Forgive Me God, Change Me | Joyce Meyer

I believe that one of the things that is a huge problem for people is they don't know how to receive correction without letting it condemn them and I really want to Center on that quite a bit because the only way that we can grow up let me ask you a question do you have children how many of you have children all right have you ever had to correct them but you just consider that part of growing up don't you well we're God's children and when we come into this walk with God we're baby Christians and we have to grow up and part of the way that God helps us grow up is through correction through chastisement and the Bible says very clearly that God only corrects those whom he loves we only correct our children because we love them many times truth be told we'd rather not mess with it who wants to punish their kid and keep him in the house all week when it's just going to make you miserable but you do it because you love them we don't love taking things away from our children that we know is going to really wound them emotionally but we do it because we love them and God corrects us because He loves us but when God tries to correct us if I response to that correction is condemnation then we don't receive what God's trying to do and we just have to go around that mountain another time a spiritually mature person can actually be grateful when God shows them something that's wrong in their life or in their attitude and they will be very quick to repent and very grateful that God cared enough about them to open their eyes there's no need if you know who you are in Christ if you understand righteousness through the blood of Christ if you understand that you're a very loved child of God and that you have been made right God through the blood of Jesus he sees you as justified made just as if you had never sinned when God corrects you there is no reason to come under condemnation you need to be secure and say I know I'm God's child and I am NOT going to be condemned I am none of the devil's business if God is correcting me about this I'm going to receive this correction I'm going to grow and get beyond them not gonna have a bad attitude about it in the beginning years of my walk with God I'd go to a meeting much like this and back then we were have week-long camp meetings three and four meetings a day I'd go and sit in all those meetings and man everything I heard I needed it anything you preached on I had a problem with it it doesn't matter if it was the mine mine was messed up if it was a mouth mine was messed up if it was selfishness that was me if it was bitterness that was me but every time I would just go home and be more and more condemned who said another thing now I've got to change another thing that's wrong with me well first of all I didn't yet have the understanding that I couldn't change anything that all God wanted me to do was agree with him and say you're right god I do have a problem and I'm sorry and I want you to change me forgive me God and change me work with me and don't ever leave me alone until I am what you want me to be but it's going to take absolutely forever if you don't get over being condemned all the time Philippians 3:12 Paul said that he knew his faults he knew he had not arrived at the place of perfection but he kept pressing on I know that Paul was not condemned you know why because when you're condemned you can't press on when you're condemned all you get is pressed down Paul didn't say I'm not perfect and so I'm pressed down I'm depressed I'm in a bad mood about this he said I let go of what lies behind I know I've not arrived but I'm going to press toward that mark of perfection he knew who he was in Christ you don't have to concentrate on everything that's wrong with you when God shows you something that's wrong with you just agree with him I agree God you're right I can't change myself but I sure want you to the part you can do is study the word in that area and trust the Holy Spirit to work that change in you it may not happen overnight but if you keep agreeing with God little by little from glory to glory you will change sometimes the changes are so minor that they're almost imperceptible but if you look back over a year or two years or three or four or five you change I am NOT even remoting to like the same person that I used to be I can't believe how angry I used to be and how I mean I never had any peace I was always trying to figure everything out my mind was a mess I could not keep my mouth shut and God has changed me and he brought you here to change you and I'm not gonna just pat you on the head and just tell you every nice thing that you want to hear I'm not just gonna call you out of the congregation and give all of you personal prophecies and tell you that you're gonna get everything you want from God not that there's anything wrong with that but my part in the body of Christ is to help people grow up so they can have what Jesus died to give them it's one thing to be an error a joint heir with Christ it's another thing to inherit and we're all joint heirs with Christ but very few ever really inherit they spend all their time heading toward the promised land but never getting there and a lot of it is because of what I'm talking about this weekend they won't forgive people that hurt they get offended the word offense comes with a Greek word scandal on which meant the part of the animal trap that the bait hung on that lured the victim into the traffic that's what offense is it's Satan's bait he baits people he tries to get them offended so then they can get bitter so then they can get resentful so then they can get a full-blown case of unforgiveness then love can't flow and where there's no love there's no power your faith won't work without love Galatians says faith worketh and is energized to love you're not going to get your prayers answered I don't care how much faith prayers you pray you're not going to get your prayers answered if you're mad at your spouse all the time mad at your boss mad at your neighbors mad mad man we got to get that stuff out of our lives so we can have power because there's only where people choose to live in agreement come on now and I realize that we can't always help how we feel about people I mean there are some people that make it almost impossible to like them and I realize that we can't always do anything about how we feel about people but we can do something