A 3 Words Hadith that will change YOUR LIFE | Ustadh Mohamad Baajour | Jumuah Khutbah

allah foreign [Applause] i is [Applause] oh [Music] [Music] [Music] [Music] [Music] [Music] to keep our hearts steadfast on his deen till the day we meet him has been given many blessings from allah subhanahu wa ta'ala one of these blessings that allah bestowed upon him is that he was given the blessings of concise speech very few words that say much like for example when muad came to him and he gave an advice to muhammad he said yeah he gave him three statements yeah wherever you are follow a bad deed with a good deed it will erase it and treat all mankind with good manners three statements summarize the islam this is what concise speech mean whole islam the first two are ibadat and the last one is right the whole deen is in this three statements so this is what concise speech mean today's hadith is not three statements it's three words and this hadith is so eloquent it is a hadith that you for if you are ever given an opportunity to speak about leadership one of our he was in a conference talking about leadership he got up and he said these three words hadith and it was the best speech in the whole conference because he's quoting the best man if every leader if every imam applies this hadith with his congregation it will be an amazing congregation if every father applies this hadith with his family it will be a peaceful home full of love and harmony if every teacher applies it with his students if every president applies it with his people there will be prosperity what is this hadith three words the believer is the mirror of his fellow believer or another narration the believer is the mirror of his brother now when rasulullah says mirror mirror means mirror mirror does not mean image photo x-ray mirror means mirror just like when rasool says said if a fly fell in your food dip it and continue drinking or eating the food you know we all know the hadith i cannot replace the fly with a mosquito okay so here rasulullah assalam said mirror why mirror lend me your heart and i beg allah to make my words go from my heart to your hearts number one the mirror does not lie the mirror does not lie if i stand in front of the mirror wearing a white thube white shirt and it has a stain on it the mirror will tell me you have a stain the mirror will tell me you have a stain similarly the believer is the mirror of his fellow believer i see my brother i see my sister doing something wrong i have to inform them and tell them this is wrong this is the true believer i see my sister posted her picture without hijab on facebook some brothers thumbs up masha allah so cute no you the believer will not do that what does he do would you bring us to the second characteristic of the mirror the mirror is very gentle one pebble will shatter the mirror so what do we do personal private message to the sister to the brother whomsoever have done something wrong because giving an advice in public is a scandal is a disgrace so privately i will text the brother i will message the brother i will message the sister this is not right in a very gentle manner just like the mirror in a very kind wise manner and do not feel bad if someone gave you an advice constructive criticism do not be upset unfortunately immediately we get annoyed if somebody is giving us advice thinking that we are perfect there's no perfection except to allah azzawajal um used to say in the understanding of this deen he said he used to make it may allah have mercy on the one and listen to the word he used who gifted me who gifted me my faults who gifted me my shortcomings [Music] in a gentle manner in a kind manner i tell my brother i tell my sister this is what you just did was wrong this is the true believer and i'm not worried i'm not worried what will people say about me will they be upset with me the true believer just like rasulullah you are not a true believer until you love to your brother what you love to yourself from that foundation i am speaking to you you tell your brother i heard the hadith amazing three words the believer is the mirror of the believer and you are my mirror brother and what i love for myself i love for you this is not right very gentle the way you approach the problem determines the outcome you have to be extremely gentle third if you clean 10 20 of the stain the mirror will tell you if you clean some of the stain the mirror will tell you your brother used to be addicted to alcohol and you found out and you advised him and you found out that from every single day now he's drinking once a week masha'allah allahu akbar continue go ahead you can do it he used to smoke one pack now he's smoking five cigarettes go ahead masha'allah go ahead continue you can do it encourage them do not keep you know reminding them of the past the mirror does not exaggerate the problem when you come with a small stain the mirror does not show the stain it's huge similarly if my brother if my sister committed a minor sin i do not tell them you're a kafir and similarly if they committed a major sin i do not belittle it the mirror tells you exactly the size of the stain and when you clean everything listen carefully when you clean the whole stain the mirror does not remind you of the past when you come back and stand in front of the mirror oh last time you came you had a stain never never my brother used to drink commit adultery maybe deal with riba my sister used to not wear the hijab maybe do not pray and now allah guided them and then they started giving da'wah to others oh you're giving dawah you forgot who you were you forgot that you were a singer you were a rapper you were an actor you were a musician never remind the person who became close to allah do not remind them of their past have you ever stayed or stood in front of a mirror and the mirror tells you the last time you came you had a stain never subhan allah how eloquent is this example of the mirror the mirror shows the dirty spot and also shows all the clean spots your whole though bizmasha allah spotless but you have a stain do not concentrate and make your whole judgment about the person because of that stain and this is this happens a lot between the spouses my wife made one mistake i forget all the 20 years of beautiful stuff the husband does one mistake and the husbands can relate to that the husband does one mistake she forgets 19 18 23 years of amazing stuff my sister look at the other stuff he has a lot of great qualities my brother she has a lot of great qualities you only