- Where's Gloria? - Hi, Steve. (audience applauds) I have this 21-year-old that's my baby. - [Steve] Okay. - She thinks I'm overbearing,
but I'm a protective mom. When she leaves to go out, I have to have a telephone
number where she's going. Who she's going with, I have
to have their telephone number. And let's not even talking about dating. The boy has to give me his
phone number, his email. I have to meet his parents. How do you feel about this, Steve? It's so much stuff going on in the world today.
- You're absolutely right. It's so much stuff. Now you are a loving mother. - [Gloria] Thank you. - But you are overbearing. - [Gloria] Oh.
(audience laughing) - You know, you can be
both things at once. This is your baby. I got that. I have a 21-year-old daughter. But my wife's philosophy with
all our kids is very smart. She taught this to me. Their wings work. Your children's wings work. You have to let 'em use them. You can't monitor her like that. At one point in time, you have to believe that something you've taught her sunk in. You've just gotta trust them. These kids, all these kids ain't crazy. (audience applauds) These young people now, they're very connected,
technology and everything. So, you know, they can get
around all this you doing. They got ways of knowing everything. But you're just being
a bit much right now. You gotta give her the space. Is that your daughter? - Yes. - Let me ask you something, but stand up. What's your name? - Elise. - Elise?
- Yeah. - How you feel about this? - I've been dealing with
it for so many years. - [Steve] Yeah, 21. - Yeah. It's a long time, though. You don't understand.
- Yeah, if you in prison. Yeah.
- No, but she... (audience laughing)
No, but look. (audience applauding) No. - Yeah, 21 years on Earth
is nothing. (laughs) (audience laughing) - But no, but she made it sound like... - Give me an example.
- Okay. - Something crazy she's done. - All right, so let's see. Recently, I get off from my
job at 12:30, midnight, right? So when I go to my house, sometimes there's not parking
right in front of the house so you have to go a little
bit further down the street. So she's like, "Elise,
call me when you get home so I can know that you're here." So one night I'm like, "You know what, let me just do what she says. Let me call her." So I called. She said, "Okay, wait. Wait right there. I'm gonna come get you." (audience laughing) So she wakes up out the bed, wakes my cousin up out of her sleep to get in the car with her
to come not even a block down to drive to come get me. (audience laughing) Right. (laughing) Right. Right. (laughs) - You too much.
(audience laughing) You too much.
(audience applauds) - Can I say I'm in love with her? I love her, Steve. - You love her? - I love her. - You love her Like a hostage. (audience laughing) That little girl. Man. I parked four doors down, my
daddy come get me? (laughs) All right, all right. You know what, you're gonna
have to give her some space. You've raised her well. You've taught her everything. She remembers the lessons, but she gotta go out there
and put 'em to practical use. If you never allow your
child to put it to practice, you can't lean on... My 21-year-old moved out. (Gloria sighs)
She moved out. (audience laughing) My daughter has her own apartment. She 21.
(Gloria sighs) My 21-year-old boy, he
got his own apartment. I want him out. (audience laughing) Get out. Get your own place. (audience applauds) You gotta let her fly. Okay? Thank you. - I have 18 to 19-year-old boys. I want them to get a job
and do what they need to do to move out and get on their own. But I'm afraid. I don't want them to take
public transportation or to get their driver's license because of all the crazy
things that we hear going on. What type of balance can I come to where I can have a
peace of mind and relax, but yet he can also do
what they need to do? - Wait, okay. This your husband? - Yes. - [Steve] How you feel about
what she's saying, sir? - We've been married
for nine years, Steve, and I feel I'm the
opposite with how she feels about the situation. I'm gonna go out there and work. - Oh, I got what it is.
- So, but I think that an 18-year-old-
- So these are your sons from a previous relationship.
- Correct. - [Steve] Y'all been married nine years. - [Both] Yes. - [Steve] Oh, you probably
can't even believe this here. - Um, see...
(audience laughing) - You know...
(audience laughing) - No, I'm not... Quit hitting him. I saw that. He tried to say something, she went. - I do take the 18-year-old
out to work with me sometimes so he could get a feel
of society's jobs, works. He just graduated last year. I just wanted to come out
here and put this out there so she could, the way you put it. - You gotta let this man right here- - [Male audience member] Be a man. - You gotta let this man
show them how to be a man. Listen to me. (audience applauds) Women, single mothers do
amazing job with boys. Your a single mother. I applaud you. You can turn him into a good student, a good citizen, God-fearing. You can make him a law-abiding citizen. You can make him patriotic. You can make him hardworking,
trustworthy, loyal. You can't make him a man. - [Female audience member] No, we can't. I don't care how hard you try.
(audience applauds) You cannot make him a man. He will only learn
manhood from another man. They gotta get a male
mentor in their life, and you have one living in the home. (audience applauds) You should let him do that. You gotta let go. - I got a new job working at a college, and it's about two hours
away from my original city. I have a 17-year-old son who's living with his dad right now while I'm away at this new college. He's there because I didn't
want him to miss his friends and to miss his school during
the last year of school. - Right. - But come this fall, he got accepted into the
college where I worked at. Now, Steve, I'm a very
overprotective parent. And since he's been with his dad, I've been monitoring his social media. I've been checking in. I've been texting his dad
to find out what he's doing. And although his marks are okay, I know that if I was around, they would've been so much better. So what I think is gonna
happen is that when he comes to school with me and he
starts to live with me again, I think I wanna talk to
some of the professors because I know most of them. I wanna talk to the
president of the college. I think I still wanna monitor
social media when he's out. Steve, do you think I'm
doing a little too much? I just want him to succeed. (audience murmuring) (audience laughing) - Well, Steve didn't get a chance to answer you.
- He's my baby! 'Cause the audience done took over. (audience applauding)
(audience laughing) Yes, you're doing too much. I don't-
- But I want him to succeed, Steve. Because I think that
when he is with his dad, his dad doesn't push him,
and I push him to do better. - [Steve] What do you mean
his dad doesn't push him? - They're almost having a vacation there. - No, he got-
- I've done a couple of, like- - No, listen to me. Your son got accepted into college. - Yeah, he got-
- While living with his dad. (audience applauds) - And I didn't help with the acceptance. He did get accepted on his own. - Your son is fine. As a young man, he gotta
know some more stuff. - [Participant] Yes. - You can't just be book smart
and make it in this world. - [Participant] Right. - There are a lot of book smart
people who are just stupid. (audience murmuring) - [Participant] That's true. (audience applauding) - Let me tell you what you're gonna do. You're gonna over-parent this boy. He going to resent it. Don't push him away. Is he gonna live on campus? - He wants to live on campus. - And you should let him live on campus. - [Participant] Okay.
(audience applauding) All right, I'll do that.
- Because listen to me. Can I tell you the truth? - Yep. - What college taught
me was people skills. How to socialize, how to
deal with other cultures. I went to all Black elementary, all Black junior high,
all Black high school. I went to college and had
three white roommates. It was culture shock for them. (audience laughing) (audience applauds) Your son is going to be fine. Leave that boy alone. Let his father handle him
like he been handling him. He gonna be fine. Let him live on campus so he can grow up. He gonna be fine. (audience applauds)
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