Face The ODDS - Bo Eason | Inside Quest #36

everyone and welcome to n-side quest where the NFL training camp for your brain our goal is to bring on amazing people who can help you man up your mind with mental drills and if you're looking to take your intellect to the all-pro level there's no better guess than the man joining us today this self-proclaimed runt of the litter proved that hard work Trump's talent every time in the grand tradition of the unlikely hero he went from getting cut from his Little League team to being a top pick in the NFL Draft through sheer force of will 7 knee surgeries later however when a career-ending injury killed his dream of winning a Super Bowl instead of giving up and giving in to the heartbreak he channeled the intensity and aggression that made him great at football into his next endeavor performing transforming himself from football superstar to acclaimed playwright and Broadway actor his largely autobiographical one-man play was launched to rave reviews and he's been performing it now for over 15 years hailed by the New York Times as one of the most powerful plays of the decade he showed that with enough focus and discipline even a kid from nowhere USA can carve a path of awe inspiring success through even the most unforgiving terrain it's play with so successful in fact that he did a 50 city tour and is now being adapted into a major motion picture not one to sit on his laurels however he used both its literary acclaim and achievements in the NFL as a launching pad for a third career consulting for clients like Morgan Stanley protective Life Insurance dimensional fund advisers and young presidents Association his powerful story and insights have been featured on Fox ESPN NBC ABC CBS the New York Times USA Today Variety Sports Illustrated and Newsday just to name a few a speaker corporate trainers stage performer author and former professional football player his resume reads like a man who is with multiple lives and achieved greatness in the mall he is an inspiration and a reminder that you can clothe yourself in excuses or accomplishments the choice is yours please help me in welcoming the man who has been called the greatest speaker to grace the stage in decades Bo Eason [Applause] oh thank you so much for yourself we're coming to Russia man it is all true that's the best part people always ask who writes these introductions and the truth is the guests do right I just go through and put them in an order but yeah oh wait is it me would you hear it you're like wow I did that I did okay cool you did do all that it really is we were talking about this off-camera but it really is phenomenal I think most people and you said people will come up to you and say oh man I really wish my parents had pushed me when I was younger yeah I could have you know whatever performed at a professional level when I was still young but you've reinvented yourself over and over and continued to put in 20 year plans in place even when you were in your 30s 40s 50s what's the secret to that you know I just think that most people think they can only do one thing and I as an NFL player most of us NFL players once we're done we usually get ourselves in trouble somehow you know one way or another right because you know once you play at that level you everyone tells you look that's that's it that's your career you shouldn't probably do anything else you know and so I always thought well what if we took the same principles that made me the best in the world in this field and then put it over channel it over here and put it in this field can I be the best in the world at this too but kind of our culture kind of is against that a little bit they just seem to push back against well if you're great at one thing that's enough for you you know two things know three things no absolutely impossible but what I found is that those principles that made me you know great at playing safety in the NFL have made me a great stage performer and made me a writer and you know and a father and a parent and a husband so what are the things that made you great you know it's always the the vision of the plan so when I was nine years old I you know I drew up this 20-year plan and I still have it today forty-five years old now incredible yeah and it's you know I remember stealing this paper from school and I got some crayons and I just drew up this plan and the plan was to be the best safety in the world and I drew this little safety and I drew his shoes and him catching a ball and I just drew myself and then I followed this path for about 20 years and throughout those years it looked like it was never going to happen I mean all the way up until it did happen people go you know it's just impossible for a kid who doesn't know any pro athletes I never been around one to actually become one but every time I've made a plan and followed it other people come with me so you tell people the stats on that because the the high school that you went to you had never before produced somebody that went to the NFL and has never since produced somebody that's gone on to the NFL but right when you were there something really weird statistically happen yeah walk people through that cuz it really hit me yeah me too I and I didn't really realize it was happening until I read a book called Daniel coils book The Little Book of talent and it's just a little red book but you know he just went around to these hot beds of talent and in his wandering room what do they all have in common why can me this little group of people are the virtuosos playing the violin right and why is this little group of people the greatest women tennis players in the world how can this be these little tiny little hot beds I've read