Getting your Spouse into Concealed Carry

[Music] hey guys welcome back to my channel this week i'm covering a topic that i would say is probably my most requested video ever or even topic in general i haven't done a post about it i haven't done a video about it and that is how to get your significant other into guns into concealed carry in general if you don't already know my husband actually got me into concealed carry and into guns in general so i have a little bit of experience in this department so hopefully some of my advice can be helpful to you in getting your significant other into concealed carry i do want to preface this and kind of put a disclaimer here you're going to have to take everything i say with a grain of salt every single person is different every single relationship is different i'm just kind of giving some tips that i've seen be really helpful for other people and were really really helpful and continue to be helpful for my husband and i i also want to mention that a lot of these tips that i'm about to kind of put out there can be helpful for any kind of relationship obviously they're going to kind of apply in different ways and you can kind of pick and choose what sort of things might be helpful for you and the relationship that you're trying to introduce a loved one or a friend to firearms and the concealed carry world so with that let's get started so first thing i want to ask of you know the viewer of this video which i'm assuming is the person who wants to get their significant other into firearms and concealed carry first i want to ask you a question and that is what is your ultimate goal here at the core of it what is your goal is it is it a selfish goal do you just want this person let's just assume that's your spouse do you want your spouse to get into concealed carry just solely because you want her to be in the guns and that's cool or is it because you care about her safety if it's a selfish at its core she's gonna know whether she can outwardly obviously tell or if she just knows it subconsciously she's gonna be able to tell if you're just kind of at it for your own selfish gain but there's lots of ways that you can approach it not having a selfish kind of way of looking at it and i think that she would appreciate that i know that i did with my husband it was never um at least it didn't ever feel like he was trying to get me into concealed carry for his benefit it always felt like he was approaching me with the topic for my own benefit so instead of you know i want you to do this because it'll be fun or because i just want you to enjoy my hobby why don't you enjoy my hobby instead of coming at it from that point of view i would encourage you to come at it like you know hey babe i want you to get into concealed carry and i want to encourage you in that direction because i care about you and i care about your safety and i can't always be there to essentially be your bodyguard i can't be always with you be the armed person with you and i want to know that you have the ability to defend yourself even when i'm not around so kind of approaching it from that standpoint is really helpful in making her feel supported instead of kind of dragged along into this process that might honestly seem really daunting to her the next question i kind of want to ask of you is as you're inviting her into this side of you know your hobby maybe have you done a really good job of making her feel supported in her hobbies so you're inviting her into your space you're you know you enjoy concealed carry you enjoy guns in general and you're inviting her into that hobby of yours have you done a really good job of supporting her and her hobbies if you've done a really good job of supporting her and the things that she loves to do and participating in those things even if you don't enjoy them she's going to be a lot more inclined to you know jump in on a hobby that she may not readily enjoy but she'll want to you know jump in on that because she's felt supported by you this is something that my husband did a really good job of i have a really obnoxious hobby i love to go to thrift stores and find really cool things um i was just raised on thrifting and it is not my husband's favorite hobby um but he supports me in it and he will participate in it and i know that he hates it but i i feel that support and i felt that support and so when i saw that it it really did kind of loosen me up and make me a lot more willing to kind of embark on a journey that i wasn't super stoked about but i was willing to do because i felt supported by him one of the first things that my husband did to kind of encourage me in the direction of concealed carry and just getting into guns in general was he actually showed me a video from warrior poet society my husband and i got married in june of 2018 and i think marie poet society put their video out in 2018 i think it was october or december or something and my husband actually showed me the video um basically it was john level and his wife talking about you know how to get your spouse into concealed carry and one of the tips that john mentioned was to basically give her little introductory and intro introductory wow lessons in the home um and kind of warn her about them beforehand my husband actually still does this for a lot of things so what he would do is say i'd be like making dinner he would come into the kitchen and give me a hug and say you know hey i really want to show you you know what is in our medical kit in our truck um tonight just so that you know what's in there and how you can use it you know you have that available to you in your car and i just want you to know what's there that made a lot of sense to me absolutely babe yeah please show me that after dinner so you know we'd finish dinner and we'd you know kind of go through this lesson of what you know what's in the medical kit that i'm i actually have with me in my vehicle and how can i use it what kind of applications would i use this tool and that tool for i never even seen a tourniquet before and that was like my first introduction to what a tourniquet was like not even maybe like a year and a half ago now and then slowly he would introduce me into other things you know i want to show you this thing about my glock 19 today you know this is why i carry this and it has a striker control device on it and what's a striker control device and what he would do before he showed me those things is he'd give me about a 20 minute warning and or an hour long warning or earlier in the morning he would say i want to show you something tonight and that just kind of helped me like i already am planning for it and i already know that it's going to be a part of our evening so i'm not like i don't have