8 elements of personal effectiveness

hello I'm Robert white founder of extraordinary people author and executive coach today I work with people committed to creating extraordinary results in their personal and professional lives my past experience includes having contributed to the lives of over 1 million people through programs offered by the companies I've founded and led life spring and Ark international along with creating these learning experiences for others we learned a lot from participants we noticed that in our seminars some people created more value people with similar backgrounds in education success in life and ages reported vastly different outcomes they were in the same room the same learning design and the same seminar leader but was it that created such widely varying results research revealed that how people showed up in the seminar made the difference and we began to identify those positive show-up qualities in participants who grabbed the gold ring the ones who created amazing value personally and professionally we identified eight elements for creating value and they became part of every seminars introductory remarks the trainer would say you're here you paid your tuition and you want the best possible result our experience with thousands of people demonstrates that certain ways of being and acting will lead to the best possible seminar experience now the next breakthrough for us was noticing that successful people were practicing these eight elements in our seminar and in every aspect of their lives the philosophy underpinning all of this is that a powerful catalyst for increased success is increased personal confidence confidence when lacking paralyzes us and when enhanced it empowers us to even greater accomplishment the word itself is of latin origin confit days with faith confidence generates faith that will succeed even in the face of contradictory evidence now my personal experience is powerful and clear increased confidence is a direct result of building positive behaviors and demonstrating results a corollary is to look at efforts to build self-esteem in young people through teaching about it and eliminating competition there's no evidence that this has ever worked self esteem and confidence are built through successful behaviors and results now the natural question at this point is simple if positive behaviors and results build confidence and if confidence is the precursor to being more effective how do i generate those behaviors and results the eight elements of personal and organizational effectiveness are a powerful path to extraordinary results now while you'll need to invest in our home study audio program the eighth power principles for creating a life of meaning and abundance if you want to fully understand and apply the principles I believe there's real value in an overview and that's what I'm doing here today so here's the outline of the eight elements for personal and organizational effectiveness as I speak about each element imagine a rating system of one to ten one being you're absolutely terrible in practicing that element and ten meaning you should be teaching this material instead of me now a good number to avoid is five it's a cop-out you're either a bit better or a bit worse in practicing any given principle so here we go the first element of personal effectiveness is to decide clearly specifically and positively what you want the French proverb says that between two stools once it's on the ground you need to decide clearly specifically and positively what you want the second element is to be honest with yourself and with others Winston Churchill said that the truth is incontrovertible panic may resent it ignorance may divide it malice may distort it but there it is well sir when he had it right didn't he when we can learn to tell the truth about our current reality to do what the Buddhists call developing a selfless regard for reality that's when an extraordinary life begins to appear for us we'll create trust and trust leads to better relationships the third element is to take personal responsibility to own everything in your life George Bernard Shaw said that people are always blaming their circumstances for what they are I don't believe in circumstances the people who get on in the world are the people who get up and look for the circumstances they want and if they can't find them make them I think George Bernard Shaw is right on target today we live in a victim culture and you're part of it I'm part of it the tendency is to blame others but it's only through the power of choice that you can really get your personal power back and it's only through taking personal responsibility that you can experience true choice the fourth element is to express yourself that means verbally that means listening that means using your body language that means showing your energy express yourself get outside of the box that you put yourself in and let people know how you feel how you think your opinions your questions Malcolm Forbes said that one who never asked either knows everything or nothing the fifth element is to take risks to exit your comfort zone the over successful Henry Ford said that if you think you can or if you think you can't you're probably right what he's pointing toward there is the power of our beliefs and it's our beliefs that get in the way of us taking the risk that we need to take our world is changing faster and faster the way we operated just a few months before might not be successful in getting us what we want today you need to take risks and that's why it's the fifth element of personal effectiveness number six is to participate 100% in your own life that means getting off the sidelines getting out of the stands and getting onto the field of battle or the field of play John rockefeller said I believe that every write implies a responsibility every opportunity and obligation every possession a duty participate get involved in your own life the seventh element is to create partnership to generate win-win relationships that's playing the game of life for mutual benefit I spent 12 years my life living and working in Japan and I love the Japanese proverb a single arrow is easily broken but not three in a bundle you need to generate support for your ideas your vision your life and that means playing win-win and dropping any tendency you might have to play win lose in life it's a great way to destroy relationships and I know that what you want to do is build them the eighth and final element is to commit commit yourself if I was only going to choose one element if we were only had an opportunity to have one this one would be it because when you're willing to put your life on the line when you're willing to make a promise and keep it no matter what that's when your success will begin to multiply Helen Keller was deaf blind and mute but she communicated life is either a daring adventure or nothing at all and that's what commitment brings you is a daring adventure the adventure of living an extraordinary life so those are the eight elements of personal and organizational effectiveness how'd you score let's look back at the elements where you rated yourself six or above for those it's time to celebrate I believe that whatever results you're producing in your life right now are a direct result and a direct consequence of your higher score in those areas and now look at the two or three areas where you rated yourself four or below and I'll predict that those are the elements that win addressed when when they become part of your learning and development those are the ones that will contribute significantly better results in your personal and professional lives plus now you know specifically where to focus your personal development work I recommend you join the conversation at extraordinary people comm subscribe to my free weekly easy in an extraordinary minute it's a source of timeless wisdom and it's designed to be 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Keywords: success, motivational, Business, Training, Coaching, Attraction, Personal, Development, Secret, Speaker, Motivation, Inspiration, Leadership, Remix, Speaking, Management, Positive, Life, Seminar, Entrepreneur, Inspirational

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Length: 8min 56sec (536 seconds)

Published: Thu Sep 06 2012