that book I go oh my gosh I've been a part of one of those pretty much everywhere I've gone in my life but the funny part about it is there's never been a pro athlete from my high school before I got there and never has there been one since I left but out of 27 farm boys on that one team when me and my brother played together yeah four guys went to the NFL for a total of 25 years two Super Bowls never before never since and what's the stat on the number of high school players that go on to the pros yeah there's 1.2 million high school football players per year that play high school football right 0.08 percent of them play in the NFL so 0.08 so now you take those 27 farm boys and then you look at that statistic and you go that's a statistical impossibility I can't happen and everyone always goes that's impossible it can't happen and they run away from the odds of you making it and I always say no no I run to those odds I love those odds you know why I do I love those odds because I know no one else will do it I know no I know everyone else will quit hmm and the funny part about it is Tom you know those four guys out of the 27 there were five other guys better than us so we were us four went on to the NFL but there were five guys better than I said at some point they just stopped you know yeah whether it was an injury or they got too hard they just stopped so they quit and so today I have a son who's nine now but we started working on his 20 year plan and when he was about seven and a half eight he one day he just came to me um he wants to be the first player to play in the NFL and the NBA and check it out I think he's going to do it I've taught him from the day was born like look you got outwork everybody in the world then then you got to outwork every other seven-year-old that's on the planet right now right and and that's up to you son that's up to you and me if we want to do that we can do it so he came to me you know maybe a year and a half ago and he was kind of teared up and he said dad what if I don't make it what if my dreams don't come true and I said oh I forgot to talk to you about this part I'm literally hanging the other word here yeah I want to know yeah I go that's an impossibility of it not working out your only way out of your dream there's one way out of it and you're going to quit that's the only way out of this otherwise you're going to it's going to happen and that I've always kind of operated in my life and I thought everybody operated in their life that way because I noticed that the people around me were operating that way including those four guys from Delta high school you know so so I went to the 30-year reunion a few years ago and I went to these guys and I said why did you you know why did you play pro football we didn't know any pro football players no one ever played pro football from our school why did you do it and they said because you were caring on that damn plan all the time and you're telling everybody I'm gonna be the best safety in the world right and they said hey if that little dude bow is gonna do it I'm doing it too you know and it's just that one dude one little guy one who is the smallest and not that good just had a dream that's it and said I'm gonna go do this dream guys and while everybody laughed those four guys those other three guys go oh well I'll just go then I'll do if he's going I'm going I want to talk about being unreasonable because the story you just told from I was sincerely hanging on your every word as you were I was waiting to see what you told your son because I wanted to know if I could use it in my own life yeah you're unreasonable right like that is a completely unreasonable thing to say to a child it's completely unreasonable to say to a child the ball doesn't touch the ground in our household right which have a fantastic story that I hope you will give us a teaser of yeah how has that served you in your life because when you say that you know other people won't do it I agree with you so powerfully and everything that I've accomplished in my life has been because of that right I know other people will fall away but I will just keep going I'm not the smartest certainly not the most well educated but I just don't stop yeah so how how can you be so unreasonable Bo how does it work for you I never thought of myself as a smart guy you know but I knew I was going to show up that's one thing I you know there's so much in this world that we can't control but the one thing that I figured out as a young kid what I could control and that was I was going to be out there I love your work ethic yeah I was going to be out there I was going to show up right regardless of sickness or injury or excuses or homework or what you know what all these distractions we can come up with right but I just knew I could count on myself to show up and that's one of the major things that I teach my kids I go run you show up before everyone else gets there you look around once you get there whether it's dance recital practice rehearsal whatever it is you're the first one there you look around and you say okay there's some people in here with me I'm not working on today only today only for this next hour maybe for the next minute I'm an outwork them and there was a time in my life when I got out worked I saw it you know I saw it happen and it was by a guy named Jerry Rice this is 1988-89 of Joe Montana on Ronnie Lott Randy cross great players so I had been in the league for four years and and I'm getting dressed and it's an hour and a half early before anyone's to be out there so no one's in the locker room and then I walk out onto this practice field it's about a 110 out there I walk out and I'm like yet just like always and I look that