FULL STORY: I Catch Mother In Law With Plane Tickets With NO Return For Her, My EX-Husband & MY BABY

my ex-husband 36 and i female 30 were married for well over five years and together for ten his mother sixties was a nightmare she would spend her time belittling me and tried humiliating me i could take it as i loved my husband and didn't want to make him choose between her or me of course i would always tell him what she would be doing and he would always brush it off as her being a loving and overprotecting mom when she would say something insulting i'm hispanic and they are white he would laugh it off when she would make a comment of me being a gold digger even though i earned more than my ex he would just say oh mom he would also get mad at me if i ever stood up for myself but the straw that broke the camel's back is when we had our daughter my mother-in-law would always try to parent her and say that i would do something wrong my daughter has an irritable colon and she cannot ingest any kind of stupid oils or artificial things and guess what loony of a woman did she fed my three-year-old daughter essential oils she's not anti-vaxx just very stupid to make her go to sleep she was in the icu i had it and i confronted my husband who said she only did what she thought was best i lost it i went to my parents and drafted a divorce agreement his face was like that pikachu meme when i served him he didn't know why i was doing it because we were happy so now a year has passed and my life was a nightmare my monster-in-law tried every dirty trick in the book to take my daughter to name a few she accused my brother of hurting her she accused me of neglect she accused me of taking meds and leaving them in reach of a toddler i take thyroxine for heaven's sake she accused me of endangering my daughter by leaving random men in my house the list goes on during this time the excuse of my ex was that i broke his heart and i had to understand his mother she only wants what's best for him luckily i got good representation and even got my daughter full time minus some weekends or visitation i could prove that my daughter was endangered by his mother i knew that my ex needed to be permanently in my life because of my daughter and i was learning to live with that he was very cold with me because again i broke his heart now two things have come together my ex-brother-in-law got married to an african-american woman so of course my ex-mother-in-law flipped i started dating again my brother-in-law is a great guy and he actually stood up for his wife go figure it is possible i stay in contact with him because we are friends and he was a mediator and fought with his brother quite often so my brother-in-law actually stood up for his wife and my ex-husband got his panties in a twist my brother-in-law basically opened his eyes to how awful he was being and that their mom treated me the same way she treated his wife and finally my dense ex started understanding the guy i'm seeing is great i have even met his parents and his mother is normal she treats me like a human being and has invited me already to many family functions and tries to make me and my daughter feel welcomed my ex-husband got wind of the situation through a mutual friend and guess who is flipping his crap he started bringing flowers and chocolate i don't even like chocolate to pick up our daughter he sends me cards and sms with hearts and who knows what yesterday was the best thing my daughter was at my mother's place and i was at home with my boyfriend he appears in front of my door crying and clutching my engagement ring begging me to come back i said no and that he should go away he wouldn't and started demanding that i come out to talk to him my boyfriend told him that he would call the police and in his pathetic fashion he threatened to beat my boyfriend up i closed the door and let him pound sand today he picked up my daughter for a day trip and when they came back my daughter was asking if i loved my boyfriend more than her now i am at a loss to know what to do i already told my daughter that it was impossible because my love for her is infinite and there is nothing bigger than infinite but now i know that my ex is trying to make my daughter hate me i'm at a loss because i won't use my daughter as ammunition but also what on earth am i supposed to do i will never return with that man but i can't take the father of my daughter away from her do you guys have any advice your husband has started trying to use parental alienation on your child by poisoning the well with her relationship with you and your relationship with your new boyfriend have her speak to a child services officer or a court moderator or guardian add ledem to record what happened and how she was informed of this irrelevant information of mommy loving her boyfriend more than me daughter i don't think your ex-husband is safe for her to be around as he is making irrational choices and is negatively impacting your role as a parent and your daughter's well-being this 100 this my lawyer told me to do exactly the same courts don't tolerate that kind of stuff even if his mother does it he can lose custody if he degrades you to his daughter or if he allows someone else to do it document everything the husband's tantrums at the door should also be recorded it sucks but if you have a chain of events to prove emotional instability it may help the case take notes on all of this get your daughter to a child psychologist who can get to the bottom of these attempts at parental alienation then go to court for sole custody and no unsupervised visits for your ex also look into a restraining order especially if he threatens your boyfriend again thanks to you all i needed to vent and was feeling helpless and i'm so thankful for you wonderful people i talked to my lawyer who confirmed that we could have a case for domestic violence by proxy a social worker will be visiting us in the next few days to talk to my daughter about this update on i female30 divorced my ex-husband 36 because of my mother-in-law 60s and suddenly he wants back in so i have just left my daughter with my mother and i'm going to my lawyer again i followed some advice you guys gave me and we sat down with my daughter to chit chat we knew we couldn't prompt any kind of responses by asking overly specific questions as per her therapist so my mother asked my daughter let's call her kate kate what do you and daddy talk about and kate just listed many toddler things like she talks about kindergarten games etc when i was kind of relieved that that comment my ex made yesterday maybe just a one-off came the big bomb he also shows me pictures of houses and tells me i can have two rooms with loads of stuff i ask her if her dad is building a new house nope turns out that nut wants to take my daughter out of the country he shows her pictures of beach houses and even bought her already a bag so she can put her stuff inside it which explains why so many of her clothes have gone missing at first i thought that my ex maybe hadn't told me yet because it hadn't come through but no he told my