Dad Is Mad At Me For Showing At His Home When He Cheated On Stepmom Bc Mistress Didn't Know About ME

what is the biggest family drama you ever had my parents are divorced and because of the custody agreement i'm supposed to be at my dad's for every other week my mom dropped me off outside his house and i went to the door and the key didn't work i banged on the door and rang the doorbell and nobody came to the door the house seemed empty my phone had died and my mom had left because she was dropping me off in her rush to work the locks on the doors were new but it was so hot out and my dad was supposed to have custody so i thought it would be fine to come in the window like i was supposed to be there i climbed in the bathroom window that he always leaves open i slid the screen up carefully and came in without breaking anything this is my childhood home i've climbed in that window plenty of times when i was little and playing outside i'd come through the window as a fun shortcut to use the bathroom i went towards my bedroom and there was some random lady in the hallway who freaked out she was scared by me being there and i was like i live here i'm mitch's daughter who are you and she left the house without saying i went around the house and my dad was not there edit a few people asked why i was so rude to say who are you it's because my dad has remarried he has a wife who is away this month caring for her elderly parents and i come home to see a random lady looking like she'd slept over the house coming out of my dad's room wearing my dad's pajamas it didn't look good and that's why i was so angrily asking questions so he got home and he was mad at me for breaking in and scaring a lady he was friends with apparently my mom and him had miscommunicated about drop-off time he was supposed to meet us in the afternoon and give me a copy of the new keys it was supposed to be after his lady friend had left and i was like okay so is your mistake and my mom's mistake why are you mad at me for coming in rather than sitting out in 95 degree heat for who knows how long and he was just so mad that i acted threatening to his friend that she was scared by me banging on the door and screaming then suddenly showing up inside the house when she had no idea who i was i said that if he's having ladies over and they're over a father's house they better well expect a kid around it or they're pretty dumb am i the idiot for climbing in the window of my dad's house i honestly don't think i'm the idiot here but apparently i'm a horrible person so i female 18 have an aunt who has three kids son and two daughters i don't see them very often or spend much time around them but my family's doing a small fourth of july thing today so we're all together at a local pool social distancing masks and less in the water etc we're staying at my grandfather's house for a few days and it's about a 30 minute drive from the pool this morning when we came up my grandfather and uncle kid's father went to play golf while my aunt took the kids to the pool i drove myself to the pool in a different car as the ant and kids usually swim for six plus hours straight and i didn't want to stay at the pool for that long i made it known before we left that i was taking my separate car i swam with the kids for about four hours but then decided i was ready to head back to the house i got up to let my aunt know and she freaked out she told me that i was being impolite and rude by leaving and that since she'd bought me lunch i had to stay she didn't buy it it was put on my grandfather's account she said that i was going to make the kids upset and that she didn't want to have to take care of them alone i told her that i was sorry but i had stuff that i wanted to do back at the house she started yelling in the middle of this public pool about how i was ungrateful for not helping and for leaving the kids how i don't deserve to be up at the house how i'm being a horrible family member of course now the young kids are crying because mommy's yelling at their cousin and they don't know why so i just turned around and left my uncle and my grandfather were already at the house when i got back my grandfather thinks i'm in the right they're her kids not yours if she can't be alone with them there's a problem but my uncle and grandmother are extremely upset that i left her at the pool alone to deal with them two of the kids are fantastic swimmers the youngest is the only one that needs help and to be watched a bunch i honestly don't think i'm in the wrong but my aunt isn't speaking to me my uncle keeps making rude remarks and my grandmother is passive-aggressively saying things to the small children like oh i know i'll take care of you opie isn't very nice is she am i wrong here my partner and i are attending an event held by her family in a couple months time if it even goes ahead at all based on world events this necessitates an extremely long drive by car of several hours but as there will be several of us traveling we can't all fit in one car usually for journeys like this the family uses a coach they own but the driver isn't going to be available for when this event takes place so this isn't an option i don't travel well by car because of a medical condition that means frequent rest stops i also cannot drive due to the same if my partner was driving i would absolutely have no problem with this i can do and have trusted her with my life however i learned that it would be my sister to probably be in law driving for sake of ease we'll call her alice i refuse to be in a car with alice driving several years ago alice picked me up from a railway station because my partner got held up at work and she didn't want me sitting there for three hours waiting for the next train on the way back to town alice picked up two friends one of them was a male and she asked for him to sit up front