over here and guess who's standing you know the greatest player ever to play the game standing right there and I remember going through my head like how could this be how could the world is backwards right why aren't the lesser players out here why aren't the guys who should be out here not here yet the greatest players here I never seen a guy give more of himself you know during this practice oh I've never seen such a generosity of spirit that this guy played with mom every time you touch the ball every time in warmups I don't care when it was his body went full speed to an end zone and I don't care where the end zone was he got his body in an end zone somewhere so at the end of this three-hour practice I go Jerry man what's the deal man well I never seen anything like this why do you do all that that running and he goes oh that's very simple Bo I do that because every time these hands touch a ball this body ends up in an end zone I love that and I'm like that it just hit me I swear it hit it hit me and I I wasn't married at that time but what hit me the most there was how much he was willing to give of himself in the generosity of tomorrow like the generosity of spirit like how he was going to express himself physically on that field right and I thought of my future marriage when I was around Jerry Rice and I swear to this day this guy makes makes me give more of myself in my parenting in my stage work in my speaking and my coaching because of what he gave of himself on a field you know oh yes so whenever I feel myself backing off how much I'm willing to give whether it's not right now you know or are talking my kids or are given a speech I always think of Jerry Rice because of what I saw him do over and over and over again like it I'm going to I'm going to give more of myself every single time and then see where I end up that's really really powerful so if you guys god if you don't know the totality of his story do yourself a favor it's it is it is inspiring it's absolutely incredible so imagine spending 20 years of your life to do something to get great at one thing from the time of your 9:00 like think about the obsession that that takes right like when you think about the things in your own life that compel you I promise you it's a mixture of joy and beauty and darkness and anger right there is that combination and that combination exists within us and you will hear it in this man's story it's absolutely incredible so driven in his play which you didn't see is being dark but and I have not seen a bone I really want to but from what I hear like there's a real sense of that that darkness that thing that can drive you compel you to do something a chip on your shoulder and the power that lies within that but imagine all of that the culmination of the beauty the power the aggression the anger all coming together and in your fifth year boom career ending the injury you're done and you've just spent the last 20 years of your life chasing one thing the thing that you obsessed over so much that thinking of yourself is the runt of the litter having an older brother that you know takes a team to a Super Bowl no one expects you to do anything like that and then it's gone it's gone what do you do at that point I think everybody else stops everybody else gives up everybody else taps out but you didn't and it's so it is utterly fascinating to me that all of that can happen and you can still look back at Jerry Rice and go okay maybe these hands don't touch a football in a professional context anymore but I'm still always going to run to the end zone and one of the things I found so interesting is dude if you said hey give me the bookends of of male accomplishment on one end it would be professional athletics and on the other here would be being a playwright and Broadway performer right like that is the system and you went from this extreme to this extreme yeah what what in that moment of darkness when you realize I'm never playing again yeah I'm still in my prime yeah what what did you do mentally to prepare yourself to take that lesson from Jerry Rice and apply it to something else yeah that well I mean just so everybody knows that was the scariest time in my life because you know you trained to be the best in the world at one thing and that one thing is running 25 miles per hour and throwing your head into other body you know and that doesn't translate too well to the civilian world so right yeah so I remember being wheeled off the field we were actually in Miami we're playing the Dolphins down there and it was my seventh I got hung up in a pile and as I was going down with about six seven guys on top of me as I was going down to the earth it felt like it was slow-motion and the sound is like tree limbs breaking like pop pop pop and as I landed on the ground there was about six seven guys on top of me and when that happens in an NFL pile right when you hear that sound every guy in that pile is gone I guess oh who was that who was that and they're reaching for their limbs to check their own letter and I was at the bottom right but I didn't feel anything so I was like I think I'm good but then I could only move my head I was laying on my back like this I could only move my head with these guys on top of me and I just turned my head just slightly to the left right here and my shoes right here yeah yeah and I go felis I think that one's me and they all go oh good good oh I'm one of them yeah and that was I broke my ankle my foot and blew my knee and that was a seventh knee surgery so as I was being wheeled off of that field in Miami I'll never forget this when you know it's over man it's actually taught it's a man it's like the end of your life yes sir an actual number looking