daughter to keep this as a secret because mummy would get sad if she knew that daddy was going away so i am livid and also sad because i will have to tell my daughter no once again i feel lost i talked to my lawyer and we have taken measures that i can't discuss here but we are on it i have my daughter's passport as we flew last month to visit extended family also i am a u.s citizen so even if my ex-mother-in-law tried to have me deported that wouldn't be possible not only is he trying to take away your daughter but these are actions of a very desperate man sometimes when a partner feels like they're losing their grip on the family they get even more desperate and hurt themselves or the child i don't mean to scare you but he's already showing that he's willing to do so if he's denied it i'm worried he'll escalate keep yourself and your daughter safe please i'm worried he will use his child as hostage i have seen on the news where parents escaping abroad with their kids can end up and it's not pretty please lawyer up and protect your family i think you should talk to him to see what his plans are your story was that he failed to take your side when your mother-in-law disrespected you not that he was a bad person any other way oh and he realized he lost a good thing but you've moved on talk to the guy about your child and what she told you so his response to your not being willing to get back together after years of mistreatment from his mom is to decide to take your daughter away and take her out of the country that's insane glad you were talking to your lawyer the fact that her clothing has already been going missing and he bought to the bag that's no joke buy your daughter a cute stuffed animal have her promise to keep it with her at all times put gps tracker into it with access to it in a discreet manner battery life says it's about 14 days just keep it charged doesn't have to be a stuffed animal because you can hide it anywhere just something she will keep with her that won't raise any bells for your ex might seem too overprotective but with his actions and words i think it would be a good investment oh lordy may i just repeat what has been said about informing lawyers school and making sure you possess any travel documents my parents were in the foreign office so i have some understanding of custody disputes across borders and they are messy i really hope your daughter doesn't get close to that also how brilliant that you have a relationship where she knows not to keep secrets from you even a secret her father told her i have had that conversation with my son and you have reminded me to have another one final update on i divorced my husband because of my mother-in-law and now he wants back in so i thought of giving you the last update as you've helped me through this i didn't have enough evidence to request an ex-parte aka emergency child custody so my lawyer and i had to work on steps to prevent child abduction we got a custody decree that included provisions including passports travel restrictions etc we also had to be very wary of the signs he in fact quit his job and on a realtor's page i saw that he was putting on sale his mother's house that and my daughter's words was all we needed to notify law enforcement for them to keep an eye out i couldn't prevent my daughter from seeing her father we tried to continue business as usual without my daughter feeling something was up i got a call from the police department regarding the passport situation my daughter's passport had expired very recently five years validity my ex-husband had tried to request a passport for my daughter without my knowledge which was stupid because even without the decree i had to be present or submit a notarized document of me stating that he could request the passport after that things went actually very fast he was investigated because he violated the decree and it was found out that mother-in-law had bought three tickets with no return date to mexico i could request an ex-parte after a ton of documents i submitted it in most cases the judge will evaluate behind closed doors we had the hearing yesterday it takes usually 10 to 20 days which was very good for me at the moment i have sole custody of my daughter this is all temporary my ex has visitation rights if i was present but he can't take her anywhere this is once the investigation of him is closed i was cursed out by my ex and my ex-mother-in-law and they said they will try to contest this but they have no leg to stand on my daughter will continue in therapy especially after this i will not prohibit him from seeing her but he needs help this was really scary and a very intense two weeks i don't think that i will update again but i wanted to thank you all for your tips and support i am really thankful as i am finally not anxious the whole time thank you really much op i held my breath until i finished reading your post your poor daughter and your ex-husband and ex-evil mother-in-law continue to be pieces of crap when you're actually abiding by the legalities of the situation they're preparing to take away your daughter and they're the ones upset hello well what on god's green earth the nerve of them i hope you're granted permanent custody adding a second wish to this i hope that any visitation from the father will be supervised by a third party in the future that's the only way to prevent that a father phil's daughter's head with your mother is an evil witch and b grabs her and runs and c alleviates the mother's fears better yet no more visitations they are playing with the daughters emotional well-being and future development for their own selfish gains screw them wow this was hard to read so very glad that you got full custody of your daughter seems that you still have some work to do but things are going your way stay strong and vigilant take care of yourself try to rest as much as you can and eat healthy if a mother is strong and healthy your daughter can be too all the best to you good news hopefully it stays permanent i think it's hilarious that after all these years of your mother-in-law being a nasty idiot towards you she was going to drag your kid off to mexico like seems kind of ironic to me hello yes my mother-in-law has always been a hypocrite but honestly i think they chose mexico because a is much cheaper than canada and b because of the laksa regulations they have regarding kids travelling with only one parent my last thoughts for anyone who happens to read this sometimes monsters are real and frighteningly closer than we are comfortable to think about if you have a healthy relationship with your family your viewpoint will be skewed from those who do not have a good relationship or no relationship at all with their family family sucks and if you're one of those people who do not have holiday plans or are living alone because it's better that way than to be with awful family members i validate you too i am so sorry and i hope you will find your family of choice [Music]

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Length: 14min 26sec (866 seconds)

Published: Sat Feb 13 2021