CNA | On The Red Dot | S7 E11: Growing up in a super-sized family

[Music] [Music] in the 21st century Singapore where the average family has one or two children [Music] meet the hangs there's never a dull moment in this nine percent strong household I got more sister damage friend and the biggest family like us and the limbs where chaos reigns with five children approaching their teens I wish they'd give me more privacy in your proper space to study a design house where two from each parent plus three young ones make seven children altogether purchased at families as they bet families what does it take to raise a big family in tiny Singapore there's one you Meerut oh we all swore Jairo personality after several functions I felt that this kind more within myself the window that is black flowers in this special four-part series on the red door explores the lives of these super-sized families very very important as a terrific we will need a dish me and some time getting it something I want and I don't feel sleepy then might become everyone's at the limb household fourth child Brian should be preparing for his PSLE but rather than study he's more interested in playing with his siblings me Mike where does worries Brian yeah okay not so good if you ask you my game why he's gonna tell you everything movies everything you just put half your motivation on Audis I can't pushing the boy pushing the more he growing up dyslexic and recently diagnosed with hearing difficulties Brian has been struggling in school and in a family of seven it's hard to devote attention and resources to just run him alone we did you mean infusion man is it helpful is quite costly Amy I think is still figuring up slowly okay our teachers taking teachers advice how how to handle him yeah but he's a very stubborn boy he cue everything to waste I don't get him to open up it's the day of reckoning for parents Nick and Ethel they're traveling to Brian's school to collect his report card because they're very concerned about Brian and there was a lot at Mary but what do you think of it you tell yourself I mean some of your pastimes math and English at least history subject but I only passed English well I did try but I always have only a few more bucks to pass I was freaking out sometime in Africa I won't even open my mouth I promise oh yes or no you must promise you know hey I don't say the water problems nothing Obama talk my parents because it's kind of scary for me [ __ ] alone I just don't really [Music] for me his reaction is the same whether he got go inside his head or not I don't know nobody knows so I hope you will struggle better the next 14 euro Lisa successfully crossed the hurdle of the PSLE two years ago but since then she's made a point of staying in school after class rather than go straight home at home I can't really share my problems because I'm not that close to my stepfather but I can share my problems more with my friends because they are more understanding Selina married Zainal in 2010 she has full custody of her two eldest daughters izzati and ISA both from her previous marriage [Music] [Music] actually would be awkward whenever and for Milo envisioned my relationship with my two stepdaughters is considered not so close they communicated their father is different life quality will be different Lisa's relationship with her stepfather was not always this way our stielike seeks writing here first and it before was much for so he was very close to me but now that I guess I'm imagination stand by I'm doing some things have changed [Music] [Music] you should be school at school I think I spend more time on step-parenting than parenting my own biological science I'm a bit of protective I always differentiate between daughters and my son I always give more protection to my daughter now this because I doing things is different like last time I'm a bit skele I will try to manage my goes what snapchat we're feeling like why is he doing it then I'll be like why did I do let me confused whenever he does it I do feel like you know sometimes my privacy is like like I don't have that privacy yeah so like I don't really care if he does so by doing do it a lot of time because you know I don't feel comfortable sometimes once in a while we do need to know who they should be mingle with or spend that time with who's their best friend my husband is the one who I should check on them because I think he doesn't want me to worry so much in the Lin family whenever there's a fight middle child and brochure is usually in the thick of it [Music] we're pretty busy fight to fight to be the first one savings will fight so it's no but you can't do it as a family whoopsie breaks that dies of five hostages also a thing is in verses that affect see everything the minute I'll be also one fight fight fight when everybody in the hosting approaches anger management issues I Thanks [Music] johnny is it I want to commit everything I [Music] since ambrosia entered secondary school this year a change in her behavior has become more apparent in under just half a year ambrosia has received multiple offence forms in school i talked about Eddie the denture I still can't tell you how many hours I have but a faithful to what a very foolish dick for school talk back to teacher be late for class skip class a lot but it had