up into the crowd as I'd be a wheeled off and I was thinking about the last 20 years how I mastered this thing called safety and how I became the best in the world at that one thing and how I can't do it anymore the one thing I've trained my whole life for I can't do anymore and I was thinking of my next career this is on earth right on your knee oh boy yeah but your whole life just passes before your very eyes and I just remember oh I know what's next for me and it was prison the visual I had was of myself like in an orange jumpsuit and I go cuz when I'm best at in this world is hurting people and I'm gonna hurt somebody you know there's no place for me to do this how am I going to on this coming end up in jail because what I'm best at ain't legal out there right and the very next moment I said you know what all I've got to do is find a platform you know no different than this no different than this ability stage and these chairs this is a platform I've got to find a platform to express myself because I'm if I'm the best at it now at doing this safety thing look physically expressing myself can't I do it somewhere else and given 20 years can't I then be able to be safe and not go to prison if I can do it and that was my choice so my choice was prison or the other choice was I'm moving to New York City and I go okay New York City that sounds a lot better right and I did and I went there and I trained and I trained and I took theater classes in writing classes and stage work and and all I wanted to do then was be the stage best stage performer of my time you know of my time and so I went and fent I went to all my classmates in class and I said hey everybody who's the best stage performer of our time who is that guy who was that gal and they all said this is 1990 they all said Al Pacino I said cool where is he and they go well he's Al Pacino I don't know he's probably on a movie set somewhere I go what cool but if I'm going to take that mantled i'ma have to talk to him about it ha ha yeah Yeah right because he's the one who can tell me right yeah miss another thing I've always sought the people who are the best at what they do when I want to be the best stage performer I said who's the best is that they set out Pacino I said cool that's like got to talk to him and I did I went to his house job Pacino's house and literally knocked on the door no I was like no I ripped up part of the story but I went to you know all my customers were like 18 years old I was like 27 I already had a career I know so I called my agent from football who knew his agent from entertainment world and arranged a meeting in that on Thanksgiving Wow yeah and it was in New York and it was snow all over the ground and I'll never forget it because I got out of the car and there was snow and I was walking up to the house and Al Pacino comes walking out of the house and he's come down because a bow Al Pacino I'm mad you're the Godfather dude and he goes come on in I know why you're here and we went in we played pool in his house and he broke down for three hours my next 15 years Wow I said look at this I want what you got man tell me how to do it and he goes okay I'll tell you but that's 15 years I go cool I work good knows kind of timeline you know yeah and he did and who to work with what to do basically what he broke down for me if you if you you know if it came down to one sentence was I had to have my butt on a stage more than any other human being for the next 15 years right so I did because that was up to me right he that's the one thing I could control no different than being the best safety that's one thing I can control it given the time given a nice timeline like 15 20 years I could show up more than everyone else right that's up to me it's not up to anybody else and so I did and then 15 years later I was you know backstage just no different than this but I was behind the curtain of a Broadway house in New York City and I was about to take the stage and I was about to die I thought I was going to like wet my pants you know I played you know five years and the pros but this was more nerve-wracking because it was a play that I wrote there was a play that all I was the only person in and I was to hold a New York audience for 90 minutes and the New York Times and the critics are all right there waiting to slay this ex NFL player who thinks he can come into town and write a play that's something even though I didn't want to uh you know something makes my foot hit the stage something made me go forward and I remember the same feeling and NFL tunnels like I'd be in the tunnel waiting to go out be introduced and I remember wondering what if I just ran for the back door and got in my car out in the parking lot and I drove back to California that would be the hugest relief I could just do that and I would actually consider the thought as I'm about to go play well I would do the same thing on Broadway I would do the same exact thing I'd be backstage gone what if I just ran for the stage door got in a cab and went back to my dull apartment there would be no show and I always flirted with that thought of doing it but something always made me go forward so I went out on this date is that something passive or is it something you've trained yourself to do like if that voice speaks up now surely you have a routine a ritual if you will to beat it down gee Alice for sure and that is I didn't know this term as a kid but it's the show must go on a the same thing do you just say that in your head yeah but I don't really even say those at that term but that's the feeling that I get it it's on every but I want to know what you cultivate because it so you're you who you have accomplished at a freakishly high level