i obliged as alice was doing me a favor however alice decided to start showing off to this guy because she liked him and started doing in excess of 140 miles per hour on the freeway i yelled at her to slow down but to no avail and not long after one of the front tires blew out and she lost control of the car flipped it and careered into a ditch all four occupants survived however myself and the rear passengers sustained serious injuries both of us still suffer from those injuries to date so it's fair to say why i don't want to be in a car with atlas driving so after much discussion with my partner we decided to book a sleeper train as the reason for the plans were changing was my fault i said i'd cover the costs of the sleeper train for the four of us traveling while this train is perfectly comfortable it is somewhat unreliable for timekeeping so i suggested we go one day early in case of problems over dinner alice brought up the topic about which car she'd be driving for the trip that's when i said we'd be taking the sleeper train and likely hire a car when we got there this infuriated alice who made out that my partner and i get special treatment well i we do make our own travel arrangements that's on a necessity basis for my medical condition then i want to be awkward she can make her own arrangements too i told her that was not the case and i had booked her and her partner into their own birth so they didn't need to share with us or anyone else i then suggested that i'd consider letting alice drive the hire car over the few days away if she wanted to be trusted to drive us long distance in the future but still wasn't good enough alice's boyfriend asked me if i'd consider giving alice another chance it's fairly clear he doesn't know about the crash we were in some years ago [Music] update several of you suggested i tell alice's boyfriend about the crash and the severity of it i have now had that conversation we'll call alice's boyfriend steve for ease of explanation i asked steve to come over before alice would show up and i dug out the photographs and medical reports from the crash in hindsight i probably shouldn't have done that while i was alone mistakes were made but i was able to recompose myself without too much trouble i then asked steve if he was aware of why i was so against alice driving the conversation loosely translated went something like this me do you know why i am so against alice driving us to the event steve i know she crashed a car with you in it she said it was a little bang which is why i'm confused as to why you're so against giving her a second chance me ahaha a little bang does this look like a little bang to you holds up photograph of a completely totaled car steve gasped loudly took the photograph from my hand and studied it his eyes were wide with shock steve no no no that's not possible how even what are you telling me you survived that i then handed steve an extract from the medical report me i didn't but someone brought me back so now i just gotta try and be a better person each day which is why i've brushed it off for so long but this can't continue like this steve i'm so so sorry i didn't know she's been hiding things from me but this this is too much i'm sorry bro no one should have to defend themselves from this what else is she lying about steve then begins telling me he has his suspicions that alice has been involved with the wrong crowd and he suggested she has been cheating on him i then said i'd happily listen to him vent out but didn't want to get involved in their relationship affairs and that it wasn't my business so i did what any man can do in that situation and made a drink and put a sports channel on the tv and waited for armageddon my partner will call her kira arrived home from work not long afterwards she was aware of the threat i posted on reddit and knew i'd be having this conversation with steve i also showed steve some of the comments from the post and he agreed with most of them and he was surprised i could handle being in the same room as alice i then explained the only reason i do is because of kira he shook my hand and told me he had the utmost respect for that i thanked him but said that wasn't necessary about an hour later alice showed up already in a bad mood which really didn't help but alice had also been made aware of the threat in advance things turned ugly here really quickly steve confronted her about lying about the accident long story short as steve broke up with alice on the spot after he accused her of cheating and other nefarious activities as well as deliberately lying to him about the crash i then told alice she had only one chance to even try and begin fixing things and she'd be wise to take it alice thinking she knows better threw termite on the fire and made some remarks that seriously upset kira she then confessed to being jealous of kira and having tried on multiple occasions to sabotage our relationship at this point i was struggling to keep composure myself so i told alice she wasn't welcomed here and that she was to leave she refused saying i had no right as i didn't own the house kira fighting back tears and anger told alice i had every right as her partner that alice was sick vile needed serious help and that she needed to leave alice tried to dig her heels in but all kira had to do was give her an evil look and move a foot in her direction alice took the hint and left since she left she has gone radio silent kyra is understandably heartbroken at the betrayal of her sister i'm completely shell-shocked about what has happened and i take zero pleasure in what happened yesterday we have since decided not to go to the family event i'll probably make a second update in a few weeks once things have cooled down if they ever cool down with events the way they are in the world this couldn't have come at a worse time but we're