Amrita Singh's HONEST interview on life after divorce with Saif Ali Khan, her comeback, Sara-Ibrahim

am if we were to recap back to your beab days would you say that those years those working years were the most glorious in your life yes undoubtedly the most glorious working years yeah and tell me about those day were you like really ambitious actually you know no I wasn't because I was very young when I started working uh I actually didn't even know what I was getting into when I started working and uh I was quite successful when I was quite young how you at that time I was um 18 when betab was released and by the time I was about 19 or 20 I think I had worked with the best producers and the best actors in the industry and the best some of the best directors did you ever think at that point that yes I'm going to consider quitting my work oh yes always I think pretty much from the time I've gotten into my job I've known that I mean it's you know it's it's for the moment and while it lasts I'm going to enjoy it and I'm going to quit I don't know I'm basically like that uh I'm I'm not somebody who gets into something thinking that this is going to last forever certainly not a job uh I knew that I was going did for a lock well initially yes I did it to basically get out of Delhi to get out of school and um and before I knew it it was like you know such a fulfilling career and uh and you really enjoyed it I loved it yeah you know that that's that's the one great thing about our job that you know you get paid so wonderfully to just do something that you love doing doing so why did you forego it because um I had other priorities at that time when I decided to not you said I'm getting married so let me just quit no I I had gotten married and then I quit I I worked after I was married I worked for a few years after I was married and uh I I was tired and I wanted to I just wanted to do something different I wanted to actually do nothing that's what I so it was your decision yeah pretty much yeah you just decided one day both I want to focus on what what did you want to focus on home children you didn't have kids at that point did you no I I just I think conceived Sara when I decided that I didn't want to work anymore uh and I quit but why is it under that that most women do quit after they get married do you think it's because Society dictates to most women in Indian Society do you think that women just choose to let different priorities take over their life well I don't I I can't really speak for other women but about myself I could say that uh from the time I was a child I uh you know had this ideal happy scenario kind of picture in my mind and marriage was a very integral part of that scenario that picture that I had in my mind and uh I think um when I wanted to have children I felt that uh my children would need um me more than my job would and um it was so much you know it's it's really difficult to say why and what led to what you know it's like what came first the chicken of the egg yeah so I I really can't say and things happen so fast in life that you know you don't really have time to plan that I do you regret your decision to quit working no not at all like somebody there said uh that you know she had attained so much in her job that there was really nothing much that uh she wanted to do and she thought that marriage was the next thing for her and she wanted to give that all I I feel like a mixture of all these women I think I am like a mixer of all these women we all are somewhere do you think that you really neglected yourself after your marriage uh yeah I think I became complacent and I just became lazy lazy uh you know somebody once told me that women have this great urge to Nestle and you know I just started looking like a fat ostrich in her Nestle in her nest so you think that you were just happy so you just let I was just happy and I was just like in la la land I think and I was just abouto esaro you know when you're married to a star it's like you're sitting on a Time bomb a ticking Time Bomb do you agree I mean after all they're surrounded by all these beautiful women they're going with these outdoor locations and everything's looking So Glamorous so sexy so pretty it's a way but that must be for a you know traditional or conventional star wife I was a star before I became a star wife so I didn't have that insecurity that I had to keep up with the Joneses in in any way love and there's trust and there's happiness yeah yeah basically yeah you get lazy and you get complacent so you can you know make it sound romantic and say it was love and Trust and all that but bottom line is that you just get lazy and you know you've been there and you've done it and you just it doesn't excite you I mean it never really excited me to go and sit in a beauty parlor for 5 hours uh but I do that because it's my job yeah a star then you became a star wife did it never go but then that's what I said I was a star before I became a star wife so I was through with that I mean I was always going to be what I was the way I dressed I thought didn't really dictate what I was it would if I lived in a kaftan that wouldn't take away from me that I was amri Singh I was am and will always be Amita Singh you know good bad and different um yes but I would I did become complacent and lazy about the fact that you have to you know look your best all the time as a woman not just as a star and and seph never demanded it from you no no Seth was never a very demanding husband in never