Are You Choosing to Finally Heal? | Dear Future Wifey S6, E606

so I was his armor Bearer and so um and so we was in a meeting it was four it was it was four deacons there he told him to actually grab me and he did what he did uh uh you said hold on yeah yeah so you said that y'all were in the meeting yes I want you to read I want you to say that again because I don't think people understood what you just said yes that I was in a meeting and and the meeting was in his office it was me and for the deacons and the pastor so he told them to grab me and I don't know I I don't know if they took it as a joke or or or or or what or if they even knew what was about to take place but I would definitely say that when he told them they actually grabbed me and then the rest is history so to be violated like that by your spiritual father is I never imagined my public healing would Inspire others to heal across the world I thank you for using him to reach the world with the message of Hope in relationships but your life does not God you are my publicist he laughs we share the unadulterated truth he said not only have I not divorced you I ain't exposed you oh we didn't marry fans we married forever and we want it forever to act like a fan reveal her Jesus I will not compromise on getting a woman to God you don't have to and father I declare for his future wifey thank you for preserving her this season I declare Miracles and manifestations you selling Scripts and you're unique you ain't like nobody else I noticed that right away you being true to who you are you're gonna attract it's a Hebrew word and it was translated wealth and it means people it means men it means resources and it means means I'm the pterosaur Whitfield and this is the dear future wifey podcast [Music] welcome to dear future wife podcast I'm your host laters R Whitfield listen man season six has been kicking off and it's been absolutely amazing I'm loving the feedback that I've been getting all the DMS I've been trying to respond to as many as possible but you guys have 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but uh just connected with this brother and you know without further Ado I'm going to introduce him and we're gonna chop it up welcome to the dear future wifey podcast my homie Isaac Davis what happening Brother what's up bro how you doing man I ain't gonna try to change your voice to me what's happening Brother is that the boys gonna use today that's a professional voice I gotta keep it real okay okay that's your professional voice so so Isaac man uh do you remember when we connected yes I do when was it um it was on one of your lives that we were talking about when you were talking about um which we had gone through with your ex-wife and then I shared my same experience with you except except for me it was on the other side yeah it was on West Side uh she was the one that I cheated she was the one that I cheated she was the one that cheated she was the one that cheated yeah so yeah I was sharing my story about how uh I cheated on my wife and you confessed that um you were the uh the victim of infidelity um how did you navigate through that um I actually navigated it through um I thought about where now that was my second marriage I thought about what I went through with my first marriage and I thought about how would I have handled this differently right so um so what I did is that I gave Grace immediately you did yes I did I gave Grace immediately the only thing I want to know and I'm the type person that I like to find out all the information yeah so if you give me all the information I have all of it to heal I have all of the hill at the same time and then I'm done with it did you know that the dear future wifey podcast is number one in Jamaica but guess what we are going to go to Montego Bay May the 4th through the 7th we have teamed up with I can't wait to travel and we've put together this beautiful event we've curated this amazing Excursion uh yeah let me let me just be honest with y'all real quick I don't take vacations I haven't taken a vacation in four 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first getaway in the month of May join us at Mobay May the 4th through the 7th listen I can't wait to see you there we're gonna have an amazing time so we got to a point to where I said hey I'm ready to let this go I said is there anything else that you want to share with me and so she said no and so I said look you know these are the standards that's going to have to take place and and then from here we we good I said so let's move forward I don't want to hear nothing else about this I'm done and I'm over with it so that only lasted for about two weeks what happened after two weeks uh she wrote a man a love letter zero who love love she wrote him a love letter how'd you find it um I can't answer that because I'll be self-incriminating myself so I can't do that so you found out that she wrote a love letter yeah how did you respond to that I responded to and said actually I asked her about it and I wanted to see what she was going to say as a matter of fact I said when the last time did you talk to such and such when somebody asked you a question like this oh and they set you up they try to see if you're gonna be honest about it or or what and so when they ask you a question they already know the answer so you said when's the last time you spoke to sentences such and such and she said what I haven't spoke the last time I spoke to him was was right before this and you told me not to speak to everyone okay guys are you sure are you sure that was your last time so that's how it went but then when I told her that I got the letter and I saw his response to the to the letter you know I read your response back I saw the whole dialogue so what did she say no no no no no no no no and the amazing part is that when I tell you exactly what you wrote and you still lie about it that is the craziest part and then her friend at the time I was like yo the dude just want the truth why don't you just tell them truth get it all out are you ready to move on but you ready a lot so but it but it was what what how long y'all married at that time oh I have labeled that as my 90-day marriage so it was there was no 90 days that's what I labored it because it was like 90 days is when everything just unraveled 90 days after we got married nine days up y'all got married that's when everything began to just unravel so you tell me you were honestly willing to just let it go yes I was because I wanted something better um granted I understand what I did in my first marriage you know I was the I was the perpetrator I was the one that caused all of the all of the issues and I take responsibility for that um she's a great woman don't get me wrong um we are we are even great friends today um and then plus that's who my son is with so um so but I knew what I did wrong and I made a commitment for myself to do better right and I made a commitment to actually change and so from that I wanted to have a better second marriage when I when I did and I did and I just want to have something much better um and I wanted to be better I wanted to be a better man uh Dan of course the maturity level kicked into so uh you know because I was wow so well we're gonna talk about that so how many times have you been married or Isaac twice you've been married twice are you interested been married again yes why because I enjoy the whole the whole essence of being married you know um you get to have somebody that is your best friend or that should be your best friend you can talk you can laugh you should be able to uh share your most either your your innermost secrets with this person or your innermost thoughts you should be able to experience life together in in our ways that you just that you just can't do single um you know it's great having that that our great friend that you go you can go anywhere in the end of our world with but when you're married and you can and and like you can share that special bond with uh it it it it does hit different you and I got a chance to know each other even deeper uh you were one of the members of um the lit Society with the course that um I've been doing called lit one-on-one yes man just saying some of the stuff that has taken place in that in that Community has been absolutely amazing for those of you that don't know what the lit Society is or even the course lit one-on-one uh matter of fact you explained it since you went through it what what what was lit 101 you started the course in October uh it's a nine week program what first of all what made you join it so let's start with I was already doing greater change because from that second marriage it actually hurt me bad um you know I went through a whole just like that you said yeah everything that we went through yeah so I was in a bad way I I'll admit it I was torn I was torn down because I guess that women don't realize that that when a man really gives his heart