Chuck fat so I don't really care she's very good here it's very different now she's very tomboy and very rowdy and very gangster enjoyed on he's putting up this image to everyone for them to see her as one of them like the inner [Music] having five children by the age of 37 Ethel prefers to be more of a friend than mother [Music] well I was wrong last time the killing method doesn't really work what you made me more rebellious if you have being a mother role to them they won't tell you about nothing rather than yeah a friendly then yeah they can tell you a lot of thing but Ethel's parenting approach doesn't always work along is relatively quickly escalate to a lot of other moms she wasn't for my CV they talk back to her without any consideration about the situation so I feel like they should show more experiment care you can still just I'll give you away without having a valid point 32 year-old David is the disciplinarian in the Haines household [Music] I think there are differences in our parenting style David it's not as easygoing always be when you spend a lot to spot a child and I would be more ready to spend our kids if they misbehave than my wife laughs she'll be much and told the remain handsome I was telling me we need to find out more and I said no because they are we not but David's strict parenting style does not sit well with everyone especially his two oldest daughters I felt more between myself some in the ritual that has black chorus even shot images between me and Samantha my oldest so I felt that was painful for Mila we not able to communicate to my children cuz Mendes going up she already has her own point of view so sometimes she can see her father's point of view yeah so that tends to sometimes they maybe this would be romantic 16 year old Samantha is the eldest of seven children since the birth of her younger siblings she's felt a growing distance from her father six that's one you me at all we all saw her opus on me then I have after Levi into hi Stefan functions [Music] we thought [Music] [Music] voila okay now why do I say they need to okay daddy we did cook nasi goreng fried rice but today you have to okay ghost aka anything I give milk on okay with parents Zainal and Sally Haddaway sisters is auntie Andy's I are in charge but not for long despite being just five years old Adam isn't afraid to talk back to his half sisters Adam Chara and ice Arsenal and saleha's biological children I never will visit our younger siblings I always have to ruin my eighth day we cannot school our younger siblings when my stepfather finally I recorded them he was like you guys are not allowed to school I don't mean shower you guys are supposed to be a good role model to them them and not like school them around but zine Al's house rules have become a bone of contention for his stepdaughters when he said day I feel angry because like I don't get to square them right then they won't be listening to me call the TV you want a tea for tomorrow I'm not able to like teach them while you're in the room I feel like honestly it's like quite unreasonable because I think I should have the authority to score my younger siblings I always tell design that people do not raise their voice inside the house only I can raise the voice you doesn't they are not controlling the house themselves seem like they are the siblings the children raising the voice is different from schooling we can put them in a high tone but those cold and I'm have lips can you work yourself I don't come here I should say that he favored more on Adam I don't know maybe he's the only son here living under the same roof [Music] it's been eight years since inal and Saleha got married but Issa and his auntie are still trying to adapt to their new family sometimes I wish I have lived with my biological dad because when I'm there ian is a we don't really get left out because our father is always by our side Buddha monogamy means Buddha is at us at the shower make sense when I think about it again I pity my mother and my stepfather has to take care of my younger siblings and if I were to be living there then he's out we have to do all our chores alone and the other stuff I don't know Matt the column of five ten years twenty years earlier until I would stop at anything so I'm just trying to do my part my butt to twist them I don't hope for them to [Music] [Applause] unknown to her father sixteen-year-old Samantha's been harboring a secret that she dares not bring up with him I didn't army-corps like any guy that saw first at all that thinking Scooby for I am cheerful my net pasta I like the Sun and I don't think right there is nothing no over there next time don't talk about something very fuss was about well a person there's no Christian export answer I will say no there were increase it's your father if I cannot convince you have you know failure as a father I knew you were gonna say that I didn't expect him to agree with what I see fine yeah we need to understand when two couples come together with a couple who is not on the same frequency or the same level commitment and the same level of maturity the marriage was over I know Isaac she shares about I mean attentive changed [Music] [Music]

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Length: 23min 1sec (1381 seconds)

Published: Wed Apr 03 2019