're stretching their wings and their flap and they get where the parents know you know they can fly but they're comfortable because we're bringing them food every day so you know what the the parents started doing they start bringing less food and they start getting hungry and then the parents start to scratch up all the down and they throw all the soft stuff out of the nest so they're not only hungry they're uncomfortable they call these bones and sharp sticks and rocks in there and they go what's happened don't you love me anymore and they're basically saying you got wings you got to learn to fly the time comes when you have to take the leap and yes there's risk and danger out there but you know you just can't stay at home so part of that Honor relationship of parent and child is that you know you're supposed to ultimately prepare them for the time when they launch there needs to be a launch time and I say this because and I'm not speaking to anyone specific here but I probably am without knowing it it breaks my heart when I see that kids are still in the nest their wings are fully developed and years go by and mom and dad are still bringing them their food and taking care of them you're not helping them and children you are not honoring your parents when you don't get that independence say men help help me out of this conundrum okay children should honor should children that's my question should children honor a dishonorable parent now whenever you talk about the subject about honoring mother and father someone when invariably say well it's easy for you to say you don't know my father you don't know my mother they are impossible they the way they treated me growing up I was mistreated how do you deal with those situations or there may be areas where you say you know I do try to honor them but there are the days when I just you know I can't speak peaceably to them because they're so unreasonable and even after I'm an adult they keep meddling in my life and telling me what to do or I can't talk to him every time we talk we fight and what do you do and you can fill in the blank whatever your situation is are you no doubt in no situations you should always be honorable to their position as your mother and your father you need to respect them for that if you cannot communicate peaceably maybe you're cursing and they're not if they do not ask you to violate some command or principle respect them if your parents say let's go rob a bank together you say no you know what I'm saying and so obviously if your parents are asking you to do something that's a violation of God's Word or his will you have to respectfully say I'm sorry I can't do that and if you have problems getting along write letters if you can't talk peacefully write a note it's hard to argue with a note write a note and say you know I've got a lot of people I've counseled with and they say you know I just I want to honor my parents but whenever I talk to them it just they start to badger me and put me down and and it's just painful and I say all right well then say write on the note tell them you love them you'll respect them and just do it through the mail it just creates one little layer of separation where you can show I respect you I want to communicate with you but when we talk it just isn't you know there and there may come a time there are cases where you need to cut off communication because it is so toxic but it doesn't mean you do it in a disrespectful way you hear what I'm saying there is one of the kings in the bye that had to make his mother he had to basically fire her from being queen because she was worshipping pagan idols in the temple and so you know sometimes you have to break that off but as far as possible even the parents who are sometimes difficult respect them honor them they're your parents amen that doesn't mean mean that you need to once you become an adult it's nice to listen to their advice you don't always have to follow it they don't have to meddle in your lives but be respectful remember them write them an occasional note make a phone call heard about a woman that called her rabbi and she turned 60 she thought it was time to make out her will she says there's two things I want you to help me with she said I want to make sure that I'm cremated it's more affordable and she said then I'd like you to take my ashes and could you sprinkle them all around Macy's he said well I got the first part but help me understand the second part she said yeah I just want to be sure my daughter's will come and see me at least twice a week some kids never visit their parents you know it's interesting that in the Bible with all this being said these days about the role of women the the Bible Old Testament New Testament there was a lot of nations and countries and empires and basically women were treated as property and slaves and animals but in the Bible God doesn't say just honor your fathers he says honor your father and your mother and have you noticed that it isn't always father and mother if you look in leviticus 19:3 one time moses said every one of you shall Revere his mother and his father he swapped him around part of the reason for that might be who is the primary supplier of nurture and guidance in the beginning of a life it's the mother and by the way it goes on to say Revere his mother and his father and keep my Sabbath's I am the Lord your God and part of that is I'm wondering if he's saying worship with them spend time worshipping together so how long should you honor your parents do you ever outgrow that no as long as they're your parents you want to honor them you know we're living in a culture today where as parents age and and sometimes we were visiting just before the service today with a couple of our elders that helping take care of their parents as people get older they usually become weaker they become more needy sometimes there's the final sickness it could be Parkinson's it could be dementia and when you were young and you were not able to control yourself and you didn't have your teeth and you maybe didn't have hair it's interesting we kind of leave the life the way we entered and you had trouble walking were your parents there for you so should we be there for our parents during that time now that doesn't mean there's never a situation where you want to provide some kind of assisted living circumstances I'm not trying to condemn anyone for doing that sometimes parents ask for that and they prefer that and it's their happier in a situation as opposed to being left at home why the child goes