to you and and he opens that thing wide wide open it actually hurts once it's bad boy sometimes a lot of men don't even recover yes exactly they won't recover that you're like I've never given my heart to another woman a day in my life I'm gonna be in these streets and I'm just gonna Smash and dash so so I'll be very honest very honest and transparent four years I was dealing with it and I was dealing with it and God six months what now seven months ago God said why are you still holding this how long has it been at that point it had been almost four years and God was like why are you holding on into this why you have made this issue an idol and I shall never have a god before me I am a jealous God so when you're gonna let it go so I was like I don't want to let it go I'm just being honest I don't want I want to feel how I feel while while I'm feeling it so um and then look I don't know the truth about it we want to feel the way we feel for as long as we want to feel it so we can justify the actions that they feel inverse that's it and at the end of the day it's like saying well I can halfway show up in everybody else's life because I am still dealing with this pain so we justify that action based upon that feeling yes and uh in that sense we lack accountability yes and that pain and and that pain causes pain to other people that are there in in your corner with you and that's trying to see you through and you just don't even like you just don't care and I was in that attitude that I just did not care yeah and I'm and I'm and I'm being honest I just didn't care so I started making changes uh so I started with uh Brittany Brittany who uh Brittany um Noel I started with her oh okay so I went to one of her uh classes and then Dad my homegirl Johnson so then so then so she and I started correspondent and then of course I had been watching you and just going through this extra process so but then my best friend was when I say my best friend put the mirror right in front of me and would not remove it dude when she showed me who I was and how I was acting that was God sent to me why are you acting this way this is not the Isaac that I created this is not the Isaac that has that that has purpose you're not fulfilling your purpose that I have for you yeah you over here sidelining it but you're not but but you're not doing it to your full um you're not doing it to your full efforts or your potential so so when I say that she kept that that mirror man that mirror was right here it was a lot of cussing out hey leave me alone no you gonna do this because you didn't did this yeah no you need to look at yourself you you selfish you this yeah yeah you great over here but you lacking big time here yeah so that's good so but I'm thankful because I say that I was to be the blessing for her but definitely she was the blessing that I needed she was the person she was the mouthpiece that God placed in front of me to make sure that you know to make sure that I was realigning myself back where God needed for me to be because the person that God got for me it has to understand my my purpose and and not only that and all that but if I didn't come out of this hurt I could have eventually hurt somebody yeah yeah so so I was already doing uh changes so when I came to the lit living um in transparency so uh so I mean living intentional and in transparency so so with that I was like okay lateris has I done this all right let's go do it so so that was the reason why I jumped in because I was like okay so I'm doing all this what else can I do to get me to a place of where I have reached total illness and I definitely tell you I was I was upset that I was the only male yeah yeah I really was I was really upset but then I but then the more that I that I understood it how many men are really willing to be this vulnerable and to open yourself up to some deep secrets that you haven't shared with anybody and you have to go through the point of where your healing take place if you are not ready to heal if you you know it it actually took for me exposing deep secrets that I haven't exposed to anybody and I'll be honest with you there was only like two other people that actually know what those deep secrets are but now it's out and open yeah man lit one-on-one ain't no joke man I was I would be reading some of the stuff in the in our private groups and stuff and I was just like wow boy and there's people that were opening up sharing stuff like you said that's never shared anything uh like that in life but I was watching Everybody begin to bond together and everybody began to be each other's comrades and it was just it was a beautiful thing that took place um what was one of your biggest takeaways being a part of that Community the biggest takeaway was um allowing yourself to be vulnerable first first allowing yourself to be vulnerable you have to be vulnerable if you truly truly want to heal you got to be vulnerable uh secondly was the bun that came out of it yeah look I am the big brother to 19 women I'm the big brother to 19 women man look and then to hear their stories and then when they got to hear mine yeah it completely changed the entire atmosphere because me and we have to understand that when we get into our rightful place with God when we when we step up to the uh a plate it opens up uh um healing for the women that that is um that the women that's around us yeah and also the women that's in our lives facts facts and that's why I say as men we have to be leaders in that regard yes that we're uh we're so afraid to be vulnerable out of fear of judgment or out of fear that a woman will weaponize our truth a woman with weaponize our uh vulnerabilities uh weaponize what we feel is our weakness and um and I love the scripture that says where I'm weak I'm made strong because at the end of the day if I give God my weakness then what he does is take it does what he does best and brings it back a strength and um did you notice that no matter what you shared nobody ever demonized you in that group that is that is correct no one ever did it actually took it in and they was like brother let me come in come here and wrap this up yeah yes and the crazy thing about it we think though we say if I tell this I remember when God first told me to share about my infidelity in season one and I was reluctant because I was like oh no this this is a problem like I'm trying to grow a YouTube channel this is going to be counterproduction this is not going to happen this is career suicide side but through that openness through that vulnerability it began to heal people all across the world and so uh and that's what God always taught me is to to lead with vulnerability it was hard to get here I ain't gonna lie but this space I always want to be a shame and and it's the and the shame the embarrassment yeah you I don't want to face the guilt and the first of all almost you don't want to take the ownership at all how can you evolve to the state of mind you openly confess your faults healing imagine a life where you are unapologetically you Freedom what could you accomplish fully showing up in every area of your life anything your new life of Endless Possibilities awaits become an exclusive member of the lit Society we are all flawed humans the difference between the lit society and others is we admit it and then do something about it to impact the world we keep it lit live intentionally and transparently this isn't just another program it's reprogramming destructive mindsets to live intentionally and transparently become lit join the elite and become a member of the lit society today foreign [Music] because as long as you uh are afraid to admit that there's there's no growth God can't heal What You Won't reveal true so the men you reveal it then God says good now I got something to work with true and then he'll begin to unpack those things in our life um so when you start looking at uh the things that you've gone through with lit Society or lit one-on-one what is um if you're open and you want to keep it 1 000 uh what is something that you would like to share that you've spoke about in that group oh you want to keep it there oh yeah if you like if you like this is this okay hey the the the biggest hurt outside of being married and and are going through that uh was having your spiritual father to violate you sexually violate me me yes or you me okay ownership see that see that yeah violate me sexually uh that was the I say that when you are in Ministry and you are held to secrets that happen within Ministry and that means that the members lives the members issues every single thing that actually goes on um when you're hailed to those secrets you know you get to be in in meetings that you talk about this stuff so I would says I'm a bear and so um and so we was in a meeting it was four it was it was four deacons there he told him to actually grab me and he did what he did uh-uh you said hold on yeah yeah so you said that y'all were in a