other things in mind that i wanted to get done that night and it's getting cut off from this plan that i didn't even know was you know in play here so i was appreciated that morning and over time that of course just kind of built into more and more things and i was able to learn a lot without having to feel like anything was being you know shoved down my throat and that was really really helpful even now in the long term so eventually i would encourage you to get to a place after she kind of feels more comfortable with what you've shown her around the house and um after you've talked to her about gun safety and things like that asking her if you can take her out on a date but it would be like a range date so the main event wouldn't be going to the range the main event would be taking her out to dinner or taking her to a movie but it there would be a pit stop to the range essentially so you'd take her to the range and you just go for maybe 20 30 minutes tops this is something that actually kind of slowed down i think kind of slowed down my progress going into concealed carry and going into getting into guns in general is um my husband was kind of competing on and off after we just got married he competed all four years in college and so he wanted to kind of keep that up after we got married and i wasn't into guns so it kind of made it a little bit difficult so we'd go to the range and he would want to get a lot of practice in while also trying to teach me and um we quickly learned that that was not a recipe for success because i just i wasn't into it you know he would be doing his thing and i'd be like cool you're doing your thing and i'd go get in the car and scroll on my phone because i just wasn't into it so that's something i want to really discourage you guys from doing when you're just introducing a loved one or just a new shooter in general to the range don't take them for really really long range trips just do a quick 20 to 30 minute range trip focus on one thing and john level actually said this in his video basically make her a human trigger do all the safety stuff for her do all the manipulation do all the manipulations and things for her um just so that she can focus on having fun instead of you know how do i seat the magazine and how do i rack the slide and do all these things obviously you should be teaching her those things and she should be safe with the firearm but for the most part just make her like a human trigger so that she can just have fun with it at first and slowly graduate don't focus too much on the technique like it's cool if it's it's not she's not hitting dead center on day one the point is just to have fun so that she wants to keep coming back once he got me to the range and we started going more regularly and we learned that you know he couldn't do a long range trip in conjunction with the day that he was trying to teach me things um once we learned that we kind of needed to cut the range trip a little bit shorter we also learned that i really loved shooting the 22 as steel targets at the time paper targets didn't mean anything to me other than i couldn't hit the broad set of a barn because all that i could focus on was i wasn't hitting a bullseye you know i was a couple inches off and once i was shooting at steel i would hear that ting that ring and it was so satisfying and you know we started setting up steel targets you know all in a row so i could go ting ting ting ting ting and that was super fun so just again just be as encouraging as you possibly can um there's no reason to get you know dive right into you know she has to be hitting a bull's-eye every single time just make it fun at first and you can slowly progress into you know proficiency so after all of that being said i have to say none of what he did is what got me to finally conceal carry so you can't force it onto anyone it has to be a personal decision to carry a firearm for self-protection it absolutely has to be a personal choice i don't think i've ever met anyone who has said yeah i just carry because my husband wants me to no that's just not reality you carry because you're you want to so what eventually wound up happening and actually have a video about kind of my first year of concealed carry and how i got into it but what eventually got me into it was realizing that i had to i eventually got to a place where i realized i didn't really have a choice um that first nine months of us being married i didn't get into concealed carry we bought me a concealed carry gun and i didn't care much for it i like to shoot it but i didn't think that i ever wanted to actually carry it and we moved to texas and there was a mass shooting in our city just right after we arrived and that was kind of when i realized like i have to do this but i have to say all of that leading up to that moment my husband had kind of encouraged me and pushed me in that direction very gently and so when that shooting happened the natural progression for me was okay now i have to carry a firearm for self-protection you know it wasn't i didn't have this reaction of like fear you know it wasn't like oh we moved to this new place and it's so terrible here and i'm so scared it was like oh the whole world is like this it's not just this city that we just moved to and i need to carry a firearm for my personal protection it was a personal choice so you can really only do so much for your loved one but the best thing you can do is be encouraging don't be a nag don't be a jerk about it just be encouraging and nudging don't nag don't push just little nudges here and there encouragement is key just be encouraging towards your spouse towards your friends towards your niece towards your daughter anyone that you're trying to get into this just be encouraging and don't be nagging thanks for watching this week's video i hope it was helpful for you i know that there's not a perfect formula that works every single time for getting your loved one into concealed carry my goal was to ultimately just kind of give you some pointers and little things to take away from this video that you might be able to apply to your relationship to ultimately encourage your loved one towards concealed carry if you feel like supporting armand styled supporting this page please like this video share this video even subscribe and hit the notification bell if you really want to help support armin style please don't hesitate to head over to my website and grab a sticker or two i'll see you guys next [Music] week

Channel: Armed and Styled

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Keywords: get my wife into guns, womens concealed carry

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Length: 13min 35sec (815 seconds)

Published: Fri Mar 05 2021