across very wide disciplines and you're incredibly humble in the retelling but as a man who has made it very clear that we all have one unique story we are a one time phenomenon I want to know what's going on in your head at that moment cuz I think that's incredibly powerful and my promise to these guys and the people watching is that this show will deliver the actual techniques yeah that they're going to need to do that so you're backstage yeah you're about to walk on I know that impulse to run and go in the opposite direction and be invisible yeah right well there's so much intoxication to the idea of a completely invisible life when nobody sees you nobody judges you and I think it's Aristotle that had the quote oh god if it's not your style Socrates someone like that but they said you know if you want to live a life where you don't offend anybody never get hurt or never upset than do nothing yeah so the choice between doing nothing and having to face all that yeah you and I both make the choice to face it but I want to know in your head exactly what happens at that moment never been asked this questions really and as you were asking and I was like going like just like running through my whole life which is sir you know I always know when I'm about to do something that I'm supposed to do you know why why I'm surrounded by cinder blocks usually cinderblock walls hallways every stadium is lined with them every tunnel is lined with them every backstage of every theater I've ever been in is lined with cinder block right and I'm always standing among the cinder blocks I'm usually alone and it's your turn you know three years wrecking is right it's so it's that isolation of and loneliness where only you have to decide whether you're going or not but I'll tell you when you're coming up with the question I was thinking of I think of the audience and I think of my teammates and I think if I don't go out we could lose we'll probably lose so it becomes bigger than me weird right like on the performer but then I think of the other people who I'm going to let down if I don't take that step forward you actually have a quote about this which I have it it's funny I did not know you were going to answer with that and you said that's what football taught me the most you're going to have to come through for your team at the toughest moment and it's like of all the amazing things you've said that's one of the five things that just really jumped out of me and until this moment I've never thought about that camaraderie is my highest value in business there's something very meaningful to you being a part of a team not letting someone down it's fascinating to me that that's a leverage point for you yeah dad huge and you know if you talk to especially NFL players later in their life like I'm 54 and you go hey do you ever miss the game and all of us always say no I don't know in just a game I miss the guys right because how are you ever going to match that kind of relationship with a man again that's a lot of what I get out of business my partners and I when we did our last company it was about money and that was like we we literally all had a pact with each other that whatever you had to do whatever you had to suffer the slings and arrows of outrageous fortune if I may it didn't matter if it was more profitable we did it and that was the agreement and it was when I realized that was an emotionally bankrupt choice for me right I'm not for other people maybe that's amazing but for me it didn't elicit that passion sense of connection the team the camaraderie element so when we launched this company it was specifically I remember our first mission statement was employees first because they're the ones on our team yeah I got it so this is the team these are the people that we have to serve first yeah now the way that we protect them is by taking good care of the customer because that's how we have the financial viability to build this Empire but at the end of the day its employees first and if we're not taking care of them if we don't feel connected as a team we're not going to be able to do this impossible thing of you know the grand goal that we've set for ourselves but the it it's it's amazing to me that in a sport as aggressive and predatory using your words which really resonated with me you know very predatory endeavor that draws a lot of people that have a predatory mentality if you know him predatory for him is not a negative word it's not dark or sinister there's a beauty to the the nature of a predator which I really resonated with me but that's such a predatory aggressive sport would bring that out in people and it would give people this ability to really connect with that to be able to talk about it openly because it really does go beyond the game and this I'm drawing things here together don't necessarily belong together but it is another thing that spoke to me you said if you're watching the ball you're being lied to right so anytime if you're watching a sport the commentators are talking about the ball the spectators at home are watching the ball but everybody on that field they're not paying attention to the ball because the ball is a lie and I was like wow that's really powerful and if you could just explain to them what you mean by that like why is the ball a lie yeah yeah the difference between pros and amateurs is pros pro football Pro any any sport where a basketball is the same way to the ball is there to trick you so amateurs including commentators the TV SportsCenter everyone's watching the ball don't watch the ball watch away from the ball you'll see where the ball is going to end up God let's see if if we can take that a little bit further there sometimes we're truths