and works or may not be safe I'm just saying you know hospitals almost every week have old citizens that are dropped at the emergency room by children that don't want to take care of them anymore they're just dumped there it's a parent dumping problem and they say look we can't afford to take care of more we don't have the insurance and we don't have the time and then late at night they'll bring him into some emergency room set them down and leave and then the state s are trying to figure out what to do with these people because they can't just you know kick him out on the gutter but that's not what they did in the Bible you notice that some of the cultures that thrive the most had the most honor for parents only your father and mother that your days will be long upon the land this is a commandment that actually has a promise in it did you notice that it tells us that your days will be long upon the land it it says it a couple of different ways you're looking Deuteronomy five where the Ten Commandments are given there it's different than you find in Exodus chapter 20 honor your father and your mother as the Lord your God has commanded you that your days may be long that it may be well with you in the land where the Lord your God is giving you why does God promise a blessing by the way that was in our scripture reading also Ephesians 6:1 children obey your parents in the Lord if your parents ever tell you to disobey God doesn't say obey them out of the Lord obey them in the Lord so your parents if they should ever ask you don't you know become a bank robber or shop lift or something you don't have to obey that obey them in the Lord that is right on your father and mother which is the first commandment with promise that it may be well with you that you may live long upon the earth long life is promised in this commandment why couple reasons one is God will bless you for it the other is your parents have learned things to help you stay out of trouble your parents when your mother and your father say hear the car keys do not drive fast you honor them your days will be long upon the land you dishonor them they may not be as long when you disobey they're giving you advice all the time to try and keep you alive and it's interesting that in the countries that have the longest life expectancy they have the best regard for their elders you know what country has along as life expectancy Japanese do they honor their elders there it was amazing when they had that tremendous earthquake a few years ago to see the wonderful tender Karen that people took for the elders that were displaced by all of this and they were so conscientious and so careful to because they have they're trained from infancy to have high regard for their elders they even take it too far in some cultures they got ancestor worship but they're very careful to respect their elders on your father and mother that your days might be long you know there's sin in the world today and the reason there's sin in the world today is because our first parents did not honor their father Adam and Eve when they disobeyed God they disobeyed their Heavenly Father look at all the trouble that it caused death entered the world from disobeying a parent and people's lives are often shortened one by the curses that God sends the other through practically not listening to the good information and advice our parents give us but he promised your days will be long in the land he was bringing them into the promised land he said if you want to live and have a long life and a peaceful life honor your parents and I'll do that for you you know this is a wonderful commandment that has a promise in it the children of Israel learned to be faithful there's a story in the Bible I don't have time to read the whole thing but you look in your Bibles in the Book of Jeremiah chapter 35 it talks about the Babylonians had surrounded Jerusalem they were about to destroy the city judgment was coming Jeremiah was told by the Lord I want you to call the rekha bites bring them into the temple and so this family this tribe of rehab who is the son of Johanna Deb who is a friend of G who is another history they were brought into the temple and Jeremiah had some wine poured into pitchers and set cups down in front of the leaders of the Recker bites who were there in the city he said have a drink and they said no will not drink and so why not have something to drink thus saith the Lord and they said no because our Father rehab riffin so you say it he commanded us never to build a house never to drink anything from the vine and to live in tents and he said we'd have long lives if we followed his advice and for several generations they had followed their father's advice and none of the Ricca bites ever drank wine and Jeremiah thus says the Lord because the rehab I have not disobeyed the Lord that when Jerusalem is destroyed I am gonna preserve them because they obeyed their father and their mother and he said they will never fail to have a person to stand before me because they've shown respect for their elders this way and so before Jerusalem was destroyed God made Jeremiah act out this whole scenario and basically test him and they would not drink wine even though their father was long dead they said because he commanded us and we've not done it for generations and he said don't build a house and only reason we're in the city now is because Nebuchadnezzar surrounded the city and said but we live in tents as our father commanded and God said because you obey your father I'm gonna bless you I wish my people would obey their father and so honor your father and mother first and foremost is talking about God you know God is portrayed as our Father in heaven and he also sometimes uses the verbage of a mother says as a hand protects it's chicken under its wings so I've loved you and can a woman forget her nursing child how can I forget you so God loves us with a love of a father and a mother and if you want your days to be long I don't mean just long in this world if you want your days to be long and the earth made new we need to learn to honor our Father in heaven amen if parents honor God and live honorably and if children are resolved to honor their parents in our relationships and in our family every one of the other Commandments in our relationships with men will be a lot easier they'll sort of be automatic at that point it all begins in the family right happy happy home

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Length: 47min 43sec (2863 seconds)

Published: Fri Aug 10 2018