said honey if you don't want to look good for yourself that's fine look good for me oh yeah of course like yeah he did do that yeah I'm sure he did yeah and what he pushed you into getting into the gym and and uh you know give you inspiration yeah he did incentives did yeah he did he did very often but I you know I'm the kind of person who has to feel it for myself nobody can make me do anything anything I'm you know you've been a star you've been a star wife what would you say in your perspective are the insecurities of being both the insecurities you feel being an actor uh more healthy because they're more creative but being a star wife the insecurities are unhealthy they can damage your mind so uh if you're an insecure person you're not you're not going to be happy being a star wife so would you say that a large portion of your time you have been Have Spent being insecure um but not a large time but yeah time enough to damage my mind yeah I have insecurities is a is is a huge part of being a star wife and as a star you're not insecure because you're the one who creates the insecurity then well you're back to being a star again you know from the big screen to being star to being on the small screen so now tell me what are the insecurities I just want to be fit and healthy because I have to look after my two children and uh I love doing that and for that I have to do a job and inse actually know insecurities personal ones who will share my life uh will I find somebody I'm not even looking I'm not even looking and you know I'm not will I have time for my kids will my kids grow up right you know anything I mean all the pressures that come with being a working woman I meane the hours that you're working and you are working phenomenal hours you're working 15 hours days 18 hour days at times yeah I mean well you know uh you can't have your cake and eat it too in life I've discovered that there no free meal tickets in life I've discovered that as well do you think that your divorce was the worst crisis you have ever faced in your life no the worst crisis of my life was losing my mother that was the worst crisis because that's the only identity and that's the only pillar that I've really had in my life I had no other family other than my mother I come from a broken home home and I have no siblings and I only live with my mother and uh I lost my mother at a very crucial time in my life and uh losing her was a huge blow and then when ibraim was born he got very unwell and that was the second nasty blow in my life so my divorce comes much lower down in the priority list of shocks are crisis atude ad I mean after star Seth is a star there so much media interest in your lives and you just haven't spoken up at all about what really happened how you took it why because so much was being done and said so openly that you know what was I going to endorse what would I G this your perspective or maybe a hurt or pain or just something from your side that's my personal emotion I don't need to share it with anyone I I didn't feel the need to share it with anyone I had other things that needed my priority like my children uh and most important myself I needed to deal with myself and uh people like the media and you know curious people were not on my priority list at that time my children and myself were well I think it's wonderful then that you have chosen to actually come on the show and talk about a second Innings and discuss the fact that you know women can go through crisis numerous kinds of Crisis you know losing uh a parent a child suffering a divorce coming your life and still handle it you know with a certain strength digity come out of it stronger as you have get yourself a career so thank you for this interview I know my pleasure Puja it would be very inspirational for a lot of women out there well I hope so I you know uh we all have our sets of problems you know and uh you're a winner when you die and you die with a smile so I I don't know if I'm a winner or loser but well Ral Emerson has said that nothing great was ever achieved without enthusiasm and enthusiasm you have plenty of enough Bountiful off believe you me am why did you wait for such an adverse situation to propel you back into show biz I I needed a job after you know what happened in my life uh I needed a job I needed something to uh give me the mental and the financial stability I have two kids and uh I didn't want to just sit at home like a loser and I decided to get back to a job and this is the only job I know so you're not doing it because you love it you're doing it because you have to do it yeah I'm doing it more because I have to do it but I mean it's I love my job but uh I'm happy of being lazy to put into it I'm basically a lazy person so you know I would love not to do anything but you cannot not do anything in life which was my complacent stage and I have to be rid of that stage so basically you're saying you're lazy person given a chance you just be happy so you don't really regret the self-imposed Exile from acting not at all because like I said and I'm uh it's been a wonderful experience to have been married and I've got two beautiful children so uh I have no regrets about not working I got a lot more in return for those 12 years that I didn't work but how easy was it for you to make a comeback actually really easy actually really easy and I think that's because uh we are from this fraternity that's very supportive of its family the film fraternity and the media fraternity always give you