I have this friend who’s handsome and smart
and knows a lot of stuff. There’s just one domain he’s lost in:
girls. He never knows when she’s sending him the
“I’m into you” vibe, so I thought I’d help him and other guys who don’t know if
they’re an alpha or a beta in a girl’s eyes. First of all, let’s see what this whole
“alpha-beta” thing is all about. In the animal world, the alpha is the highest-ranking
individual in their social group. By the way, it’s not only males that can
be alphas! It can be a female animal or a male and a
female making up an alpha pair. Alphas enjoy certain privileges: They are
the first to dine and get the best piece, and they also have the right to choose the
best partner. How do they get that super status? Mostly by showing extraordinary physical strength
or building alliances with others to support them when they run for alpha. I am not giving you this biology lecture all
for nothing! When I asked my male friends to describe a
human alpha, they gave me nearly the same characteristics. It’s some kind of a hunk who doesn’t hesitate
to demonstrate his physical strength and gets all the best-looking girls. Yeah, sometimes more than one! First of all, it’s about height. According to a 2014 study by Rice University
and North Texas University, 48.9% of ladies do care a lot about this and prefer taller
guys in both lab experiments and real-life dating. It’s typical to associate physical height
with higher social status, and it’s a subconscious thing. Second, it’s about the voice. It’s a natural thing for us to see guys
with lower, more masculine voices as older, taller, and more dominant. I did some research on this one, and it was
once again proved by University College London in 2013. The third thing that makes a male an alpha
is his face. I won’t deny that girls like rugged and
wide manly faces because on a deep subconscious level we all analyze if a man has good genes
to pass over — even if we don’t plan to marry him and have kids with him. In 2017, a group of psychologists from Goethe
University Frankfurt went further with this idea and analyzed how the ratio of facial
width to upper facial height affects people. It turned out that the higher this ratio,
the more testosterone the guy has and the more powerful and self-confident he is. When I heard all that, it made me really uncomfortable. Because, you know, it can’t be just about
the physical characteristics of a man! Yes, there are guys whose huge amounts of
testosterone make them a natural alpha, and girls fall for them easily. But there are also other things — and trust
me, they aren’t physical! — that make a guy an alpha and a man girls are attracted
to. The good news is that you can learn to be
an alpha and cultivate these qualities in yourself! As you do so, remember this one important
thing: Girls don’t want to be conquered and struck by your masculinity. We want to be allured. I personally always feel the difference between
an alpha and a beta guy, and it has to do with self-confidence and presentation. To make things easier, I put together this
list of signs that a girl sees that alpha male in you. 1. She’s trying to make you happy. I’m not talking about a happily ever after
or a girl trying to please you. It’s about subconsciously trying to show
you her best because she cares about your approval. When I’m around a guy I find attractive,
I start playing with my hair: flipping it, twirling a stubborn lock, or just going through
it with my hands to fix a nonexistent flaw. I bite my lip and look at his lips and make
eye contact to let him know I’m into him. I look at him, then look back, and then go
back to him. By the way, if you ever notice that a girl
has dilated pupils when she looks at you, it’s a clear sign she likes what she sees. Dr. Stuart Steinhauer says our eyes are a
mirror that reflects what’s going on in our brain, so physical attraction can be read
in them. And remember how I mentioned that a man’s
voice is an indicator of his masculinity? Well, we girls can also use this tool! If you notice that a lady talks in a different
tone to you than she does to others, it’s a good sign. She’ll try to sound softer to please your
ear. 2. She’s genuinely interested in you and is
fully present when you’re around. Parties where people spend most of the time
on their phones have become normal these days, but if a girl puts her Instagram aside and
focuses on you, she must be really interested. And if she not only looks at you but listens
and tries to learn more about you by asking questions and dropping in a few lines about
herself, she’s trying to impress you as well. By the way, when you feel like you’ve caught
her eye and ear, use this time wisely to show her your best. A true alpha doesn’t have to prove how awesome
and successful he is because it’s about attitude and confidence. So don’t brag. Play it cool. This doesn’t mean you can’t tell her a
few things about your job or hobbies or mention that you have certain goals that keep you
busy and motivated. One important thing I’d like to stress here
is don’t lie or mention things you know you can never achieve. Don’t say, “I’m going to make $1,000,000
a month by next year!” unless you mean it. Girls don’t like lies, and we sense when
someone starts making things up to seem cooler than they truly are. 3. She wants to see you and doesn’t hesitate
when you ask her out. An alpha male doesn’t get rejected by girls. If you want to be like that, remember that
it’s not just about what you offer her but what you do. If you approach her with confidence and directness,
she’ll feel that masculinity she’s been looking for. Own your intentions, and don’t try to pretend
you’re less interested in her than you are. When a girl catches your vibes, she won’t
say no to hanging out. She’ll most likely smile and say, “I’d
love to!” And if she can’t, she’ll invite you to
reschedule the meeting. 4. She tells her friends about you. If you are out with a girl and run into her
friends and she says something like, “And that’s Steve I told you about!” and they
smile back and go, “I see!” it means they’ve talked about you. Girls love to share with each other, and,
let’s be honest here, brag a bit. I wouldn’t tell my girls about a guy who
was a complete disaster and then see him again. So if you’ve become a subject of discussion
and the girl is going out with you, she must have felt those alpha vibes you were sending
out and proudly told her friends all about it. 5. She initiates physical contact when you’re
in public. When I like a guy I just met, I’ll start
thinking about how to break the “touch barrier.” You know, that awkward feeling when you meet
someone new and want to let them know you wouldn’t mind letting them into your personal
space. I use a hug as a goodbye move, but it could
also be something like a pat on the shoulder during a conversation. Even sitting next to the person in a group
of others speaks volumes. No one, girls and guys included, wouldn’t
want to get close and personal with someone they don’t like. 6. She’s active in your social media. Social media today is much like what used
to be balls and galas in the past. It’s where people meet each other, chat,
and indicate their interests. If she’s generously liking your stuff and
leaving comments to approve of your picture to start a discussion, she’s clearly letting
the world know she likes you. She wouldn’t do that for a beta or omega
— she’d leave all the liking and commenting to them. If she sends you her picture — and I don’t
mean something bad here, just pictures she didn’t post for everyone to see — she
is clearly trying to show you more of her life. That’s a great sign too! Can you think of any other signs a girl sends
out when she’s spotted an alpha? Let me know in the comment section below! Don't forget to give this video a like, share
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