meeting yes I want you to read I want you to say that again because I don't think people understood what you just said yes that I was in a meeting and and the meeting was in his office it was me and four of the deacons and the a pastor so he told them to grab me and I don't know I I don't know if they took it as a a joke or or or or or whatever if they even knew what was about to take place but I would definitely say that when he told them they actually grabbed me and then the rest is history so to be violated like that by your spiritual father is and I definitely say I've never understood why God blessed me with the gift of of being able to forgive people immediately I don't understand the reason why he he uh graced me with the gift of Peace the gift of our patients I don't understand that so do you think hold on let's let's unpack this do you think that you forgave him immediately because that wouldn't even make sense believe it or not I did you you couldn't have watched this when when my ex did it to me I was able to but that's different yeah but right but for but forgiveness is forgiveness it has a higher level of violation but forgiveness is forgiveness God didn't Place terms on what the forgiveness is Isaac so you tell me this man you and you just said oh I just forgive him right afterwards believe it or not I I did honestly I think that you are but I was in Anger now now was I in our anger yes of course I was in anger and as I wrote inside the group I could have easily walked out to the car and came back with 17 rounds and knocked out five of them out yeah but then where would I be but but would it be justified yes it had been Justified but still could I have risked myself of ruining my own life running ruining my family life like they talk about women why didn't you report it so you know uh the taboo thing is you know that when something happened in our ministry you don't talk about it um and that's where my mindset was then you know um you know I only matter of fact I only think I've been shared this with my ex with my with my first wife wow so but that's what happened um and I don't know like I said you know I can't explain the reason why God blessed me the way that he did and I just have to say that if it wasn't for God's grace and I know people say well where was God in it God had nothing to do with that because evil is in the world people do evil stuff and it has nothing to do with God Isaac you got to unpack this because for you to say something as tragic like that happening it's a violation of your manhood it's a violation of your sexuality it's a violation of your spiritual uh of spiritual leadership how in the world could you take what that offense was and just so casually say you forgave him that that quickly so um I ain't gonna say now it wasn't right you know right when it happened I forget him immediately I'm like when I got outside to my car I gave I totally forgave right then when I got outside into my car actually drove home watch this I drove home just like nothing happened because the you know the taboo thing is that you don't talk about what happens yeah but you were traumatized if you talk to any therapist they said that if you walking around like that yes that's not forgiveness you're operating in you could you compartmentalize that moment and you act like it didn't exist so you can't forget I've never act like that it didn't exist I did leave the ministry um I got left in Ministry um you know I thought you know I was raised I was raised to be hard you know you know you know you don't cry about then you suck it up you you I think about it and you make your next decision to make your next move so that's how I did it and plus I was in the military then you know back then you know that stuff that you didn't talk about uh back then you know um so so I chose not to talk about it um now did I deal with it later to my uh to my awareness now yes I did because I went through the I like I went through the anger I went through the Unexplained um um yes yes yeah so so I went through all that but now you know I can look at I can look back at it now and and you know because I forgave I didn't allow that to to um curtail what God was doing in my life I couldn't I couldn't because God's purpose is more it's a more important to what happened to me Isaac I know I've heard this story before but it just it I just don't want to over spiritualize it an offense like that it's it's yes I'm now definitely I'm not because I can speak about it freely now because I'm in a different place right if you'd have got me seven months ago again I'd probably been hit custody let's be honest about it let's be up because I dealt with it temporarily and of course you know any man that that's that's been violent any real man that's been violated the one thing he wanted to go do is hurt somebody is no you want to go ahead and have sex oh yeah well you want to go have sex to validate that you are not you know yeah you know that this is not you and I can definitely say you know now that I look back on it yeah that was there were times that I would have had hard sex with my wife and and she didn't know what was going on so you were married at that time yes I was and your wife never knew never knew God though if she watching this boy she she sure gonna find out that but I don't but it's meant to come out because this is going to heal somebody this this definitely is going to happen I'm proud of you King you know what I'm saying because it's a lot of men that and I heard it I mean if you could just read my DMs just men that have been violated like that and have never told us so you know and um like I said it's a lot of men running around robbing people shooting people having sex with multiple women in one day and have never ever healed from past trauma and like you said you were in a whole marriage uh and I was your first wife and like you said your first wife you was out in these streets you know uh cheating and whatnot but you don't realize the seed that was planted that's right I had no idea that this man that left the house one way came back a totally different way that is correct that is correct and how many years were you married to her a total yes 21 years 21 years and what year of the marriage did that happen if you can recall I say about a year four yes year four had you been cheating prior to that no oh Lord Jesus boy but then you know for God you know everything comes full circle now I look at what God is doing with me in our ministry now um how that he's elevating me um spiritually in um in our ministry and and in the ministry that I'm doing now you know I am a mouthpiece if I got um and and I have to be available and I have to be able to speak when God say hey speak I I need for you to actually say this and so it's just prevalent with the people that I've been able to actually touch I love it I love it um I just want to stop right now and I just want to um I want to pray for men and women that have been sexually violated sexually assaulted they say one in five uh women have been victims of sexual assault but we'll never know the numbers of men because men most likely are never going to to come and be a part of a statistic they're not going to be honest and share that uh I'ma praying that I want you to pray over any man that may be listening to this because you have an anointing over that thing because you have come you have come through it and have gained power over it so I definitely want you to uh to pray but heavenly father I come to you today right now in the name of Jesus there are men and women who have encountered and have gone through what my brother Isaac has gone through and God they're still wrestling with God why did you allow this to happen to me Heavenly Father we come against that Spirit of perversion right now in the name of Jesus we counseled that assignment right now in the name of Jesus the strongholds that have been having them Bound for for such a long time we we speak against those chains and we break it right now in the name of Jesus Lord I ask right now for them to forgive themselves for them not to believe that the lie that the enemy has spoken that they did something to cause it or they should have did this and if they didn't do that this wouldn't have happened and they should have went and reported it and now it's too late to ever report it and why did they allow all these questions that have been bombarding their mind for so many years we come against that Spirit right now in the name of Jesus loosom and let them go let them walk in Freedom let them walk in power and authority God we thank you for their life we thank you for uh just preserving them even for for today for them to even listen to this today that you preserve them that they didn't commit suicide like the enemy tried to do with them and try to take them out that they didn't go and hurt somebody they didn't go kill their abuser guy but they had a little bit of Sanity to keep living to keep breathing