Classic Divorce Court: In Love With Another Man

on divorce court today high school sweethearts had a child got married and had two more babies together but Elijah can't accept latasha's fourth child by another man Elijah hall and Latasha Hall have brought their dispute for Judge Lynn Toler to resolve testimony and divorce court starts now mr. Hall we are here today and I'm not quite sure why so we'll go through this you two have been separated for a year yes she already has a two week old baby with some other guy and you're here seeing if you could save the marriage walk me through that logic well your honor that's why I'm here because I need you to help me with that usually you hear about stuff like that in movies uh-huh no so when it comes to real life that kind of hit you in a place you you don't know how to handle it and that's kind of where it was with me now the only thing I can really think of is no we got three babies together you know we got married fresh out of high school it's my high school sweetheart and I still love her and care for and really that's the only thing I could come together with so I need you to help me with that okay all right mrs. Haller how did how did you get to the point where you couldn't live together anymore and you ended up with another guy now I ran away from home to be with him were you when you did that I think I was 15 going on 16 Wow I was a little hard how successful was that I mean did you guys all turn around and come home or what no tell me what happened I mean who ran away did you leave the the city what happened no it was more of a she left for parents house you know they were they didn't want us to be together out of such a young age you know how kids are we don't want to hear that so she said you know what I'm leaving you know she came with me and me being a man or whatever I was supposed to be at that time I was all right come on what do you say 1918 I was I was sixteen going on seventeen Wow how soon after that did you have your first baby we had our first baby yes she was 17 I was turning 18 were you living in your parents house your mom's house my mom's house and when did you get married December the 3rd of 2009 and how many kids did you have by that time why just one just one and then you had to war you went through hell and high water to have him what didn't work out he started to put his hands on me pushing and shoving hmm that'll do it that's not how the reason that's not the only reason it's the only reason that there needs to be let me put that out there so everybody understands that one blow you go any touch and push in a Justin stop and hold in anything like that that's not cool but I'm not gonna go there right now what I'm gonna ask you what do you think the problem was if in fact it was not that well I think the problem was before we got into any of that was me not being able to trust her she's a big flirt and really just never gave me that security as she was for me and only me give me some examples of what she would do that would cause you to be insecure good examples is well we were high school you know I had to come pick her up from school a lot and I might see her with some of my friends that she didn't know I knew a lot of my friends harassing your girl which boy you know and I steal a girl from here doing this and that so I started doing that investigating mm-hm I start making fake pages I actually caught her and made a fake page on Facebook right she was talking to one her ex-boyfriend so I she left it open one day I came home from work I said okay I'm not gonna say nothing right now I'm gonna wait a little bit Miss Holly what were you doing on social media chit-chatting with other guys what what were you trying to achieve well he really wasn't home like that so why would we know what was he doing provide the man goes out to work to provide for his wife and family and you take that time to go Philander with other guys I mean it really wasn't like that until he started making the fake faces if my husband had a fake facebook page or a face social media page and some guy I could look at it and I wouldn't be engaging in it because I don't do that kind of stuff you had to be willing to do that kind of stuff to get caught up in that now am I not right mm-hmm okay you all right yes you look like you're gonna cry no you all right you sure how old are you so I need to oh just a baby Lu 23 yep Wow and you got four kids are you concerned about that at all you know do not I'm a little worried about it and can I tell you why you're 22 you have four children gotta be stressful time-consuming and at 22 I mean there's nothing you can do about it now but at least consider putting any more babies on hold until you get these ones kind of up and out [Applause] you know cuz it's good cuz it's hard out there nobody's mad at you you know that right I'm just worried about you you know this other guy is he cool yeah is he straight with your kids yeah not for him he's not what why do you say no because he's a bum why did you say that are you jealous of mrs. hall hang on are you jealous or is there a real problem a real problem explain the nature of the problem this is the guy I knew when we were dating when we was going to school we used to go over to her brother's house you know and uh I believe she was messing with her man because he showed me a video once of uh of hurt inside of her room and she