pick on this one thing and you forget the rest the mirror shows you both the stain and the clean the mirror when you chem when you come to the mirror and if you have stain in the back of your thumb the mirror does not tell you you have stain in the back of your thumb i came to my brother venting complaining needing some advice and i'm telling him about my problem i let's assume i have a problem with my brother and i'm telling my my friend oh you have a problem with your brother last time you came you had a problem with your mother you had a problem with your sister you had a problem with your spouse no no i'm coming to discuss this let's discuss this we do not bring up the past and we do not bring up things that i have no clue about what happened to them i cannot see that stain in the back concentrate listen allah one of the greatest secrets of successful relationships is just listening listening sometimes we talk to one another and we cannot let the other person finish his statement the mirror this is probably the most important characteristic of the mirror listen carefully the mirror does not store the image the mirror does not store the image i'm standing in front of the mirror and i left and hakam came in front of the mirror the mirror will not tell hakam ah you should have seen stars bajo's though backbiting backbiting a major sin that many of us belittle we speak about the brother we speak about the sister in their absence and we find so many excuses oh i can tell him in his face oh it's true when he was asked to define backbiting he said speaking about your brother in his absence they said ya rasulullah it's true he said this is exactly what reba is because if it's not true it's slander and the danger of reba is so bad that you go on the day of judgment and the person you have back bitten he's standing there where there's the currency is hasanat and say at the currency at that time no money it's good deeds and bad deeds and that person standing there and you thought your khalas the jannah is right there and he's standing right there and waiting yes habibi what do you want remember everything is clear now everything is open everything is presented openly you have spoken behind about me behind my back you spread rumors against me uh i'm sorry sorry he's not going to make it habibi i need five thousand hasanah i need ten thousand hasan i'm sorry and then you look and you see a line subhanallah how dangerous is backbiting sometimes backbiting could be without even like somebody asked can i back bite when i'm alone maybe 20 years ago it was impossible how could you back bite when you're alone now you can back bite when you're alone how texting right you're alone and you're speaking about the other brother or the other sister to the other person that you're texting to you're back biting them or backbiting even even sometimes you don't say a word asked me how is brother so and so brother i'm fasting done or i'd not say a word that's back that does not indicate something good look how easy it is to fall into backbiting and my brothers and sisters if you are in a situation people are backbiting because unfortunately many of our gatherings they have backbiting you ask the people to stop if they do not stop excuse yourself salaam alaykum otherwise if you stay there and in order to you know amuse everybody you kept on shaking your head you are partner in the crime foreign i want you to memorize this three words and two of them are the same so all you have to memorize is the word the believer is the mirror of his fellow believer the mirror does not differentiate between black white rich poor arab it gives the image i always talk about this this is one of the sicknesses that we have in our heart nationalism we have to be very careful yeah we have to be extremely careful allah told us the definition of who's the best and trust me it was not the arabi it was not the ajami it was not the black it was not the white it was not the rich it was not the poor it was not the fat it was not the thin the best of you the most honorable among you in the sight of allah is the one with more taqwa abu lahab the leader of his of his tribe in jahannam in jannah we do not go according to dunya status the mirror this is how the believer treat the other believer every morning we stand in front of the in front of the mirror and we fix ourselves we fix our hair sisters fix their hijab we fixed our make sure that the the the shirt is ironed clean similarly we have to choose that friend that can tell me the truth about myself choose that friend that is a true mirror when he sees you doing something good he will assist you and if he sees you doing something wrong he will advise you he will stop you if the mirror is dirty it will reflect the wrong image so make sure you know who do you hang out with because if you take the advice from the dirty mirror you're gonna get the wrong advice people are like minds of gold and silver there are people i know and i love dearly they are really like gold and silver and there are people whom allah told us in the quran they will tell one another or they will announce on the day of judgment woe to me i wish i did not take so and so as my friend after i became righteous and i became from the people of the masajid and i start wearing the hijab and i start praying on time and i stop doing the haram he came and took me out from that i wish i did not take him as a friend that is the mirror now look imagine you're looking at a dirty mirror it's going to reflect a dirty image so who is your friend and tell me who's your friend i tell you who you are my brothers and sisters this three-word hadith is a foundation in manners let's apply it between us and our spouses between us and our children between us and our the congregation between us and our employees between us and our colleagues will see an amazing amazing response if big if if you are sincere if you're doing it for the sake of allah and you're doing it to apply what rasam taught us allah just like you have perfected our creation is is please stand up and close the gaps close all the gaps inshallah tala there's a lot of gaps here in the second row anytime you see a gap in front of you please fill it up you can move your carpet with you brothers in the back rooms come to the main hall please straightening the lines is from the perfection of salat rasulullah still [Music] [Music] m [Music] what foreign allah 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Length: 35min 50sec (2150 seconds)

Published: Fri Aug 13 2021