come up in life that are so profound and I haven't yet codified it in a way that I can explain it to others so this is this is really really powerful so the best analogy I can give to what business is and the reason that business has become so important and empowering in my life is it felt like somebody lifted up a curtain and let me walk behind to the real world and that's why the matrix analogy resonated with me so much was that's how it felt before I got into business when I was just an employee and then when I became a business owner and realized the game that was really being played oh yeah right of marketing and what marketing is from a storytelling perspective what it means to watch your margins and why that's important and I mean it there's a thousand things that are happening in the business world that control every aspect of your lives from politics to the fact that you show up here every day trying to earn a paycheck and it really is the people that understand the game the most that can play it at the highest level but but everybody in business elsewhere they're fooled by the ball they're looking at the wrong thing they're not looking at the the realities of the drivers of human behavior that create this artifice right that we're all actually dealing in and as an employee that's where I was stuck I was stuck in the artifice so I showed up when somebody else told me to show up I did was somebody else told me to do and didn't recognize that that was lulling me into this this sense of just waiting for my instructions right but that to me like if you guys ever ridden with somebody and you go to the same destination over and over and over but you're in the passenger seat right and then when you go to drive even though you've been there ten times you can't drive you don't know how to get there because the other person was driving or you've had your GPS and it's just telling you where to go and so you've never had to think for yourself that that literally is the nature of of having what I call the slave mentality where you keep your head down you do as little work as possible and avoid punishment at all cost right you're lolling yourself into this rhythm of just doing what you're told you're waiting for instruction and you're not forming a map of how the way the world really works so when I look at your life and one of the things I was so desperate to get you on the show is because dude at nine years old everyone else the glorification which we haven't even talked about but the glorification of your brother right of people saying he's gifted he's talented he can sleep he doesn't have to work as hard or you got cut from your little league team but still showed up to practice but that is so crazy to me and so powerful yeah because it's somebody who's hell-bent to not fall asleep at the wheel somebody who's not going to let other people construct the world view for them like you've just had this through line of what the world is and you're going to react to the way that it is and in understanding how it actually is you've been able to get into the NFL you've been able to become allotted playwright allotted actor you've become a much sought after speaker and it but it is that one narrative of the world is going to bend to my will and not the other way around right and I was taught this by a mentor but of mine but if you're to lead you're going to have to go counter to the culture so the culture if you watch it and you can feel it even Drive in here today you can feel the culture and you can feel where it wants to go and where it's headed you must go counter to it you must recognize where it's going and then go the opposite direction and if you do that that's your only chance to lead that's really somebody who's blazing a trail I guess just like Jerry Rice you know there's no accident to the greatest football player of all time if you you know and that's the story that's what I want my kids to see I want them to see what it takes because it's not it's not there's nothing magical to being the best in the world at your specific position there's no magic to it you just have to know what it is you're going for and then you start running the miles toward that dream and the minute you start running you the miles toward the dream guess what that dreams you running 100 miles an hour at you and now you've got these two forces coming together like this and one day they will meet and that might be fifteen or twenty years and that's where everyone wants to quit too they're like well that's longbow I'm like well okay right and forget it yeah because why star if you're giving it a couple of years to see how it goes you don't see how it goes it's going to go bad right it's going to go bad for like 12 years there's going to be surgeries he's going to get cut there's going to be pain he's going to be lousy so you might as well quit now and avoid all that but on the other end of that he can end up being the best safety in the world so here's a hard work yep awesome well I didn't know he'd be talking about this Scott was an amazing man I really can't thank you enough for me on edge it was incredible we're in do you know you know I was just going to say something and everybody you know you're going to reenter society after leaving here the studio and going back to the world right and that's the hardest re-entry it's really hard because you know this this conversation I didn't know was going here today obviously there aren't that many places that you can have conversations like this which is so cool man that you're doing this because there's just not a lot of places in the world that you can actually have this conversation about being the best in the world and so when you provide a place