JUDY WOODRUFF: The holidays are a time to
come together for many, but, for many, also, the season can also heighten a sense of isolation
and depression. In tonight's Brief But Spectacular, New York
University Business School Professor Scott Galloway, focuses on our state of well-being. SCOTT GALLOWAY, New York University: So, there's
an art to happiness. Basically, from kind of zero to 25 it's the
stuff of "Star Wars," discovery, spilling into adulthood, football games, magic. Then (EXPLETIVE DELETED) gets real from kind
of 25 to 45. Work is hard, economic stress. You realize you're not going to be senator
or have a fragrance named after you. And most devastating, someone you love gets
sick and dies. However, a wonderful thing happens in your
40s and 50s. You begin to take stock of your blessings,
you realize that life is finite, and start finding appreciation in relationships, in
nature, in your achievements, and you get happier. The lesson here is keep on keeping on, happiness
waits for you. So, we have two types of speakers at NYU,
either people who are incredibly interesting and inspiring or billionaires. We have decided at business school that, if
you're a billionaire, that means you know a lot about life. And they typically end their talks with one
statement. And that is, follow your passion. And I have found that the majority of people
who tell you to follow your passion are already rich. The problem with thinking you're supposed
to pursue your passion is that, when work gets hard -- and it always does -- you might
fall into the trap of thinking, well, this is hard, which means it must not be my passion
and I should find something else. Work is hard. Being great at anything is very difficult. If we were going to be honest about trying
to increase our currency in the marketplace, we would focus the entire second year of graduate
school on four companies, Amazon, Apple, Facebook, and Google. Google knows more about you than any priest,
rabbi, scholar, mentor, or boss, your sexual fetishes, whether you're looking for a job,
whether you're about to get engaged, whether you're about to get married. Facebook initially held out the promise of
catalyzing and strengthening relationships. Unfortunately, it's gone beyond that and tapped
into our tribal instinct, because enragement is engagement. And engagement leads to more Nissan ads and
more shareholder value. So, unfortunately, the largest platforms in
the world with the greatest reach are basically fueled on rage. When we see, if you will, the Instagram version
of people's lives, it makes us feel worse about ourselves. It's especially dangerous among teens, who
oftentimes, if they're not invited to a party, not only have the shame of not being invited,
but have to see the party play out in real time. So there's a correlation between social media
use in teens and things like self-harm and even teen suicide. I can modulate my lack of affirmation or criticism
on social media. I'm not sure my 12-year-old son can do that
as well. I wish I'd invested more in relationships
when I was a younger person. Put 10 dollars away now, if you're 20. By the time you're 50, it's $1,000. The same is true of relationships. Phone calls, text messages, notes, reaching
out to people when they're struggling, these small investments when you're young add up,
and you wake up and you have a wonderful relationship. I was selfish, and I think I paid a big price
for it when I woke up at the age of 42 and, quite frankly, was an island and didn't have
a lot of meaningful relationships in my life. One of the things that's helped me in my struggles
with anger and depression is to have some perspective and to take stock of your blessings
on a regular basis. You have to express your love. People are not telepathic. The happiest people are not only the ones
who feel most loved, but know there are other people in their lives that know that they
are loved by you. The one best practice across happiness is
the depth and meaning of your relationships. At work, do you feel respected and admired,
and do you admire and respect other people? And, most importantly, at home, do you feel
an intense level of love and support? And, again, just as importantly, do you know
they know that they are loved intensely and supported by you? My name is Scott Galloway, and this is my
Brief But Spectacular take on the algebra of happiness. JUDY WOODRUFF: And we thank you, Scott Galloway.
