Dr. Wayne Dyer's Life Advice Will Leave You SPEECHLESS - One of the Most Eye Opening Speeches

you begin to change your thinking from appearances and how things look and how other people view me okay because every time you find yourself upset in life about anything that anyone else has said what you're really saying is what you think of me is more important than what I think of me all right so you change from appearances to what I call quality thinking quality what is the quality of my life rather than how does it appear to others now do you tell yourself that because my friends don't like me that that means there's something wrong with me now that's see that's what you have to learn that another person's opinion is just that it's their opinion and that's all it is every time you are upset or your children are upset because of what somebody else says about them including their peers what you are really saying in that moment and this is really important what you're saying is what you think of me is more important than what I think of myself and you must never give anybody that kind of power and control over you because they will always have it the funny part about approval for those of you who really want it Henry now I'm here to tell you that I like approval I enjoy it I find it one of the most exciting things in the way I like it when people read my books I love it when people applaud I'd like it when people tell me nice things and all I liked approval I'm the first one to admit it what I don't do is I don't need approval there's a big difference between wanting approval and needing approval when you need approval it means you become immobilized when you don't get it from making other people's opinions more important now for those of you who say yeah but I want approval and I need it and if I don't get it and so on that understand this the people who get the most approval in life are the ones who care the least about it and the ones who get the least approval are the ones who are always going after it so if you want approval in paradoxical way that I'm talking about it stop leading it he stopped concerning yourself about ask yourself who gets the most approval in life think of the person that gets the most approval and you'll see that that person couldn't care less what other people are thinking they're so busy being they don't have time to notice what their neighbors are doing a roast said this he said if you advance confidently in the direction of your own dreams and endeavor to live the life which you have imagined you will meet with a success unexpected in common hours what that means is that success is not something that you can get in life success is an inner process success is something that you bring to everything you do in your life it isn't something you get out of what you do and when you get that and you learn how to get the junk out and advance confidently doing what makes the most amount of sense to you based on your inner signals and the one issue of morality which is you never interfere with anybody else's right to do the same each person has their own right to advance confidently in the direction of their own dreams and when you violate that you're violating the principle of the universe the essence of the universe which is cooperation and harmony then success will begin to chase you and it will come into your life and arrive in your life in amounts that you never dreamt of before that you never dreamt up things will start happening to you that you would never imagined before I'm working on a book right now that's gonna be called you'll see it when you believe it when you start believing in some of these principles you'll start seeing things that we you were blind to for so long when you were back here in the 2 and the 3 and the 4 and the 5 when you were moving away from yourself as long as you're moving back towards your Universal essence your harmony with yourself your cooperation with the rest things will start happening in ways that you never trapped up human called it synchronicity and we here says the term that we use to explain how unexplainable coincidences sort of happened in our life and how come these things have I'm going to share a couple of those with you before relate the the quality versus appearance in your life means that you get that inner candle flame working in a way that gives you quality independent of what other people think of you Maslow in defining self actualizing no limit people said they are independent of the good opinion of other people of the good opinion of other people independent of it they're so busy advancing confidently doing the things that makes sense and bringing success to changing their baby's diaper and bringing success to weeding their garden and bringing it to the job they bring it on the airplane so that when they run into somebody who is who is rude to them a stewardess that is rude they don't see it as an attack on them it's just where they are and they send them love help them a little bit you know they're kind when somebody wants to get in on the freeway and they're one old temptation when they were on the one to the sixth side what's to say oh yeah nobody's getting in front of me I'm getting there first it's like it slowed down a little bit they don't have all that type-a stuff of having to beat somebody else and having to defeat somebody it is it's a new way of being it's a way of quality where you're harmony allows you to cooperate and you are a part of what this whole thing is about new way of being quality rather than appearances another new way of being very important living your life on ethics rather than rules ethics rather than rules all these rules all these ways of having to do things somebody else dictates to them do you know that some of the most immoral acts in the world have been perpetrated in the name of the rules these are the laws what do you think Nazi Germany was all about everybody doing all these horrible things to other people I'm only doing my job was the defense we all heard at Nuremberg I was just doing my job if it's an immoral rule it's immoral to obey it and self-actualizing people as Maslow tells us have rules inside of them that they could never open never disobey ever and they have to do with ethics how you treat people how do you think we get to where we are now you know who Rosa Parks was the woman in the south the black woman in the south who said not today I'm not going to the back today no way I know what the rules are the rules were all over the place if you didn't eat if you needed a reminder there were signs everyplace colored in the back white in the front and she said no I'm sitting here and that made all the difference ethics not rules when your children start disobeying rules that need to be disobeyed don't be surprised when I was in the service they had a policy on Guam where I was stationed which would not allow the Guamanian civilians to shop in the PX and the Navy exchanges but they did allow all other civilians to shop in the Navy exchanges envy X's but if you were Guamanian that is if your skin was dark and your eyes were shaped a little different than you couldn't a clear outright violation I was the servicemen I was in the Navy as a communications a cryptographer they had a loose paper on the Guam