where it's safe to have the conversation I think that's what you and I and everyone watching has got to start creating their own little hotbed of talent their own little gold mind of people where they can actually support each other's dreams and actually make those dreams come true for each other which is I think it's our birthright I think that's what we're about but the rest of the world is kind of know that's a dream that means nothing you're a dreamer uh you know yeah I love what you said about dreams are sacred to me because they're not some fanciful thought they're real I lived my dream and not just once but in multiple places so this for me is something that I protect you were talking about your son and I just thought wow that it's so true and your willingness to take dreams really seriously yeah your will this to talk about dreams don't happen by accident they come with dedicated effort and discipline over a very long period of time and it's not about not dropping the ball but it's about having the commitment to say that's what I'm aiming it to have an aim right right where most people don't they don't have an aim and because there's nothing grand to strive for they strive for nothing yeah or worse they strive for mediocrity yeah and that you make the demand to expect more of of those you love right of those you love that the greatest gift that you could give to your kids is to expect more the greatest gift that my wife has ever given me is to expect more for me like that that's so beautiful and when you realize that step one is believing and I hate that these words have become trite because people actually can't hear what you're really saying because the truth of success in anything in anything doesn't matter is you've got to believe it's possible why because you're gonna hurt your knee right he hurt his knee and the first time he heard seven surgeries before he finally tapped out and on the first one they told him you'll never play again so each time he kept saying no no that that's a limitation you're trying to put on me but I don't accept that limitation and kept fighting through and makes it to the NFL I mean it's just none of this stuff happens by accident absolutely incredible and I love that your dad was saying that to you every day every day every day because it was it just got planted in your mind right that that being the best that something was tangibles whoa it's me like holy hell this guy in the farm it it's me I'm the best it just it makes it real right but you can and obviously you did just in a freakish amount of work to become that and I love that in your work and the things that you teach it's all about the actual concrete steps the work that you have to put in the plan right that when your goal and you've honored people by sharing your sons and showing what that vision looked like in the drawings and how real it isn't oh god we haven't talked about the heart transplant I can't believe I was left without that please tell about the heart transplant of my son that we've been doing it for his 20 year plan obviously I've told you guys play in the NBA and NFL so he's got this whole plan on his wall right and on his wall are the people that he admires and we do this heart transplant every night before he goes to bed and we give it our fists like we just did and and we cap it and we tap each heart of these people that we look up to on the wall we take the heart of Kobe Bryant we take the heart of need his dad we take the part of his uncle and we take it from them and we put it in our fists like this I put in my fist and he lays in his bed like this and I hit him kind of hard in the chest and then we hit it and it goes into his heart so he has the heart of all these champions that he admires and he goes to sleep with it so that when he's out there playing and times are getting tough that he can he has the heart of all those champions to draw on it's great though man thanks for providing this kind of platform because it's just rarefied air you know truly my pleasure yeah thank you my gosh so fantastic 11:00 let's go so you've got a lot of incredible material where can they find you yeah Bowie Singh Kham and we have programs and we I train people I do three-day events my wife and I do down to La Jolla California we put about a hundred people inside a broadway-style house fantastic yeah all right guys I've spent much time on Bo Eason calm so I cannot encourage it enough especially his blog you've got to read it absolutely sensational this guy you know me I'm absolutely obsessed with controlling one's own mind and he has the techniques for how to do it not just the why not the flower stuff the actual how from putting up your 20-year plan for how you're going to make your dream come true to the steps you need to take along the way mentally so that you can frame yourself to be prepared to be the best so my friends do yourself a favor dive in deep and if you're interested in being in our audience you can go to our website at inside quest.com you can click on get tickets to attend one of our live tapings also you may be already listening to this on stitcher but if you're not this is a podcast as well which you can list to a2x you know my fetish for speeding things up so guys I hope that you're diving in it's a weekly show so be sure to subscribe thank you so much for joining us it is absolutely and on to serve and to bring something that I hope is with used to everybody out there so until next week my friends be legendary take care goodbye [Music] you

Channel: Tom Bilyeu Classics

Views: 14,112

Keywords: Inside Quest, Impact Theory, Tom Bilyeu, Jason Silva, Simon Sinek, Bo Eason

Id: ptnT1DwuN0o

Length: 42min 9sec (2529 seconds)

Published: Sun May 14 2017