to keep putting one foot in front of the other and keep moving forward even when their legs were shaken they were still moving forward and we thank you for that uh Isaac father we just come to you and we just thank you Lord if I have first and foremost for our God we thank you for healing father God we thank you for Grace father God we thank you for forgiveness for God and for the men father God that are dealing with these type of issues father God let them know that you are there for them Father you said that you knew us even before we enter our mother's womb father God that means that you knew every single step that was being ordered father God that our life would actually go through father I ask you father God that you come in with your healing hand father God that that's the same Healing Hand that you did with me father that same Healing Touch father God that you just touched those men in front of God and you let them know that you are that you are there for them Father God and Father God in for these same men we ask that you that they seek counseling if I got that they seek find a god restoration yes Father God because it is not anything to be ashamed of Father God it is not anything father God that should cause an outrage and actually hurt others by we just claim total healing and total risk of restoration yes God in Jesus name God I speak a miracle to take place yes Lord I ask for your spirit to fall on them right now in the name of Jesus for them to experience and encounter like never before Lord you said that if you be lifted up you will draw all men so God I ask right now for there to be a shift as we move into 2023 for you to begin to draw the hearts of men right now in the name of Jesus no weapon formed against them shall prosper and every tongue that arises up against them shall be condemned for this is their inheritance because they are Servants of you so God right now in the name of Jesus we bind up every demonic stronghold that has been coming against our Kings we come against that Spirit right now in the name of Jesus and we speak that they assume the rightful positions as kings of their homes as kings in this society as kings in this world and as kings in the kingdom of God God we thank you for everything that you're going to do I can't wait to hear the testimonies that's going to come for the the the the comments that are going to be left on the YouTube channel the DMS that I'm going to receive about the Breakthrough that people are receiving right now from this podcast God we thank you we glorify you we magnify you because you are God and God will buy yourself beside you there is none other we thank you you are Jehovah Rapha Jehovah Nissi Elohim El Shaddai God you are I'm not present God you're everywhere at the same time God so where these people are sitting right now you are visiting them right now in their private spaces and you're touching and transforming their hearts and Minds right now God and we thank you we thank you for just being God thank you for being a loving God thank you for being a good good father even for those of us that may not even have known our Earthly father but God you've been a good good father and we thank you in Jesus name we pray amen amen amen who Lord Jesus so Isaac as you've been navigating through these single streets these Dayton streets and as you've been going through your healing and restoration and um how these dating streets been treating you or how have you been treating these dating streets hey it ain't no day in streets just just say it no but I've not tried man I've tried I've tried bro you know I guess number one because I have standards and I think and what I think is funny is that women they say that they got standards get mad because we got standards so uh so and I am in a stage of trait directness matter of fact I turned 51 on the 19th 19th of December 19th of December I turned from the 51. happy ain't your birthday yet all right so this weekend yeah when this will Air yeah your birthday would have passed so happy birthday yes so I'm very direct very direct you can't come with me look if y'all cover if y'all come in with me with anything that's Housewives or something or whatever show you hip-hop look don't even come back big because you gonna get five left well what you mean so you said come with you with a Housewives dream what you mean a woman want to be a stay-at-home mom no not no that right there don't even bother me um it is like you know that you need to pay my bills you need to pay my car note my mortgage my cell phone bill and you need to give me money to take care of myself you should be doing that for yourself before you even come to me so so basically if you're a gold digger don't don't even come this way don't come that way I don't know I sniff it before you even walk in I'm like a dog I catch the scent when you before you even hit the dote the scent has already come in have you ever been like that though in your younger years tricking off money no never been that way man I you know what I I never flew nobody out man I ain't never flewed nobody out they never flew them out I ain't never done that man I'm I'm serious because I'm like this if I travel to you I paid everything my way to actually get there for you you could at least uh have a meal for be a sub you know what I'm saying so so you saying that if you if you're paying for yourself to go out there then they need to pay for themselves come see you I do have this one rule if you come to me I got you okay if I come to you you got me and I think that's a fair and I think that that's not fair when you come to me there's nothing that you got to worry about while you're there with me and and I think that's unfair um however I am I do believe in Chivalry don't get me wrong I know that we being comical but I do believe in Chivalry um I do believe I am one of those old-fashioned daters so I believe in going through your actual stages um so I I do believe in Daytona I'm just like what you mean what do you mean stages you know you know we got the Dayton the the uh the I get to know each other phase which most folks just call it the dating stage yeah you just collecting data yeah then we go into the Friendship stage then we're going to the relationship stage then we're going into a courtship by the time we get to courtship look be ready because it's basically you saying at that point you already know what you're gonna yes but I'm very intentional too right so and what I've learned lately is people are not ready for a man that's intentional why you say that because they because y'all think I can't say the word you're making a broad statements you say people on it okay so let me see if I win you don't miss some of the women that some of the women that I've come across are not prepared for a man that's intentional they say that they're ready they say that they want a man to give them the attention that that they desire they say they want a man to State what his intentions are they want a man to lead they want a man to pray to protect to provide all all of that so but when it's presented and but when it's given to you are you really prepared for it and so I've asked women some of the women that I've run across did you pray and say God prepare me for the man that's coming into my life because if you got this 30 page list of what of about what you want this man to be and the only thing that this man got is like five things of where he wants you to be can you be those five things but also I think that women have gotten to the point and not and I'm I'm not going to say all women some women have gotten to the point to where they feel that the whole dating experience the whole process is about them and it's not men want the same thing in in return even if we don't say it and what I said at the end of y'all list Society for the man in your life appreciate that man tell him what you mean to him because it does wonders for us right but then tell it and mean it don't tell it and I play it so don't say it just so you can get some out of it so so you saying the women that you've met let me ask you this uh what age group are you dating um I didn't wear from 40 to 55 40 to 55 yeah 40 to 55. so you like older women uh 55 really because we're in the same were you 51. when we win the same era we were raised together we was in high school together we was in high school together exactly exactly exactly so you say from 40 to 55 and you said you found women like that that are afraid of in of an intentional man yes but I will yes yes I have met women that are afraid of and and intentional man because when we also a man that's of purpose when you understand what your purpose is and you're intentional with that when those two come together then the BS that you bring will be recognized immediately when I say to be recognized immediately it's like man I when I was in Arizona so I met someone who I was in uh you know a while I was there visiting my brother we we had a blast he