about how we behave and how we act I don't have to feel like doing what's right to do what's right amen I do not have to feel like doing what's right to do what's right and neither do you and if we keep waiting to feel like it we're never going to get around to it we have to want to do these things with all of our hearts the thing I want to do I don't do the thing I don't want to do I do and Paul goes on lamenting his situation in Romans seven well if I don't really want to do it but I do it is it really me doing it you know you know I'm like you can really get your brain scrambled if you read that I had to look at that a good number of years before I finally got it and then he goes toward the end of chapter seven he says o wretched man that I am and I can feel his pain can you feel his pain Oh wretched man that I am who will deliver me from this body of death and then he answers it in the last verse in Romans seven he says Oh exclamation mark thank God he will through Jesus Christ next verse there is therefore now no condemnation to those who are in Christ Jesus who walk not after the flesh but after the spirit come on you've got a big prey aphasia 2-6 teaches those principles of spiritual warfare fission six 11 through 18 put on the full armor of God it says goes into individual pieces of the armor if you want to defeat the enemy if you want to block all of his fiery darts put on the belt of truth that means when you get in trouble that's when you hang on to the word actually it says tighten the belt of truth that means when you're having trouble you hang on to the word tighter than you ever have before and then it says I'm put on the breastplate of righteousness but here's what the Living Bible says it says wear the breastplate of God's approval I love that you don't go around being condemned think about everything that's wrong with you all the time that's one issue God's dealing with you about that but he approves of you he doesn't approve of everything you do but he approves of you you have to separate your who from your do no matter what you do you're still children of God he still loves you and you know the whole thing your kids are your kids you can rail on them but nobody else better come along and say anything bad about them and the truth is is you're none of the devil's business and when he comes around and tries to condemn you about your behavior you need to just say devil God knew all about me before I ever showed up on planet Earth he loves me he has accepted me when I was still yet in sin he sent His only Son to die for me now you get out of my face because I'm none of your business I belong to God we gotta talk back to the devil don't just sit around no good no good yes no good that's right I'm a man yes this is the way we go to church this is the way we go to church every Sunday morning this is the way we go back home this is the way we go back no we're not gonna live like that anymore we are the righteousness of God in Jesus Christ set apart and made holy by the blood of the Lamb God is not surprised by your weaknesses you may be but he's not I know sometimes we wonder how in the world could God use me peace with God peace with yourself and I'm gonna say again if you can't get along with you you're not going to get along with anybody else I didn't have anybody to tell me what I'm telling you I had to find it out the hard way I struggled for years and years and years and years trying to love people and get along with people I mean miserable I loved God and I wanted to be kind I wanted to walk in the fruit of the Spirit I wanted to be a loving person and I just was not and there's a lot of Christians that aren't very nice and I used to be one of them but I found out what the root of my problem was I couldn't love anybody else because I didn't really love me we all have things about ourselves that we don't love but we can love ourselves the us that God has created us to be now the only way that we're going to get along with people now I want you to listen to me the only way we're ever going to get along with people is to give each individual a right to be who they are which is different than you I'm telling you this is so important I love what the Apostle Paul said I have learned how to be all things to all people whatever it takes to win them and I think instead of learning how to be all things to all people we're trying to change all people to make them like us God's the Potter we're not and you probably have somebody in your immediate family that you need to go home and let off the potter's wheel because you've been trying to remould them and refashion them into what you'd like them to be long enough and they are tired of it and just to get real blunt if you keep it up they're gonna end up not liking you at all people are created by God for freedom and liberty and the expression of that Liberty and this whole pride thing comes into play here because for some reason we all think that we're the ones that are right and everybody who doesn't think like to us do it like us like what we like what what we want has got something wrong with them we need all of us for things to go around properly all of us and until we learn to have respect for all people there's going to be no unity and it begins in our heart begins in our private thought life and how we think about people don't think that you can ever treat people right if you're going to think about them wrong it's not just about us trying to control our behavior we have to start by controlling our thoughts how do we think about people now the minute I catch myself with somebody who's not doing it the way I'm doing it and they're kind of irritating me and I start to think I mean I'll leave the salad stop it Joyce just stop it lose the attitude you got to talk to yourself you know I'm a meat and potatoes person just tell me absolutely what I have to know and no more I don't want all the details that's why I got you just go take care of her but there are some people who they cannot spend it not to tell you every detail just can't stand it and I finally learned they just don't know how to talk without telling all that and so it's a great way to learn patience [Applause] man we all have a right to have our own opinion without pressure from somebody else to have it be their opinion now one of the problems that I believe we have is well we have a route of rejection in our own life we can't stand it when other