(audience applauding) - Hey Steve. - [Steve] Hi. - So I recently went to a
dinner party with a friend, and we were talking about relationships, and he said "You know,
every time I'm around you, you always make statements
like: when I get married, or when I get a husband, and it makes you look like
that's all you're focused on." And the other thing he warned me not to do was to inquire about what
a man's five year plan was, on the first date. So, I would like to know
what are some things that I could ask a man on a first date, without appearing as
though I'm sizing them up or interviewing them. - You are. (audience laughing) - [Woman] That's what I said. - But, listen to me. You are sizing them up, and you are interviewing them. When we come up to you, we sizing you up. When a man comes up to you, he wants something. If he walk up to you
and ask you your name, he wants something. He don't care 'bout your hopes and dreams, he walks up to you 'cause
he was across the room, he saw somethin' he liked, now he goin' over here to figure out what it's gon' take to get what he like. He's sizing you up. You have every right,
stop lettin' these men, and, "What's your five year plan?" That works on a first night. I wrote that in my book. But see, men don't want
you askin' 'em that, 'cause nah, they wanna
work they little plan out, 'cause they have a two week plan. (audience laughing) (audience applauding) All ladies in here have met a man, and for the first two weeks, oh my god. You thought you had met, oh, it's him! It's my knight in shining armor! This is everything I've ever dreamed of! Oh my lord, look here! He said he wants to get
married and have kids! He said that! For two weeks, we the best we can be. So, what I've done is, I'm gonna show you something I've devised in Steve's Dating Pool. Pull those questions up
that I wrote for women, that every woman can ask
a man on the first date. Stop asking a man what's
his favorite color, what he like to eat, where he wanna travel to, ignorant mess like that. You're learning nothing about this man. Ask him what do you value
most in a relationship? What quality's most attractive
to you in a partner? What's your relationship
like with your parents? What are your long-term goals? You gotta know if he
got a plan for a future, so that's why you have to
ask a question like that. Name three things you'd have
in common with your partner. What makes you laugh? What's one thing you won't
tolerate in a relationship? Now you've found out
something about a man. You cannot, as a man, have a problem with
any of these questions. And if you be quiet and listen, all in there he gonna
tell you 'bout his job, his plans, what he lookin' for, what his mama did to him
that he ain't got over, you know, like he was locked
up in a cage or somethin'. You find all that out. 14 great questions to ask a guy. Don't ever feel like you
can't ask a guy that. (audience applauding) You're not being thirsty,
you're being cautious. That's all it is. Hey, I'm Steve Harvey. You want more of that? Well, don't just sit there, go get it. Press subscribe, or click on this list, and you can see all the
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