was like yo I got somebody that I want you to meet so I met her man great young lady but the moment that I put that intentionality to her she wasn't ready she had to share the fault back she said I'm not ready for you oh you said so when you said that show me what this intentionality look like what did you say man I can't give my secrets you know that they'll be like they had a cliff notes I'm ready for it hey that's what the second wife did I got all the cliff notes I can be every single thing I want him to be you got a point there you got a point though I can't give the action so so because I'm gonna tell you it's gonna be some women it's a lot of women that watch this podcast a lot of women that I come across are looking for intentional men so like I said you're you're your sphere of influence may be a certain demographic of women that you run into that ain't ready but these people these people are watching the dear future wife podcast they hear emotionally intelligent men on the show all the time you're talking to an age group that a lot of women fit into you talking about 40 to 55 okay so I've met some lawyers I ain't talking about professions hey bruh I'm talking about women that are already all right okay for an intentional man I don't want to quantify by profession because profession means nothing it's about women that have been praying that have been seeking God that have been doing the work that that when they see a man that that they feel like is God's God fearing God honoring a person that is submitted to God uh a praying man they go that's what I'm looking for and then they'll pull your your coattail because they gonna end up talking to you one day or try to slide your DMs or mention and be like I saw your podcast I tell women all the time the way that you present yourself to a man especially if they're on my podcast Say Hey I Love on I saw you on dear future wifey podcast I love when you said XYZ don't go pursuing a man just compliment him on something if he's interested then you go hey thank you so much hey and you're gonna go look at her IG and start looking at stuff and be like oh okay I kind of like this and you come back around hey I noticed that you took a trip to Dubai how did you enjoy real yeah and y'all just start engaging in conversation but at the end of the day it's going to be some it's a lot of dope women that watch this podcast and then they gonna say the Terrace Isaac is full of kaka they gonna say they say I try to talk to Isaac he he ran off he just took off it's all good because it's gonna be amazing women because watch this I'm sure I can just about assume I can make an assumption that you know women have to understand that you're not the only one that's out there for us right you know but the one that we select is the one that we select the facts so uh so and women have to be under women have to learn how to accept rejection some women some women let me say that correct some women got to learn how to accept rejection because I think that we were built with that I think that was the term that was giving us we were we were we were built with it but it's still hard for a man to accept it yeah because women will argue with you all day to say we need to learn how to accept rejection well how about y'all at the club when when a dude asks for your phone number and you'd be like no I'm not interested if you you ugly B your mother everywhere I wouldn't ugly while ago when you asked for my phone number real quick when I said no you don't see that dude that in winter by about about 10 females and he ain't got no number yet he man he mad and then somebody like me walking up like hey how you doing nice to meet you you look nice hey um by any chance when we outside of here can we get to know each other and she's like wow you talk to me like a gentleman you talk to me like a gentleman it's all about the oppress and I hate to use that say that we gotta have a tagline but it's almost like that we gotta have a tagline but but also with Terriers I went through that point of where being the gentleman did not work did you no I've heard that I'm telling you I've heard that too I've run across some women that would like you too nice I've heard that you too real wait a minute hold on I'm not you nah I need a thug yeah I've heard that really so so yes I have I have run across there's always a sifting through process you know um and that's why God is giving me this this Mantra where I say rejection is just redirection that's the end of the day if you're looking for God to guide you to that specific person then you're gonna go through people that are not in alignment with you and that's okay people that may not find you attractive that's okay people that have this list and they feel like you don't fit the list that's okay because at the end of the day who got God has for you is for you yes and um and so that's why I just say at the end of the day just go take your shots go shoot some shots yeah you know you miss a hundred percent of the shots that you haven't taken but can we keep it lit though let's go okay so let's keep it lit I did meet a young lady now okay that way I'll be honest with you that's it I'm stopping right there because she bad and I'm saying I ain't talking about in looks I'm not talking about physique I'm talking about in what she wants and her level of intentionality too so you met somebody yeah I did yeah I did that yeah honestly so you got somebody in your life now all right look I I got married we are talking okay so you matter we talking and are you open to dating multiple people why y'all getting to know each other you know we actually had at the conversation and I said you know you know typically I date more than one person she's like you act like that that's big news to me I do it too I said I'm glad that you said that that's a that's awesome I'm glad that you said that but we had a very intelligent conversation and it was a very open conversation about it you know like you know like if I go out I can I can tell her like yo yeah I'm gonna go do this yeah you know that or or this is what I'm going to do and I love the fact that there is no animosity because there's no judgment that there's no jealousy the maturity and the secureness of this woman bruh it turns you on don't see that's what that's what happens like when you meet a woman that ain't tripping and she's very uh secure with whatever that is it just makes you want her more you'll be like well forget all these other women bro listen Hills so but I'm enjoying the the uh process you know and right now we are in that data collection process you know uh you know because in that data a collecting phase you started learning out who the person is yeah and so and so I'm enjoying the process of just getting to know her and like again and like I said that she's she's just as intentional as well so one of the things you said that um you don't want no kids right no children you don't want no kids my youngest is 24. so yeah I'm trying to start over I ain't trying to start over so spayed and neutered spayed and neutered and you see that's vasectomy for the ones that don't know what's made of neutered me so he said ain't no kids come from here so you end up pregnant it wasn't his that was an act of God because we going to get a DNA testing but that's an act of God God you must really want to be there this child did you Lord so you can't come to him you got me pregnant be like nah you better go call Tyrone because it wasn't me it wasn't me and matter of fact don't even come out wait don't come my way cause you just confession you cheated on me yeah exactly exactly so you don't want any kids and you said that a woman with kids the kids have to be out the house I'll be honest with you they gotta be at least 12. now that's Too Young Too Young so they gotta be in high school they gotta be at least we gotta be in high school for real so 14 and up yeah because I'm at a stage in my life I can just pick up and go whenever I feel like you want to be able to watch themselves they got to got to hey look and and if you tripping off that that's your business well you need is one there's a whole lot yeah all you need is one hey what did she say that that that's your business that's your business it ain't mine so he said the woman can't want kids and a woman and she already has kids they have to be at least the kids have to be in high school gotta be that's fair that's fair and have you had a hard time finding it listen yeah these younger women are shaming the older women and I'll be honest with you because I've had more women come at me in their 30s from from the age of 30 to about 35. and has had more going for them and and intentional and know what they want doing it about their business than women that's my age yes but the only thing that that kept me from from my because they want kids they want more kids so like I'm sorry look it is what it is all right bye I've been down a road where I dated someone that