was like rest all allowed showed up she got her sports bra she just was it was it was bad and he was showing me this and right then I should have stopped it no because I knew that I shouldn't even go any farther than a relationship but I really cared about it and this is the same dude now remind I came over to the house and my kids just be out all you know yeah unsupervised baby's dirty you know I just don't like I get what you're saying this hall and I want to talk to you about what you're thinking and what you're doing and and how we can get to somewhere better next are her sexy clothes or his anger causing their problems [Music] your mama warned you not to marry you amazed if she was right and divorces your best option call toll free at 187 seven three one one twenty two twenty two or visit our website at divorcecourt.com become a fan at facebook.com slash divorce court divorce court real relationships raw emotion testimony continues now mrs. Hall I'm gonna go to you why why don't you tell me why you think your marriage did not last - mr. Hall I think my marriage didn't last because he was like really being a pest I mean how was he a pest like I couldn't wear what I wanted to wear mm-hmm I had to cover up everything I'm 18 years old couldn't wear what I want to do where I had to cover my chest had to wear loose clothes I had to wear skirts I couldn't wear pants well you all a better wardrobe like that mr. Hall I didn't I didn't want her to look like she was bad or busted but I want her to be presentable like when we went places I didn't want to have to worry about this guy because she's wearing some jeans that's all up in her butt or she got a circus showing all the crevices and just everything she dress well sexy mrs. home did you you no no no how was he as a father he's a good father but you just won't let me wear what I want to wear is it beyond that what else do you made you want to leave him well it was one incident when we was walking down the street I don't know if it was a mental push but he pushed me and I fail to hit my head on a church podium I think nothing not in the church but outside of the church and I mean I didn't like how he pushed me so I went to the doctor and found out that I was pregnant and yeah I just thought that maybe this'll work it will work out and so you thought you would stick with it yeah did it get worse did he do it again was that a one-time thing he did it in here now mr. Hall I know it's a hard thing to say that you did but do you admit that in your youth with your wife you were inappropriate there are times I do you feel that you have trouble controlling your temper I did then I really I had a really bad anger problem okay did you resolve that digits hurts really helped me a lot uh-huh just growing up you know and seeing things differently now back then I didn't have a father to raise me right and then when he was there all that really saw was why came in yeah what good it wasn't good no this is all did you have a dad at home no mr. Hall don't have a shot doesn't right I mean you threw you're done it's over yes completely yes okay how often does he see the children started coming back to this well coming back to get them did you see them yes do you see them on the regular not as regular as I would like is it because you don't have time is it because she or the guy she's with us making it difficult what at the time that's not it's not because do you work yes you pay child support no mr. Hall you remember you just telling me how your father didn't do for you don't do to them what he did to you you know what what paying a cause don't be that guy to your three kids do you know what I'm saying I'm not I do for my children the only reason why I wasn't going around was because of the tension and it's just it was bad I didn't want to have to end up in jail or end up showing my kids bad example but the would you when you got it would he and your guy get into it huh you don't like children they don't like each other because the fact we know each other I've got it I got it I see where we are when divorce court continues as the stress of raising kids pushed Elijah over the edge [Music] do you think that Elijah can accept latasha's new relationship call 1-800 to 89 to 91 to vote now and see if America agrees with your opinion he'll also receive some valuable offers call now if you would like your case heard on divorce court call us toll free at one eight seven seven three one one twenty two twenty two or log on to our website at divorcecourt.com and join the conversation on twitter at divorce court real relationships raw emotion divorce court continues mr. hall you say mrs. hall is overly dramatic can you give me an example of when she goes over the top about small things yes mrs. hall don't like that at all look at that give me an example and then I'll let you respond mrs. hall thank you for being quiet about it though when we used to get into little arguments and things she was just blow it off the top I mean it could be something like baby why we didn't do this you know what you mean why we can do that or if I don't know come to her right then and there if I'm trying to be quiet and and resolve the issue with it myself first before I comforted her she would just blow up everything like you don't care about how I feel or you don't want to hear nothing I got to say and when I try to talk to her to showing it here