Confidence | Proven Tips To Boost Your Child's Confidence

whenever we work with the adults in a room and we ask them what's the number one thing that you need for success you know what's the one thing that comes up every single time people say confidence what is this confidence and where does it come from it comes from our childhood so when we as adults need confidence to succeed then children need it much much more and they need it because they're dealing with much more challenges at least we are dealing with our environments but they are dealing with their own physiology their own development with so much of curriculum with so much of distraction so many things so a child's confidence is the foundation for their life and the way they're going to grow in fact how a child's confidence is built in his early childhood is the reason why he would succeed and how he would succeed so let's go a little bit more into it [Music] this video is brought to you by filter box award-winning activity boxes for children to create explore learn clay imagine and innovate design by expert approved by parents and loved by kids with citrine to box.com now when we say confidence you know there is a lot of mommy around it a lot of people will come to us and say he doesn't speak to you know when the lot of guests coming at home he doesn't speak to them that's got nothing to do with confidence alone it could be the child's personality or we think when a child doesn't go up on stage and speak it's about confidence there are different kinds of personality and there are different inclinations that children have not going up today on stage may not be you know the same scenario tomorrow it is just different phases so as parents it's not for us to link confidence to you know what everybody else is doing is that your child can't do that is not about confidence let's go a little into what exactly confidence can be confidence is directly built to the self-esteem of a child or the self-image of a child when the child looks at the mirror and say this is me does he love himself does he like himself does he want to work with himself that decides confidence it is true for us all so we look into the mirror and you will see yourself saying I can't do this I can't do this I'm like this I can't be this way and that's closely linked to your confidence so when we understand this instead of going into any complicated theories around confidence I would like to make it very very simple for you as a parent whenever a child is dealing with some situations you know as growing up and going into real life and dealing with his environment situations if he is able to hear himself say to himself I can versus I can't that is confidence it's the number of I cans more or is the number of icons more that's decides his success and that decides the level of confidence he has so for us is a parent it becomes very simple if we know it is just the you know direction is he going towards I can or is it going towards I can't that's all we need to work around so confidence according to us will become really simplified when we focus on this one thing about making them more able making them more confident making them more I know out into the world to be able to really take it in and you know work with the challenges around that is going to really boost their confidence so now that we've discussed what confidence is we could also look at saying how is it shaped confidence is not like a pill that we can give to the child and it will get embedded it actually comes from what is happening in the environment so research proves one of the most fundamental foundations of a child's confidence is the parents yes you the parents because it says that you know what you speak and how you speak becomes their voice as they grow up becomes their inner voice it becomes you know their driving factor so if you used to say you know they don't do that don't do it this way and maybe if they make a mistake you you know pounce on them or there's a you know you shout or eise cold or you're constantly saying you know I can't or even if you're saying it to yourself and they have heard more of that or the tone in which you say you know if you're reprimanding them and the tone is really really hard okay then anytime they hear the sound anywhere else also it triggers them so what you speak and how you speak as parents is going to become their inner voice as they grow up so one very important thing to look for is what are we speaking as I said before necessarily it is not about talking to them it is also about what you talk amidst you want I mean it could be the two parents talking to each other it could be you talking to the you know grandparents or other relatives or neighbors whatever you are you know speaking is what the child is processing so it is very important to actually self you know reflect and look at saying what environment are we creating for children is it environment of confidence for example if somebody comes home and says okay let's go for a walk and if you are going to respond and saying I don't think I can go for a walk I am not able to walk you are just replying but the child is picking up that you know whenever he has to walk he has to think about whether he can walk or not so it is very subtly getting ingrained in the child it could be again as simple as you know if somebody is calling you and you're you know giving reasons on and on about your health you would see the child also getting up in the morning and giving you reasons on and on so all of this is very very interlinked so as a parent the first thing for us is to look at what environment we are creating what are we saying to each other and what are we saying to the child most important every time that you have a conversation with children are you leaving them empowered yes they may not be able to do it so a lot of parents will come and say that yeah I mean I can't say you know I can't encourage a child when he can't do something very true when the child can't do something it is to address what he can do and also guide them or suggest them on how he can do don't leave it and I can't do face you know add it up with saying how he can do for example for you take a you know four-year-old into playground and he can't play with the elder boys so he would come back and say I can't and all you need to say is you may be able to if you learn how to play even if you spend every day a half an hour and learn on how to kick on how to you know move the ball you would be able to so you would see the child actually trying to play with the ball and try to learn the skill so my request is don't stop at telling them what they can't and what they shouldn't go forward and tell them how they can how they would be able to make the move happen so this is about confidence hey moms and dads thank you so much for watching this video if you found a content useful feel free to share this with your friends family and with every parent out there we'd also love to hear your 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Length: 8min 0sec (480 seconds)

Published: Fri Apr 20 2018