Daily News and it said an invitation to speak your mind there was a letter writing contest and they offered $75 to the first prize winner $75 this was 1961 that was a fortune to me that was a month's pay in the Navy at that time almost so I entered the contest and I knew I would win it I had already written a novel at that time a whole novel I'd written while I was on qualm I knew it wasn't gonna be a contest I felt sorry for the other people entering it I knew I was gonna win it unfortunately I didn't realize that when you're in the service and you have an opinion and you don't submit it to the chain of command that you can be court-martialed for that so the headlines on next week's Guam Daily News were US sailor a sales policy of discrimination big hot stuff all right and I was called before a Vice Admiral commander naval forces Marianas Islands and threatened with a court-martial because I had disobeyed the rules even though the rule was immoral there are lots of them like that and when I went in and they threatened me with the court-martial I told him this was my battle plan I didn't have Xerox machines in those days so I had to get a lot of carbon paper I wrote a letter to the president John F Kennedy and I wrote a letter to the Secretary of the Navy and I wrote a letter I was my hometown was Detroit I wrote a letter to the Detroit News and a letter to the Detroit Free Press telling them what was happening to me as a result of just expressing my opinion about an immoral act that was going on over here on Guam and I showed the naval Vice Admiral my letters right there I said I've only sent the one to the president and the Secretary of the Navy these letters go to the newspapers across the country there was one there to the New York Times as well and the Los Angeles Times it was the and I just spread them out before him I said if you court-martial me or punish me in any way for this then what's gonna happen is the world is gonna find out about this policy and I'm prepared I'm ready I can handle it and I was 20 years old at the time for 21 not only did I get a blessing from that because all things come in blessings for you I got out 90 days early and they stamped on my record P I because the president took it up and sent it to the secretary must've and I never heard from him but I P I on your record means political influence and they don't like anybody with political influence in the military and as soon as they saw that they said this is somebody we probably will be giving a discharge real soon there was no clerk there was no court-martial and in September of 1962 a brand new policy was initiated on Guam which allowed any civilian to shop in the Navy exchanges and it came about as a result of someone saying these rules are immoral and therefore it's immoral to obey them new ways of being ethics rather than rules and when your kids want to know why how come these rules are so stupid how come we have to do this encourage them to change then my mother always did that she would have to help me get out of this out of the messes that I got myself into because I did it in my impetuous youth I would just when they would say to me what's more important your job or school I was just honest I said of course that's how I felt in those days but what you do put out in the world is exactly what's coming back to you and if you find things coming back to you that you don't like and don't understand don't ask yourself why these things are coming to you ask yourself what you're doing to make them will come back to you and when you start putting the responsibility on yourself you'll start seeing dramatic changes dramatic changes a new way of being it's instead of rules ethics a new another new way of being instead of looking all your life for achievements and externals try living your life on knowledge for the sake of knowledge knowledge instead of achievement for the sake of knowledge being in a in a context in which you don't have to collect a lot of merit badges you don't have to collect a lot of a lot of awards and other people's value judgments that you go to school or you go out into the world or you read or whatever it is you do because it makes sense to you not because of what somebody else is going to put on a transcript or where you're gonna appear in a class list we need to help our children to understand and value the importance of knowledge for the sake of knowledge and doing things that make sense rather than taking the easy way knowledge rather than always trying to achieve we're in an achievement oriented society which tells us that we evaluate and judge a human being based upon how many cheese achievements he has but most of the people who get caught up in that trap and are always in this circle of trying to get ahead trying to always get ahead their reward for that almost always is higher blood pressure ulcers early deaths and even things like cancer were beginning to find out are related to the kinds of stresses that we have and remember it's a perfect universe there's no stress in it there's only people thinking stressful thoughts and when you put that pressure on yourself to always achieve and get ahead of the other guy you miss what it's really all about there's nothing wrong with goals it's falling in love with them that's the problem it's not being able to be flexible and be all to them you have a goal to get here to get $100,000 in the bank to get to this promotion to get to cars in your garage whatever it is that your goal is and you're on your way to that and you're always working at the goal all of this stuff on your way to the goal is called striving and that's what you learn striving striving is a very low level place to be when you get to your goal because all you've ever known is striving you will just always suffer from this disease called more you will just upgrade your goal to $200,000 for cars and two houses and another wife and a younger one and and all of these kinds of things if you have a goal and you understand that every step along the way is the present moment to enjoy and to live then the goal won't become any obsession I don't have any goals in my life people ask me where you're gonna be five years from now what are you gonna be doing what's next for you I just remember what Lincoln said who to me was like the greatest person who ever sat in that White House he said I've never had a policy he said I just tried to do what made the greatest amount of sense each and every day of my life as I have sat there as the President of the United States and I think there's there's something really significant in that that you don't have to get it all planned out and follow a certain pattern and do it a certain way if you just sort of trust your inner instincts and go with that and live each moment the goal stuff we'll all take care of itself but if you're sacrificing and pushing your life aside and suffering on your way to trying to get someplace you'll never get there it will always elude you because once you get there you'll just have to upgrade it and that's because that's all you'll know nowness is that purest form of sanity living in this moment and enjoying it and all the rest of it will sort of work its way out you

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Published: Fri Jun 12 2020