then that's not we usually get into arguments and I fight touches you hit me and then we gotta get into a whole nother fight because she don't want me to touch it I just want to come so sighs you just want to go and hug her and kiss her then listen I'm gonna tell you something right now in the middle of argument there's no touching don't come to me you're whooping in Holland calling her this thing and then you gonna reach out during kiss don't ever tell no judge that lie it won't even go that way that don't make any sense mrs. hall obviously you disagree with his assessment of your attitude during arguments what do you say I go I'm over too many United I do you get angry a lot yeah do you get pretty hot mmm a lot of fussing and cussing and carrying on yes ma'am do you still fuss some cuss and carry on with this Currie guy no not really not really I mean when I when I get mad when you get mad but you don't put nobody fusses and cousins when they're not mad how often you get mad no I don't really get me you don't feel a little Preston's like how I do but in general I mean I had that was 33 years old had two kids a job a husband a house and I was stressed Jeremy just don't get just don't you know one to ship them both off see you gotta be honest with me duck you're feeling a little little press and stressed I know you do and and I'm asking you this I know you feel pressed and stressed but you got to be careful how you come off in front of the kiddies because what happens is if you have a parent in the house that's bouncing off walls all of that bounces around their head and it doesn't matter if you're minute for them or not if they're in it it falls in there and it's hard to get it back out do you understand what I'm saying so I mean learn to be who if you can do you see what I'm saying and don't press any buttons over there mr. Hall whether you like to do more huh I didn't know where they were you don't know where they are I use it that's the thing I should try to understand her but every time if I thought I did is like she would flip the script I'm like today you heard and today you heard I'm like oh girl I got you I understand what you're saying it's crazy Judge Lynn Toler shreelane next if the ink on your marriage license is barely dry but you're ready to call it quits call toll free at 187 seven three one one twenty two twenty two divorce court judge lynn toler ruling right now mister business hall I like you both I really do you're very very young you've had a couple of kids and then it but I like you both I am angry with you about the pushing and the shoving and the touching you just can't do it no degree of it no there's no little you know you just can't do it I'm here just start no I'm starting over here I'll come over there all right I'm starting over again but as a man you gotta have your stuff contained around your women and your children you just do and it's the greater need for you than her it's illegal for everybody it's wrong for everybody but you people are big and you can do damage and you gotta ain't got to respect women and children enough not to not to allow your lesser self to woo the rest of yourself okay that's all I'm gonna say I'm glad you're starting to see the kids and I want you to let him see his kids as often as he can I think you have both suffered from the absence of your fathers and mrs. Hall I think you're you're searching for approval and the easiest way for you to get that approval is through sexual enticement I think you're gorgeous and I can't believe you've had four babies I'm just gonna say that right out there I just can't believe it I mean I didn't look that good after my first but I think you're looking the way you you feel better about yourself is when a man looks at you and it isn't enticed by you and you got to find another way to feel good because that's gonna fill up your house with babies and it will never fill up your soul it will never do for you what your father didn't do for you so you have to find some some passion some want some achievement that you could say yeah look at this degree yeah look at that money yeah look at look at look at what I've done and not what I look like it's tempting cuz you look good and it's an easy get but I don't want you to stick on that you with me you understand yeah you're 22 beautiful absolutely beautiful don't ever forget that and don't ever need another man to tell you that you believe in that and then you move forward with that mr. Harrer you know she's not coming back right yeah yeah you know that but you were good dude and I want you to be a good dude to your kids and and work hard and you're working yes keep that gig I got to you got to make that money you got to make that money and take care of your children not only emotionally but financially as well I'd like you both be nice to one another because the barbs that you throw each other will glance off for you and hit your kids you don't want that so you write here today when you leave here you forge a bond I won't be cool with you and you be cool with me for my kids sake I don't know you gonna do that huh yeah I do good luck to both of you this matter adjourned Elijah and Latasha are forging a cordial relationship for the sake of their children post a comment or submit your case at divorcecourt.com or call toll free [Music]

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Published: Tue Aug 20 2019