said that she did not want to have children and we dated and then all of a sudden she said I want children how far how far along were y'all after she changed her mind a year and she said I want kids I want children and I was like you know the bait and switch we had this conversation it was the very first conversation that we had look you don't have children I'm gonna kill you you know I didn't rethought this I want children now I want you talked all this noise about that you didn't want to bring yeah okay and so what'd you do you broke up with him stage left not that quick stage left because what's that yeah you just prolonging them what's purpose what's the purpose now I also want to clarify this my 90-day marriage she's a great woman hey look I look because we can joke and I can talk about what she did but let me also give her edification okay she's a great woman she has moved on with her life she is now remarried and she and and she's doing it big she's really successful at what she's doing I also understand this we maybe we're just not me we take the blame Ike uh I knew that she wasn't the one for me let me let me go ahead and say that I knew that but you know how did we see them red flags yeah and we're like Ah that's that's nothing Ah that's that's that's fixable yeah yeah but we were not meant to be each other so I take the blame for of for not listening to God when he was showing me every single thing that I needed to see to say no that's that's not the one so let me take blame to that so because the fact that I chose to avoid what God was showing me and it was just a simple it was simple protection for me and was protection for her but yet I was not man enough to stand there and say hey you know this this needs to stop and it's not going anywhere because this is the reason why that's good that you uh are edifying her like that I think that's a very mature thing to do because at the end of the day you're meeting people during certain seasons and if you held her from one you know blamed her in this season for what she did in another season and does God actually do that exactly exactly you know at the end of the day we and y'all were young you know um and even with my first wife man we had I think about the fifth year after we after we were divorced I I think yeah I think about the fifth year at the week no no maybe longer um we had a moment of our transparency man God God spoke to me and said you need to say these things to her and when you say these things to her it's gonna release the guilt that she was feeling and by me releasing to her the things that God told me to release to her it also opened her up to also release the things to me that she needed to release to me that she was doing that I did not know that uh she was doing so but it's all good because I still you know because I love her you know she's the mother of my son I love her she's a great woman she's out here doing it big too um but you know life happened do you want a high performing woman no she ain't gonna be there but she got to have some kind of nah let me stop lying because I am Progressive I'm a very Progressive man um even at this age I'm you know there are still things that I want to achieve she got to have vision for herself I definitely say then every woman should have that She Gotta Have Vision She Gotta Have purpose She Gotta Have she gotta have that for herself because that and she she got to be independent too I mean it is independent but you know when to let that Independence go had did you experience that in both your marriages yes uh well my first wife because we grew up together so and and I would in which meaning because we were so young we were in our 20s when we got married so we grew up into our 40s together so that was a period that you know that I'm you know that I was pushing her to be better and she didn't see it then but I saw it I saw every single thing that every single professional quality I saw in her man I was like look it's time for you to move here it's time I'm seeing it it's already in you make this move make this move and she was like no I'm not ready the ironic thing is that after we got a divorce she was like you know what I now see what you were saying you know but but it but but it is great because she's because she's making major moves making major money that's good I like your perspective on past relationships uh you're able to like I said um celebrate the wins but you're transparent enough to acknowledge the The Faults and the failures and that's why I mean by when people come around full circle you can learn and glean wisdom from their past that's the only way you could ever go yes yeah if you can't look at a person that it may just didn't work out with and be able to say it didn't work out because of this and this and that and um is life that's right 10 days You're Gonna Be carrying that bitterness and you're gonna carry that to the next relationship I don't trust women because once you marry them they change and they just then she's like well what does that say about me you gonna marry me and thinking I'm gonna change too are we supposed to invite him are we supposed to evolve we're supposed to evolve facts you know because the thing is I like yesterday or today it may not be the things I like tomorrow fast so fast we supposed to evolve yeah so man one thing is uh so as you as you continue going through this in 2023 you got some goals set for yourself you know actually this month is the month that I do my fasting uh where I seek God for the next year um so I start in December and I go through the first the the the whole month of January I fast the entire month um because I start setting the tone for my year um we say fast you gotta quantify that you're fasting like half a day or whatever you're not doing a Jesus fast for 40 days well no I do it a mixture of of a total partial so and absolutely okay yeah so some days some days you'll just go water yes yes some days I don't go nothing we gotta drink water is it no you don't yeah yes you do no you don't you gotta drink something no you don't okay when you die just leave me alone no no no honestly uh I mean Lord you guys do something look I will man I got a great Foundation when it comes to the faster man when you've gone to the military what no not in the military just just my spiritual background man my my true spiritual tutelage started in Panama City Panama what was that a mission trip no I was I was living in a Panama oh I'm well in military International yeah yeah so I was living there and man look my pastor that I have now man we started together as really started getting tutelage about Ministry about discipleship and look that started when we was there man at what age were you man we were 20 24. well how's that equates to fasting then you know because that's where I really learned what fasting is that's that was my first time ever doing it fast a 40 day fast at that one I did 40 days with what just water and listen here no when we went it was it was broken down the actual days were broken down where like I think the longest that we went without food um I want to say was 36 hours the longest that we went without four or maybe it was four days I can't but it literally was a it literally wasn't scheduled so and then I think it was like every third day in the evening you you could eat between 6 p.m yeah and I think you could eat between six and eight pm yeah at 8 p.m you had to stop eating then after that you can have water until midnight and then why it says we buy we were doing physical fitness too man look yeah I was working out yes we were doing it man we were doing it and then of course because of the intensity of the physical fitness that we was doing we were allowed to drink Gatorade or or I drink a vegetable juice you know because you have to yeah you know you know you got to use it you know you got to use wisdom so don't be foolish out here do it do these fast it's about I'm doing this for the spirit [Laughter] yeah so okay I get it now um Do You Feel Like Love is in the cards for you in 2023 I can definitely say that you feel like you'll be getting married in 2023 I ain't gonna say all that I ain't gonna say all that yeah I'm just being intentional and that's not even spiritual I'm just being attention will I be with somebody in 23 I can foresee that would you would you would you be willing to propose in 2023 I ain't gonna say all that you said Isaac you know honestly would you be willing if God told you this is the one in 2023 could you have made a proper assessment whenever that is whether it's a two-month assessment a week assessment whatever it is to put a ring on her finger by the end of 2020 definitely say this and I'll be very very very transparent I know my best friend gonna whoop me oh my God I'm sorry I tell you when I get to the house I thought I tell you God has spoken to me about that about what he's spoken to me about that about that yes about marriage he's given me Vision about it um