people disagree with us because we feel rejected when they do and I used to have a real problem with this didn't realize what was wrong with me and I would always say today we can't talk about anything sound familiar ladies you ever started having a nice little conversation about something simple like I don't know getting the groceries and all of a sudden you're way down the road somewhere fighting about 20 other things that have nothing to do with and you're like how did I get from there to here and you're just confused you don't even know what happened you were just trying to talk about something simple and they've used to tell me we don't talk you talk and you want me to listen now come on ladies some of you might learn a lesson there why don't you talk to me because you the only one that talks now well moving on past that see I'm trying to get you to understand that maintaining peace and unity and respect in your homes he's going to affect your prosperity it's going to affect your promotion in life it's going to affect your blessings it's going to affect the anointing on your life living the kind of life that God wants us to live does not come to us just because we do a bunch of outward religious things it comes because we put them into action in our daily lives at home behind closed doors in the marketplace in the grocery store at our place of business at our schools at the only place we're going to behave is in church so Dave and I we just have these arguments and I'd get so confused and I just didn't understand and Dave would say you don't really want my opinion you just want me to agree with you and if he didn't agree with me then I would keep talking and talking and talking and talking and talking and talking trying to change his mind and he would say I have a right to my opinion and I thought well of course you did and then he's like well then why do you keep trying to change it long story short God finally really just gave me a revelation and he said when Dave doesn't agree with you you feel rejected and you have to understand that just because he doesn't agree with your opinion that doesn't mean he's rejecting you see that's another place where we get our who and our do mixed-up people and have to agree with everything I think to love me they don't have to want everything I want to love me they don't have to like everything I want to love me Dave loved me but people have to have the freedom to be who they are and just because they don't agree with you doesn't mean they don't love you it just simply means they don't agree with your opinion but you are much more than your opinion your opinion is just what you think and who knows if that's right am I getting through to anybody what do you think would happen in your home the next time that say your husband or your wife doesn't agree with you about something and instead of starting a fight you just say well I respect that you have a right to your opinion after they faint and finally wake up let me give you a list of eight things that I think will help you in relationships first of all be courteous and respectful toward others even if you don't agree with them when somebody has a different opinion in yours don't say what how could you possibly like that you say well you know I respect your right to have your opinion and I don't particularly feel that way but I respect your rights to feel the way you want to feel I believe when we keep peace in these situations and God can get in there and work we need to let God be go number two listen with an open mind if somebody has a different opinion you don't just shut them out and stubbornly refuse to be open minded even consider that they might be right and you might be wrong painful I know but helpful be willing to pray about what they said the Bible says that wisdom is willing to yield to reason be willing to pray about what they said number four don't be touchy and easily offended don't be the kind of person that's so insecure that if you don't get 50 compliments of a you're falling apart number five keep looking for a place where you can agree rather than arguing about what you don't agree on you can save a marriage that's in trouble if you will find one or two things to start complimenting that person about instead of 12 things to murmur and grumble about a bless God nobody's complimenting me well then you start look for things that are good about people look for the flesh isn't going to notice them you got to do it on purpose spiritually don't find everything you can wrong with your job be thankful you got one if you really don't like it that much then just zip your lip don't get another one but don't start a bunch of trouble while you're there number six be very careful about voice tones and body language as well as ill-chosen words now I've had an issue with the voice tones thing my father was a very harsh hard man he just was mean and everything he said sounded mean everything he said sounded rough and crude and harsh and sadly because I was around that so many years in my formative years I came out very much the same way and I have begged and pleaded for gentleness and kindness and tenderness and it's just something that I have to stay after in my life because I'm just very hard and I don't have a problem telling you that we've all got things that we have to keep working with God on voice tones body language don't you just hate it when you try to correct a teenager in this look they're just like they're just gonna faint it in their brain another thing we need to do is when we need to have a confrontation with somebody to keep it from being strife phille we need to pick the right time don't go try to confront a problem with somebody when they're really tired about half sick and I've already had a rotten day at the office pray and ask God to show you the right timing and don't just dive into situations without praying first if you already know it's going to be a little bit tedious it's one of the ways you can keep strife out of your life pray and pick your timing ask God to anoint it to open the door and then lastly if you want to get along with people we got to get over being selfish because it's not all about me it's not all about you it's about all of us corporately together God loves us all equally the power of agreement is a wonderful thing

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Length: 26min 31sec (1591 seconds)

Published: Fri Jul 11 2014