both dealing with it the best we can and thank you for all your support and input there was never a clean way out of this but it seems alice's true colors are now on display and various other family members have also turned against her so my niece we'll call her olivia and i female are really close in age she's a month older than i am my parents had me when they were both 41 and by then my sister was 20 and already had her own kid because of our ages we've never really had the typical aunt niece relationship we're more like cousins but she calls me auntie as a joke so i just got an inhaler for some breathing problems i have related to allergies we were chilling in my room watching tv and she asked to see my inhaler so i give it to her and for no reason at all she puts it in her mouth and starts rapidly pressing it over and over again so i freak out and wrestle it from her and start yelling at her because man i don't know if you can overdose on that stuff and i also only got so many uses in one can and she just used up about 20. so i'm yelling at her asking what she just did that for and she gets up and storms out i kinda just sat there for a moment before i walked out to find her telling her mom my sister on me my sister got really annoyed at me because she was just curious she said that i had to apologize to olivia but i laughed at her and said no way the whole time olivia's just kind of standing there looking sheepish i say no and she just takes olivia and storms out my parents are on my side but they said that yelling at her was kind of a nasty move because i really don't have the right but she just put her mouth on my medical equipment and used it up was yelling at her really a horrible move am i wrong and does anyone have an idea as to why she thought it was okay to just do that my brother and sister-in-law have always struggled financially and i never really have my brother and i had all the same opportunities he just had an injury that made it much harder for him to work and put him in a lot of medical debt i've always been able to work never had serious debt and don't have any kids or plan on any i did pretty well for myself and had more than enough save to put the kids through college so when their kid was very young and they were really stressing out over saving for college i told them not to worry i would put their son through undergrad or trade school or whatever he ended up doing that was 12 years ago give or take he's now a senior in high school and looking at colleges this year i also got wiped out by the global situation i'm unemployed and i don't know when or even if i'll get a job in my industry again the same as it was i'm downsizing in all areas of my life i'm not broke or starving or anything but i'm being way more conservative so i can keep paying my bills until i get a new job part of this included having the difficult conversation with my brother and sister-in-law that i can no longer help with their son's college in the way i had initially hoped that if i'm employed by the time he needs the first check then i can help with a portion but if i'm still unemployed i can't help at all and in any case i can no longer pay for all of it so he should probably apply for some scholarships or other means of funding they were furious that doesn't even really capture it enraged is more like it they think i should have been in more dire straits before i revoke my offer like selling my house and moving somewhere smaller working outside of my industry in a temp job i do still live a much more materially higher class of life than they do so i feel like a colossal idiot that i'm not helping their son in the way i had planned on the other hand i couldn't have seen these circumstances in a million years this isn't a regular recession the world as we know it changed but none of that is my nephew's fault he thought he had this security all this time and right when he needs it it's gone i'm devastated but am i an idiot so we are a blended family my dad married her mom last year we're cool with each other we get along and don't have problems her dad is very rich though and he buys all sorts of things for her clothes makeup electronics and anything else she needs she'll have a brand new car soon as well here's the thing dad and stepmom are not only worried that i'm jealous over these things but they want me to be they keep telling me that it's awful that she has them and she shouldn't when i don't and it's okay for me to be jealous or even resentful i am not jealous or resentful at all my take is that i'm already very privileged i have a dad and stepmom who generally care about me i live in a safe home in a developed country with good future prospects i have an appropriate level of material goods given my age i'm not hungry i'm healthy and able-bodied i happen to look a certain way that means i won't face insults where i live i have already won the birth lottery since all the kids my age who live in poverty or are in nasty homes dream about my life i already have a lot more than i'm entitled to my stepsister having more stuff than me doesn't make me forget how lucky i am and i'm not an entitled brat either my parents tell me that in the same house kids should live in a similar way they want me to voice this opinion to her so that she tells her dad to roll back on the stuff that he gives her i honestly don't care that she has those things that i don't she doesn't deserve to have her things taken away or be made to feel guilty about them she's lucky enough to be in the top one percent of the most privileged kids her age worldwide i'm also lucky to be in the top five percent so how do i get this point across that they shouldn't expect me to be resentful or jealous and for them to stop trying to make her feel guilty over this [Music]

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Published: Sat Feb 13 2021