work there's so much that that I've missed out on or so many people that are better at so many more things uh yes in a way maybe yeah but you know you don't have to just like miss out on every aspect in life just because you're not facing the camera I don't think I had that problem I I don't think I really stagnated much I did grow in my time when I was not working I just grew in different Avenues um so what are the immediate things that you required for your comeback I had to work on how I looked I was about maybe 15 kilos fatter than I am right now about 7 8 months ago first I had to deal with my mental state of mind then I had to deal with my physical being how did you help your mental State I had to overcome everything that I was going through very fast because I didn't want my children to grow up feeling that they were left with the loser parent the loser parent that you know I just stayed at home and just mulled over my situation and you know just stayed fat and complacent and unhappy because of my circumstances I didn't want my children to grow up learning to be you know defeated in life by a situation you wanted to be a role model for them well I don't know if I wanted to be a role model for them but I think I needed to do it for myself first and I'm glad that I did it because inadvertently it has been worked like a role model for my kids because they've seen that life's not really over you know when very traumatizing things happen to you sometimes better things can come out of it you know your children must have got the shock of their lives right so how did they react to your suddenly departing early in the morning and coming back late at night well I think initially they felt but then they slowly dawned on them that it's not just you know oneof holiday it's a permanent scenario now where Amma is not at home for many hours and for many days in a month it's taxing and it's trying because both my children are small and uh I think children need you around you know IIM is such is life you know you can't uh and it's fine children grow up but how do you explain it to them well I explain it to them that you know John Amma has to go and work because Amma has to look after herself and if she can't look after herself she can't look after you tell me something am when you're marriage was breaking up and you had this whole Vision in front of you oh my God my life no husband two kids did you really think that you would have the strength in you well no I I think I was hurt I was very hurt I didn't think of uh other issues at that time I had to First deal with my emotions as a woman and then thereafter everything just fell into place I think as a woman had to just deal with the fact that you win some and you lose some and this was you know just not destined to be and once I accepted that everything fell into place but just the fact that you know now you have to go out there you have to earn your money you've got these two little kids you've got to be the single mom didn't the thought ever scare you no it doesn't scare me at all because till I'm alive I know I'm capable and these things don't scare me I mean I'm not worried so you get the strength of the fact you come from a divorced family your mother brought you up single-handedly single-handedly and brilliantly at that so you have learned from example that this is possible and that it's possible to do well yes totally totally and with a lot of uh comfort and uh so it's been it's actually this transition hasn't really been uh very difficult for me other than maybe emotionally uh it's not really been very difficult for me now the New Direction you know your life is taken up that there are some aspects that are totally fulfilled and some that are not and and I have no problems about the fact I work so many hours so I don't mind I love my kids coming on my sets are they really proud like she off in school now yeah now SAR does like s i I know at at times used to be really embarrassed when I was like all of size 16 and fat I could see that my daughter was embarrassed and you know that oh my mother's such a m and you know but today I can see uh you know there's a sense of uh pride In My Daughter's Eyes I I quite honestly I don't think so uh but you never know why would you say it so emphatically because I have everything that a man can give me actually other than a few things which I don't need to be married for I would believe you know and uh no that's very naughty no that's lovely so that I know I don't have anyone paying my bills for me and I have to stay in my job you know AR Elanor R Roosevelt once said she said a woman is like a tea bag you can test her strength only when you put it in hot water and you my dear seem to be made of the strongest a Sam Brew okay is that the best that you get in the market that's the strongest great thanks that's that's a compliment yeah that is a compliment I'm that and I I think that you have been extremely inspirational for a lot of women out there a lot of women you know will be inspired to say Hey listen if ra saying do kids lazy as can be can get back on your feet toally totally today I wouldn't have life back in any other way other than this way well AB it's been such a pleasure having you on the show thank you so much for being here and sharing your views and having this really Heart to Heart t a thank you very much and I hope I haven't offended anyone [Music]

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Length: 19min 5sec (1145 seconds)

Published: Sun Jun 02 2024