CONFLICT RESOLUTION

enjoy this movie then visit brainpop.com for much more heimo v if you see my toothbrush 10987 hang on six five four three two and one ah dear Tim and Moby my sister and I argue practically every day what can I do to stop it from Wayne hey Wayne when you spend enough time with other people your wants and needs are bound to conflict with theirs maybe you and your sister both want to use your tablet at the same time or you might feel a good friend of yours isn't playing fairly when situations like these arise you're gonna feel some strong emotions that's perfectly okay anger and frustration are normal feelings and everyone has them at one time or another it's how you deal with those feelings that counts you may be tempted to act aggressively with yelling and name-calling or even with violence that can just provoke the other person to act the same way you won't get what you want and you'll end up in an argument or a fight true sometimes they'll back down and you'll get your way but if you blow up at every little disagreement you'll have a tough time keeping any friends nobody wants to hang out with someone who always gets his way yeah it's tough to control your emotions especially for kids fortunately I've had a lot of practice in this department when I get angry or frustrated the first thing I do is stop and recognize what I'm feeling next I take a few deep breaths sometimes I even count backwards from ten to myself by the time I reach one I'm usually ready to deal with things more calmly sure just walking away is easier in the short term but you don't want to get into the habit of ignoring stuff that bothers you peaceful direct confrontation is the best way to go well you can start out by explaining how you feel in a calm respectful way say you and your sister are arguing over who gets to use your tablet you might say when you don't give me a turn I get really frustrated explain what you want to use it for then let your sister express her point of view show that you're paying attention by making eye contact and nodding and when someone else is talking be sure you really listen maybe your sister has been waiting all day to talk to her friend from summer camp maybe she's researching an important project for school think about how you would feel if she wanted you to just hand over the tablet people are more reasonable when they see that you understand where they're coming from you could say something like I don't want to interrupt you and your friend can you let me know when you're done it helps to think of the other person as your partner not your enemy the real enemy is the problem you're both trying to solve still if things get a little too heated you might want to call in another person to mediate the dispute it can be anyone you trust to be fair a family member a friend a classmate and even a teacher the mediator can decide when it's each person's time to talk and make sure that everyone acts in a respectful manner the best solutions involve a compromise each side gives a little ground for example you and your sister can set a schedule for sharing your tablet instead of the dispute ending with one person losing we get a win-win situation oh right well mobi when you use my toothbrush to clean your toes I feel grossed out I wonder how long it's been going on and I get sick to my stomach I see you get carbon buildup on your toes and it's really uncomfortable hmm maybe there's a solution we can both live with you visit us at brainpop.com for more on this topic and hundreds of others you'll find movies games quizzes and activities learn more about the difference brainpop can make

Channel: BrainPOP

Views: 577,298

Rating: 4.5924006 out of 5

Keywords: BrainPOP, Education, Animation, Moby

Id: EABFilCZJy8

Length: 4min 44sec (284 seconds)

Published: Wed Aug 23 2017