The London newspaper The Daily Mail listed
the top ten problems experienced by couples on vacation together. And topping the list was: The man looking at other women in bikinis on the beach. Now, in another Prager university course,
I explain the sexual power of the visual on men. And as I show, and as anyone readily
understands unless they've been misled by a politically correct college course the power
of the visual to excite men has no analogue in women. Women don't get excited by virtually
every male body at the beach. Male legs don't turn them on like female legs turn men on. Etc. etc. It takes massive willpower in fact for a heterosexual
man not to look at bikini-clad women. And few men -- even the nicest, finest, and most
monogamously faithful and loving -- have such willpower. So, the Daily Mail notes, this frequently
causes problems when a couple's itinerary includes a visit to the beach. And what exactly is the problem? The problem is that the wife or girlfriend feels threatened by his looking. And why does she feel threatened? Because she thinks he is comparing her to those women. And why does this disturb her? Here are three reasons. First, virtually every woman, no matter how
attractive, thinks that when her man is looking at other women -- other women in general,
and in bikinis especially -- he is finding them more attractive than her. Second, she thinks that he is therefore dissatisfied
with her, which in turn arouses the unspoken but primal fear that he might leave her. And third, she is sure that her man will continue
to think about these women long after they have disappeared from sight. So now, let's analyze these reasons. First, does the husband or boyfriend find
these women on the beach -- or for that matter anywhere else -- more attractive than he finds
his wife or girlfriend? Well, since I believe that only honesty works
in the long run, the answer is sometimes, yes. He may very well find some of those women
more physically attractive than his woman. But, here's the point that most women, again
understandably, don't know: with very few exceptions, it doesn't matter! You heard me right. Of course, when looking
at these other women, he may find some of them more physically attractive than the woman
he is with. But -- and here's the good news -- SO WHAT?? Presuming he is attracted to you -- and if
he isn't, it doesn't matter if you're vacationing in a monastery and all he sees are monks
-- he wants YOU. I repeat, he wants YOU. And if he does, all these other women don't
amount to a hill of beans. There's another thing women need to know.
Within seconds of her disappearing from view, he has no memory of any of these women. When
in sight, they can take over his male mind. But out of sight, they are out of mind. It's
as if they never existed. Yes, the visual gets men's total attention
in a matter of seconds, but as soon as the woman he was focused on vanishes, most men
forget what they saw in an equal number of seconds. Why does this come as news -- and hard to
believe news, at that -- to most women? Because you, the woman, remember the women your man looked at. And you therefore think that he, too, remembers them. But let me assure you he doesn't. Most men under torture couldn't identify the women they looked at that the hour before, let alone the day before if they were shown photos of them along with photos
of women they had never seen. And more good news! His seeing women who he
thinks for that moment are more attractive than you has no bearing whatsoever on his
being "dissatisfied" with you. Men find other woman attractive in large measure
just because they are other women. Men are programmed by nature to want variety -- indeed endless variety. That's why God-fearing King Solomon had 700 wives and another 300 concubines,
and secular Hugh Hefner had at least that many lovers. In sum, then, when your man looks at these
other, perhaps even "more attractive" women, he is: A) Not comparing you to them
B) Not in any way becoming dissatisfied with you, and C) Certainly not thinking of them later. He looks at them because they are other women,
whether they are more attractive, just as attractive, or less attractive. They are women
in bikinis. So he looks. Where there is basic domestic harmony and
mutual physical attraction, more than anything, your husband wants you. When he looks, he
isn't comparing, he isn't getting dissatisfied, and he won't have a clue later as to who he
saw. So when you're back in your hotel room, put on your own bikini, and tell him you want
him. Because again, more than anyone else in the world, he wants you. And if you don't believe me, ask him. You'll
be glad you did. And so will he. I'm Dennis Prager.
Sounds like he's trying to explain it to his wife or something so she'll stop being pissed off at him
Those girls in bikinis in the video were all super hot.
I think there are certain situations that go both ways. There are some times when you see a girl and remember her because she is a complete smoke show. But there was a study done where they tracked the eye moments of both single and married women and men and found all look at the other sexes equally its just that men seem to not notice women looking as much.
Using the Daily Mail as your starting point to make an argument is not a great idea.
Seems like pseudoscientific feel-good bullshit to me. I'm just a dude though, so what do I know.
Uh... Sources?
Bullshit. I still remember that hottie from the mall in 3rd grade outside the cinnamon roll joint.
This smells like so much BS.
Nice try. -Mrs. Prager
But seriously, this video is extremely condescending to both genders.