and it's and it's amazing so so have I had Visions about it yes has God spoke to me about it yes has God given me the the the idea of how to do it yes okay I don't know who that who is yeah but but yes I can't now whether that's because I don't I don't I want to preference correctly I do believe in God's timing yes and for God's timing in my position and for the people that I care for God's timing is extremely important because if I do it in God's time and then God is going to make the provisions for every single thing exactly operate with ease so let me preface that correctly let me ask you this because you you keep referencing this this best friend why you say you're the best friend to kill you for saying that man look that's my road dog look y'all probably gonna look me up on Facebook and Instagram you can go ahead that's that's my role bro so you have a homegirl that's your best friend yes why would she get mad at you saying that because I ain't shared this with her yet man and because we talk about everything you're like like literally we talk about everything man like there is nothing that we can't talk about so what do you think is going to happen uh when you get the woman that God desires for you y'all you you feel like this best friend is reserving the space or holding the space that may be reserved for your for your wife no oh oh we talk about all that man me my best friend lit for real so I know I'm talking about do you think you'll be able to put proper boundaries on that relationship so your your wife yes yes and if they're looking like yes because that's something that we have open conversation um with me and my best friend has open conversation about that now uh because she knows because she knows where I I want to be she knows what my desires are so with that um it it it it'll actually be easy you know just like I wish the same thing for her you know uh that man when I say that we down like four flats on the Cadillac we down like four flags on the Cadillac for real for real that's my real dog yeah that's that's that's that's good that's good hey and she beautiful so you know so y'all can't be coming with that insecurity stuff that's what you mean by insecurity so you know you can't be insecure of of my best friend I will put that one so you have a best friend that's attractive and you tell her everything uh y'all do life together and you say that you don't want a woman to be insecure about that you can't be insecured I want you to hear this again I want you to hear this I want you to hear this I want you to hear this loud and clear I had his best friend that's absolutely beautiful I tell her everything we do life together this is your words we do life together and you cannot be insecure about that you can't be insecure about the best friend if you take out the new life together part and and tell her everything I'm single she's single we do everything except for sex we that's something that that's something that we don't know and then the one we'll say well why don't you just be with her then because we're best friends you said we do everything together I got I got some best feet I got some friends I got female friends that we real cool with but we don't do everything together well look look my best friend look that's you dog that's you my best friend is my road dog man when I say that's my road dog I'm gonna explain because you finna get okay what y'all do together Isaac we travel together we go to events together y'all take vacations together no have we ever taken a fake ass yeah hold on yeah you know I well we just took our first vac our first real vacation we took that together last year last year where y'all go we went to Gatlinburg but we went with a group of friends okay I'm talking about solo trip have you ever just went and kicked it and said hey we're gonna go do a staycation together because you might yes we did yeah your girlfriend don't know it that's the problem you might have a whole girlfriend you just don't know it yet no but that's my road dog man we do everything together we take a trip together we go to vacation together we go to events together but then okay but when that special woman come along you know hey you know there is a degree of pullback you know would you feel like you were losing though yeah because you could feel like you're coming to alter this relationship that I've gotten so accustomed to for how long y'all been this type man we Shucks tight tight just like we are now in three years three years but you know the Friendship started back in 2011 when our friendship started um and now that we're super tight tight you know it you know so but and what because she and I actually have these have these uh conversations you know so I do understand that if I do meet someone uh well which I have met someone that there is a level of a pullback um from that and but even with the one that I'm getting to know now you're like I tell hey me and her about to go here we are here to hear it's like okay cool you know it's transparency like you can't get mad for someone telling you and then plus we are distant so so so so so it is a distant relationship and she do understand that they don't even in a relationship you just in data collection wait wait or area no no you know because you got to put everything I'm sorry we are distant and because the fact that we are distant uh she you know she understands um and so she and I had had a conversation about today if we go further how you know how you feel about and she was like yeah I'm cool that's that's your best friend uh why would I trip because I got a best friend so why would I trip on you with your best friend especially with us being distance so would you be okay if your girlfriend had a best friend and she was going to events with him yeah I have to be okay with it you don't have to be nothing you can be double standard all day you could be like look I don't like double standards brother I don't like double standards I have to be fair yes I I have to so why would I be upset because she's going to chill out with her dude best friend so what's the limit which means what's the limit that she can do can she go on a vacation with her best friend yes God dang it is a polyamorous relationship you take that stage left so you have no problem with your woman talking about oh yeah me and my best friend we're gonna go to Miami together yeah okay so but that's me so again I'm sure you cool with that though but I have to be you don't have to be I want to know your woman this is your woman hold up hold on hold on it's now you saying my woman see that's a whole level of your girlfriend okay so if it's my girlfriend now and now we have moved in and and I hate to say girlfriend I I don't like it but you're a woman you're an exclusive relationship okay so now if I'm in an exclusive relationship exclusive relationship then I know you can't go on vacation okay good I'm just trying to get uh Lord Jesus ain't nothing of course y'all friends y'all even you ain't got no no commitment to each other y'all dating multiple people so of course not in that stage I'm talking about the fact that I'm trying to see how liberal you are to be like oh yeah well we're in a relationship that's their best friend that's their best friend and they finna go to a Gala together well do you feel that there should be a transition of our friendship meaning that meaning that that that that the Friendship should a transition yeah you're talking to friendship with the girl with your best friend yeah yes I do too now that's that's something I do believe I do believe that friendship should naturally transition but it should but it should transition it's the same as the dating relationship yeah the relationship you have with the person y'all would transition from just being somebody that's dating exclusive I mean dating multiple people to them moving to exclusivity yeah and as that's beginning to evolve certain people start getting notices yeah you start saying Hey listen I am moving into an exclusive relationship with with this woman and this is the notice and your best friend gets that same notice hey I'm moving intensely with this person it's a person I want to be in a relationship with this person and and that's why I say I don't like you I'm like a girlfriend stuff right it's literally like this is the woman I believe I'm a married so when you start moving like that then you got to start operating like a husband at that point because other than that then you start bringing in stuff into the relationship that now y'all fighting over because you're sitting up again your best friend laid up in the house watching Netflix now I definitely tell you I ain't trying to be hey look I ain't trying to get married in six months no I ain't trying to get married in three no we try to get married hey hey look I gotta make sure that every single skeleton is out the closet okay some people good at hot dog yes you are correct some people are good they are professionals at hiding so so you're saying I know what you said you won't do so are you saying that I won't get married within a year no I won't well unless and that's what unless God say Ike look unless I make this move that's all I want and and I definitely say it has to be God because if it's not God the people that I'm responsible for that it will bring a A disruption so I want it to be God so because when God brings everything together it's Harmony it's Harmony and everything operates and everybody's win good so yeah so that's all I want to hear so you're open to God going against your timetable as long as it's God doing it not you or her hey who's the ultimate owner of the timetable there it is there you go so but I mean but but like I said you start off saying that ain't gonna be no three months and ain't gonna be no six months gotta turn some upside down you'd be married in 60 days but if God does that then God knows exactly what he has to do for the people that I am responsible for yeah because God gave me Purpose with those people he gave me the responsibility of those people so when God does it the harmony that comes from it is God makes sure that the responsibility portion does not fall love it love it love it love it love it love it if you were to title this episode um what would you title this episode I've been thinking about that the whole time bro I I've been honest with you we talked about a lot um and this is the miracle of manifestation season um maybe the miracle of healing um because I think something happened in the middle of this episode that God showed up and just he's he he did something and we're gonna hear a great testimony about how can people be connected with you um Instagram the The Gray beard of wisdom gray with an a um and my Facebook is Isaac Ike Davis Isaac Ike Davis Isaac Ike Davis uh listen brother I've enjoyed you thank you so much uh people not it'd be hard for people to imagine how hard it is for me to get men on my podcast a lot of women like well you have more men get men get men get men I can get married couples you know but men be like oh no you mean no you be asked too many questions it's a podcast we got top man I don't know about that man shoot I got you know I got a couple old ladies you know what I'm saying I get up there you you say one thing and I'ma have to figure out a way how to say it because I got two ladies I'm juggling and you know all that stuff he'd be like well yeah this is not the podcast you got hidden secrets yeah hidden secrets so in the podcast we keep it lit we live intentionally and transparently and so thank you for uh stepping up showing up and being your authentic self uh one thing that I love about this audience is that we don't have to agree with every view of our guests but we we celebrate our guests for being open enough and transparent enough to just share their story like um some women may be like well how he gonna get mad because I want to have kids like that's how you get mad at that's not Joe that's not your husband Isaac ain't your husband at the end of the day at the end of the day he's looking for something specific and just like you know a woman should be looking for something specific and everybody's not your person and be okay if it's not in alignment and so thank you for being transparent hey y'all give it up for my boy Isaac Davis y'all ladarian thrusted suddenly into Child Protective Services in 2015. my nephew black a boy the likelihood of being adopted outside of kinship slam to none Armani 16 years old black a boy with five years in the foster care system before I even knew his name the likelihood of ever being adopted yep you guessed it slim to none [Music] while ladarian and Armani were trying to survive and barely thrive in an overpopulated and underfunded foster care system I was living my own life doing well professionally having been a single father with a daughter who at that point was doing well in college it was my time to live my life right wrong I felt unsettled tireless agitated there are just too many of our black children stuck in ambiguity and in the limbo of the foster care system in 2017 I legally adopted my nephew ladarian fast forward to 2019 I had no ties to this other young king but I felt God instructed me to adopt him also and I obeyed starting over where parenting should have been enough right working with various foster care and adoption agencies to help bring awareness to the countless young black kings in the foster care system should have decreased my agitation right joining the board of directors of Advantage adoption an organization that helps find permanent adoptive homes for children in foster care should have led to some type of resolve right no not at all none of it felt like I had done enough I now realize that every one of those experiences was land the fundamental foundation for my life's mission Kingdom Royale Kingdom Royale would be a luxury state-of-the-art home for foster boys our first location will be in the Dallas Fort Worth Metroplex we will utilize the whole person approach that instills identity empowers them to advocate for themselves and enlightens them regarding New Perspectives and Limitless options that they thought were impossible though the young kings will attend the local public schools that are in proximity to Kingdom Royale our at-home curriculum will broaden their world view through participating in the Arts attending various cultural events learning about and engaging and multi-faceted discussions about current events and even relevant historical context introducing them to gardening and Landscaping and even caring for our animals on our farm and on-site Stables we just launched our startup Capital campaign with the goal of raising 2.8 million dollars now why 2.8 million dollars well in 2017 I created a web series in which I performed random acts of kindness for targeting the homeless Community one of the most notable successes was that one of the videos went viral garnering 28 million views however one of my biggest regrets is that I didn't raise a single dollar to help in implementing a more sustainable plan for the homeless community so throughout the years with much remorse I reflected on not maximizing that moment I knew if at that time just 10 percent of the viewers donated one dollar we would have raised at least 2.8 million dollars that could have really established long-term support for the homeless Community or at least started a long-term initiative to do so this is my do-over this is our new beginning together we can attack this at the root by specifically helping our homeless black boys who are already disproportionately represented in the American foster care system I'm laters R Whitfield I've been nominated for three regional Emmys documenting my work with the homeless as well as my personal adoption Journey despite those accolades the greatest award for me is truly providing the infrastructure for a transformed life visit kingdomroyale.com for more details crown of King and make a donation today there are specific episodes in the dear future wifey podcast where I believe God unlocks or unleashes certain things in the spirit realm and I believe that this episode really really speaks to man and brothers who are suffering in silence and so I pray that this episode helped men to find the necessary healing in order to thrive and become the greatest of um yeah this was pretty heavy pretty pretty heavy pretty pretty heavy anyway uh here's my favorite part of the podcast where I speak to my future wifey dear future wifey imagine a life where you feel protected emotionally spiritually physically and financially imagine living in a state of security in which you know the man you married always has your best interests at heart how would you feel knowing if you were to ever be placed on life support your husband would fight tooth and nail with doctors and leave no stone unturned for your recovery think about the peace of knowing the man you exchange vows with possesses a character to honor those vows until his last breath what would it feel like to have your deepest concerns acknowledged and rectified it's being covered in prayer important to you imagine a husband daily petitioning the throne room of God on behalf of you and the family if these soft skills are your core values imagine saying I do to me Dear Future Husband I hope you enjoyed this episode of the dear future wifey podcast remember be lit live intentionally and transparently and don't stop loving make sure to subscribe to our dear future wifey YouTube channel we're available on Apple podcast Google podcast Spotify and Stitcher we welcome your support simply share our podcast 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Channel: Dear Future Wifey

Views: 71,550

Keywords: dallas, love, podcast, relationships, black love matters, black men, Christianity, healing, weddings, marriage

Id: gB93rPX5iyw

Length: 80min 12sec (4812 seconds)

Published: Wed Dec 28 2022